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godofwar666:
6) The very Good bad Guy

This kind of guys are commonly known as the under cover guys, they play hard, work hard,

LIKES; football, chilling with friends, playing Xbox.

DISLIKE: gf calling him everyday na wahala be dat, gf giving suprises and snooping on him, gf Asking a lot about his ex.

IDENTIFYING CHARACTERISTIC
He doesn't talk too much, his face always look cool and hansome, he doesn't do a lot of chatting conversation, Lowkey type of guy, Ghostmode attitude, but is a very good bad guy....

*Appearance-centric: he cares a lot about people around him but pple thinks he doesn't give a Bleep. He pretend to be bad but his kind.

SPECIAL SKILL
GHOSTmode type, good cook, free thinker, always busy type doing nothing, a pretender

COMMON PHRASES
I don't want wahala.

Politics is not my game

Life is all about a risk

Money must be made

Who care's (but he cares)

My past is who I am

@op nice one but thank me later but wait amadioha do the needful.

I have to commend you for putting this together. **clapping**
(Moderators: Rocktation, farano,
pasqal09 and Oga Seun ) do the needful

5. The Alpha Male

DESCRIPTION

The Alpha Male has developed many
of the Special Skills described above.
He is often intelligent, able to
confidently discuss a wide range of
issues and may be capable of critical
thinking. For these reasons, he is a
leader amongst his male friends and
is respected by colleagues and family
members. He is therefore not used to
being challenged or disagreed with.
He will always aim to maintain
control of every aspect of your
relationship, including frequency and
length of visits and telephone
interactions. He is mainly motivated
by self-interest and is not a team
player.

LIKES Being in Control, Being
Waited On, Being Waited For, Being
the Centre of Attention

DISLIKES Being Wrong, Being out
of control, Being questioned, Any
Challenge or Disagreement

IDENTIFYING CHARACTERISTICS

•Pride. Confidence/swagger. Is a
taker, not a giver. Never backs down.

•Appearance-centric. Recipient of
frequent phone calls from others
asking for advice. Like the Gangsta,
he avoids intimacy and is rarely
honest and open with his feelings. In
conflict situations, in contrast to the
aggression of a Narcissist/Abuser, an
Alpha Male will often simply ignore
and/or avoid you if he suspects you
are angry. He may then initiate
contact on his terms when he
assumes you have calmed down.
Marks his territory by leaving
clothing and accessories (shoes,
jackets, sunglasses) at yours so he
always has a reason to return. Will
regularly cancel plans with friends,
family, and lovers at a moment’s
notice. Like the Peter Pan Man, he
calls this behaviour spontaneous, but
is in fact insensitive and
inconsiderate of those around him.

SPECIAL SKILLS

Same interpersonal and situational
management skills as The Gangsta.
Has some of the mind control skills of
the Narcissist/Abuser. Like the
Player, he is very likely to be
extremely good in bed.

COMMON PHRASES

A. Nobody can tell me what to do /
I’m my own man

B. I’m not ready/too selfish to be
in a relationship

C. I’m not a relationship kind of
guy


*****DISCLAIMER*****

We are not saying that all men can be
placed into one of these categories.
We also do not claim that these
descriptions are infallible. We speak
only from our experience with types
of men we have encountered in a
combined 26+ year dating history.

We have discussed doing a corollary
article about the behaviours of
respectful, loving, compassionate
men, but upon reflection, we realised
that although there are some men
who display these types of
characteristics, we have not
encountered enough of them to
create another article with the
richness and depth of insight found
above. We are however, in the
process of creating a response to the
numerous requests we have received
for “guidelines” or an article detailing
SoR’s expectations for appropriate
behaviour in contrast to the
disappointing experiences detailed
here.






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4. The Gangsta

DESCRIPTION

The gangsta has a hectic life. Thus,
he can be emotionally distant,
aggressive, abusive, dishonest, and
dominating to those around him. Any
interaction with him will be at his
whim or according to his schedule.
Yet instead of being frustrated by
this, you may feel strangely special
when he is able to fit you into his
busy life. SoR acknowledge that his
behaviours are a direct result of the
system that we are also fighting to
overthrow. However, we have found
it extremely difficult to establish
healthy romantic relationships with
him.

•LIKES Good girls. Cars. Expensive
things. Being/staying out late.
Parties/raves. People he can control.

•DISLIKES Intimacy. Honesty.
Questions. Snitches. Police. The
Government. The Man. The System.
(As you might imagine, the latter half
of these dislikes are some of the
reasons for SoRs’ former alignment
with Gangstas).

IDENTIFYING CHARACTERISTICS

Street credibility. Difficult to make
plans with or otherwise pin down.
Good at avoiding intimacy and never
exposing vulnerability. Relies on
material possessions and notorious
accomplishments for reputation. May
typically wear precious metals and/or
have interest in high fashion/
expensive brands. May often be seen
with wads of cash, nice car, tattoos.
May spend exorbitant amounts on
expensive drinks, such as champagne
and name brand alcohols. Gangsta/
rough sex.

SPECIAL SKILLS

•Defending himself and his friends –
The Gangsta is the top dog for a
reason. His power and initial charm
may make him attractive to you. But
this aggression will undoubtedly seep
into any intimate relationship.

•Situational Management – There is a
never a situation the Gangsta cannot
handle. You may be impressed by the
way he is able to deal with change,
make decisions and have those
around him carry them out. Good at
thinking on his feet.

•Entrepreneurial Abilities – Good at
mental maths, building networks,
establishing product/market fit,
negotiating supply and demand and
keeping critical information under
wraps.

•Interpersonal Skills – The Gangsta is
able to maintain the undying respect,
loyalty, and dedication of those
around him. This is done through a
combination of emotionally
manipulative and fear-inducing
tactics he has been taught by OGs
before him. You may be frustrated
with his inability to say anything
really nice to you but nevertheless
still be taken in by his gangsta game.
Learning to identify and take note of
these tactics when they are utilised is
a primary way you can begin to
untangle yourself from their grasp.

•Opportunistic But Unrealistic
Scheduling Habits: chaotic day-to-day
activities that are often subject to
change, including to-dos associated
with “picking up,” “dropping off,”
“handling business,” etc.

•Alternate Timetable: SoR has found
that Gangstas operate on a “stated
time x 3=actual time” principle,
where “I’m 5 mins away” means he
will arrive in at least 15 min and “I’ll
be there in 15” means approximately
45 min. The formula does not apply to
“I’ll be there in an hour/few hours –
just doing 1 thing” – this means you
likely won’t see them at all on that
particular occasion.

•Deflecting Responsibility – Rarely
accepts that he is to blame for
anything. Makes frequent and skillful
use of Exceptional Circumstance Lies.

COMMON PHRASES

A. You know what it is

B. I’m out here/I’m a hustla

C. My life’s a struggle

D. Silence or lack of detail
regarding personal or work related
issues

3. The Peter Pan Man (aka Immature, Little Boys, Never Grown Up)

DESCRIPTION

The Peter Pan Man has not grown up.
He is not emotionally or intellectually
mature enough to sustain any type of
long-term adult relationship. You may
be excited by his enthusiasm and zest
for life; however, his general
immaturity, indecisiveness, lack of
critical thinking or life skills,
dependency on his friends’ opinions,
and prioritisation of his “hobbies” or
media addictions over human
interaction will eventually sabotage
any relationship.

•LIKES Comic books, video games,
porn, hanging out with his friends,
“satirical” animated comedy series,
sports, group think

•DISLIKES Responsibility, decisions,
simple requests

IDENTIFYING CHARACTERISTICS

Living at home/moved in with you,
does not pay his own rent, no stable
source of income, easily hired/fired,
spending most of his day on hobbies
such as: poker, video games,
skateboarding, ballin, chillin with the
boys. Suddenly cancels his own plans
and calls it spontaneity. Uses any
number of avoidance tactics re:
consequences or challenging
conversations but has no filter for his
own thoughts (verbal diarrhea). Will
not allow you to end the relationship
or the discussion on your own terms;
always wants the last word.

SPECIAL SKILLS

Making you laugh. A carefree/
spontaneous attitude to life – The
Peter Pan Man has a youthful sense
of play and fun. He may have jokes,
be good at accents or impressions, or
like to rap. He may try to impress you
by initially including hanging out with
you in his daily schedule of fun
things, or by offering to do or make
things with you, but is often too lazy
and immature to complete his plans.

COMMON PHRASES

A. “My mum’s my best friend”
B. “I’ve spoken to my boys about
this and they said…”

C. “Do we have to talk about this
now?” / “Can’t it wait till later?”

D. “Why do we have to be so
serious all the time?” / “Can’t we just
have a chilled out conversation?”

2. The Abuser / Narcissist

DESCRIPTION

The Abuser/Narcissist starts out
loving and charming but in time
begins to break down your
confidence, separates you from your
friends, and family, and becomes
emotionally or physically abusive.
They want their victim to be willing
to endure their abuse and to label
this willingness “love.” They are
extremely possessive, jealous, and
controlling and will go to any lengths
to prevent you from ending the
relationship. They will blame you for
all of this behaviour.

•LIKES Himself (to the point of
obsession). Willing obedience.
Apologies. Fear and control.

•DISLIKES Being challenged or
corrected. Your independent thought.
Your girl friends.

IDENTIFYING CHARACTERISTICS

•Draws you in with a vibrant
personality – may sing, tell stories or
jokes, or otherwise make you laugh.
May go to the gym and be obsessed
with his appearance. May surprise
you with sudden defensiveness or
aggressive outbursts. Will
passionately insist that he is making a
special effort for you over basic
interactions, e.g. calling you, coming
round for a visit, texting you back. If
the words “headfuck” and
“crazymaking” come to mind, you are
probably dealing with a Narcissist
Abuser. He wants to drive you
“crazy” to replace your
understanding of reality with his, in
which he is the centre, so that he may
continue his abuse.

SPECIAL SKILLS

•Mind control & Altering reality – The
Narcissist Abuser has the ability to
radically change your understanding
of the circumstances or an argument.
For example, he will be abusive to
you and reframe the situation so he is
the victim. He will often alternate
between abusive language, vicious
attacks on you and your personality,
and Lies of Affection and Lies in the
Future, disorienting and confusing
you, and replacing your thoughts with
the false realities he has
constructed. His aim with this tactic
is to mould you into a submissive and
fearful but still loving and
affectionate object of his control.

•Getting you to love them / stay with
them / go back to them – The
Narcissist knows how to convince you
that he loves you, but make no
mistake – everything he does/says is
for the benefit of his own massive
ego. He will break down your
confidence so that you feel you
deserve no better than how he is
treating you. As he is likely to
become violent towards you, you are
in danger when around him. SoR
advises complete and immediate
separation from men who exhibit this
type of behaviour. We are not
experts, we are just women who have
experienced these kinds of
relationships in the past.

COMMON PHRASES

A. No one understands me / I feel my
life’s got a special purpose (or other
phrases that convey that they think of
themselves as unique, misunderstood,
and that the problems in their lives
arise from others and not them)

B. Look how I came to see you / Look
how I called you / texted you back (or
other phrases that make small basic
gestures seem like he’s gone out of
his way for you when he hasn’t)

C. Why do you always make me so
angry? / I wish you didn’t make me so
upset /make me get me like this /You
always… (and then blames you for his
anger management issues)

D. I want to get better/ You can make
me a better person (It’s not your
responsibility to stay in relationships
with abusive men. You can’t make
them better, only they can make that
change.)

This is a counter thread to this post:
7 Types Of Guys Women Can't
Resist- You Agree? by
BANGERLEE1(m): 6:43pm On Oct 04

I hope this post will enlighten the ladies a little while it won't upset the guys as much as I can't imagine. I was upset myself when I see this article but decided to share it for the good of all.


***************START**************

Sisters of Resistance and our wider
network of female friends have been
disappointed with the types of men
who, we discovered, fit into the below
categories. In this article, we
describe their dominating and
emotionally manipulative behaviour
and outline their likes, dislikes,
characteristics, skills and phrases so
that you can easily identify and avoid
them.

However, this list is not exhaustive —
there are many more dangerous
types of men, including combinations
of the below. With this in mind, SoR
presents:

1. The Player / Pick Up Artist
2. The Narcissist / Abuser
3. The Peter Pan Man
4. The Gangsta
5. The Alpha Male



1. The Player or Pick Up Artist

DESCRIPTION

The player is smooth, charming and
the epitome of a ladies’ man. He
seems to have a knack for knowing
just what to say and when to say it,
often making you wonder whether or
not he is too good to be true. If you
wonder this, trust your gut — this is
likely the case.

•LIKES Himself, Women, Intimacy,
Being the Object of Attention/Desire

•DISLIKES Facebook (Baitbook),
Being Caught Playing

IDENTIFYING CHARACTERISTICS

Often has (or talks about having)
expensive/fast cars, mentions houses,
holidays, music videos, new jobs/
business ideas that never seem to
appear. Special attention paid to
how he dresses/looks/smells, etc.
Funny, witty. Likely to be the one to
ramp up the intensity of the
relationship first but will never be the
one to bring up relationship-related
topics.

SPECIAL SKILLS

•Flirting – a.k.a. Game. Includes
sweet-talking, teasing, winding or
buttering you up. Works hard to
convince you he is your dream come
true. Depending on his lifestyle he
may be better at this via text/e-mail/
phone than in person.

•Quasi-listening – May appear to be a
patient listener but rarely responds
in depth to anything you say. Changes
the subject soon after you have
expressed your thoughts to
something that is more interesting to
him, or a topic over which he feels he
has more command and control.

•Sex – The Player is often abnormally
good in bed, and may even appear to
know how to read your body,
contributing to the illusion that you
are meant to be together. If you
encounter someone with these
unusual skills, proceed with caution.

COMMON PHRASES

A. for himself: “God’s gift to
women,” an “artist” or “poet,” “The
Man”, uses $ in his name

B. for you/other women: darling,
babe, princess, sexy (see also: Lies of
Affection)

C. Other/General: “We can do
anything, go anywhere.” “Let me
know and I’ll make that happen.”

luckybaddest:
Shy girl,,,,, Okay I get one for here lemme ask her

Have u done that?

Amaka55:
A 38-year old UK burglar was identified after he had sex and left semen in a teddy bear he found at the shop he came to steal from.

According to DailyMail, the owner of the shop had arrived to find her shop broken into and contents scattered around outside it. Among the wreckage she found the teddy bear. The teddy bear was then passed to police, who recovered DNA from inside it that matched 38-year-old Paul Mountain.

Explaining his action, Paul said he couldn't resist the stuffed toy after breaking into the store. Mountain told police: 'He was coming down off amphetamine and felt an overwhelming need for sexual relief". He pleaded guilty to burglary and was remanded on bail for the preparation of a pre-sentence report.

See photos here: https://www.facebook.com//posts/361224354044724

And this suppose to be on politics board. Mtcheeew

I had to modify my previous post because I wasn't allowed to open new thread.

obongproff:
It is fundamentally wrong to use the experiences of one or two introverts as confirmed reasons to date an introverted lady.

I hav been with an introverted lady who was sleeping with a married man before me. Within the few months I was with her, I knew she had slept with at least three guys - the married man, me and one other guy who was her ex.

Introverts can be freakish sometimes. Can u imagine being with someone dat hardly talks? Can u imagine being with a lady dat hardly tries new tins and always sticks to d same routine? Can u imagine being with a lady dat is not only shy in d bedroom but will also lie down like a log of wood during love-making, like a broda earlier said? Can u imagine being with someone who is too clingy and hardly gives u personal space becos she doesnt hav much friends?

Who told u introverts are not materialistic? When u meet one with a poor self esteem or inferiority complex, u wd know beta.

Der are certain qualities intros hav dat makes dem beta thinkers dan extros, plus u can always hav an intelligent conversation with them. But dats about all der is to it. Howeva dia stench of boredom and lack of spontaneity and creativity just kills me cos only very few intros are flexible.

Its all abt personal preferences sha. Relationships are naturally complicated. It doesnt mata weda ur with an intro or an extra, der will always be challenges.

Personally, I will go for a lady dat has up to 80% of d tins I want in a woman, it doesnt mata weda she be intro or extro.

You are very articulate. You may check this thread and comment; www.nairaland.com/1946773/12-reasons-why-guys-like#27103731

liliangmail:
so very on point....Am a good exmpl.... u jst listed evry tin abt but d funny part of it , is dat he doesnt want to let go off me! He said am less romantic and boring human.... Go kwanu, Mba

You need to check this thread : www.nairaland.com/1946773/12-reasons-why-guys-like#27103731

Barayeks:
Shy girls are freaky in bed

probably cos they spend so much time reading "romantic/ sexual" novels

you'll be surprised........

I attest to that!

tobiboss:
I dont like shy girls...period!!

With all those aforementioned attribute? Hahahaha

godofwar666:
you cAn just judge like that, shy girls pretend to be good, shy gals are bad they pretend a lot

Well, I wish and hope we will have a shy girl on this thread who will clear the air.

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godofwar666:
shy gals are bad gals they pretend to be shy in peoples present but they are bad but u no fit no.

I will disagree with u on this particular reason, I might agree to any other reason. I have a friend who dates a shy girl and this girls hardly leave house or go outing, by the time we come back home after daily activities, we are sure to find something to eat.

I LOVE SHY GIRLS ooooo. I pray I find one!

godofwar666:
I don't like shy gals

Why?

I'm still awaiting your comment on this thread @ Arva $ OlamiB

Classyzi:
Am shy ooo

Do you agree with those aforementioned points. You'd be my favorite if you r truly shy!

Not every man likes bold women. A lot
of men prefer shy women or women who
speak much lesser than those women
who speak too much. Shy girls have
many qualities that are found super
attractive by guys. So, you don’t have to
transform yourself into a chatterbox or
an outgoing girl if you are a shy girl.

You have already got what numerous
men die for! Find out why guys like shy
girls.

1. Men think that shy girls are less likely
to cheat

This may or may not be true but a lot of
men think so. A shy girlfriend or wife
will enjoy quiet evenings at home. They
won’t interact much with people around
even if they go out to a party. All this
makes many men feel comforted. If a
guy has a shy girlfriend at home then he
will be less worried about having a long
trip away from home than the man who
has an extrovert girlfriend at home. A
woman who has tons of acquaintances
and a large friend circle can be very
intimidating for some men.

2. Most guys like challenges

A lot of guys like challenges. Bashful
beauties are actually a sort of puzzle
that needs to be solved. Some shy girls
are hard to get and this makes things
more interesting for guys. When shy
girls finally open up to guys, it is
actually very sweet.

3. Shy girls can keep secrets very well

Most shy girls are very good at keeping
their guys’ secrets. Such girls don’t
speak much to anyone and they don’t
like to gossip too much. A lot of shy girls
speak about important things only and
don’t beat about the bush. This
drastically reduces the chances of
letting out the secrets.

4. Guys love to protect their shy girls

Guys are protective by nature. They like
to protect their loved ones in some way
or the other. Aggressive or bold girls
are very confident about their
protection. They are independent when
it comes to chasing their dreams and
getting what they want. On the other
hand, shy girls usually don’t tell anyone
what they really want or feel. This gives
guys a chance to provide comfort to
their shy girls.

5. Shy girls are less likely to get their
guys into trouble

Aggressive or outgoing girls can be fun
but they are more likely to get either
themselves or their guys into trouble.
They might over share things with
people around as they are outgoing.
They might let out their guys’ secrets or
embarrass them because of the excess
sharing.

6. Shy girls are mysterious

Guys really like shy girls who are
mysterious. A girl who speaks less or a
girl who seems more mysterious is
attractive for guys. Such a girl makes a
guy want to find out what she is hiding
inside of her.

7. Shy girls tend to be more caring and
loving

Shy girls don’t use words to express
their words. They often express their
feelings through actions. So, a shy girl
might cook her boyfriend’s favorite dish
to tell him how much she loves him. She
might do a lot of other things to comfort
her guy. A shy girl might make her guy
feel like he is the King of the world.

8. A lot of guys love shy women because
they are not bold in bed

Shy girls are not bold in bed. They never
take charge in the bed and this makes
their guys to feel more dominant. A
bedroom is a man’s Jungle. Every man
wants to be the Tiger and the King of his
Jungle. Some men don’t like to b
e dominated in bed.

9. Shy women are delicate

Most men like delicate women. Shy girls
are delicate and polite. They have a soft
nature. The femininity of a woman
makes a man go crazy. Shy girls are
usually very feminine. Their shy smile,
facial expressions and body language
make them very feminine. They are not
like bold women who laugh loudly and
hit guys when they make a mistake or a
naughty comment. Most men like
women who know how to handle
themselves in public places. According
to a lot of men, a woman’s eyes speak
out loud and have a deep meaning. Shy
girls put their eyes down when a guy
looks into their eyes. They play with
their hair when men talk to them. These
gestures are found lovely by some men.

10. Men think that shy girls are more
trustworthy

Shy women are usually more secretive.
They are decent and calm by nature.
This makes shy girls more trustworthy
and lovable. The innocence of shy girls
attracts a lot of men.

11. Men think that they can be
dominating if they get into a relationship
with a shy girl

Almost every man loves to show his
dominance in his relationship. Men love
to date a shy girl because they can easily
dominate in a relationship that has one
person who doesn’t demand too much.
Men love women who are not directly
controlling in a relationship. They feel
good when their shy woman listen to
them and follow them. Shy girls seldom
argue with their men. They might
disagree with their men’s decisions but
they won’t shout or slam the doors in
anger.

12. The relationship is slow and steady

A slow and steady relationship excites
men. Shy girls take time to open up. So,
men might come to know more about
shy girls slowly and gradually. This
keeps the guys with the urge to know
more and more about their shy girls.


**DO YOU AGREE?

Thread and Counter thread since 620AD

TY Bello, is she not the lady who sang the song titled 'the land is green'. Oh, congratulations to her and her family.

On a lighter mood, the kids probably waited for so long because the 'land isn't green' contrary to what their mum has said. Just kidding!

Those guyz are extremely talented, and I really love their consistency.

First 2 comments were ladies, hmmm.

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I will wait to see the outcome in 2015. More comment if this thread make FP.

Dankamaru:
"had" your own... or add your own? You must be a yoruba dude...

Learn to correct people in the best of manner, you are very meticulous to have been able to detect the error. Thanks

This question is like asking a virgin how she will feel after having s*x, what response do you expect?.

My reaction will depend on the person involved, I can even orchestrate one myself...

I'm about to sleep though I will read this and comment in a short while.

Modified:

You are on point @OP, I look at body shape and attitude. These 2 attributes cover for all.

I'm about to sleep though I will read this and comment in a short while.

Modifies:

I'm my own humble opinion, these are attributes of a lady because that's what make them women. Man have to learn to leave with all these attributes.