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halexito:
Attack you personally? No! I only responded to your post here. Because I don't agree with SOME of your ideas and methods, does that mean that I'm against you personally?
Prof, we warmly welcome intelligent and enlightening posts here. But if you're one of those guys who always think those who disagree with some their 'intellectual' views are against them personally.
Then I think you should try to keep YOUR MIND to yourself.

I made some points in my quoted text. If you are sincerely going to respond, then, address what I actually wrote instead of slithering around it.

I made it particularly clear in my quoted text , what I was getting at. You now spun my comment to enable you put the spin on it you wanted to enable you make your conclusion.

I have never said or implied that a difference in opinion means an attack. You may want to step back a little before forging ahead. Your focus was to be dismissive and you found a way to get there.

Sonofananimal made his response made his take on the discourse without taking things out of context to drive home a preconceived notion. You can.learn from him.

udysweet:
And then there's dis old saying"overtaking is allowed"you can take the lead by giving us ur own info. And of what importance will my divulging such info be? So the fact that I'm active on this thread,means I have to be one of those to take the lead? See its my mind am saying,I just think you're deliberately stirring up troubled water,mbok! I'm just seriously thinking you're a male version of Melish(heck you could even be Melish sef)apologies to her tho,lol(no be say I wan find trouble o!
Just be urself,let the thread flow naturally and flow along with it. And one last thing,drive traffic to that your thread,cos I need to see it on FP. I believe in you somuch that you can do that. Me I'm not that intellectualy inclined enough to be able to post there o but I'll try in my own little way to read and decipher what's its about before making my own input.
Gracias!

About that thread; it's not that deep...

Your answering the profile questions is advisory in nature. You dont have to do anything; you can choose to do something. You can accept or decline. I believe you have chosen the latter which is fine by me.

If you read my earliest posts on this thread, you will know why I do not deem it nevessary to provide my info. I am not going to regurgitate.

If you need to keep telling yourself myminder is here to cause trouble so that you can use that to fuel your animosity towards me when you comment, then, do what you believe you have to do.

I have told you I am not and I won't comment going forward about your assertion.

You can gang up all you want. I am not going to twitch.

You are free to keep speaking your MIND. We all have one.

Sparkles003:
Zubinike my apology in advance for what m about to do.
you have never said hi to me on this thread where i guess you
noticed me first but choose to pm me,
to wat purpose do i owe your precious pm

I don't know Zubinike and neither am I seeking his favour.

I do not think putting him on blast in the open is right. If he has gone against your best practices, then, you could have

1. Told him off in private

2. Ignored him and then come to the public thread to inform everybody not to pm you except certain conditions are met. Everybody will now be guided properly going forward. You did not have to call him out publicly to get across your displeasure to him.

I am not also trying to attack you in any form. If guys start getting cold feet to connect in private then, the main purpose of this thread will be defeated in my opinion.

Remain blessed nonetheless.

Sparkles003:
hahahahahah
why don't you take the lead as per the originator

It's out of my context. Those who are active along the lines of the purpose of this thread are best suited to kick things off. Likely because the suggestion came from myminder, you and some others will not want to contribute...

Keep on keeping on...

halexito:
You're trying to build this thread the way YOU THINK it should be. You sound all wise to me. Let us be. We're OK.

I never said you were not OK; no need to go there. I am not building a thread; I am contributing to one. Maybe when you make these two adjustments then you may have a softer stance when you look at the bigger picture

I doubt whether you will see msbronze comment to me as dismissive because it came from someone likely on your good side. If you put my moniker attached to the same words, you may have already dived in to have a go at me. Human beings, nothing changes...

My point is this standoff has very little to do with the content of my contribution thus far and a lot more to with a negative view of the content provider and whatever he stands for or doesn't stand for.

It's just MY MIND

matrix199:
Nna, make we no lie, u dey exhibit narcissism. You need to slow down. Where ur own intellect stop, na dia some ppl own begin.

Don't use ur intellect wrongly. Probably there's a noxious part of u that sublimed on this thread, and they perceived it. You shld take corrections discreetly, even if u're right. They like humble guys.

Ladies do not necessarily crush on intellectual guys, particularly the ones who show it off. They crush on humble, intelligent guys.

Abeg, try treat our ladies here like queen u hear?! Na because of u I don hide my own intellect, com activate ordinary sense.

Wetin be dat ur slogan wey dem borrow sef?

People perceive what they want to perceive. That's why people react differently to the same stimuli.

I neither seek acceptance nor rejection from males or females on this thread. I say what I believe needs to be said; how people decide to react or perceive my content is 100% outside of my control and I will not lose sleep over it.

I have no agenda whatsoever: udysweet said I am here to make trouble (wrong) or you that is now linking this to showing off. People will always think what they want to think; I am not going to dwell on it. Live and let live.

I have spoken MY MIND as always

Best wishes

Some People here feed themselves with the fuel they need to validate their outbursts.

I never used the word impose ms bronze used it to validate her outbursts. Don't apply words that I did not use just to enable you give your response a nice takeoff.

Spare me the deceit though it is widely accepted in Nigeria so as to gain acceptance. I remember comments when I first talked about topics to discuss and some said go ahead that it is not a strictly hookup thread. Talk about anything here. Now some women are twisting it to feed their agenda.

I started an intellectual thread. What I WROTE above is 100% in line with this thread about people trying to build relationships. It is not meant for anywhere else. In your haste to get me out of this thread you refuse to see that. Take out the emotion; logic and objectivity is all you need here.

When I mention leaders I mean people who actively participate in the thread and not just OP.

I have made my logical view known. I don't need to seek acceptance before I speak out. I guess that is part of the gripe.

You don't have to like me online to make sense of my content. It seems that some of the women that have spoken thus far have refused to separate both of them.

You peeps are borrowing my slogan. It's all good...

MY MIND

udysweet:
Come missbronze,where are u presently? Giv me ur addy,I need to come and plaster two hot pecks wit dis my pink lipstick on both of ur cheeks and then turn back,lool! Now u know why? U jus spoke my mind,no addition or subtraction. I told sm1 offline that I wanted to reply dis mentions but I feel I'll offend mymind,so mak I wait see weda anybody dey in my shoes too,so it won't look like I'm oversabi,u jus did! God bles!!!!!
Now mymind,I dnt tink I need say more cos my darling sis here jus said all "my mind" too.
Love u miss bronze(no homo)

You are entitled to your view just the way I am. No hard feelings.

[quote author=matrix199 post=40349187][/quote]Nice one Matrix199!

missbronze:
You know, this your mind you keep expressing here, is beginning to piss some people off, including me.

for Christ's sake, you have your own thread you created about 30's too, why not carry that your long list you posted above, to your thread.?

Why come here to impose on us how to do things here.?

pls, I beg you with the name of whatever you serve, Let people be. Save us all this intellectual way of doing things, or intellectual topics, etc.


And, I wish you a lovely day ahead. cheers.


And, ehen, OUR MIND.

It's a suggestion. You are free to take the advice or leave it. No one is commanding you. You appear to have more issues with the poster than the content.

I will leave it at that for now.

People need to provide profiles to enable viewers of the thread cut out the low hanging fruit and save time on barren expeditions.

1. Break your REAL age into a five-year bracket. 30 to 35, 35 to 39 etc.

2. Highest level of education attained

3. Freelance /self employed or employee.

4. Agnostic, atheist or religious and religion

5. Phlegmatic, sanguine, choleric or melancholy personality type.

6. Height and weight

7. Introverted or extroverted more often?

8. For those who are ethnic group sensitive, state your preferred ethnic groups to relate with on a romantic level.

If people on this board, start doing this then, things will move forward with purpose and direction. Interested parties can hit the right road quickly and hopefully team to their destination with someone who wants to go in that direction.

My mind as always. Best wishes

The leaders of this forum should take the lead and get it started.

1. Siamia
2. Toks 2008
3. Udysweet
4. Ddshow
5. Melsan etc.

magneto:
Bros I understand ur reasoning but can't seem to grasp its relevance to the situation on the thread. Yes there's an implied hookup focus which is certainly appropriate for such a mature gathering of singles. There's no cogent reason why any kind of 'soft landing' should be considered because nobody is hounding, intimidating, or scaring anyone away. If ur 30 and above, ur welcome to join and participate anyway u so choose (of cos displaying ur supposed maturity). Let the hookup minded ppl hookup in peace and let the intellectual minded ppl discuss in peace... At d end of d day everyone is happy, don't u think?

What I simply mean is anybody participating based on thread title is appropriately assumed to be single and LOOKING once they start contributing. This is what I refer to as a hard landing. This is why the thread is sputtering along without a clear direction in my opinion.

I understand where you are coming from though, the damage has already been done with the thread title. A little tweak to the thread title would have done the magic and expanded the mingling pool.

I hope people find what they are looking for especially the women.

MY MIND as always

@sparkles003 when something is pushed to the edge from the outset, it kills the excitement and expected uncertainty. If I do a pool party and title it "bare as you dare" and everyone turns up naked, the purpose is defeated.

The hookup implied focus has not allowed many people to participate innocently without inhibition. Yes, some people are interacting, but, many more would have if the thread said let us get to know ourselves within a defined age bracket. Soft landings are typically preferable to hard landings.

MY MIND as always

Sparkles003:
toks lets be real when this thread was created it primary purpose was for hookup anyway which every way anyone see the term hookup cos the key word is "single"
why do you think some just drop numbers and bbpins.

Good to know you see where I am coming from with my assertion. I do believe the hookup focus in the thread title has stifled the thread and sent it into a funk.

sonofananimal:
this thread initially was not on a dating and meeting up stuff but someone push it there, and that's why you don't see what you wanted to see I guess!

But shall! Everyboby with his own cup of tea

We are on the same page. I agree with you. The same push was applied to the WhatsApp group. I hope they find what they are looking for. I think people need to exhale a bit and things will come together.

blessedbeads:
sorry pls were is the other thread

I guess it is moving down fast on the main page due to no fresh contributions. It may even be on the 2nd page now. Who knows?

@Toks the thread title says it all. And single... that's the key qualifier.

Ladies is being able to make an enjoyable conversation with your partner a prerequisite to romantic bliss? Can someone tickle your fancy despite not having much to talk about? Is informal silence golden?



Your thoughts...

udysweet:
Its getting hot in here! @myminder,let's hope ur thread gathers d momentum it needs,Amen! But like sm1 posted there,I'm thinking dat tht thread shd be apropriate in d education sector. And then maybe u shd jus injecr wat ever new ides u hav into thos thread,u knw,spice things up a bit.
Bottom line remaims,we're all singles and are ready to mingle! And in doin dat we can also build up ourselves intelectually wit inputs frm ur likes. So let's jus say it'll be a mix of different flavors,u feel me?! Winks
I'm in some club mood tonite(evn tho I've never been to one)loool

I have started. Read above

sonofananimal:
thesame process will still repeat itself again! what did you want to discuss intellectually that we don't know or heard about?

Is it a bussiness plan? Or how to be in a steady relationship? Not many have a good ideal on relationship or what make a person become what he/she is now. I personally hate the ideal of dating and meeting up zone or hook up because of what I have gone through in life and the only reason I'm here is to try and disbelief my belief on this stuff by seeing people's view and there opinion on this stuff but not to come and and start saying let us start exchanging number and meet up this and that, that process will still repeat itself just like the tread you just created. So just want to know on which intellectual and stimulating brain cell you what to discuss on dating and meeting up zone?

The over emphasis on hooking up on this thread is not allowing the aim of the thread to he achieved for those interested.

Secondly, not everyone that is single and above 30 wants to only talk about dating and courtship or be at the center of one. It's like saying a wife is only meant for sex and nothing else. There are lot of other discussions that could have been in play beyond looking for a blind date if the thread was not so narrow in scope.

Love finds you; you don't find it. So I read.

My Mind

fleeky:
You are above 30, yet u have made ZERO impact/contribution in this thread, therefore, the thread doesn't encourage your presence aswell, so do the needful and Swerve off my mentions!!

You are too young to understand my contributions. The above 30s can see it. When you get to 30 maybe you will also. Cheers

Let's see whether you can respond without going on a personalised tirade.

fleeky:
wats this one saying..How does ur comment relate with my post? see ur big teeth in the smiley..Wake up from your slumber "intellectual discussion jonzer"

You are under 30 and the thread does not encourage your presence. Your resorting to snide remarks (jonzer) further reflects your inability to take on matters maturely. Best wishes

Toks2008:
So you think i will go through the stress of getting a skype id of someone i dont even have a clue whether human,ghost or robot?

E no work dat way ogbeni..even in offline interaction,before a man or woman goes ahead to give or collect contact details for any reason at al..they will at least see each other

Is the safest and fastest way to avoid wasting time on what may not be worth your time. Skype video call. This is how it works in more socially developed environments.

This thread title will find it hard to work in Nigeria especially for the age bracket mentioned. From your posts the typical Nigerian way is not yielding success.

MY MIND

fleeky:
my day was all bit hectic...Loll, no dates tonight..just home chilling.
How was ur day? I guess u're doing the TGIF thing

You don't belong here. People are trying to get younger while you want to get older faster. Be patient

Toks2008:
i agree but it seems some ladies still come on this thread with their childish,egocentric and unwarranted shakara because i have recieved messages from guys that some ladies are rejecting PMs and i just wonder...if this is an interactive thing why turn down friendship invitations...

Some never puts up their pics for even a minute and in my opinion,if i cant see you,i dont believe you are real..at least put a pics for us to see even if na fake just put and decieve urself.

Too much forming for some 30plus ladies who think they are too hot to relate on this thread...smh..i wonder if any lady still sees prospects in forming this days....if you are a guy or lady and you are 30plus come in and lets relate...if any guy woos you here patapata you no go gree.

My 3 cents. No one is taking the bull by the horn. There is no leader and everybody is in hiding...

If any of you are serious, go on Skype video call and see yourselves. If you don't like what you hear and or see, then you take off. One Skype call is worth it. If it's good you stick around and if not, on to the next one. This childish stuff of how was your day and all the itsy bitsy stuff is stomach churning. You all know what you want so cut out the bs. You are above 30 and need to be assertive. Act and stop waiting to react!

My mind as always. Good luck to all of you.

Are people from countries that have One MAIN language more united than people from countries that have Multiple MAIN languages?

To illustrate, compare people in France (French) or Spain (Spanish) with people in Belgium (French and Dutch) or people in Nigeria (YORUBA, IGBO and HAUSA.)

Is language still the major unifying factor or have differences in religion overly complicated matters despite the unity in language?

Your thoughts are welcome.

Are people from countries that have one MAIN LANGUAGE more united than people from countries that have MULTIPLE main languages?

German in Germany, French in France , Dutch in Netherlands compared to YORUBA, IGBO and HAUSA in Nigeria or French and Dutch in Belgium.

I don't doubt you are below 30...

You can create a thread for single and 20 plus since this may interest you more.

Cheers

fleeky:
Eeerrmm, I'm not up to 30..Just goofing around

Run and don't look back.

The topic is open above and ready for discussion.

Lalasticlala please give this thread a front page view

blessedbeads:
yes @udysweet u r making sense ,can't pretend that all is well wen someone is above 30 or 35 ,as we r discussing other matter some one need to hook up also ,saying (my mind)

Intellectual discussion is on. Come and discuss in the new thread. Stimulate the Brain to eventually excite your heart.

Topic is open. Contribute your intellectual quota @ TOPIC.

My Mind

Do you think Nigerians have a craze for professional certifications? If Yes, is this craze driven by need, greed (ego trip) or to feel inclusive? This has led to the emergency of so many professional bodies in Nigeria being formed with annual membership and exam fees.

CIPM, CIS, ACA, CIBN etc and of course the foreign ones eg MCSE, CISA, CAIA, ACCA, CFA etc. For those that have worked with people that have any of these certifications, does it show in their work on the job? Do you notice the before and after difference when working with them?

Your thoughts are welcome.

My Mind

udysweet:
@MYMINDER,how soon do you intend to open the thread and is it gonne be solely for intellectual discourse? But again,a lot of us here are of marriageable age and are yet to hook,so in as much as say let's pretend and not dwell on that,its still tugging at the back our mind. So in the course of discussing on your new thread,love find us(note all am saying is generally,dsnt refer to me alone)can we just ignore and focus on th thread only?
I don't knw if I'm making sense cos like am talking gibberish now,lol but pls help wit answers.
Make I borrow ur word:my mind tho,lool(I knw ur d copyright owner)

I like your honesty and directness. If after discussing intellectually and stimulating your brain, then your heart gets stimulated feel free to move forward in private. You have connected first before trying to relate. I believe you will find it beneficial for the latter... remain blessed.

MY Mind