Flower ko, Leave ni

Our weather is not good to keep flowers 

slimyem:

Orkinla is so cracking me up with his 'oriki and nice wax prints'.what kind/type of girls appreciate such in this age and time?
Think it through again Sire!

I believe @ORIKINLA is a v…… guy

Ystranger[color=#990000][/color] you sound like a boko haram, and the name you named yourself suit the type of brain you have, meaning(why are you a stranger in this Nairaland) that’s why you’re acting like a stranger. Must you abuse? You need to be poured hot water and spanked by OPJ. Ewu mkpisi, Nwanne mallam.

nakedwire:

Na wetin happen to old broom go happen to new broom.  Its just a matter of time.
I am sorry for the kids involved.

Na soo
Love dey clear for eyes now, abi no be so?

tpia@:

^^is his story a plus for bini men?

Frank is from Eket in Akwa Ibom State

I cry and feel sad for the kids, my heart is broken.
Oh life

Peradventure i discover my teen is a witch, i would simply take her to one of our famous pastors to pray the evil spirit out of her/him. Well i don’t even believe in all those rubbish (witchcraft) and such wont locate me. Ignorance is the root of all these evil happenings and bad economy as well, because in the name of looking for money to buy food, some so called themselves pastors would want to fake his prophecies to enable him make money to cater for himself & family. May God not let us fall victims.
I pity the poor girl, she has no choice than to forgive the father so that she can make heaven, i believe she’s been preached to.

Ilovevillage, ohh sorry, Ilovelagos, dont mind them. Someone doesnot need to tell you, your Instinct and the happenings amongst your friends will gist you that, "bros its time oo, see all your age groups are Coupling up [color=#006600][/color]" .

bin gbagbo:

when u r 8 years!

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Him tell you say, him from north?

semid4lyfe:

So for your mind Queens College na public school? I only ask cos two of my younger siblings went to that school and in my opinion overtushness dey worry the students of that school. . .just like KC. Small man pikin no dey go QC and na serious conection/leg work to enter there. No talk am again o. . . QC na FGC but it's one of the best in the FGC's and it's on the same level with elite private schools like A-Hall, Vivian Fowler, Corona etc.

By the way, I've noticed you've been posting and replying people's post since morning. Seems you have so much free time on that banking job of yours

Anyhow sha, all the best as you juggle and balance work & family

Its not a most for a banker to work 366 days, at least i have some days to rest out of this 366 days
Beside it's not all department in the bank that are always buzy
I work in a stress free depart
Like i mentioned earlier, its the operational branch staff that usually closes late, that's if their head of dept want it that way.

oohunt:

@mummy3, I honestly bow for you. From VI to Ejigbo? It aint easy what you are doing. And the fact that you leave your kids at home everyday and hope they would always be ok. . .

It is also good that you have established a balance in your busy lifestyle. I am sure it was tougher before now. Thank God for your understanding husband.

The truth is that this not only happens in Nigeria but also awomen abroad go through this. They are hardly home to tend to the kids or husband. They have to work to make ends meet. If you want to give your kids the best, sitting at home wont get you there.

I am glad to read that you are moving. There is no reason to put yourself through the strees of traffic. If you have a good job then you can afford to live closer to your place of work.

Thanks for your support my love

maclatunji:

Easily, it is now a private school!

Hahahaha i went to a public school as well o (QC)
but my kids are in private school
Try to get us, we're not saying some public sch kids are not brilliant, same apply to private sch they have dundy there as well
But i believe you'll choose to send your kids to a private sch

dayokanu:

Tpia and maclatunji,

Dont lets deceive ourselves

We cant compare Public schools of now to those of the 80's and 90's

In those days there were few private schools and everyone sent their kids to public schools so the best of the best were in those schools

Compared to nowadays when everyone sends their kids to Private now its only children of the very poor that attend most of these public schools

Even schools Like St Finbarrs, Igbobi, Loyola College are not spared from the rot.

I also went to one of these now rotten public schools

Its true jare, i believe Tpia and maclatunji will not send their kids to any of this public school. As a Y2K Compliant fathers. even a low paid security man & drivers are trying to make sure their kids are enrolled at least in a low fee private school that they can afford.

yogun:

All hail mummy3, great job you are doing,

definitely, she'll have plans for the future and you need cool cash as capital to establish any business of your choice.

i will all working mums in this situation well and pray God to grant them wisdom in raising godly kids,

Amen o my sis

dayokanu:

In a country where several millions about 50% of youths are unemployed is not one to choose.

Even if you want your wife to stay at home, How do you pay bills or give the children the desired lifestyle ?

Would you rather stay at home and send your children to Ansar-U-deen or Agege grammar school or work till 10pm so they can go to Corona.

Working till late is more of a necesity nowadays

Ansar-U-deen or Agege grammar school

maclatunji:

You must be one of those Madams we see at the back of the tellers, directing them at the bank. I suppose with your good pay you can ease some of the emotional discomfort your job brings but ultimately one has to look at personal happiness too before you end up as General Manager at the bank and fill empty inside.

I dont work in a branch.
I used to, when i was single

xynerise:

@MMM. I am sure u dont know what d topic is all about.

He or she knows, He's just trying to say that women cant be your best friend if you are not buoyant enough to cater for their request.
woman + cash = best friend

Orikinla:

mummy3, it would be better for you and I to have a practical discussion on this matter in the Unclad. Just you and I. So, that we can be pointing at everything in our anatomy as we discuss it. Anyway, I agree with you. But if a glutton get fat and ugly, God is blameless. And if "Lepa Shandy" refuses to eat well and looks like Thin Lizzy, God is innocent. Then I will make fun of them until they the glutton stops over feeding and the Thin Lizzy begins to feed well. Personally I like the babes with huggable head lamps and boot. In fact, I should be able to place a tea cup on the buttocks or rehearse "Pata-pata" on the "Ikebe" booty.   

laugh want finish me
Funny human full this land o
too funny

Mr, Cork:

mummy3. Madam did sumbody abuse your Physique? Are u a midget  by any chance? (no ofeinxce)

figure 8 you want try.
Im always pitying those victims

maclatunji:

I don't envy your lifestyle O. How do you deal with the unholy advances of some of your bank customers or potential clients?

Sorry my dear
Hmmmm its not only female bankers that are being intimidated by male toasters
Other company’s superiors do as well. The ball is in the lady's field, if you like play it and if you don’t like to play good, it’s between you and your God. Even full house wives are being intimidated as well, some go as far as bringing guys to their marital home. It’s not by force to date someone.

Why is it that in some peoples young age they condemn bankers or reject to work in a bank?
But when they grow older and have grown up kids, they'll want them to work in the bank and they’ll be so proud to tell people that my son or dota is a Bank Manager.  

People keep worrying about banks closing time. Banks normal closing time is 4pm to customers as we all know. And the official staff closing time is 5pm. Its only in branches operations where they’re having balancing issues that’s what normally keep them late.  And another problem is, as a branch operational staff, you have to wait for your boss to finish before you all can go together, because the boss would be scared of being alone in the banking hall, and there are some wicked bosses that will stay in the office and be browsing.  So if someone is lucky to be posted to a quick close branch, well.  Now a day,  Atm has really reduced numbers of queue in the banking hall, I believe they suppose to be closing earlier now, but our Lagos holdup issue is hectic.

Let me ask a question. Is it everyone we see on the road late night that are bankers?

twinskenny:


what if her job is the one keeping the family? must she now resign just to cater for the kids alone? will she used stone to pay there school fees? she is always with the kids every night and everymorning, not like shift job,  saturday and sunday is there as well to look after her kids. i bet you are not in Lagos thats why u are talking like that,  not only bankers surfer this kind of stress,  some other profession do too. what if you are working on the island and you leaving somewia around sango ota or some place far? what wi ll u do? u wake up early and u return late,  the kids will be fine

My dear is not everybody that will see the way you're seeing it. thanks for understanding

Demdem:

Abegiii, u all free mummy3. as long as i am concerned, she is a good wife and most likely a good mum. Na naija we dey abegiiii.

Thanks oo @demdem, hungry don dey cash me for answering questions.
My people anyhow we most survive, God dey.
I love my hubby, I love my kids & I enjoy my work equation balanced na only holdup stress dey finish us @ least i dey close a bit early 5-6pm
We're moving to suruelere next year January by God's Grace, at least s/lere - v/i is a bit closer, and my mum lives in s/lere.

tripleace:

@MUMMY3
Really admire your positive approach to handling such a challenge in you daily schedule and say keep the doing the good work. I feel in a country like our Great Nigeria, jobs like this will never pay you enough for your service rendered. From what you have described about your ability to manage time and a whole lot more you may have not disclosed, you are better of working for yourself. With your our business, its a win win situation both at Home/Business. It not always easy at the beginning but it pays at on the long run.

thanks my love, i appreciate.

nikkykay:

like cc said, wots your 2yrs doing @ school for 9hrs? just to keep him from being alone dreby waiting for his siblings so as to go home together i guess!
Must you work on the isalnd and as a banker? Dnt tell me there r no other jobs u can do that will make u get home earlier? HWy will u allow your children to wake up that early? do u think its good for them?
There are better things u can do if u r not getting a white collar job?
U r saying children in boarding school? Do they have opportuninty or the kinda exposure to the world that the day students  have? They are being monitored around unlike the day students that have access to watch anythg on TV, seeing all manner of things in the neighborhood and environment.

Sis have u seen well trained / monitored pastors, reverened, bishops children that have gone astray today.
like @tellmemore mentioned above (diff strokes for diff folks)
A child that want to spoil will spoil
But that doesnt mean, we shouldnt train our kids according to God's ways

chaircover:

@mummy did you say that 2 year olds spend 9 hours in school? What will a 2 year old be learning for that long? Many adults going to full time jobs here only spend a average of 8 hours at work with one of those hours being a lunch break.

I am not here to judge or critisize but I am not sure what deep converstaions can you have with a kid at 9:30pm; a child who has been up since 5am. You are probably too tired mentally as well to hold down a conversation, do homework, check their bags (that they havent brought home someone elses eraser) etc, but its good that you have the weekends sussed out.

I feel you though; Living and working in Lagos is not the easiest of feats.

@chaircover, the conversation is always in the morning about the previous day, when we all wake up.
When i retunr in the night, i am always checking their body to know if their body temperature is ok
for my 2yrs+, they sleep atimes in the school if they feel like, they have bed for the kids, and why he waits till 4pm is because of his siblings so that they can come home together in a school bus, we're paying extra fee for his extra waiting time with His teacher. 

Alldruns:

But pls do all Bankers close late? Or some deliberately stay back to enjoy ,

Not all
like me, i close 5-6pm but the distance from my office to my house is far because of the heavy traffic on the road

LeoMax:

No well-to-do man will allow his wife to suffer these inconveniences.  There is no reason why anyone should dedicate 6:am to 10pm for a job. What is the essence of such job ?  Personally I do not see why anyone in Nigeria should be working for anyone. There are so many enterpreneural opportunities than employment opportunities. White collar mentality is killing a lot of people. Pull off that coat and tie or suit as the case might be and go into importation or production or whole sale business and you will be home and making money while people are running around and calling you Boss, just like me

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Mr boss thank God for your life.
i believe you know some of our reach top guys wives that are doing official jobs
Did i tell you am suffering or my hubby is doing bad?
Do you think is by telling your wife to sit at home or run business that will make her not to suffer?
There's advantage and disadvantage in everything we do in life
I have been working for the past 10yrs in a banking industry and i know how many people i have helped to secure a job including my siblings, is that not a + to those souls. I have access to loan anytime any day, i travel to any country of my choice including my kids & hubby during vacation @ the expense of my office. Just imagine if i were a full house wife or running a small scale buziness.
Its where i found myself and am not complaining in my marriage. if my hubby is well to do or not well to do, is not any person's biz. We understand ourselves, life goes on

nikkykay:

Forget abt how the meal aspect is being taken care of, how about the up bringing of the children? Men will care about the s3x & the meals but do they really bother about the training of the kids? They believe its the woman's responsibility but they dont wont show it.
Even if your mother or house help is around to cater for them, they cant be brought up well unlike when the parents esp the woman is there to monitor them. Nobody will look after your children the way u dont
I dont support this kinda work for a family woman and the reason most pple go for it its cos of the money or to assist the husbands.
How could a woman leave home in the morning @ 6am and come in by 930pm & go to bed 11pm Do u hav time to check the kids? wot kinda lifestyle is that?!!! do u know wot househelp does wit your kids or how s/he lives his/er life??
But i think it is better to earn lesser than wot banking sector is paying and have time for the family than earning much and family is falling apart gradually esp the children as dey grow up.

What type of upbringing are you talking about
Kids spend most of their time in school 7am to 4pm (9hrs) mon-fri , meaning its teachers that train most of the kids including full house wives and business women kids. Why do business woman take their kids to school for such a long period, because to enable them run their businesses or give them time to rest. Let me ask you, what about the kids in boding school?

my kids
Between 4pm after school when they get back home they’ll take their bath, take their second lunch, do their home work, wash cartons around 7pm take their dinner and go to bed or atimes wait for our return. We meet them awake in the evening sometimes and see them fully as well in the morning, they’ll even give you reports about what happened previous day (you know children now a days). And we have weekends to enjoy ourselves. In this situation if we have any occasion we go with them because we don’t like anything to take our weekends away from us because of the kids. My kids school is equal to the task as well ( I mean in terms of any illness, there’s in house doctor in the school compound they have all their medical informations and they do check up on them every 3 months). My mum used to come around when they were still babies but has stopped. I have 7yrs, 5yrs & 2yrs+ kids, and they’re doing very great. I and my hubby show them lots of love, and the kids have noticed that, one day my first dota was forced to say (Mum & Dad I love you all cos you care for us) and we were pleased to hear that.   That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t discipline/correct them when they go wrong.

Friends I don tire to answer una questions 

pkv:

correct wife.God bless u madam!make my ovaposesive jealous banker chic come bak 2day.i go show ha this your post.if she wont undastand lyk u make she walker.

i beg dont let her waka o, all strength are not the same 

Demdem:

^^^^^

Good wife u are. As long as that aspect isnt failing, u can continue with your job. I agree also that all isnt about se"

 You are a funny guy.