silentdomain:
It's bad but it has being in existence, u can't even change it. Men and women cheat. And de only reason everyone doesn't cheat is bc of religion n culture. Animals cheat, which is natural instinct. Anybody can cheat. I can cheat. U can.

lol,this is funny
Animals cheat and so u should cheat .
I choose to be an exception

begwong:
WHAT WILL YOU SAY OF THE LADIES/MARRIED WOMEN WHO CHASE AFTER THE MARRIED MEN

when reverse is the case ,then run away

alexistaiwo:
In my own opinion.
Married men find it easy to lure young ladies due to the fact that they have to deal with their housewives excesses 24/7 at home. That gives them the technical knowhow of how women want to be treated.
Besides they are usually more financial buoyant than their single counterparts and money is the only language most young ladies understand.

As for those housewives that will go to any length to vouch for their husband faithfulness.
The Lord is your strength

my dear ,the lord is their strength, lol

joebeckz:
Fear keh, a spouse's infidelity is one of the toughest things
to go through in a marriage. If your husband is cheating on
you, you are bound to be experiencing a wide range of intense emotions, sadness, anger, fear, confusion and paranoia. Facing up to the reality of what he has done, and deciding how to move forward na the way, take a great deal of courage sis, No progress will be made if you and your husband do not talk about what has happened. Confronting your husband about his affair is an extremely difficult first step, but it is absolutely necessary to do this if he has not come clean of his own
If you have irrefutable evidence of the affair, such as
text messages or munched chats on his phone forwarded to urs, show this to him. If you don't have
evidence, only suspicions, think carefully before confronting
him; be prepared for him to deny an affair. Stay calm, explain
how his behavior has made you feel, and ask him for
complete honesty.
You will have to consider the possibility that your husband will not want to end the affair. He may tell you that he is confused and doesn't know who he wants to be with, or that he is leaving you for the other woman. If he can't assure you that the affair is over, that he is sorry for the betrayal and
committed to rebuilding the marriage and earning your trust
back, you need to accept that the relationship is over. Begging him to stay with you may be your initial reaction out of fear and insecurity, but it is not a healthy place from which to repair your broken marriage. You deserve better than that.
Is this your Soul Mate?
You need to take some time to process what has happened
and what your husband has told you about the affair. If you
have children and don't want to disrupt their lives until it is
absolutely necessary, ask him to sleep in another room. If you don't have kids to consider, or you just can't bear to be under the same roof as him, ask him to leave. He is the guilty party here, so he should be the one to go elsewhere and give you some space to work out whether you want to try to save the marriage. Women, never leave a house u suffered to build for a cheating man. Another lazy girl who never raised a block building that house will sit down as madam on top your sweat. Don't put any pressure on yourself to make a quick decision about the future of your relationship. What you choose to do will affect the rest of your life, your happiness,
and emotional and mental health. It's not a decision that
should be made in haste.
The last thing you should do is blame yourself for your
husband's affair, Even if you may have
contributed in some way to the deterioration of your
relationship, you are not to blame for his act of betrayal.
Decide whether you can move on from the betrayal. Consider what is right for your children, but put your own happiness and self worth first.
Many couples manage to recover from an affair with the help of a marital therapist or couples counselor. If you are both committed to do whatever is necessary to heal the wounds and create a happier, healthier union, it is possible to save a marriage after an affair.

I just saw this reply.
Your wisdom far exceeds average .

Venom247:
All the ladies claiming never to have done that. Who are those dating those married men then? hypocrite!!

just the way guys date married women

ayokellany:


What are you saying men definitely are the biggest beneficiary so do you want to impose your own norm of making woman the biggest beneficiary on the society ? If you reason deep enough you'd understand that is why the society also have men foot the bills in a union. Provide accommodation security etc. It is a leverage (norm) at balancing itself (selflessness of the woman) for the good of the society. In today society woman are allowed more room to determine their role/future in relationship so don't just whine blame all your problem on the society, it is not perfect but fair. There are several escape route for female who do not want to be in a relationship for whatever reason this day.

You advocacy of men to bear the burden of the trauma or pain of their decision to break up unfavourable union is what I have a problem with. If you can not bear the heat ma'am simply leave the kitchen and endure the trauma n pains that comes with such decision. I think this is fair enough to both parties because men are simply able to cover their own pain/trauma and move on. Your advocacy should be geared towards such orientation in my opinion instead of blaming the society/men for norm century old.

please who said we don't work and pay the bills as well?
In most families, women are the major breadwinners but they keep quiet to preserve the dignity of the man .
Thanks

RaggedyAnn:



I absolutely agree with you, women need to own themselves (know who they are independent of the union, what they want, and pursue their dreams). Like you say: no man can give you meaning, and it is unfair to put such pressure on any person.

Nice one.

thanks

Cleopatra4:
Thought I was the only... Op the pressure on us getting married is inevitable. Especially from our parent. I just want a happy life. Marriage doesn't guarantee happiness. Most times I get scared of it when I see what happens in most marriages. Speaking from experience.

Don't give them the chance . Put down ur foot and let them know ur stand .
Try being independent, the pressure will reduce

This is not a battle of male and female !
Marriage favours both and as much as we have divorce cases not all marriages end in tears ...

Your advice should be to know each other first , , see if both of you are compatible before deciding . and do not rush ...

The ones who marry early to have lives
No marriage is perfect.

am not disputing whether its favourable to both or not .
I said it favours men most.
In Nigeria, women are at the receiving end of men's excesses .

BoosBae:
If a lady isn't ready to be a slave, a prostitute to her husband and play the fool to a lot of things, then she isn't ready to stay married in this country.

Just pray for an understanding man, not the one with the typical Nigerian husband mentality and marriage won't be much of a burden to you.

Op I agree with you to an extent, I understand where you are coming from.

thanks sis .
We relate at least .
Not surprised the men will bash it around but that's the truth .

funmisticqueen:
I have a friend, we were talking yesterday about boyfriends aand she said she has some doubts about hers, he drinks although he doesnt get drunk, she was mad when she heard he drank 15 bottles of beer the other day although he wasnt drunk, just a little tipsy. She has recently found out that he smokes occasionally when she thought he quit before they met. These two love each other, even i can see that. She also has concerns that he doesn't have money, he was just starting a business around the time he met her and the business hasn't really picked up, but he is the type that if he has N1000 and she says she's broke, he will give her N500. She has concerns, her mum has been to four prophets who told her that he may not have money now but later will be better and their marriage will be peacful. So my question is should she marry this guy or start seeing other suitors? she told him that she isnt ready to marry but will be ready in 2 years when she would have finished service, she's 24 by the way. We just thought we should throw it open to get advice

This is how she digs her grave.
I may be wrong about his drinking attitude
I hate guys that drink excessively ,maybe she doesn't

You didn't tell us how marriage favour men the most?

if u don't mind ,follow my post well

SmellingAnus:
Marriage favours men the most you said? I guess that's why we have more men that are desperate to get married while the women are relaxed....

maybe

thesuave10:



I agree that marriage is So overrated. Every woman needs a man. Women are like a storm of emotions and men are like their rock they hold on to

it really is .
Like no marriage no life .
As if marriage is a crown to success

pcguru1:


What am saying is before when someone cheats it used to make confuse as to why, but now almost everyone does it that ave to accept it as one of those things people do, not that I would cheat but if someone does it won't bother me, unless its on me

OK,I get .Thanks

Fun

Yes!!!! Some people actually cheat just for the fun of it .
They love the hide and seek game and wouldn't mind continually indulging in it once they are not caught .

I don't even know the redy for this .
Your guess is as good as mine ,maybe prayers .

pcguru1:
Before I used to live in a naive world that cheating is wrong however ladies and guys have destroyed that for me,as much as I don't cheat , Ave come to accept that it's a normal thing for people to do, though regardless of how much years we've been married or dating once someone cheats on me I will simply walk out, because it means taking what you have and shitting on it, a lot of women don't leave because they are afraid they might be alone, but for me alone I came alone I go.

so are u saying in essence that cheating is not wrong ?
The first sentence is confusing.

Spend time together

Now don't use long distance as an excuse ,use the phone ,use the messaging apps ,call .
An idle mind is the devil's workshop, when u are bored ,why not hit him up instead of looking for someone else to talk to.
Learn to open up to ur partner ,ur heart is where is secret is .
Learn to feel free in each other's company .
If you don't spend time with him ,someone will definitely help you out .
Its with spending time together that emotions are poured out .

Don't change before marriage, don't change after marriage

If I fell in love u with a loving man ,plsss don't change after getting me .
If I fell in love with a slim man ,plsss keep the fats out.
If I fell in love cos u call me 29 times a day ,don't reduce it to 20 after getting me .

The point is self explanatory enough .

To the married and unmarried

Sorry to those that may find this offensive.
Love doesn't keep a cheat .
If he/ she was a cheat before marriage, it may never change .
You guys might need to talk things over and come to a reasonable conclusion.
Maturity might be the saving grace here ,until u come to the realization that keeping multiple partners is not cool then u may never stop .

Compliment

Tell me how beautiful I look and I will start seeing Jesus in u ,lol.
Compliment the look
I can't spend 8 hrs in the saloon and u end up not noticing .
Compliments are like foods to our emotions .
Always appreciate when she tries out a new dish or something.

Men complain that women nag but wouldn't bother to find out why .
Atimes the most beautiful woman will feel like she's ugly but your constant appraisals keeps us going .
Women are emotional beings ,this explains why a woman will cheat on her rich man with a poor fellow .


Plssssssssssss compliment her ,it doesn't make u less of a man .

Attention

Hell knows no fury like a woman that lacks attention.
A woman needs ( not want ) a man that calls to check on her frequently. Playboys already discovered this element and plays their card well.
You might be complaining of how much u provide for her and bla bla bla.
When last did u notice the new hair ,her mood,her preferences?

Left to me I choose my Man's attention over anything

I would appreciate if everyone with REASONABLE opinions contributes to this topic.






In the past I would have sworn that only 1 out of my 10 closest friends cheat on their partner But just few days ago ,we were analyzing our partners and I found out 9 out of 10 cheat .
I don't in any way support cheating ,so please don't get me wrong .


Now in the course of our discussion, we came to the conclusion that ; the love is still there but there are other factors missing .

I will go ahead to point out as much as I can remember and I hope this helps a relationship today .

Thank God u said some girls.

Just say u raped her ,don't use subtle terms .
You were drunk but realized she wasn't tight .
Well done

Just let her enjoy her heaven on earth ,she really tried staying that long with ur a******* of a father .

Codedrock:

Lol.. Really and you really think there aren't younger guys way more intelligent than you? I mean even you consider yourself intelligent and your post hasn't shown so much intelligence no disrespect by the way, I'm saying if you are young and you know you are intelligent you should know there are other young intelligent people too even more intelligent than the ones you consider older. It's mostly not about the age but mind and the personality.

lol,I don't know why my opinion is paining lots of people
I didn't mention any name ,abeg if e pain u sorry.
Just my opinion ,u are entitled to urs

November 14 representative

Body rash
Night sweat
Weakness
All symptoms of HIV

winningwinner:


I know it Nelly, I must be the right man for you, can we talk?

if u meet my taste .

haibe:
no one cares about ur opinion

hahahahahahhah
If u didn't ,u wouldn't have quoted me .
Happy living tho

Older men are cool too ,I didn't say old men
Dating a guy within my age bracket is a no no for me .
They are too young and inexperienced and for an intelligent person like me ,its like watching a dog poo.