Madampinkolo:
Preternatura1,

Your mans behavior has shown he has no handle on his mom. You shouldn't have even been the one to explain much,he should have done that and his mom should have respected his explanation.. Any calls from you should have been to reaffirm what your guy said and reassure her,to tell her very soon you will come etc etc that she will even be the one tired of seeing you.It's good you placate her but at the same time don't go and over do just to please her and your man.At the same time,don't allow yourself to be insulted,you are not married to him yet!!

I wouldn't go to sleep over in any MIL house alone you are NOT married to him neither have your parents given their stamp of approval.Did they accept for you to go and spend time with her? Have they come to see your people?You can visit and go home the same day with your guy simple..all this over exposure is not necessary in my opinion. If you both got on at the first meeting,it would be a different thing as you would even be more willing.She has already been critical and insulting so how does she expect you to be eager to spend time with her.Respect and affection go both ways.

She has been very bold to tell you that she doesn't think you are right for her son,and even gone to the extent of saying you don't value the relationship all because you are too busy to visit at the moment.What will she say when you now truly offend her?
I put it to you that you may likely have it rough with her except you always bend to what she wants.
An excellent relationship takes understanding,communication and respect not force and threats.

While your parents were a bit horrified by his mannerism they didn't throw it in his face neither did they call him to lecture him.
Its all good to make excuses but I am married to someone who last year couldn't stand up to his mother when she was obviously wrong,you are sliding down the same slippery slope and you'd better wake up and sort this out before it snowballs.

You are busy,you have work to do,you will make out time to visit and go same day.She should be telling you she understands,Pele on all the work you are doing,ahh that you should come and spend time so she can pet you and help relieve the stress.That is a welcoming and reasonable MIL.


Its best you face facts and see the reality on ground no excuses.She may change she may not change.Taking the risk is up to you.All the signs are there for you to see,at least in her favour she's not pretending.
Believe me when I say a hostile MIL is enough to call off a relationship EXCEPT when the love is like do or die OR if you have a supportive and strong willed man who will check any excesses..anything less than this and you will be shortchanging yourself


You should never ever accept ultimatums from anyone,it is unnecessary at this stage.The problem doesn't just lie with her,It is your guy that's not alarmed at her hostility and rude words instead he's turning around and getting angry at you despite knowing that your hands are tied.You should let him know that he should be protecting you and politely explaining to her his stand..That he says no to her doesn't mean he doesn't love her.Alarm bells should be ringing in your head when already it's turning into you vs her.It's not necessary at all!! A wise man would see this danger and fix it now now!!

PS..I'm glad you got your house help back..I don't believe in punishing yourself with unnecessary chores when you can afford to pay someone to do it.No point starting what you can't finish.. No point over compromising on ur part and his,frustration may take over.

DO NOT push this under the rug and feel it's a one off,i will keep emphasizing that you STUDY THE FAMILY properly before committing yourself to him.She may be good,she may not be good.She may be traditional,still doesn't mean she has to be rude to make her point.Maybe this is a phase,i dunno.

I say this because if i had handled my SILs and their snide crude comments from the get go,i'm pretty sure i wouldn't have had issues at all.

Don't forget that being respectful and kind is key but don't accept insults!! If you do,it will never end!
GOOD LUCK!!
*Back to the shadows*

babyosisi:


This woman is not her MIL
They are not married yet in fact he hasn't even gone with wine to her people
So don't put her at that level yet
If her explanations that she couldn't honor her invitation due to prior engagement is what you call being slighted so be it
Must all her invitations be honored?
When an mil to be begins to set ultimatums and make determinations on who is right for her son and who isn't based on frivolous selfish things ,the son needs to redirect her and stand up for the woman he is courting and the woman has to know without a shadow of a doubt that he is on her side.
How can this MIL to be label her not fit for his son,no be the son find am?
Who is she to make that determination?
At this stage,if she cannot get that assurance that this man is on her side 100%,she needs to walk
It's not worth the headache
Let his mother go find him a wife of her choice that will do her bidding

Preternatura1:
Hi, don't you think it's offensive to conclude I'm forming being busy to slight his mum, even when I have made it clear that I really am busy? Why would I want to insult her to start with? I apologized for not being able to make it at a time she wanted, why do I need to keep calling her to say sorry? I felt she understood the situation and calling her to say hi, is just me trying to extend a hand of fellowship.

Preternatura1:

I honestly don't understand what you are about, why would I ask him to choose between his mum and i? I wouldn't do that.

I will try to sort it out when I get back from my trip.

AjanleKoko:


ajanlekoko mentality?

Feraz:
Gas powered machines probably?


let me try and give you some perspective

No idea
N500 - N600 for 1kg
$2.68 (Bloomberg). It is decreasing.
Monetary fine

I'm not against using other sources for power. *Grabs a book to jot down*

kaboninc:


Sent you a mail oga.

Feraz:
Cos we have it in abundance?

Feraz:
The bolded beats me as at why we have not been at the forefront of research on gas technology.

Feraz:

Yeah. . .the article said by 2035 which I believe is not such a bad time. I actually thought Nuclear was cheaper?

Feraz:
There is no time we are ever gonna be ripe for such investment knowing the country we belong to. While Nigeria lacks that maintenance culture, it is time the govt takes it serious to invest in sections of Engineering such as Maintenance Engineering starting now so that we become used to it before the nuclear power plant is constructed in 2035. Try with the 'little' we have such as roads, existing thermal power and hydro power stations, existing facilities till the Nigerian populace is satisfied with the way we handle things. We can't keep depending on foreigners to help us maintain our facilities.
Then again, the govt has to embark on an awareness campaign highlighting the pros and cons of such plant. I mean, we wouldn't want hoodlums sneaking in to 'steal' a component or community people trying to shut down the plant with violence simply because it is located around their community, teaching them that this is different from the normal gas plants they normally sabotage the pipes supplying the plants and honestly, I think we need to run the media campaign for more than four years till the message sinks in.

BTW, ain't that amount too much for a nuclear power plant with that kinda power output?

CC: netotse - your contribution will be highly appreciated. . .

kaboninc:


Hey bro. I got a notification via nairaland but can't access the main on this handheld. Yahoo asks for authentication and I no get time.

I use a blackberry so we can chat via my moniker hat gmail dot come.

Thanks.

Gbawe:
I said it before the election that PDP loudmouths like FFK, Fayose, Okupe et al should note that you could become nothing overnight minus power. GEJ was always lacking as a leader even as President of the biggest black nation on earth. Without power, how will such a man look out for others like Allison-Madueke while he is busy negotiating a 'soft landing' that will allow him to go and enjoy his loot in Otuoke?

Nigerians are yet to understand that Jonathan took a plea deal which will mean he is not disgraced and hounded yet others under him are fair game. This is why Allison-Madueke is on this begging mission that many of her PDP peers will be embarking on from now till Buhari is sworn in.

kaboninc:


Upload the pisure of us today

Wallie:
A smart friend of the government in power would have remained neutral! He needs to learn from Dangote, Otedola, etc... You can support your candidate quietly with resources. Better yet, support both candidates and hedge your bet!

thorpido:
If he won't grow up and start to discuss problems and seek solutions,then you may have to be rid of him.
Men often don't discuss their problems cos of ego but if this guy of yours begin to take it out on you everytime,then let him be.

EfemenaXY:


Explain the bolded pls.

Do you mean to say he beats you? How so if he doesn't communicate with you?

SOLARPOWER1:

Sorry Msc in Embedded computing systems OR Msc Automation (control) Engineering.

SOLARPOWER1:
Maximum respect to everybody that has made this career defining thread a succes
pls I need serious advice from
professionals in the house. I am looking
forward to running either of the above
program in Europe this year but am
worried about making the wrong choice,
considering the amount of money I am to
spend.
Which do you think will provide more
opportunities for an exciting career path
in country like Nigeria? I currently have a
B.Eng in Electrical and Electronic
Engineering with major in Electronics and
Telecommunication. Thank you all for
your anticipated response.

Olaposiwaju:
The supply of electricity across the country will worsen in coming days due to the loss of about 800 megawatts of power as a result of the blasting of the Escravos Lagos Gas Pipeline at midnight of Wednesday.

According to the Minister of Power, Prof. Chinedu Nebo, the recent damage was done by vandals, who ruptured the ELGP with an explosive device at Egwa, near Batan, in Gbaramatu Kingdom, Delta State.

Speaking through his Special Assistant on Media, Mrs. Kande Daniel, the minister said this attack, being the fourth this year, came only hours after repairs on an earlier attack of Sunday, March 1, 2015 were completed and gas were being piped through the pipeline again.

Nebo, in a statement on Thursday night, said the exact extent of the damage was being assessed but the impact was the loss of about 200 mmscf/d of gas, equivalent of about 800MW per day of generated power.

According to Nebo, it has become clear that the vandals, who perpetrate these acts are intent on crippling the power sector and bringing untold hardship on Nigerians for either political or financial gains or both.

He said although pipeline vandalism had held power generation at less than 4,000MW as against currently available capacity of over 5,000MW, government was not deterred from its commitment to provide security for its oil and gas, as well as power infrastructure.

The minister stressed that the nation could now conveniently generate and wheel out over 4,500MW, but for gas supply disruptions through vandalism.

Nebo also appealed to Nigerians to become more vigilant and report suspicious movements and actions to security agencies for effective protection of public infrastructure for the common good of Nigeria.

Source: http://www.punchng.com/news/power-supply-to-worsen-as-fg-loses-800mw/

sonnie10:
Go to Adeshina street in Ijesha off Oshodi Apapa express way (Ijesha Bus stop). You will get them for half of the price compared to computer village.

I can help you with contact number if you want.

kaboninc:


No mind me jare. Thanks.



Yeah I know that transportation is always a major cost to factor in any endeavour. My idea is: can we have a large reservoir built to store gas in strategic locations? The gas reservoir will be fed through network of pipelines from the production locations. The power plants can then be fed via the gas reservoir. That way, the power plants won't be shut down due to low gas supply as the reservoir will act as a temporary storage facility in case there is a leak or sabotage? This may not stop vandalism and sabotage but it sure can reduce the number of break points and ensure availability of gas for a specific duration.

If this idea can be implemented, and electricity can be GUARANTEED, I believe the transportation cost can be worked on even though it will be passed unto the final consumer. I have not done any comparative analysis: transporting gas through pipelines and associated cost to vandalism on one hand and cost of transporting gas to reservoirs, cost of building the reservoir, and another cost of transporting the gas to power plants.



The guy is cooling off with his Geometric power supply around Aba- Ariaria Axis.



I have passion for anything that provides opportunity. Problem is ACTING!

I will take my time to study the roadmaps, revisions, policies, etc etc and thanks for the link on NERC refusing to grant 'approval' to Discos for their outrageous expenses. Them wan transfer the cost to us. Imagine Kaduna Disco, expending N17.8 million... in hosting members of the Senate Committee on Power during an oversight visit to them. . And the yeye Senators will go ahead to collect ESTACODES Stealing from two sources!

I've followed you from the Welcome to My Office Thread.

temi4fash:

sent you a mail...

Herzumpther:


He told my uncle he doesn't want me to marry Yoruba and my uncle demanded to know why. He just kept saying No in my dialect . my uncle he should stop being a tribalist that the young man sounds guenin and looks it. He told dad to look beyond tribe dad just kept saying no way

Can you believe he even asked lekes his age and where he stays? Lakes said he shuttles and dad said that's it, you want to decieve my daughter after having a wife in America. I trained my daughter well so she is not desperatly looking for how to go to America and mind you I can send her there if she wants. My uncle and mum just started laughing and dad was like I'm serious o.

ArinzechukwuJob:
Pleas pals, someone sent me an email and it came as Addax petroleum email address, and he is asking me to send some document in regards to an Addax job offer. However, one of his requirements is: [b]NEBOSH General Certificate. (National Examination Board of Occupational Safety & Health0 and unfortunately I don't have it. So he is asking me to send #15,000.00 for him so that he will help me to process it. Pleas, friends, anybody heard about this b/4.

Wallie:


1. Interesting quote.
2. I’ve had this believe that the US knows of something seriously wrong with the present administration for them to openly distance themselves. Something that they do not want to be a part of must have happened or is happening and Obasanjo, with his international exposure, finally dumping a party that he had promised to remain loyal to suggests that the problem might be more wide spread than GEJ’s government.

temi4fash:
Seems to me from the on going discuss there are many untapped opportunities in the power sector. ..

@kaboninc

how would they use large vessels when there are no large water ways to the north and some other part of the north.

@netotse

Can u help with a link on the revised power sector reforms and how far gone are we with it. Are making progress not just from the papers but from the perspective of the average nigerian.