bekay911:

we r made after Godls likeness der4 we beautiful indivisually but longa throat no gree us remain d same cos we b lyk dis or dat person and we eat n consume a lot of junk des days which deposits unwanted fats in our body.
So if u dnt critsze ppl dey wont c der faults but we need to do it wt love n care afterall wat u say doesnt matter its hw u say it dat matters d most

Is it by what we eat that made the legs to be yamleg or the height to be short ikeregbe or the face to be gorilla. About the over weight thing, some people are naturally born orobo and naturally born thin. i believe in this case we dont need to discriminate

Demdem:


Why should weekend alone be enough

Are u married?

My broda is not all about Bleep shia
Im married with 3 kids
tho we still do it during weekdays but not all days.
i dont complain as long as the man is in the mode, am there to satisfy him.
i may be stressed up  but dont show it up.
Its matter of understanding.

Creamish:

It takes an understanding husband to prevent issues cos its rily challenging. . . . Better if he met u as a banker. If he can assist, count urself lucky. As per the meal, always cook ahead . . make soups and stew to last the week so dat when u return, u only have to make rice or eba . .or watever u want. God's grace is always sufficient.  

Yes
We work with timetable. i have my daily activities timetable on my office desktop. i go through it everyday to know what next e.g my kids break fast,lunch & dinner schedule. And my hubby is that undestandable type. On saturdays i'll prepare 2 types of soup and stew and shared them into little plastics and put them in the freezer so that it will be easy for us during week days. On a daily basis after work when i get home, i keep my kids uniforms, sucks, pants, lunch boxes in order to make it easy for us in the morning when we wake up and also check their home work if its weldone, we go to bed at most btw 10:30&11pm, our body is used to it. In the morning we wake as early as 5a.m including the kids, they're used to it, my hubby will bath and dress them up, while i prepare their meal to sch. And we'll make sure they take little breakfast before going to school. I have a little 12yrs brother that stays with me, he comes back from his own school before school bus comes to drop the kids.  He'll make sure they've taken their bad and take their meal before assisting them with their home work. In the evening before we return, the kids would have taken wheat food e.g golden morn or conflakes before going to bed or atimes they wait for our return, we get home at most 9-9:30pm from vi to ejigbo. And we call home as often as we can to know their wayabout and wellbeing.
Its needs understanding and corporation. God is our strength, we know our aim.

tiniyata:

marryin a banker? let me think  who go de service me na? i used to have a gf who was a banker, she was a nice girl and really good too. but there was no way i could marry her for fear of adultery on my own part so i had to fashie her

Are u trying to tell us that you like going to heaven everyday? so weekends is not enough for you to enjoy yourself abi?
You fashie her and you missed alot (cash & nice behaviour). thank God you said she used to be nice.

I don’t know if there’s any one that reason the way I reason. It surprises me why a fellow human being will keep condemning the way a fellow human being like him or her looks by abusing them. e.g hmmn he or she is fat orobo or tin kpanla or skido or gorilla or monkey or maltex bottle or shortman devil or flat buttock, yam leg etc. I believe no human being knew when he was created and how he or she would look like when come to life. And also I feel if we had given a chance to make choice of our look Or are we trying to say some of God’s creature are terrible or blame our parents? What’s your own view?

Heineken & calypso

Im close to my maternal cos they welcome me wholeheartedly
Parternal no send you at all, well it all depends shia
My mum has never told me any bad story about them, but their care is not as heavy as maternal

brainpulse:

You av said it. It happened to most people i know, our mothers cook up bad stories about our paternal side so that the children begins to have a bad mind against them. it is when we grow up that we begin to understand.

Yes this is must of the wahalas in some families. its happening amongst my inlaws. but i cant allow that to happen between my kids and their fathers siblings, i need to lay a good foundation, even tho i have not been receiving good treatments from my mum inlaw and she's been trying to discourage us not to mingle with her husbands people that's my husbands uncles and aunties the same way she brought up her children (my hubby). But i decided not to allow it, i told my hubby we need to break that yoke, what's ever had opened that was then, we are the new generations, we should not all past to hunt us.

naijababe:

. I hope and pray that your son's family do not say the same of you someday

Please if you see the truth, say it. Forget about rendering curses. She’s telling you are experience.

Shalek:

I'm happy to see this. The same thing happened to me. My subscription fee for the CoMonth stuff was deducted on september 8, 8.30am and up till this moment, it hasn't worked. I have called their cc a countless number of times and they keep telling me to dial 333 which in turn tells me that my call can't be processed on this line. I had to subscribe using zain about 2weeks later, which is working fine. Though i know of some other people that this same thing happened to and when they visited glo office, and their problems was solved in no time. But as for me, i can't go to their office whenever i subscribe, so bleep their damned network.

Please don’t jubilate yet, Airtel will soon Bleep you up too, I have just walked out of Airtel to glo. The entire network is the same. So I advise you to keep about 4lines ready, anyone that bleeps you up, you change to another one. That’s my game. Shikina? tooo

Thanks to you friends, i really appreciate all already recommended and yet to be recommended.

Baby Jinx:

A good Naija Housewife has no need for daycare because she will be at home taking care of her children.

Its doesnt have anything to do with good naija housewife
Its our Nigeria economy
No woman is very happy to abandon her kids/house responsibilities for work

zayhal:

It's not too much of a sacrifice if a mother decides to stay at home to take care of her kids, especially if the husband's pay is sufficient for their living, and if its not, then the woman shd take up a job that won't be so demanding as to make her be away from home most of the day. The kids are usually the worst for it.
  For children who are left with househelps and those taken to daycares, the stories are barely different.
No one can take care of your kids the way you would. Why bring them down when you know u're going to hand them over to others to care for them?
   I love my babies too much to leave them to househelps or daycares. And what about other problems encountered with these people? Househelp palaver, if she's not stealing, she'll be too dirty, or silly, or lazy, or whatever, so many complaints! I've never had one, but neighbours will always come to tell you their sad stories of how bad the househelp is.
And the daycares, can't even imagine my kid there. Babies are vulnerable to diseases and it's easy for them to bring home all sorts from the way they're kept with other kids.
I went with a friend to pick her daughter at d daycare one day and I didn't know when tears started dropping from my eyes at the sight I saw, kids stepping on  one another, others crying at d top of their voices. 
For me, no daycare, no househelp.

We have diff levels of everything in life, so it’s your choose
I believe we still have a very good and neat daycares in town, I also believe it depend on the area and the standard of daycares you have around your area.
If your hubby monthly or biz income is good enough to cater for your family, lucky you, enjoy yourself.
I believe we still have some reach guys that allows their wives to work.
Let me ask you a question: Do you know now a day kids spends most of their time in school? A child would be in school from 7am thro 4pm. So how do you feel entrusting that child or children in a teachers hands for 8-9hrs and you’re only there to care for the child for just 5-6hrs let say between 4pm-10pm before bedtime. Now who’s now training the child more?
Infact after my creator are my kids in my heart, they’re my heartthrob, but I found myself in a matrimony that I most work to support for the betterment of the kids. I don’t have a choose and I am not complaining because my kids are doing very well. At least am alive, we only misses ourselves for few hours, even the kids are used to it, when I & my hubby wakes up in the morning, they too will wake up, atimes they wait for us till we return from work at most 8pm, and we have weekends to enjoy ourselves together. Life goes on. What about kids without parent, are they not surviving? If you have a good job and you pay your kids caretaker well, you don’t have to bother.

If you employ any girl or a boy as a housemaid, she or he will feel any harassment from you means you are wicked to her Most house maids feel you’re not supposed to shout on them even when they’ve gone wrong. For so doing they feel you hate them or you’re wicked because they believe you’re not their mother. I have experienced it with even my cousins that came to stay with me. I take good care of them, but once you shout on them, they’ll report to their mother that you’re maltreating them. But when their father or mother spank them, they’ll see nobody to report to. You may be enduring or decide to ignore some of their stupid behavior but once you decide to call their attention to the awful they’ve been doing, they’ll report to their mother that you’ve started being wicked and I notice some mothers usually agree with all the information coming from their daughters. E.g you’ll send a girl for an errand that suppose to take 5-10minutes on the same street, she’ll go for 2hrs. In fact it’s really annoying. For me I don’t refer to them as a house girl, I take them as my relatives cos I believe we are all one in Christ. Most people here will not really understand. I believe it’s working mothers with little kids that can really tell this story better, not mothers with grownup children, cos I believe if you have a grownup child of like 14 up, he or she should be able to carry out some house hold responsibilities /care for her younger once. I have 7 5 & 2+yr old kids and I am a working mother, I know what I go through with maids. I don’t spank my maids cos if you do, your children are in danger, so I don’t want my kids to feel inferior living in their own house in my absent because of one housemaid excuses that I spanked her. I try to over look things, but that doesn’t mean I would not correct/advice her if she goes wrong.

Just like @Afribiz rightly mentioned above: quote
Most of them are too greedy that they'll go about begging for food, even after eating at home, telling everyone that cares to listen that they've not had any food to eat since yesterday.

2dcore:

@ Poster I understand you .I was in a same situation 7 years ago.When I turned 21 my mum had a daughter and I felt so disgusted .Not only me;my younger brother felt worse.I was ashamed to tell people my mum just had a baby and I stayed back in school even during the holidays refusing to go back home.I remenber when she was pregnant and myself and my younger brother kept asking if she was pregnant and she kept denying.She was 39 back then, My younger sister was the only one who supported her through the nursing period and I did not see the baby until she was about 5 months old.My other family members had to talk me and my younger brother out our anger.Then I saw the baby and all anger went out the window.Most people commenting here  don't have an experience of such and hence the negative words.When you grow up you know your parents have s ex you find if digusting;but when they now show you an evidence of their sex life that most people can't handle including myself.I don't intend to make such mistake cos I can't survive my daughters having the same anger I had for my parents back then.
Just take it easy and let them know you are angry so such things does not happen again.The baby is your blood sibling not your rival.You have every right to be angry but not at the baby.It will pass ,

the poster's story is just about she and her only newly born baby brother
Your mum had about 3-4 of you before getting another pregnant for another baby
so the story is diff, because she was alone and another came to join her and she became angry. too bad

jennykadry:

This is a forum and I is entitled to my own opinion whether it agrees with you or not

My main issue with that 21yr old agbaya" of a poster is the fact that she used the word "ashamed" for her mum

Now if that mum of hers maltreated or abused her in anyway then I can accept the word "ashamed" but just because her mum gave birth to an innocent baby and the fact that she refused to even see d babys picture is just a sign of "wickedness" . What did that innocent child do? no lets leave the mum aside self and face the innocent child, what did that baby do?

Sometimes you have to be harsh to send your words across I dont believe in using milder words on wicked people like the poster. If she was in her early teens say 13 or 14 I can manage her words well but 21? hell no

I pray she experiences motherhood.Then she will know how painful it is to hate on an innocent child and a mother that carried a child for 9 months and went thru labour pains

I feel your comments jare, dont mind the crayfish brain

All una people wey de abuse the poster, una be dunce, stoopid mugus. When the parents are old and retired, who'll be taking care of the late baby? No be the poster? Her parents de carry load put on her head and you want her to be dancing? Do you know the stress some "elder brothers/sisters" go through to train babies their parents had late? Some brothers/sisters sacrifice a lot to care for something they didn't create. For example, you are 21, your 55 years old pop has 8 kids which include 3 toddlers and still wants more kids. You know that when your parents are old, you'll be the one to be paying the school fees of 3 or 4 siblings. If your parents have another kid again will you be happy? If my papa and mama try that nonsense, i go tell them my mind: "next time you have another baby, i'll buy a shot gun and shot it. Why una de pile load for my head?"   

djojo:


from what the poster's point of view, she is not talking about the upbringing of the child but she is ashame that her mama gave birth to a new baby, so i think next time u should read the post before u call those at your home silly, i think u are the  on this topic

Dont mind him, he's a muntula

oweniwe:

All una people wey de abuse the poster, una be dunce, stoopid mugus. When the parents are old and retired, who'll be taking care of the late baby? No be the poster? Her parents de carry load put on her head and you want her to be dancing? Do you know the stress some "elder brothers/sisters" go through to train babies their parents had late? Some brothers/sisters sacrifice a lot to care for something they didn't create. For example, you are 21, your 55 years old pop has 8 kids which include 3 toddlers and still wants more kids. You know that when your parents are old, you'll be the one to be paying the school fees of 3 or 4 siblings. If your parents have another kid again will you be happy? If my papa and mama try that nonsense, i go tell them my mind: "next time you have another baby, i'll buy a shot gun and shot it. Why una de pile load for my head?" 

Please re read the poster story like 10x so that u'll be able to understand.
Did the poster tell you she has other siblings except the new born baby?
You are afraid of taking care of your younger once, what about if the parent are wealthy and they have enough investment that can cater for their family through their life time? you didnt think of that, you're trying to tell us your background here abi

dezzygal:

my mom  just gave birth after 19years and it really freaks me out,i am happy for her and ma brother because she alwayz wanted a large family and he alwayz wanted a brother but i am not so happy because of the gap btw me and d baby and i never really liked large families.i am 21yrs old ,i feel ashamed to say ma mum just gave birth.its sounds so weird to me.
i dont knw y    but i am just scared of tellin ma friends or lettin dem knw,i knw is non of their biz but, 
presently i am not home and i am not so kin on seen the baby's picture .

Thank God you said its non of your friend's business
instead of you to be happy for having a brother and your mum having safe delivery, you are there thinking about people's gossip
You can only be ashamed if she has the child from another man under your father's roof
You said you're not so kin in seeing the baby's pic, did you hear that the baby resemble's obj?
I was 22yrs when my mum had our last born and i was there to help her through during nursing the baby

maran1983:

Op, good question. My question is what do you do when you try your best to treat your MIL as you would treat your own mum but she keeps pushing you away? That's my experience. I was pregnant and decided to go and spend a week with my MIL, while there i fell ill two days to my departure and because of my delicate state i could not take drugs, i managed myself till i got back to my base. Because i had stayed a bit without treatment i had to be hospitalized, you won't believe this wicked woman didn't bother calling me all through my stay in the hospital and even till i was discharged.

I complained and my husband said it's because she's not used to calling, fine, that may be the case but in all sincerity would she have done same if i were to be her daughter? I doubt it!

Abi o
i like your question
And this is why i published this question here, not because of the good once (MIL)
In this case what will you do?

coolestboy:

Dia's is a total diff btw my mother n my wife.
My wife can neva perform my mum's function neither can my mum perform my wife's duties. D son/husband is d middle man, so he should know how 2 protect both parties in oda 2 avoid commotion bcs wen it happens he suffers most. Dia some things d son should let his mum know about likewise warnins made 2 d wife. But all in all a wife can forsake u but your mum wil neva.

I love your comments bro
i feel you
i have printed it to show some people 

lagcity:

I think it is the fault of the husband. He should be the referee and not take any nonsense from both mother and wife. Mother and wife should stay in their respective lanes and not get too familiar with each other; too much closeness is problematic.

Gbam!
u've just mentioned my problems here
the root of all the wahala

hackney:

^^^EXACTLY
Thats the way women are.
Women are their own worst enemy.
Thats why a group of women cant achieve anything; it turns bickering,fashion and beauty competition.

i agree with you 100%
but what about their own daughters, are they their worst enemies too?

76Naira:

Because their sons let them. Not my style. keep them together but separate. If you get what I mean.

i grabbed u jare

infinitii:

when i read thru this thread i find it very fascinating and am compelled to make my own contribution as a result of personal experience
''MY husband fell ''SICK''  sometimes ago, though that sickness was as a result of ''over-doing'' of something, i''ll spare u that details.
He got better but for almost ONE SOLID YEAR, he was PRAYING ALONE at home  from 12:00am to 12:00pm the next day (this was b4 he fell sick).
i was responsible for all the home expenses, just name anything, infact we went to bury his mum's father that same year, all expenses pai by me.
the mother then ask him to come to Babanloma , somewhere close to Jebba, but closer to Saare and Ilorin, with the hope that he will find something to do.
I remember suggesting him to take up a teaching job at least, but he said he he has a ''GENERATIONAL ASSIGNMENT TO PRAY AND BREAK YOKES.
he went to Babanloma  and he had not showed up for since January, the rest is story.

i went to pay him visit sometimes in March, and during one oof the discussion i had with his mother''  she said and i quote'' Omo temi ko pada wa si Eko mo'' ma ba e wa se si Ilorin, kan fun mini CV e wa''  meaninig ' my son will not come to lagos again, just bring your Cv and i will look for something for u to do'' and true to her word my ''HUSBAND''  his son has never showed up as at the time of typing this text. 

if it were to be her own daugther, will she accept such, you can contact me on kennunuga1@yahoo.com for more details of this incidence, ,MOTHER-INS ARE WICKED

I feel for you dear
this's one of the things i am trying to express here
some MIL dont give a dam, they dont care if you've been contributing to her son's life positively
It's even worst if the son is mummy's pet
infact mummy's pet or no mummy's pet  o, they'll still give you their treatment

debrief08:

Madam Mummy, I don dey tire for you, I think you just like drama, today is husband tmr its mama in law, next tmr it will be sister. Well I disagree that 90% OF MOTHER in laws are bad, I think most women go into marriage watching too much African majic and too much of Patience Ozokwor make up der minds about Mama in laws, den draw d battle line. I have had 2 mother in laws and always treated them like my own mothers and they have loved me like their own daughters. My first Mother in law is still my best friend, we wear aso abi to events together. My mother in law now was d one who totally spported our marriage despite all objections even when my mom refused to support my remarriage ma mother in law do everything wey ma mama suppose do. My former mother in law attended my wedding and was a mother of d day, even though she knew her sone will be mad. Point is pple react to how you treat them, everyone responds positively to love, care and respect except some few very evil pple. Love them, respect them, there is no competition

my dear dont be tired o
we're here to express ourselves
you could be lucky to have the good once

chaircover:

It works both ways. Some DIL's go into the marriage already with a mindset of "not to take any nonsense from No stuupid meddling MIL" and end up at loggerheads with the MIL for many years.

The way I look at it is if you really love your son or your husband, then you will love his dog. Simple.

@Chaircover some mother inlaws dont reason that way o
Its the loving of sons issue that usually bring problems between MIL & DIL
Though not all o
I discovered 90% of them dont treat their daughter inlaws like the way they treat their daughters
Even in some cases, some sis inlaws will join the MIL in fighting the daughter inlaw for no reason
just because they have the feelings that the lady is there to enjoy their son's money
even when the son is not capable to take care of the family 100%, they still feel the daughter inlaw is the badluck
Even when their daughter inlaw is trying to please them by buying gifts for them, the see it as bad intention.
Its only the experienced once that will really understand what am trying to talk about

Friends in the House, please what can i use to clear off terrible pimples on my face
its been on my face for the past 2months and its irritating
i work as a customer service officer in a big organization, where i attend to lots of people (front desk)
i would be grateful to receive a positive response from you all.
Many thanks

Why Are 90% Out Of 100% Mother Inlaws Always Maltreating Their Daughter Inlaws?

I noticed that out of 100%, 90% mothers in laws are rude to their daughter in laws,  is it a natural thing or out of jealousy?  because in every women gathering, their prefered topic is always how their mother in laws maltreat them. Well i pray God to give me the grace to treat my future daughter in law well like my own daughter.

engr j:

Yoruba nor dey divorce dem dey porsue

Abi pursue and replace
or motiloyun business

Kulas:

One thing in this Nairaland is that even when somebody said life truth,people will take it as tribalistic act.What the writer said IS PURELY HUNDRED PERCENT TRUTH, and we all know its true. Igbo's naturally dont DIVORCE unlike Yoruba,despite the fact that IGBO BABES BY AVERAGE ARE THE MOST BEUATIFUL compared to Yorubas or can you also augue that one.In Every sampled hundred percent beautiful babes with igbo and Yorubas, seventy to eighty percent must be igbo babes.They are indeed more beautiful than their Yoruba counterparts.They value marriage than Yorubas,and we all know that it is true.

gbam 100%