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BleSSedMee:
Okies!!! You've made your point can you swerve now.


LMAO.

No, from my first comment, the one i quoted you, common sense should tell you the second was a joke. I see you are indeed a trouble maker, as you said, you are married and you are a mother, let me respect your husband and children. I have respect for mothers as i have one.

sekxy:
Ithappened to two of my friends but lem me talk about one..

Their relationship started this time last 5years. When this my girlfriend was just in her under 20's. So this guy came to her when he had nothing. Though it took this my gf time to actually accept him. Then I would advice her to at least date when she turns 20 at least to know a lot about relationship but due to her love for the guy she accepted him.

Then the guy graduated from university and luckily for him he went for his NYSC shortly when my gf accepted his proposal.. Then this guy would visit her without giving her anything, they were loved up and she was cool with it..she loved him so much that nothing about him pisses her off..

hmmm, so many times this my gf would go to visit him but because he doesn't have money she would transport herself...the guy then loved her.. Maybe because he was still broke.. I would then ask this bae if she cheats on him but she would say no, even to the extend that she doesn't club or do any social stuff because of his guy, she prays and encouraged him.

Fast forward to this time last year, the guy started making money ..bought cars and started building ..he has many investments.

Just last two months she called and was crying that the guy had broken up with her and I was like ...please calm down and tell me what transpired. .she said that the guy chatted her up to tell her that he likes light skinned ladies...and that he doesn't love her enough to marry her because of her skin colour..

I called the supposed bf and the guy was actually telling me he Will cheat on her if he eventually marries her...but this bae suffered with him all this while for 4years and he didn't notice her dark colour until he started making money.

No be una say ''behind a successfull man, there is a woman'', why are you now runing away from your duty?

BleSSedMee:
Babe? Don't even tow that line you hear me.

I'm someone's wife and mother.

I'm an easy going somebody. I don't insult people.

So watch it.

Someone's wife and mother ma foot. When you quoted me, saying i have small mind what does that mean? I see, you came prepared but Respect is reciprocal.

BleSSedMee:
You see how small your mind is now. LMAO.

They should come over and rape you. And you were quoting me saying trash.


SMH

Babe don't tell me you are so blind not to see the 'lol' on that comment, which means a joke. Recieve understanding.

BleSSedMee:
Swerve. Did you read the post at all


What kinda pastor always goes into a lady's room when she's naked.
Don't have time for trashy talk on here.
Oya goan read the post again.

Hmm I concur.

lepasharon:
So called pastor. Christianity stinks

Shut the F.uck Up.

LMAO the Zoo is in trouble. Long live my father Nnamdi Kanu.

Zimbabwe babes no get joy o. Naija girls should go over there, let them come here. Lol.

BleSSedMee post=58819713:
MOG got it on a platter.

You see your life? If its a man that raped, you and your fellows will rain insults on all guys, now na woman, its now coming on a platter, No worry, someone will give it to you on a platter.

achi4u:
You want me to make you popular here?

Ahn ahn wetin i do na?

I love that. Let them destroy the one that led to Kaduna and Bornu respectively. Amadioha fire Nizoorian government.

We Igbos, we have rejected Ohanaeze as our fathers, uncles and brothers.

achi4u:
You can said that again

Who be this one? Oga grammarian am sure you no be Biafra.

Ekiseme:
Rubbish,
Some people wasting their energies and resources for nothing

Wetin concern you? Is it your resources? Is it your energy? Bad belle people.

Seriously there are contradictions. The lady said the guy brought her to the hospital and yet the reciept was on her name! How come? Mind you she was in coma, a typical Nizoorian hospital will not treat you when you are injured and conscious until you deposite money, talk of when someone is unconscious haaaa. E no blend na. That makes the article gender degrading and pathetically false.

thornapple:
I wasn't among those that said they like wahala abeg.

Lol. This lady abeg leave me. As i dey see you, you like wahala and i get am.

thornapple:
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My name is Chinwe. I am 26 years old. I never graduated from d university, simply bcoz I was stupid and careless.
On my 24th birthday, I received a nice gift. It was a blackberry phone. I always wanted one. It was like a right of passage. My ex-boyfriend got it for me. He was a student like me, didn’t have a job, and I really never cared to ask as he could afford it. My concern at that point was 'yes I had finally arrived.' Other girls in my
hostel had blackberries and I would always get pissed when I heard sounds of pings and messages coming into their phones at all hours and I would stare at my nokia phone and wish I could throw it away, but half bread they say is better than none. So I hoped and even fasted to get a blackberry phone.

Looking back now, if I had the opportunity, I’d have a
landline with no internet activity what so ever. Anyway I got the blackberry phone and even got free
BIS subscription. At that moment my life was complete. No more going to
the cyber cafes to check my emails, my face-book or twitter. I had it all at my finger tips. Life indeed was
complete, or so I thought.

Anyway, I became addicted to my blackberry and also my social media applications, and since I had constant access, I quickly gained enough followers, and especially guys, mostly
because I had a lot of erotic pictures on my timeline. I was popular. Finally, I felt I was the main girl. Everyone wanted to follow me. I didn’t care if it was virtual. It felt
good, checking out my profile and having well over 8,000 followers, more than half of which were guys, but one particular guy caught my attention.
Till this day, I don’t know what made him stand out, but we got chatty. He sent me direct messages
and I replied. He was quite a
gentleman, and I can’t remember him ever asking for nude pictures unlike the rest of them. So this made
me comfortable with him. His name was Tobi. He said he was a doctor. I didn’t have any cause to doubt him. He had extensive knowledge and even gave me some medical advice from time to time. We eventually moved from twitter to blackberry chat; we chatted all the time. I got so comfortable with him. I gave him my number, and that would come to be the biggest mistake I ever made.
Tobi called me every day. Some days, he called more than once. At night he would call and I would lay on my bed and have phone intimacy with him. His voice was so soothing. He made me do
things I never thought possible. He had gained so much access into my head. I realized later I had done some very sick and twisted things just to please him. I would take nude pictures of myself. I would send him
videos of me touching myself in private, and send him voice notes of me making moaning sounds and simulating orgasms, and all this while we had not met, not face to face at least.
Eventually I played into his hands. I began pestering to meet him in person. At this point I had lost my mind. I assumed I was in love with him, and when my boyfriend at the time broke up with me, I really welcomed it, for me it meant no more sneaking around.

Tobi eventually agreed to come to Lagos to meet me, all this while he had made me to believe he was in
Calabar, and would take time off work to spend a weekend with me in Lagos. When I heard this, I was excited. He told me to book a reservation for him, stating he would pay me back as soon as he arrived and also he said it would make him more committed to the visit and would convince him of my seriousness. I bought it all.

He was smart. He was cunning, and I was stupid! Oh how stupid I was. The funny thing was I had sent him tons of pictures, and all I had was just one picture of him, and whenever I asked,
he would claim he wanted to be sure I loved him for him, and not for his looks, and sheepishly I would try to convince him of my undying love, and would try to appease him with nude pictures of my body.

He eventually made it to Lagos. I met him at the hotel. He was tall, handsome a

nd had a wonderful smile. He made love to me over and over, and convinced me to spend the night with him. I told him I couldn’t, because I had a test the next morning.
Now at this point, I don’t know what triggered his anger; don’t know if it was because I couldn’t spend the night, or maybe I said something else I can’t remember saying, but whatever it was, brought out a very ugly side of him. He called me foul names, and kept going on and on about how he always knew I was cheap, and he knew I was sleeping with other men. Thethe same man whom had swept me away,
slammed me on the floor. He told me of how he had shown his friends all my nude pictures and how they had watched the videos and listened to the voice notes, he told me he had made a bet with his friends, that I
would actually pay for him to have sex with me, just to prove how stupid I was. Well you can imagine how I felt. I was confused and shocked, but I attempted to regain any little dignity I had left, and so I tried to mouth off at him. Suddenly he punched me in the face, and I tripped
over, and hit my head on a stool.
The next thing I remembered was waking up on the bed. I was tied up, and he was staring at me. His eyes were dark and he had a sinister smile on his lips. He stood up and walked towards me. I tried to scream and realized my mouth was tapped. My head was racing. The unfortunate
part was that no one knew where I was. He turned me over, and told me he was going to teach me a lesson. At this point I was naked. He raped me from behind, and I mean my anus. The pain was mind blowing. I
struggled, and he hit me. When he was done, he brought out a small blade, and he looked at me for a
minute and said, this scare is going to always serve as a reminder, for girls like you always trying to be more than you are;for stupid fools like you. He put the blade to my nipple and cut it off, and anytime I think of it, I still feel the pain.
It was like nothing I had ever felt before. He was calm, like he had done it a million times. I could feel the warm blood dripping down my mutilated breast. Tears of fear and pain running down my face, and suddenly he turned around again, this time all I saw was a flash.

I don’t know how I survived it, but I woke up in a hospital days after. Well I was awake, but my eyes were swollen shut.

It took a couple of days for me to open my one good eye, and realize d damage he had done, he had plucked out my eye, and cut my face.
He had cut my breasts up real bad, they had to cut it out, like I had cancer or something.
There was no record of who I was, coz he had taken everything. He had taken my bag, containing everything I had.
I was able to tell the nurses about what I could remember, and also give them my mum’s phone number.
The hospital felt so much pity. They actually treated me for free. Hard to believe right?

Anyway I was taken home after weeks at the hospital to recuperate. It was tough!
I was blind in one eye. I had
one breast and a hideous scar of my face. Talk about your sinage, he did a number on me.
How dumb was I! sometimes I wish he had killed me, but there are fates worse than death, and I guess this is one of them. He was gone without a trace. The receipt from the hotel was in my name, so yes he had played me from the start.

I didn’t dare go back to school. I was sure everyone would have heard, and I was not going to become a statistic, so I decided to stay home, and mind my business, besides what do I need an education for? I’d rather stay home, because there is no rising from this.

There is no happy ending to this story. This is the simple ending:
I was a victim of a sexual predator, and I let him into my life, period! And I
take full responsibility for that. I was driven by greed and lack of morals. I allowed myself fall into an abyss, but well saying all this doesn’t
change anything.
It’s a memory I will have to live with for the rest of my life. Well not a memory, because I look at myself in the mirror everyday.
Who would want to see a nude picture of a woman with one breast, one eye, and a

stub.

I have decided to publish my story, because with the rise of social media atrocities being committed, every story can go a long way in saving a life. So while you read, SHARE and help someone back to the right path............

If you have a daughter, make sure she READS THIS.
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commyluv:
Hi guys

Am dating this guy he said he loves me yes I love him too, but the problem here is he doesn't call first if I don't call him in the morning he won't call, afternoon he wont , except in the evening.

But if he see my miss call he will call me back, I don't understand y he behaves that way have talk to him, am now thinking he doesn't love me .

ladies and gentlemen pls help me out what should I do.

You ladies can be frustratingly complex. Some say if you call too much na wahala, no call at all na wahala. Well, guess he is the type that has concluded that too many calls seem to be disturbance, OR he wants you to value each call he makes. Am this type.

Nice write up. One thing with me is that i don't look for trouble, but if anybody give me shit, i splash it on the persons face.

Hmmm Painfull. She no know say Pu.ssy is sensitive to pain? No be so na.

onila:
I remember in secondary school when this pretty igbo girl who was our schools beauty queen thought it was okay to shares peoples towel especially when her towel is wet, missing or dirty

now this my igbos housemate used this sierra loene guys towel, the boy was pissed, had to buy a new towel for the guy, so the guy will stop using his towel

now yesterday he used my sponge. .i was so pissed. .and that sponge is hard to find, its that nigerian long strong sponge, i have to go all the way to the African store to buy that sponge. .now I had to manage and buy that oyinbo round sponge to use yesterday . .i will never leave my sponge in that bathroom again

onye ara

Verbal abuse a reason is not enough for me. Unless (any) woman assaults me, then she gets hers, but not verbal abuse. And to the ladies, while we are compelling thee men to hold their anger, please hold ya mouth.

End time couple

itsmeurLady:
Even as u guys oppress us we still dey conquer!!! When a woman makes up her mind to be successful, not even a man can stop her

Thats the kind of women men are looking for o. Lol. Dear we no dey oppress una o. They say as you make your bed so you lie on it.

MissRaine69:
The problem does not lie with men
It lies with women
The women who have a skewed sense of entitlement, who are delusional and grandiose. Women are the reason why most men behave the way they do.

Sister you make sense.

zitame:
u started well bt u missed somtin. A man has no reason to justify his rongs, same 2 a woman, she has no reason to justify her rong. Its pple like u dat creates this problem dat we are talking abt, always saying "she is stubborn dats y he beats her" or "she is nt satisfying him on bed dats y he is cheating" or "she is the reason why he always come home late @ night". Instead of encouraging d oda partner to bhave well despite his or her partners rong doing u keep pushing blames. No one is perfect in life, if u tink because some women have skewed sense of entitlement,they are delusional and grandiose den dia men should misbehave, dat makes d 2 immature and 2 wrongs.

Has the lady try to find out why the man beats her, why he is cheating? Sir Isaac Newton said '' In every action, there is equal and opposite reaction'' that means if a man beat his wife, he is reacting to the action of his wife, NOTE: I am not supporting violence, as the mans reason may not be enough to make such reactions. If he cheats, has she find out if it is lack of satisfaction? Probably due to expanded womanliness? There are other factors that bring about lack of satisfaction.

MissRaine69:
Quite the contrary people like me you say? There is always one who wants to put women in the role of victim which is not necessary entirely true.
How many times have there been threads on this site about women who have overlooked the philadering nature of the men they were dating in the hope that marriage and prayer will fix their predicament.

Women who were beaten by their fiancé but still went ahead and married the guy because cancelling the wedding would have been viewed as a disgrace.

How many mothers have told their daughters to stay in a toxic and dysfunctional relationship because it's what marriage is all about. You put up and shut up.

How many mothers enable thier sons extramarital affairs because they no longer like or never likes the daughter in law. Who is raising this men to view women the way they do? Who is the main care giver in our society?
Formulate an argument based on context and the subject matter.
When you start grasping at straws and start to personalise an argument the sole leg you could have to stand on fails to bear your weight.

Have an objective point of view and you will see that your one dimensional point of view is flawed.

Food for thought. Good points, good questions.

itsmeurLady:
Wow!!! And to think that u are a woman This is not applauding at all... I'm wondering how u'd feel when u get blamed for things u didn't cause. The man that cheats on his wife, how did she cause it Or the lady that takes care of his kids, with all her loyalty and all, he tells her there is no money but yet have money to give outsiders, is it her fault too A man that has low sperm count but yet blames the fertile wife for his childlessness, is that the woman's fault too?? Don't be so quick to conclude! U can say some women but don't generalize it

Lol. If she be woman nko? Do you expect her to be chauvinistic? Make she no talk true? Eh? my dear.

itsmeurLady:
I'm happy being a Lady Cs We RUn The World!!!

Wow.. Ladies run the world and you are lamenting via this thread, thats quite contradicting na. Change your name to itsmeurGuy, am sure e go fit you.

DieBuhari:
Only four?

Baba ask them o. E small na.

In your next world be a guy.