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Hi Guys, there used to be a feature that allowed you to view a thread in a print-friendly format on NL, I've been looking for it for a while, is it still available?


P.S.
There's a 100-and-something page thread I'd like to read and I'd rather not have to read all the content on hundred pages. The print friendly version allowed you to have more posts per page.

pickabeau1:
Which place of authority do men claim

Have u forgotten this is the new age

We are equal in promiscuity


Equal in everything

Na from village I go carry wife o...you k ow some of us can't handle these high flying babes.

@mindfulness
Thanks, t'was probably something in the water, I usually don't make sense.

funlord:
Noted tarzan!

Aah, impressionable young women! With their doe eyed innocence, clear skin,firm and perky br........erm! Let me pause here! Lol!!!!

My brother you don't know the half of it...wetin we dey suffer for this life ehn...Smh.

5minsmadness:
I agree it was statutory rape. It's the law.
I do not agree the girl was forcefully raped. She consented.
I do not agree the girl is blameless. She's seventeen, not brain dead.

I agree with what you're saying, the babe made decisions, but at the same time, we must not fail to ask why a 25 year old male would feel a 17 year old intern is best suited to quench/sate his sexual desires/curiousities. This was a girl that had finished secondary school (and had not even entered uni) getting involved with a uni graduate(the guy reach to have pg degree sef), in this scenario who owes who the duty of care? I remember how I was at 25, I didn't have a benz but I was confident as heck, a 17 year old coming to look at me with puppy eyes? I will be formatting and resetting her brain like it was a pen drive . Heck even in uni sef, it seemed somehow to be toasting all them jambites when we were in final year the levels of reasoning cannot possibly match.

There has to be something wrong with a mindset that would seek to exploit such a young girl, granted she might have been forming matured and all (I can imagine her saying "I have a 12am curfew" with a flick of her weave ) but anyone with a semblance of responsibility should and would have realized that getting involved with her was off limits.

I think we men need to begin to have conversations with each other on what it means to be a man. We cannot claim the place of authority and then watch people misuse said authority and look the other way. We need to be able to call each others' bluff that way when the feminazis or whatever they're called come there's nothing they can accuse us of that we haven't mentioned ourselves.

Timbuktou:
If the Audu guy is brought to book I would shed no tear. He broke the law, and the only thing keeping him free is the statute of limitations which I believe has expired.

Kimoni, as to why she turned out this way, you can only blame her mothers poor parenting skills. This woman allegedly had numerous boyfriends, probably how she was able to fend for kids, and it's obvious she had no idea what to do in terms of discipline and setting boundaries for her daughter. This is especially clear where the girl claims the mother was well aware of her relationship with th I guy and they even fought about it. Lol. They fought . And then a 17 year old had a 12am curfew. Shege. How the times have changed.

I'm thinking if this is my daughter, I would do all I can to make this dude get his comeuppance, I swear I would, but would that reverse the damage done to my daughter. More importantly, how did my daughter get to that point in her life where she's literally willing to drink from a septic tank to keep a man who obviously doesn't give a hoot whether or not she exists.

What was supposed to be her first line of defence against this cruel world was practically non-existent. Some things are unsalvageable, this is one of them.


PS: Netotse, I couldn't reply you yesterday, but this sums up my thoughts on the matter.

Thanks, I'm with you on this, there's no way we can call the girl innocent, she needs to accept some form of responsibility. That said, the major failure I see in this whole affair can be expressed in terms of upbringing, for both parties.

5minsmadness:
I think people who are blaming the girl are silly.

I mean, everyone knows the average 17yr old girl lacks the mental capacity to tell right from wrong, to know good from evil, to distinguish between what is moral and what isnt. The average 17yr old girl is a walking zombie and easily manipulated. I mean, just walk up to any 17yrs old girl on the street and whisper sweet words in her ear, telling her you will give her heaven on earth if only she allows you take Unclad pics of her and engage in sex videos; and you'll see them fall like a pack of cards. They are more or less children and cannot fend for themselves.

Its a wonder some parents allow their 17yr old daughters gain admission into the university at all, I mean, whose going to watch out for them there, knowing the amount of evil sexual predators in the outside world and knowing she doesn't have the mental capacity to think for herself? All it takes is for a random guy to walk up to her and tell her he loves her and she's all confused and manipulated and will do anything including engaging in repeated sexual SinParties with him. What a terrible world we live in! These girls ought to be kept under lock and key until they are 18yrs of age when some magical power will bestow upon them the mental acumen to make right decisions and to act responsibly. It happens magically at the age of 18 dontcha know?

Of course none of the good and virtuous women commenting here were disvirgined until they were well past 18years old. I mean, if any of them were, it would mean they were manipulated and raped as well. But that's beside the point. Its not their responsibility. they didnt know what they were doing. Because they were 17 years or less at the time.

Apart from your not agreeing with all the people calling it rape, what is your take on the situation/scandal?

Timbuktou:
Bùllshit. The girl is an attention-seeking scorned ex. She wasn't rapèd, unless you want to get technical and cite statutory rapè which, interestingly, isn't what she's even complaining about. Obviously, she's just a mentally unstable bitter ex out for blood. She wasn't forced to engage in any of those activities, and then she repeatedly went back for more and more and more. And now we're screaming blue murder? Really? How about not having a midnight curfew for a 17 year old woman? How about saying no to fuçking someone you barely know in his car of all places, and she repeatedly uses the word fùck and it's varieties freely and that is the kind of person to have sympathy on? Never mind she wasn't a virgin when she met the guy and he most likely wasn't even her 5th partner, at 17 years of age. Any sympathy accorded her by anyone is a waste. And she was was travelling all around the world at his expense? What a poor defenseless naive damsel. Someone asked if she would been so naive with a broke dude. Do you agents of social moral outage think she'd have taken all this from someone whose father didnt have a big hotel in Abuja, or who didn't have a cool Mercedes, or fly her around the world? Lol. Sorry, no pity for her here.

Guy...forget the babes matter for a second, she does not seem to have had any upbringing to speak of. The guy nko? he should have known better, imagine a 25 year old guy chasing a 17 year old girl, he will just be playing with her brain the way kids play with Plasticine.

Would you allow your 17 year old daughter to be in a relationship with a 25 year old man?

TV01:
Holá Netotse, I kinda missed this, so for what it's worth. Theologically this is pretty clear cut. NSBM is exactly right. When a couple agree and have the blessing of their families - and most especially when they are absolutely committed and their motivation is pure - I'm not sure the formality of actual marriage rites would make a huge physical difference.

Even the spiritual implications may be considered on the basis on which point the union actually takes place, as opposed to being formalised. In practice, I'd say wait, but that's as much for your witness to others as for yourself.

Your Christian walk is just that, yours. Although in this case there are two journeyers, so as a man it's good to hold to what you agreed - for your credibility - even if you feel somewhat differently. If you do/have your conscience will be a fair judge.

The only other practical consideration is if for any reason the union is not formalised - i.e you part ways - then what would one term the act? And of course if the union is not formalised and there is a pregnancy? Fulfilling righteousness, as opposed to being righteous, may mean erring on the side of caution mens you won't go far wrong.

I may sound a little jumbled here, or perhaps not adequately expressed the nuance I see .

All the best for your forthcoming nuptials, most hearty congratulations to the blessed couple. May your union be fruitful in a way that touches everyone around you and glorifies our God and Father.

Best
TV

I get your point, thanks for the best wishes.

TV01:
Totally missed this. Is it a ML issue? What are the facts??


TV

Some babe was in a relationship with the late Kogi state govs son a few years back, it wasn't a healthy relationship, according to her, he made her sleep with his friends and brothers several times and treated her like crap. They met when she was undergoing an internship where he worked years back. He was 25 she was 17. It's the usual naija thing, some people are asking her why she kept going back, some are calling the guy a rapist etc etc.

The recent rash of popularity is because she was jubilating on twitter when the former gov (and at the time of his passing, guber candidate) passed away. The gist had actually come out years ago (she blogged about it).

funlord:
How are we sure the girl isn't lying? Or that the guy is guilty? Anyway the "side chick" game isn't for everyone if you ask me! But the girl making accusations has posted a lot of "alice in wonderland stories" prior to this on twitter so her credibility is in the loo!!!
There are rules that people in such "open relationships" need to establish and follow to the letter so as not to end up as tabloid fodder for the public! Once those lines get blurred, you need to be prepared to deal with the consequences! Like a MAN!!!

To me, It's not about who's lying or not, If you're 25, carrying on such an "open relationship" with a 17 year old girl is wrong through and through, whatever the babes faults may be(she can't be blameless), that's where my grouse is, from where it looks, we're focusing on all the wrong things and ignoring the fact that if there's anyone that should be held to a higher standard here it's the guy. What he did was not acceptable.

hey guys,

I've been reading about the sugabelly scandal and it's really upsetting if you ask me.

I see that to some extent we guys don't appear able or willing to hold ourselves to higher standards, pretty depressing stuff.

Kagame:
I downgraded to HOLD cos I initially thought I had it all figured out. I had thought the turbulence had died down and was hoping to test the depth of the water with both feet. However, after reading the article I am of the opinion that it would be a wise move to test the depth of the water one feet at a time cos still waters run deep,literally.

Yes,Buhari and the CBN could be doing their best but economic decisions goes beyond patriotism. Even with the easing and naija styled QE,we have not seen the net effect of the excess liquidity on the markets as apparently the players are confused on the policy direction of the government and would rather opt to keep their cash ,than make a wrong call. I am worried Buhari would not be open to taking sound advice from economic experts.Buhari's aversion for liberal and free markets could be one of the reasons why highly rated Doyin Salami did not make the ministerial cut despite being projected as a top candidate - Doyin is an apostle of free markets and he proudly wears the badge.Buhari is inadvertently(advertently?) setting the economic agenda with his policy comments on devaluation and forex and the fulcrum of his economic team (Emefiele,Kemi Adeosun etc ) does not look like people that would ruffle feathers by telling Buhari the truth about the economy as it is.Emefiele and Kemi's comment so far are largely trying to mirror Buhari's thoughts,rather than offer an alternative economic thought.

Well, I hope I am wrong but it would not hurt to tarry a while and wait for the economic agenda of the administration to crystallize. However, this does not mean that I would not take advantage of massive opportunities if they become available,but of course not with both feet in and two eyes closed.

Nice weekend Sir!

Nice analysis, especially the bit about PMB inadvertently setting economic agenda.

Onajiest:
Dear NLders,
I sincerely need your advice
I'm an accounting graduate ,
I just concluded an induction as a contract staff, with one of the leading commercial banks in Nigeria, soon to be posted to my branch to work as a teller or a marketer, pay is 80k.
Through referral, I got another Job opportunity in an audit firm for 60k, as a graduate trainee.
Both located at different Axis of Lagos, transportation cost is averagely 10k for each.
I'm so confuse!
NLders Please,which should I pick and why?
Thanks ,
Seriously anticipating your advice!
(It's my first NL post, although I have been a reader of this wonderful forum for years, so Brother Lalasticlala & Seun Osewa surprise me with FP, na beg I dey beg o )

your post mentions only the present, what does the future hold for each role? what plans do you have for the future? for instance, Audit could require frequent travel, are you up to it? Working as a teller or marketer means you're among the group of people that could get hit when the bank is looking for SG&A savings are you comfy with that? where do you want to be in 10 years?

pragmatistm:
I urgently need the contact of a company/supplier of industrial electrc power generators that use gas. If you know someone please email formailsalone(at)gmail.com
Thanks.

I'm curious, where do you plan to site your generators? Will you use CNG or what? are you considering situations where gas will be scarce? what's your load like? I use gas engines so I might be able to give you some insight.

chuna1985:
Of course. How else would in know the problem

o ok, that's great. could you give me a bit more info about where in the power system you've worked?

I'm also not very clear on what technical problems we have, could you shed a bit more light?

Thanks in advance!

chuna1985:
I wonder why u don't go to an accountant to treat u wen ur sick

You're comparing apples and oranges...won't work.

chuna1985:
How did u know? Did u work in d power sector

The power problems in nigeria has just one problem and it is not corruption, It's all about lack of technical know how. Very simple

How do you know the problem is a "lack of technical know how" do you work in the power sector?

Yoti:
NIGERIAN ENGINEERS:
A lawyer heading Power sector, Works &
Housing.
Am imagining a day where an Engineer will be
appointed to minister Justice or Health sector.
Where are the Engineers? What an insult? When
shall we start fighting for our right and proving
our professional integrity and ethics? Fashola
is a man of integrity, full of knowledge and
wisdom. No one is doubting his capability when
it comes to project delivery but heading power
sector, works and housing is a challenge to the
Engineering family. How many equations a
lawyer can solve before engaging into
Engineering affairs? NSE, NATE, NISET, etc.
Does it mean that Nigeria lacks professional
(Engineer) that posses all qualities to head
Power, Works and Housing ministry?
Nigeria, your quest for economic growth will not
be possible without Technology. Senior
Engineers are sleeping & busy counting their
years of experience in practice while younger
once are crying for their future. God have
mercy, I hope that I haven't make a wrong
choice of career...

You don't need to solve equations to give Nigerians power.

Personally, I would prefer an engineer as minister i
Of power but fact is the major problems facing the power sector are not engineering problems and a lot of Nigerian engineers unfortunately know little beyond 'solving euations'.

Nigerian engineers need to become more versatile.

Kimoni:
But come to think of it, I've never seen any of your post on this section except on this thread. Why?

I post on other threads na, but it's only when I feel I have something to say that hasnt already been said. I try to avoid meaningless fights, you know being a lover is hard work.

Better to keep quiet and be thought wise...

@Idowuogbo
Roger that

raumdeuter:
No difference. sex is sex with the same person whether before marriage or after marriage

unless some just wan preach some psychological stuff to you

Why the NSBM stance? Are you really sure you want to do that?

it's a personal decision we both took separately (yep, root of the matter is Christianity), it hasn't been easy particularly because I'm not exactly a saint but it'll soon be over.

The closer the wedding gets, the easier it is to cross lines and I have at times wondered "what's the point?" but God dey sha.

Kimoni:


You realise this word is like a "grenade" on family section?

family section? where's that? never heard of it before you're on the man thread now, all other laws stand suspended. In fact sef if you annoy me I will declare you feminist, what nonsense

So guys(and assistant guys ), I've been meaning to ask this question for a long time but I keep procrastinating:

Is there a difference between married and unmarried sex? I'm close to tying the knot and the missus and I are NSBM and sometimes I wonder.

I mean, you're married, so there's little furtive about married sex is there?(not counting when kids arrive), do you have the same thrill?

Kimoni:
yes sir!

Omo dada...you sound like a good submissive woman, go and sin no more

Kimoni:
if Pickabeau1 had said this, I won't bat an eyelid but coming from you

This thread is for the men, by the men etc ati be be lo...this is our watering hole, if she had a question to ask fine, if she had an opinion to drop... fine as well, but to turn this thread into one of the many threads she blessed with the same copy and paste post...nah, that's just wrong. She has not shown adequate respect for the man-cave, she needs to repent.

Kimoni:
Maybe I agree but what I know is, when it comes to thinking outside the box, it's a two edged sword. If you get it right, you become an instant success, a reference point for others but if that same action backfires, it makes you look darn steupid and makes people wonder what weed you were smoking. But it's always a chance that is worth taking especially if you are passionate about it.

I won't say the same for people who advertise their products indiscriminately on every thread; that's definitely a distraction, an eyesore and very annoying. Not good marketing at all especially when you see it on every thread. But she has come to a family thread where she believes we have men and women lounging, sipping beer and discussing how to move their businesses and family forward. Not a very bad place to advertise/introduce yourself IMO. And yeah, for starters, it can't be a long introduction else, the post will become very unappealing to the eyes.

I agree with you on the hindsight thing, but not on the coming here to advertise(that's not an intro), it's probably cause I think she was desecrating the thread though.

Kimoni:
In Alfred's case, do you think several workers would not have thought he was constituting a nuisance even as he carried a placard that morning? Standing on the way during rush hour time? In all honesty, what would you have thought yourself if you were rushing to work that day and you saw him?

Different strokes...he was wayyyy better at picking his target audience.

Kimoni:
***drags him back***

Don't post any epistle with big grammar for me except it's on how to cook ayamashe stew with orisirisi assorted meat

Too let, you provided the perfect opportunity to vent

Kimoni:
Remember that Nigerian guy in UK that got soo desperate for a job he went to stand at the tube entrance with a placard during rush hour? You recall how many offers he got from that singular action? Immediately, I saw the post above, I remembered our UK guy and quite honestly, if I had a teaching job to give, I'll sure consider her for the role. Why do you think a lot of employers took interest in that guy? I can think of several names for it:

- thinking outside the box to get results
- deviation from the norm to get results
- daring to be different to get results

I dare say it's a quality every employer cherishes because not everyone has the guts to pull stunts like this.

And to prove its working, Coogar is already taking interest and about to interview her Coogs, no be so?

One of the fastest ways to get a job is to distinguish yourself positively, that's what Alfred Ajani did and sadly that's not what the poster in this case did. There's a huge difference between doing something differently and constituting a nuisance.

Why I asked that question was to determine if the poster was aware that there is a better way to go about it, the way she's going about it isn't different from the many other job seekers on and off NL so I don't agree with your thinking outside the box theory.

I see too many people consistently appealing to something other than interest, passion, competence etc. to get a job and I shake my head. Later they will now come and be saying that there are no jobs in Nigeria. If your approach is wrong you can spend X years hitting your head against the wall.

A friend was at Alcatel in 2008 or so trying to submit his CV to the receptionist and she was doing shakara, he said one man there just got annoyed and called him and told him instead of you to be wasting your time like this just get the HR managers name, go to the nearest post office and use EMS to send your CV to her directly.

A friend that works for a fortune 100 company also used DHL to send her CV to the company HR manager when she was looking for a place to serve for NYSC and was accepted and retained after, babe got transferred to the UK after a couple of years.

A wrong approach can cost an opportunity.

P.S.
you said you would offer her a teaching job, how are you sure that's what she's interested in? there isn't even enough info in her post to show what field she would be interested in and thus have an increased likelihood of succeeding in said field.

P.P.S.
I checked her post history and there's nothing there that suggests that she would be worth the while if I had a job to offer, we're in a country with millions of unemployed and underemployed people, that's not good enough...I'm just being honest here.

P.P.S
After venting I'm still pissed off...smh.

Kimoni:
Remember that Nigerian guy in UK that got soo desperate for a job he went to stand at the tube entrance with a placard during rush hour? You recall how many offers he got from that singular action? Immediately, I saw the post above, I remembered our UK guy and quite honestly, if I had a teaching job to give, I'll sure consider her for the role. Why do you think a lot of employers took interest in that guy? I can think of several names for it:

- thinking outside the box to get results
- deviation from the norm to get results
- daring to be different to get results

I dare say it's a quality every employer cherishes because not everyone has the guts to pull stunts like this.

And to prove its working, Coogar is already taking interest and about to interview her Coogs, no be so?

You're comparing her to this guy? http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2728732/That-s-one-way-job-Graduate-holds-sign-advertising-rush-hour-Waterloo-station-s-got-interview.html

Just wait for me, I need to use my computer for this rant, a phone won't do

Kimoni:
Desperate times calls for desperate measures...



Smh

I have heard of desperate job hunting measures, this doesn't cut it, the adjective I'd use normally isn't polite so I'll leave it there.

Assuming I had a job to give out, from her post, can you tell me why i should consider her? I mean there are hundreds of job seekers to each single vacancy(not even counting my personal friends and people from my village sef), why should I consider her?

Kimoni:
...thinking aloud...a desperate measure maybe

Nah...still doesn't make sense.

ILuvMerije:
Please I need urgent help in getting a job. I have a B.Sc (ed) in Geography and I have basic knowledge in Geographic Information Systems. I have 2 years teaching experience and 2 years administrative experience as a Secretary and customer service officer. Any opportunity is welcomed. willing to relocate. graciousmercy151@yahoo.com Thanks.

Hi, I'm curious, why do you think this approach would work?

Onegai:
I've been trying to reach this man for a while because someone wants to speak to him. Does anyone have an idea of his contact info?

in this link there's a number he can be reached on in one of the pictures,
http://nairobiwire.com/2015/10/amazing-nigerian-designs-car-with-fiber-woven-chassis-photos.html
the story's old though, 2012/2013, it's just being recycled.

pato405:
1. Information incomplete. (AmpHour/ AH rating of batteries not specified)
2. Why do you choose to have a parallel connection which gives you 12V X 3 = 36V as opposed to series: 12V, 3XAH rating of batteries?. In this way, you are making use of 36V cumulative battery voltage with a 12V inverter. Which is wrong!

3. Why connect charger and load simultaneously?, rather, connect a switch/change-over in-between.
4. 12v external charger to charge your 36V? , bro you are kidding! your charger will overheat, and could cause a fire. Be careful.


N.B: I'm not an electrical engineer. I'm a medic, but my knowledge of basic principles of physics always comes handy in cases like this.

Parallel connection of batteries is to give same voltage higher current, I agree with you on the positioning of charger issue though.

@OP
LV isn't my strength but I would say your charger/load connection needs a second look