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Something is wrong with you, it’s women like you that give other women bad names. How would you feel if your husband did the same thing to you? He's making an effort to revitalize your marriage meanwhile you’re busy chatting up another man.

Madam better apologize sincerely to your husband and cut all ties with that so called childhood friend.

OP keep thanking those deceiving you meanwhile you’re the one who put yourself in your situation.

The same people pitying you would call your wife so many unprintable names if she did the same thing you did but here they’re stroking your ego because you’re a “man”.

You get sacked from your job instead of you to take the money you were given home so you and your wife could make decisions in fact even if you didn’t want her to make any decision regarding your money why didn’t you tell her?! Instead you gave away more than half of it to your sister and used the remaining to go to god knows where everyday.

If it’s YOU would you be happy? You didn’t think about using the balance to feed your family but instead you used it to keep your deception going and you’re expecting to be respected. Respect is reciprocal, did you respect your wife? Did you respect your children?

Even your so called sister that duped you couldn’t respect you and you think a woman that you sidelined immediately you got money would, you must be high.

You’re still suggesting what she should do with her own money meanwhile when you had yours you kept it away from her.


Don’t go and look for a job, be here replying comments after now non of them will feed you or your kids but it’s that woman you’re here disrespecting that will.

On nairaland when ever a woman brings an issue concerning her marriage/husband the men on this forum always want to,
1)hear from her husband
2)suggest she isn’t submissive or contributing financially to the family.
3)run her down physically and emotionally

When it’s a man they don’t
1)want to hear from his wife after all women are evil
2)they don’t even care if he loves his wife or even contributing in any way to his family.
3)they don’t care even if he’s at fault, he’s a man and it’s his “god given right”.


I will give you an example, a “man” created a topic about how his wife emasculates him, none of the “men” commenting on that topic cared about the woman’s side of the story. Over 30 pages of insults and name calling till she comments and gave her side of the story, the “men” still kept on insulting her and picking her statement.

Later on OP commented and said truly she’s his wife and he lied, as a normal human you would expect the “men” that insulted her to apologize but no they insisted that OP was being manipulated by his wife.

It’s 2020 see Barcanista acting brand new, dude that moves like nylon bag in the wind, no direction. He can’t even stand for a particular belief for a full year but go wherever his stomach leads.

Alpha male ko, Omega male ni.

Nairaland Alfa mails and Kemi right now

This one just brought his sister to be slaughtered on a platter and he’s asking for mature response like quora forgetting that nairaland is a forum filled with women haters.

Is Naomi Campbell a Nigerian? She was referring to the Recording academy as uneducated not Burna boy, but you wouldn’t know this because it isn’t a thread about women.

You guys need to stick to romance section where you don’t need to read and understand a topic before commenting.

donstan18:
99.863% of Nigerians will wish you well, but deep within them, they really don't mean it.

They'll pray you succeed, but when they see you succeeding to much, they'll start hating and wishing for your downfall.

Only a FOOL will say Burna lost to Kidjo due to his lack of education. He lost because Kidjo was simply better and deserving of the award.

Davash222:
This insult is too much on our African giant. We can’t take this.
Naomi Campbell will hear from us.

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Its so disheartening that we as a people don’t care about the situation of others, you forget that today I may “roger” them but tomorrow you will still complain about corruption.

I’ve paid for my express passport which I was made to understand is 35k but I paid more, so why do I still have to “roger”? The money used to print the passport booklets isn’t from his personal funds so why will one man be holding an institution ransom for his own selfish interests.

I usually love doing this so get lost “man”!

psalmsmiles:
I don't usually do this but
Get a life man!

Last time I checked lesbianism is still illegal in Nigeria, so if Nigerian women are the most promiscuous that means the men also are, after all they’re the one having sex with the women.

By the way it’s not women that have been raping babies and livestocks.

The “research” was carried out by a Nigerian man for a Nigerian news paper.

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Wow! I was hoping it was a hoax! This is so heartbreaking!

RIP Kobe!!!! Thoughts and prayers for his loved ones.

Typical comment from a woman with no self respect, see how she absolved are husband of any blame, the same husband breaking his vows but go ahead to lambast the women that her “wonderful” husband is disrespecting her with.

Don’t be sad, they’re only angry that you’ve broken their most peddled myth, they think women can’t have sex with a man they don’t have feelings for.

They actually hurt about that.




You’re not a bîtch, or loose, you’re a woman that had sex to fulfill your needs. Don’t let letters on the internet get to you because that’s what their opinions are. .

You shouldn’t let a guy that can boldly lie to and on superiors at work to pressure you into dating him, you don’t even know what he planned to do with the laptop and at the same time he roped you into the lies without thinking of the consequences. He made you lose goodwill so trust me the next time you may lose more than that.
Focus on you, you don’t have to settle for every guy that claim they love you.

PeacefulBae:
Okay, so most of d comments am getting is negative, guys bashing me for being loose and all. But it's okay.

But, but the men are the ones shaming the stay at home mom. I’ve not seen any woman shaming housewives because that’s a WHOLE JOB on its own but you mean men feel once a woman isn’t contributing financially to the upkeep of the family then she has no right.

And no! No woman goes out from her home to sell in this dirty markets just to indulge her extravagances, heck most of you wouldn’t have seen the four walls of schools if your mothers didn’t step up.

RisenPhoenix:
Yes but your grandmother would have been shocked even more if she had been told that her husband was not the sole protector and provider for the home. Nor would your grandfather have expected her to finance any part of the home expenses. I am not against women working or selling market to indulge in their own extravagances or to while away time. I am against them being put in a position of responsibility for the direct home finances and being shamed if they do not contribute. That is entirely a feminist agenda; shaming sit-at-home women; which has unfortunately been taken up as a cultural construct especially in the Western parts of Nigeria, even by men.

Yes she’s 100 percent right. Women are evolving constantly and bettering themselves meanwhile men prefer to be stuck in the stone ages.

We’ve seen threads on nairaland, heck I just left one now where the posters agree that men can cheat but women cant, in other words women are the only ones that can feel the emotional pains of being cheated on but the ones causing the pains should be pampered.

Marriage is not business a usual because more and more women are getting exposed,educated and financially stable which is pretty much the only thing men really can offer that’s why you see them always talking about which woman ate their money and who didn’t.


Over 70% of divorce are filed by women what does that tell you?!

Really?! So those women that have been selling in the markets since the beginning of times were told to by feminists?!

Did you type this comment with a straight face? Wow!!!! Seriously is it that most of you willingly decide to ignore the realities of this country just for online male validation?!


My great grandma who had no idea what feminism is all about heck when she saw me with a cellphone she was utterly shocked, went to the farm with her husband and still went to the market to sell.

RisenPhoenix:
That is a distortion of gender roles started off ironically, by feminists. It was feminists who insisted on women entering the workplace and sharing the finances. I do not personally subscribe to feminist blurring of gender roles, hence these should not be used to debate my stand.

Instead of a woman helping out her husband financially, she should learn to be content with what he can comfortably provide. The main reason why double incomes families have become the norm is because the woman usually wants more than her husband can provide within his income, while the husband is often too weak to oppose that unsustainable lifestyle.

RisenPhoenix:
The roles of marriage are not interchangeable. It is the duty of the husband to take financial care of the family and the duty of the wife to keep him sexually satisfied and bear him genetically true children.

Really?! But women contribute financially to the day to day running of the family, in most cases even more. Is it not on this same nairaland that women get asked by men if they’re contributing to the family financially whenever they complain about their spouse?!

RisenPhoenix:
Secondly, if she's the one taking care of the man financially, he's cheating her and she has a right to leave him, but not to cheat back on him. Likewise, if she fails to reserve her body for him or satisfy him sexually, he has a right to leave her, but not to cheat on her by cutting off her maintenance while still calling her his wife.

But if she leaves she will still get called a hoe who couldn’t help out her husband.

Seriously! That’s why they keep training kids that aren’t theirs, and once you don’t agree with what ever they say you’re tagged a feminist!


Did you see his retarded reply and the brain dead morons are busy giving themselves high five.

Since Nigerian men believe being faithful is not for them, then they have no moral right to demand such from women.

It’s a crime in this poor country to be a woman with a mind of her own.

ePoster:
its ironic that these set of individuals believe that they are in the position to tell another what they need or want. Thats a personal choice.
A lady can have an extra marital affair with a male she doesn't love and a man can cheat with a woman he adores more than his own wife and children.
I blame ignorance and their closed mentality. Its either black or white.
If a woman is financially supporting the family (perhaps the man lost his job) is she exempted?
Everyone has a different definition of cheating. Most agree that one cannot have sex with another without them forming emotional attachments.
And also, everyone has a degree to which they tolerate a cheating partner. Male or female

My dear it’s funny how this “men” think they can keep eating their cakes and having it because they have a different sex organ.


After I spent over eight years in school then someone will come and tell me how I should act and feel because they’re “men”.

ePoster:
Dont expect him to answer your question with a straightfoward reply free of bias.
Dont expect any of them.

Don’t mind this kids. What do they think is the cause of the high rate of divorce in this country?!

Last weekend one of the House of Representatives member married his mistress.

yanabasee:
Emotions have direction too...


Haven't you heard, where men send their wives packing over another woman?

You can't justify cheating. When someone get too attached to sexing his/her side-partner and feel even more happy and comfortable around them, They will begin to lose interest in their first found love. It's a two ways thing.

Staying happy in a relationship or marriage is key... Finding that happiness is what leads to cheating!!

So is it permissible for a woman to have an extra marital affair not cheating oh! If she’s the one taking care of the man financially?

RisenPhoenix:
A man having extra marital affairs is not actually cheating. The implicit agreement is that she reserves her body for him and he protects her and takes care of her financially. Cheating for her is when she shares her body with others and for him is when he refuses to fully protect and support her financially.

I love it when “men” try to say how women think and act, later they will say go for DNA test.

Why go for DNA test or monitor your wife when you can easily tell she’s cheating?

Who told this men that women don’t have one night stands that they purposefully initiated?!

“Men can till cheat and love their wives” tell that to millions of heartbroken dead women, tell that to Shannan Watts and her children, tell that to the millions of women that got killed by their husbands because they want to continue their affairs,tell that to yourself, yes yourself, many of you “men” felt the burns of your father’s unfaithfulness to your mothers but since you’re so evil you want to keep that circle going after all women are second class citizens.




TWO women and their kids both born and unborn that were killed by their husbands because they choose their mistress over their wives.

They spend all their waking hours on romance section so they don’t know there’s science and technology section on nairaland, that’s why that one up there quoted me to say his usual bullshît.

He’s doing all this for optics, because he has been under immense pressure and criticism so what does he do use the poor and vulnerable for his gimmicks.

This man is a loser and a thief, too bad many Nigerians love to learn the hard way.

You’re right! It’s funny how the so called men expect women to be pristine with morals and values meanwhile they’ve 0, how does that even work?

When I see them lamenting that their wives and girlfriends are cheating, I feel no pity or remorse because you’re the same people that said monogamy is not your natural instinct so who do you think you’re having your “outside” sex with? Don’t you know she’s someone’s wife or girlfriend?! One day another man will also ensnare yours so why cry?!

They claim women are hoes and underage girls are no longer virgins, I ask who are the ones raping them? Who are the ones pressuring them?! You see a full grown man chasing and having sex with an underage girl and coming online to brag about it then later he will say “women have no morals”

Women are no longer virgins right? So who’s taking their virginity? Who are the ones pressuring them to have sex so they can “prove their love”? Every Nigerian woman has a sexual assault story to tell even girls as young as 5! They see nothing wrong in a guy raping or making a sexual move on a girl that comes to visit him after all “what did you go to do in his house” then if you want to meet in a public place “ah she’s a hoe and she wants to eat my money”


I’ve been visiting a thread in crime section everyday for the past year and I shudder at what our so called men are up to, the level of murder, stealing and rape they carry out and many of them see NO wrong in that but all they do is create threads upon threads to advice and talk about women meanwhile the men the women you’re advising are expected to end up with are the same men that have no regards for life,love or community.


I don’t see this hypocrites talking about how to mentor younger boys but they want to advice women. Just create a thread about how bad women are and see them rushing in to drop their “gems of wisdom” create a thread about technology and watch them view only.

So? How do you expect you girlfriend to be faithful? She’s just helping one of our polygamous men to fulfill nature’s call. After all he can’t be eating on soup for the rest of his life.

So allow your girlfriend.

So why do you guys feel pained when you’re cheated on?! A girl introduces her boyfriend to you and you still took her home?!

Even if she was cheap I thought you guys had a “code”? Both of you are just as bad as each other and you think throwing in marriage makes you better.

Seems like men have relationship issues more than women. Always one complain or advice, it’s well.