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Yoruba Divorce rate - 90%
Igbo Divorce rate - 5%

Mind you am not either of the tribe

And also
there are so many things we've done in the past (youthfull days) that could returned back to harm us.
Please you need to really pray to God for forgiveness if you had involved your self in these:

1. One or several Abortions
2. Encouraging a friend to abort
3. Having an affair with a married man that would have warranted the wife to placed a curse
4. Taking harsh pills / injection for pregnancy prevention

May God have mercy and help you through. It is well my dear

Its always good for the husband to bring up such idea. So that he'll know how to convince his family members. I read about some people saying it doesnt concern family members its between husband and wife decision alone. Yes i agree and disgree with this. The need of the family members may not be needed at the initial stage but in the future if you guys later have your own biological children, your husband's family members might stand out to fraustrate the said adopted child by saying he or she is not their blood, especially if the adopted child's father is late and wealth/properties is involve. it's even good if the adopted child is a female child because she will be married out. that's why you see most people prefer female child for first adoption. So i advice you, if you must go for an adoption, allow your husband to initiate the idea first or if you feel he's not disturbing about you having a child yet and you are too bothered about it, use stylish and gentle way to discuss with him and see how his reaction will look like. If he can be convinced by you, good and you both should go for female child, if your husband is a stubborn type that doesnt want to hear about an adoption, please holdon to God for His own time.  I wish you goodluck dear. I can imagine what you're are going through.

My husband younger brother just adopted a male child this year, the idea was initiated by my muminlaw (his mother) and accepted by him and his wife. i know its sound strange for a mother inlaw to initiate such. Do u know why? she feels she doesnt want to commit sin by telling her son to go and impregnate another woman, because his wife had fibroid and it was operated upon and since that operation and its four years now since they wedded no pregnancy has occured. But my mother inlaw is not still happy with her son's wife for not having a biological grandson from her son. She decided to love the adopted grand son because she has been getting lots of money from her son. So when she went for omuguo (babysitting) she showed the said daughter inlaw pepper

Smilenw:
Sorry O
Please you have not mentioned anything about your health, age and why you think you will not have a baby of your own. Though couple who are perfectly healthy with kids of their own do adopt, you sound like someone who wants to adopt out of desperation. Do you think if god blesses you with kids of your own after you adopt a kid, you/your partner might still shower the same love and care you once had for this child? You have already mentioned your mom won't accept an adopted child, so we don't even want to venture into your husband's folks' take on this.Assuming you have kids in future,  do you think his siblings will have the same love and respect for this child as they would have for a senior brother/sister even after you and your husband are not in the picture? Don't you think he will always be considered as a "lucky"orphan ?

With so much of advanced technology available in the fertility sector, I suggest you try all that is possible  to have a kid of your own before you consider adoption. Meanwhile try as much as possible not to worry about this matter as worrying too much can hinder conception.  Pray coz prayers can do wonders.  I'm sure you will come back to tell us how much your kids are troubling you and how you wish to have some peace and quiet

Abio i reason with you too. But at least it will relief her of some worries and the adopted child could bring blessings to her as ronkebp earlier said

[quote author=Afro_Blue link=topic=759219.msg9147168#msg9147168 date=1316019499][b]Time tested knowledge for the first wife.   



The Good Wife's Guide

Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.

Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

Be a little man-lover and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.

During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
Be happy to see him.

Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
Don't greet him with complaints and problems.

Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.

Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
A good wife always knows her place.
[/b][/quote]How do i come in.
Attention pls for the full house wives

ebonyvibe:
Da doctor back off go and slap your slave wife at home and leave me alone.

Dont have your time and my home is very good thank u dont see how it is your business. You are just an insecure miserable man

  its gud for you Da native doctor

My mum jus called me now and gave me dis number as well that two people died in her area. 59102

kaffy4tope:
Yeah, its the network, try and download everything in the night.

Many thanks, u really helped me. i was able to download in the night. sorry my appreciaton is coming late.

olawalebab:
Very possible, what happen is that the ATM processing start from the day you open an account, but most people dont go for it. may be when he go for it, the card is ready.

They person said he filled the form that very day and his atm was ready in the next one hour. even though it was ready down, it wont take the customer service less than 10minutes to release it to you not one hour.

Please has anyone experienced [color=#990000]Hermingways Safari's way of luring people into joining their Club?
I went to park & Shop to get some stuff
A young guy approached me and introduced Prk & Shp promo with Hermingways Safari Airline. He brought out a form and asked me to fill and I did.
After about two weeks, they sent me a text that i was amongst the 12 families selected as a winner, that i should come for my award voucher to enable me travel and enjoy their resorts, that i should make sure i come with my husband. On getting there, they started performing their advert bla bla bla bla bla. At the end of the day, we all noticed that they stylishly draged us to their office to market us. They will tell you about their benefits that's if you join the club that very first day, after that day no benefit for you. And they'll tell you, joining of the club is not compulsory that doesnt mean you will not get ur voucher for traveling and enjoying their resort.   I decided not to join the club since i was not having cash, i insisted in collecting the free voucher as promised by them, since i refused to join the club with the sum of (N3,792,000 to be paid installmentally for 12months and u'll use the place for 2wks, this amount covers your trip yearly for 20years, but if they succeed in convincing you to join that very first day, you will get a discount and the amount will drop down to N2,***,***) So the voucher was given to me to use their resort in Australia or Brazil or Dominican Rep or Mexico or Spain or Thailand for five days. And i now ask them cant i use their resort in ghana or Nigeria because i know i can easily travel to ghana or calabar to enjoy myself with little Niara. they said they dont have a resort in Ghana and Nigeria. You can imagine their style now, they know it will be difficult for some people to travel to this their mandated countries if they eventually did not join their club.

Its good if you have a lump sum of cash in your account, because if you breakdown the cash into 20 places, its about N100,000+ yearly with your family, and if you want to travel normally on your own, you'll spend not less than 1m for a family hol trip annaully. The most annoying part is them using stylish way to drag people to their office for marketing in the name of winning something.

MRbrownJAY:
whoever told you the above lie, must have been working in a underwear store, lol!
if you clean your undies properly, you do NOT need to buy new ones.

Abi. i beg after treating your self thoroughly washed your old undies with hot water and continue using them.

Evil Brain:
It might also be her husband's se.men. You never know.

You may be right o 
It could be ignorance o
This Nairalanders una no go kill person
Auntie poster, why post this kind of thing here
You should have jus gone straight to your doctor now haaaba!

Infact i refused to believe that its a lady that posted this. Na man jooo

Joagbaje:
He didn't have a law to have sin against. But if he was not born insane. He will be judged by the level of truth he was exposed to before he became mad.

Thanks joagbaje, u've just answered my question.

Please i need a 2bedrooms Flat @OLODI-APAPA within TRINITY & PEOPLES AREA: I need a compound that has Water running in the tap

stagger:
OP,

Report the landlord to the relevant authorities. By law, he cannot eject you until he has given you a quit notice 6 months in advance.

Either way, the law is on your side. The problem is that many people do not know their rights and even when they do know, they are afraid to exercise it.

You need to shake the landlord and he will fear you from now on.

You are advicing him to shake the Landlord, reason the other way round, if the landlord decides to shake him with juju nko?
Mr poster, i advice you to pay the one year if you have the cash, it will even be a relief for you for 12months. but if you don't have, you can plead with him to accept the 6months. You better don't make trouble, landlords know their way out in the court of law. When you're dinning with the devil you have to use a very long spoon. We need wisdom to live on this earth. It's not an easy thing to get a new accommodation.

Please i want to confirm if the one year house rent payment in Lagos is really effective, because am trying to secure an apartment and all the agents i have been communicating with keeps telling me to pay for 2 years including commission and agreement fees.

May God lead us according and give us the wisdom to understand His word in Jesus Name i have prayed,

Possible but its not compulsory. i dont feel comfortable seeing my hubby cooking with me in the kitchen. i feel disturbed. i prefer him caring for the kids while i do the cooking, else the kids will want to join us in the kitchen as well. You'll only enjoy it with ur spouse when there're no kids yet (newly wedded couples)