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 Politics / Re: Subsidy Removal; The way out by netotse(m): 5:33pm On Jun 01, 2015 |
jpphilips:The dual does not refer to aviation, the principal difference between aviation fuel and normal kero is that aviation fuel should not allow ice formation at low temperatures, this requires extra-processing thus the increased cost, so for anyone to be using Aviation fuel as normal kero...smh. Found an article from 2011 that supports your assertion, wouldn't be surprised if it's still happening. I can guess who the marketer being referred to in the article is... does the term sea side boys ring a bell?  http://www.thisdaylive.com/articles/kerosene-as-aviation-fuel-threatens-air-safety/105628/jpphilips:Focusing on only subsidy removal is farrrrr less than ideal. Urban migration would increase putting more strain on the resources and you're likely to end up where you started. Since you say your goal is to remove subsidy then I'll leave this point alone. jpphilips:My bad, you mean something like an O&M? that would work. |
| Politics / Re: Subsidy Removal; The way out by netotse(m): 4:35pm On Jun 01, 2015 |
@jpphilips Like you I'm surprised at the link between DPK and aviation fuel(jet A1), Jet A1 should be of a much higher quality so if there are people using one for the other I would be seriously surprised but then stranger things have been known to happen in this country. As per power, your idea of directing power to places with higher population densities is off, you get more bang for the buck(well KWH in this case), if you go in the opposite direction. High density areas also tend to have higher energy consumption per capita (your average household in Lagos might have both a fridge and deep freezer), if you concentrate on low consumption areas you can reach a larger geographical spread. A bit of both would be workable. The siting of plants wrt load centers and fuel supply means a national grid will still be the ideal solution, anything else will require serious work on tariffs and regulation. I agree the refineries should be leased out to established companies, anytime I read articles about them I cringe, I have an idea how much maintenance knowledge you need to have to run a complex plant and I don't think our government can provide the leadership. All in all, nice article. Will be back after I digest it fully. |
| Romance / Re: I Love Her But I Cant Put Up With This..... What Should I Do? by netotse(m): 10:18pm On May 31, 2015 |
mvpakin: If you can't cope, tell her it's a deal breaker and next time she does you'll that give her time off, let her know it's so that she has time to look for someone of her standard. If she does it again after that kick her to the curb. It will hurt but it's necessary. No one should stay be with someone who looks down on you...male or female. |
| Politics / Re: Epileptic Power Supply:what Is The Current Situation In Your Area? by netotse(m): 7:59pm On May 23, 2015 |
AccessME: FG Raises Alarm Over Dwindling Electricity Supply, Power Plants Shutdown |
| Career / Re: Electrical Engineering: Aspirants and Practitioners by netotse(m): 5:59pm On May 21, 2015 |
GrAnDwEeZ:I'm not the person sending the videos, you might want to contact fluxview |
| Investment / Re: Treasury Bills In Nigeria by netotse(m): 12:02pm On May 21, 2015 |
feelamong: If inflation continues to rise then rates for Tbills will rise as well |
| Career / Re: Electrical Engineering: Aspirants and Practitioners by netotse(m): 7:42pm On May 18, 2015 |
fluxview: nice one...those are the type of questions I would ask if I had to interview fresh graduates. 1 Like |
| Education / Re: List Of Some States In Nigeria And Their Zip Codes by netotse(m): 3:52pm On May 14, 2015 |
| Career / Re: Electrical Engineering: Aspirants and Practitioners by netotse(m): 10:46pm On May 13, 2015 |
hamzeiy: you're not likely to qualify to be a PMP, you can consider a CAPM. You seem to be heavy on certifications, I hope you are able to retain all the knowledge associated with them bro. |
| Family / Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by netotse(m): 6:39pm On May 13, 2015 |
repogirl:The take away from your post is wisdom, you need wisdom to know when talking back isn't the best option, I however don't agree that taking rubbish will work in all cases, some women will start to resent the man if they can't find a way to express themselves. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Family / Re: I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This by netotse(m): 6:37pm On May 13, 2015 |
lolaluv1: For many people yes but not for all people, keeping quiet and taking all the insults isn't always the hardest thing to do, I don't even think a woman should take the insults, talking back at that point might not be the best thing to do but you should address it when things are calm. I don't believe in letting anyone perpetually take you for granted in the name of marriage. 9 Likes 1 Share |
| Politics / Re: Nigerian Visa Goes For A Dollar In 13 Countries - Punch by netotse(m): 1:26am On May 11, 2015 |
MrKnowitall: Renewing is always a cake walk for us but I know of times when guys from our technical center can't get to naija because the embassy hasn't given them visa, this isn't hearsay. this is historical info but it should give you an idea http://www.businesstraveller.com/discussion/topic/Nigeria-visa-nightmare. 2 Likes |
| Politics / Re: Nigerian Visa Goes For A Dollar In 13 Countries - Punch by netotse(m): 1:05am On May 11, 2015 |
MrKnowitall: The guys I work with dont get visit visas so I can't talk about that but I know a lot of folks that have been denied visas or have experienced delays. The same way other countries do shakara for us, we too do shakara for them esp when it comes to temporary work permits and the likes. The problem is that the bribe takers sabi fall hand sha. 3 Likes |
| Politics / Re: How Buhari Can Solve Naija's Power Problem In 4 Years. by netotse(m): 12:57am On May 11, 2015 |
rudebouy:Oga, you don't seem to know what the problem of power sector is sef, I don't even know where to start from. The problems we have are a mixture of engineering, economics, finance and law. 1 Like |
| Politics / Re: Nigerian Visa Goes For A Dollar In 13 Countries - Punch by netotse(m): 12:47am On May 11, 2015 |
MrKnowitall: getting a Nigerian visa can be difficult o, talk to foreign engineers to know what they go through. 6 Likes |
| Family / Re: Humans Of Nairaland (Pictures): Continued by netotse(m): 12:34am On May 11, 2015 |
Growing up, I desperately wanted to be "among", to be part of the cool kids, I think a couple of them recognized that and I remember when in secondary school someone filled my name as person that wants to feel among by force or something of that nature, the thing pained me die... Fastforward a few years, I look back and wonder why I felt the need to be part of the in crowd back then, I run into some of the folks I used to hang around and I'm like...na so I mumu reach?  , nothing or no one is as cool as they all seemed in my head back then. We're all humans, different in our own unique ways. (plus a lot of them are short sef )I've lived many parts of the social spectrum, I've been bullied, I've bullied people, and I've been bullied (in that order). I've tried to feel among, I've also been one of them people that they talk about, wasn't particularly interesting sef. I've been the shy reserved type, I've morphed into the rude and crazy say-what's-on-my-mind-no-matter-what type, now I find the shy guy is closer to who I really am (but my mouth is still sharp sha ).In the end, I find if you're yourself people are likely to find you more interesting to be around than if you keep trying to be someone they would like and if people meet you and don't like you it's their cup of tea. Give everyone their due respect.  18 Likes 1 Share |
| Family / Re: The Hypocrisy by netotse(m): 12:08am On May 11, 2015 |
@mulanbaba it's been said severally on this thread, no one has a right to tell you how you should feel. Ignore all the people telling you to move on like nothing happened, your trust was betrayed and it's a big deal! That said, you need to find out the "how?", the "why?" and the "what?"(you failed to mention if you confirmed if the relationship had gone physical, I suppose it's safe to assume it has). How did they start the affair? she used to call him to ask for advice(or vice versa) or it was a joke gone too explicit. what exactly happened? you should find out. The affair might not have started off as a sexual relationship(it doesn't always) but sex usually enters the mix, if a guy gets into a person, sex tends to follow(there's also the possibility that it was simply a sex thing but the long phone calls seem to point otherwise). When did the affair cross into the physical(if it has)? Did they both jointly or individually consider how it affects you? It might not be an easy conversation to have but you need to have it. A couple of posters have mentioned so too. What led to the affair? this part is tricky, he himself might not know but you should ask him (and don't believe him if he should try to shift the blame to you). How well do you know your husband? could you have figured out something was up earlier? beyond you proposing "swinging" to him, how open are you guys to each other? do you know his fears? I mean his real fears, he might be scared of failure, or of not giving the toe curling orgasms on demand, there will be fears he faces that he thinks could change how you see/feel about him, do you know those ones? Oftentimes for a man to cheat, there has to be something that he cannot share with you and he feels he can share with someone else which might sadly be a female and that stupidity on his part leads to emotional involvement then sex then the affair has started. It could even be stress at work, but there is usually something that happens to men that makes it easier them go astray(especially if we are to believe this is a one-time thing), maybe it's work pressure or family pressure he tries to avoid telling you about possibly because he thinks it wouldn't fit into the idea you have of him. This is something you need to understand because it will be a trigger point, when such issues come up, when things don't work out as planned, when some men's lives deviate, they tend to become unbalanced and can take stupid decisions in that state/stage. If you can understand a mans emotions you will better be able to support him. When a man is emotionally unbalanced it's natural for him to search out things/people to reassure him, that's the point where many of us tend to get ensnared in stupid stuff. You are hurting and you need to go through the process before you decide if you want to forgive him, don't truncate the process, letting people stampede you into taking him back before you get to the root of the matter will not preclude a repeat episode. I would also recommend you read TD Jakes Hemotions, it does a good job of shedding light of the things that can go wrong with mens emotions. 1 Like |
| Politics / Re: Jonathan, Okonjo-iweala Ran Nigeria Like A Come-and-chop Restaurant — Shehu Sani by netotse(m): 6:42pm On May 10, 2015 |
Buchukwu: Hope you dont mind my asking...was your father paid his severance money? If he wasn't you need to sue sharpish. Modified...seen some folks have asked you the same questions...which arm of PHCN was he in, can you tell us what department he was as well. I can ask a few questions about the place. |
| Family / Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by netotse(m): 7:10pm On May 04, 2015 |
sexynne: In testing the waters you need to avoid doing things that aren't you, you mentioned that you weren't the shouting back type and you tried it and it didn't work. You might be one of those people with the quiet type of strength and not the agidi type. I would suggest you go through the advice and links posted and pick what you can work with. Remember your goal is to pass across the message that the abuse is not ok and you wont stand for it. Your goal should not be to give him a shocker or any such thing. Attack the problem not the person. If you didn't see any signs of abuse prior to getting married you can tell him that the man you married swore to protect and respect you and that you don't believe the man you married has any business treating you the way he does. CAVEAT: if there are certain things you do that get his goat, he is likely to hold on to those things and use them as an excuse or his bad behaviour, it's been said several times on NL, there is no justification for him to abuse you verbally, emotionally or whatever so you must not allow yourself or anyone to make you feel you are the cause of his bad behaviour. That said, you must also take wise decisions during tense moments, pick your battles wisely, you guys are not enemies. |
| Family / Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by netotse(m): 7:01pm On May 04, 2015 |
cococandy: There isn't enough information about her husband for me to suggest but let's turn it around, do you seriously believe saying you can go and do it yourself was the best way? There's a lot of good advice on the issue, particularly the post from a website that talks about responding and not reacting, I think abuse is wrong on all counts no matter the reason and should be treated as such...abuse. What I don't agree with is turning what should be a clear and concerted response to bad behaviour into a fight. I'm all for telling the man off if he steps out of line but it must be done properly, thinking that you can use evil eye and threaten everyman and it will work is just setting people up for failure, what worked for Obi wont work for Tola and Adamu. For the umpteenth time, The man is wrong from the info we have on this issue, irregardless of what happened, he swore to honor and protect and etc ati be be lo his wife and should not for any reason have acted like he did.1 Like |
| Family / Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by netotse(m): 10:32pm On May 03, 2015 |
sexynne: your husband did not pour the food on you because you didn't inform him on time. Picking that as the reason is easy but if you really want to tackle the issues head on then I would recommend you look a bit deeper. You are not blameless in this matter  First, as I said previously, his action was wrong, there's nothing that can be said to justify that. Now let me face you .sexynne: Your husband poured the food on you because of the bolded, there were better ways you could have handled that. You should certainly have been more tactful in replying. Telling him to go and clear the table himself since he wasn't eating isn't you asking him to help since you're busy with your(yours and his) kid, it's you talking back, that probably got him angry and that was why he poured the food on you. A wrong action all the same. You married the guy, you should know how to push his buttons positively, I mean, a simple no vex, or darling biko or something equally soapy could be what it would have taken to soothe his ego at that point. That you gloss over that bit makes me wonder if there are other things you say or do that could set him on edge. I suspect you sometimes press his triggers knowingly or unknowingly which get him angry and could lead to the insults/abuse(which of course is wrong...lol). Like Madampinkolo says, persistent abuse of the verbal and emotional kind tends to deteriorate to physical kind, while he works on his anger issues hopefully, you also need to do some work on your end. Don't let things deteriorate. @Babyosisi Perhaps you could show her a different way she could have responded to defuse the situation? I'm of the opinion that this episode could easily have been avoided if she had used woman power to handle it. I agree that she might need to involve his mum if things don't get better though. 3 Likes |
| Family / Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by netotse(m): 10:04pm On May 03, 2015 |
sexynne:@sexynne This is a two post problem...lol. There are two separate issues here and putting them in one post might mix things up. He shouldn't have poured food on you, that was wrong. It seems your husband has emotional issues (a lot of us do, to varying degrees). My suggestion would be for you to calmly tell him you don't like the way he treats you next time he's forming loverman, try and have a serious conversation about it where you tell him exactly how he emotionally and/or verbally abused you. There's a post somewhere with tips on how to deal with verbal abuse from a spouse, when I find it I will post a link. I dont support laying down the law just yet and I will explain a bit more in my second post |
| Politics / Re: Electricity Union Assures Nigerians Of Stable Power Supply by netotse(m): 11:04am On May 02, 2015 |
Queendarlene:Someone needs to inform the disco the apartment is vacant, they are not witches(well mostly...  ).Estimated billing exists because we Nigerians can't get our act together, some peoples meters are locked behind gates, damaged or what have you...they can't be given free electricity na...In a lot of cases, the discos can't be arsed to go round reading all the meters and so take an easy route. Both provider and consumer have to share the blame. It's up to you to ensure you aren't been taken for a ride. |
| Politics / Re: Electricity Union Assures Nigerians Of Stable Power Supply by netotse(m): 9:08am On May 02, 2015 |
Onegai: The bolded caught my attention, why would they beg anyone? Queendarlene: That amount is rather high, you should complain however you need to understand why the bill is high first. If you look at the bill, in the column where the amount of electricity is written, is there a D or E? D means direct connection(assumes no meter). E means estimated billing which they sometimes use to overcharge. (Your disco might use different terms though). When the lady said 15days in the article, she was most likely referring to the fixed charge portion of your bill not the energy (consumption) charge. |
| Family / Re: Frustrated by netotse(m): 8:46am On May 02, 2015 |
Stillfire: Some random guy with a long memory and a big mouth...ignore me |
| Family / Re: Frustrated by netotse(m): 4:44pm On May 01, 2015 |
Stillfire: Hey, Stilly of the hot legs Let me help you translate the italicized portion. You don't speak "man"...I do. It reads, "You did not make me feel important/needed"...simple and short. Not everyman will require a woman does those specific things, but everyman will require a woman make him feel needed/important. Don't pay too much attention to the words and end up missing the message. Disclaimer: Cheating is wrong, the dude was wrong to have cheated 1 Like |
| Science/Technology / Re: Nigeria In Rosatom Talks For Up To $80 Billion Nuclear Power by netotse(m): 4:39pm On Apr 24, 2015 |
xdos:What were gas prices before the US discovered shale gas? If anything shouldn't discovering a new source of supply make the product cheaper? Nuclear has high capital costs, I'm not sure how they would fit this in with our tariff regime. |
| Politics / Re: Barcanista, This Thread Is For Your Attention. by netotse(m): 7:02am On Apr 22, 2015 |
gonon:Your experience mostly mirrors mine, will send you an email. Let's rub minds. |
| Politics / Re: Barcanista, This Thread Is For Your Attention. by netotse(m): 10:34pm On Apr 21, 2015 |
gonon:Hey...what part of the power sector are you involved with if you don't mind my asking... |
| Family / Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by netotse(m): 12:12pm On Apr 20, 2015 |
@Madampinkolo We can agree to disagree on some points. I think the guys mum is being difficult because she senses Pret might be trying to avoid her, the issue here is more than preternatura1 being busy, it seems you're deliberately overlooking the fact that, pret (rightly) has reservations about going,don't you think there is a possibility the guys mum senses that? she is being emotional, I don't know the tone she used but you are giving it a negative colouring, emotion isn't a negative thing but it should be recognized as what it is, a bias plain and simple. Since you also mentioned freeing people if you don't like them after two meetings, if you feel someone is posting you, what would your reaction be? You don't come across as one to suffer fools so don't tell me you will nicely bug the person All this your talk about him screening her is at variance with your telling her to walk into it with her eyes open, it's better she knows what she is dealing with so that if she decides to marry the fellow it wont turn out that the side he presented to her was a professionally edited version of things ,if she was screening him and he ever finds out do you think he would thank her? (if you do you might want to rethink the resetting program for DH joke) If she marries him, she will have to deal with his family there's no avoiding that, it's better she begins to develop a framework now, expecting him to intervene in every little issue is not sustainable, when it counts he should be willing and able to defend her honour, this isn't one of those situations. You seem to be angling for him to put his mother in her place, if it was you would you want your son to do the same when you are merely trying to look out for him? (we agree her way of doing so is less than ideal). To answer your question, if my daughter was being insulted, I would tell her to weigh carefully if the guy was worth the insult, but like I've said before, I don't feel Preternatura1 is being insulted, the main issue is the difference in social class and someone has to stoop to conquer. Why should anyone want to be a dove sef? Always been, will always be a fox, pick the battles you fight wisely, but if you must fight, do it well. @ Preternaura1 Do you feel there would ever be a need for your guy to stand up or you and he wouldn't step up? 1 Like |
| Politics / Re: Buhari's Social Program: Very Possible. by netotse(m): 11:06pm On Apr 19, 2015 |
stave9ja:Guy, there are whole books on petroleum accounting, that should tell you it's not an open and shut thing...I'm waiting for the incoming govt to put this 20bn dollar issue to rest 1 Like |
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