If she's your gf, why aren't you paying her bills?
You sound like someone who's insecure.
You don't think you're lovable?
Wow. You're a smart person. I like that you discerned op's state of mind. The girl already knew how weak points. Soon, she'll cash out. Op would most likely ignore all the advises from others until he works on his self esteem.
KBORN: She became quite importunate two weeks to xmas.She was asking for a lot things,with a deadline.I could never meet up no matter how much i try so i told her to meet her needs elsewhere since she didn't want to reason with me.
We've broken up like a week plus now and i realize i have not gotten over it.I really want to.Tried all i can and can't still stop thinking about her.
I guess she made you invest in her so we'll. Here you are thinking about your investments subconsciously. But consciously, you think you're thinking about her.
Thank your stars that 2021 would be minus one liability in your life.
Did she tell she she was gonna get you something for Christmas?
If it were your sister or mother that requested for such, would you have tried that hard? Just be sincere...
often I hear that the one who spends most in a relationship is the more invested party
Thing is, I have no needs or wants and I have a "do it myself syndrome" so I barely let people do stuff for me
I however would like to get women to spend more on me just for the fun of and to test the principle
how do I go about this? Asking upfront would make me feel like a loafer
A Nigerian girl? Maybe 1% out of all.
However, be wary of someone claiming ownership over you because they spend on you.
Endeavour to spend on her as well. That's what grows a relationship. When both parties spend on each other's dreams.
To find such a girl, you gotta check in high places such as an industrious colleague, church member, a business associate turned friend, etc.
Anyone that can invest in you as a man is a treasure. Just don't mess things up. And pray to your stars that you don't meet those street girls (the bill them gang).
There's one girl I used to chat with on FB I joking asked her she said no I let it slide coz I was never interested in her. One day I posted pic she chatted me up asked me whose house disco take the pic? I told her it's our house mehn since from day she started calling me baby, honey , my love. I only reply msg on FB hardly have time for chat. Whenever this girl texts me she's always asking for airtime or ask anything for me. I once told her to stop asking me anything for me it irritates me. She never ask me how's work , how I'm faring all she does is hi, how are you next text anything for me, send me airtime, this is my new number send me airtime. I have airtime, I always send but now I'm just fade up. What should I do am I her maga?
I bet if you got the chance to see what she saved your number with, it's probably Maga 2020
saintbillion: The Nigerian Army have come out to deny the allegations of moving 20 death bodies to IDH mortuary, saying that the news is fake. This was posted in their twitter handle
We kept protesting for a better Nigeria. They killed innocent and unarmed protesters. Instead, Nigerians cowered just like Fela said in his song.
No one is protesting for justice and explanations for the dead. No one is on the street asking for why the lights were off, etc. Apparently, the Formular worked on Nigerians.
I can therefore conclude that this country and her citizens are indeed not worth dieing for!!!
Godoverevery: bro know this 70% of Nigeria ladies are in relationship majorly because of financial gains....times are hard and they need to survive hence since they are lazy and want good things they can't afford.... they have to depend on men for there needs...that why most of them are seriously cheating now. Growing up we hardly see women that cheat because it was men things but right now bro, women have even over taken men in cheating. Now is so bad that even some foolish guys feel you have to take care of a lady needs first before asking for sex because this men see them as decent prostitute. So as a guy you need to stop making this mistake if you are not among the foolish one I mentioned above 1-Never beg or force a lady to date you else she will make a fool of you by turning you to a maga.
2- Never try to satisfy a lady or go out of your way to give her what she wants if she not your wife because bro you will regret it... your mother is your priority for now.
3- one of the best thing you can ever do to yourself is dating an ambitious lady someone who has the hustling spirit, who have dreams of her own....that way you can really go far in life because your income can never be enough.
Note- most successful men go for women who are very ambitious and who have goals....check most governor there wife are professors,judge, lecturers,top professionals,big business women because they know what it means to have a liability for a wife.
One liability you don't want to have in your life is a woman because bro you can never achieve much with a woman with entitlement mentality leave them for the yahoo boys.
Nice write up. This is for a man with vision. Not the one looking for holes to drill.
You do know that a man dating/married to a rich woman would get the same result (aka receive spousal support), right?!
If you live with someone as husband and wife, then why shouldn't you be viewed as husband and wife? Just like a man who has a child with a woman would have all the rights as a married man. Remember, as much as it's mostly women who receive spousal support, that's because the majority of these men let these women stay home being lazy while they went to work and brought the cheddar.... But if a woman earns just as much as you do, then you pay her ONLY the difference ... if you guys have kids and she has full custody. If you have full custody then SHE pays you the difference.
I fully understand these rulings... If a man dates and promised heaven and earth to a woman and put her in a certain lifestyle that she will now claim she is accustomed to, then the fool has to pay her in order for her to remain in such lifestyle you promised her. The catch would be for that fool to 1st, not date good for nothing useless women who don't work (so that she can also contribute to any lifestyle you guys are into) ...and 2nd not become someone's benefactor for so long while you do everything to better her life.
The dude is even lucky, in some country (brazil for example), the minute you tell a woman that you love her and wanna spend the rest of your life with her Bla bla bla, and she has a confirmation (in writing/text/email) of you telling her that, then within 6months of dating she can sue you (and ask for half your shiit) if you dump her.
It could be money, woman or fame. Autopsy would be needed before conclusion is made. O hope the person who claimed that he said Solomon is not actually framing Solomon.
ExBanker: Nairalanders, I want you to judge if the conditions I gave this girl is okay or it is too much
I met this girl around June this years. I really liked her. As I was asking her out, I was always taking care of her. Buying her stuffs, giving her allowances and supporting her. Then the relationship started last month officially when we smashed. I continued to take good care of her. But note that before we officially started dating, she showed half interest. She wasn't really into the relationship. When we started dating, she showed same attitude.
Her much elder sister is a hair dresser. Like 7 years older. She lives with the sister. The sister shop is in one hidden corner. They hardly get customers. So both of them are always broke. I have being supporting them. This month, their rent is expiring. They intend to move to a better location. The new shop is N75k per year. My girlfriend asked me for support. I said I will give them N50k by August end. Since they were expecting N50k from me, they gathered all the money they have home and abroad and paid advance of N30,000 for the new shop to secure it. Last week, my girl asked me for N7k for something. I told her I don't have. I am gathering money for the N50k. It is a lie sha. the money is already there.
She then asked me to borrow her. She will pay me back. So I gave her. By weekend, she was acting funny. I told her I am tired of the relationship. She should forget it. It turned to quarrel. Then she left. We quarreled on phone till Monday. I think they felt bad that I am leaving out of the deal to help them secure the shop. On Monday, the sister called to quarrel with me too. Imagine.
After everything, today, my girlfriend called to apologize. I told her that I have forgiven her. But, for our relationship to continue, there is one condition. She asked me what condition. I told her that despite the fact I have being supporting her and her sister, both of them still had the gut to talk to me anyhow. I will only continue the relationship if I will be having sex with the 2 of them. She was shocked. She wanted to start talking nonsense. I told her to shut up and relay my condition to her sister. Let the sister call me to tell me if she agrees.
Is my condition too harsh or it is okay?
Sorry op. How old are you? I mean no disrespect o. But your first four lines was like that of a simp. Are you in the relationship for sex? You know what, they'll say they agree. They'll collect the money and teach you good lessons.
“We met at that event. You were with Gina and you gave me your number”
Girl - I gave plenty people my number that day. What were you wearing?
Day 2:
(WhatsApp message) Guy - Hi **1 day later** Girl - hey Guy - Good morning Girl - Mrng. Guy - How are you? Girl - blue tick. No reply
Day 5:
Girl - hi **guy is surprised** Guy - hi Girl - hw are u? Guy - I’m fine. How are you? Girl - Not fine Guy - why? Girl - Can you send me N500 airtime? I’m in a tight corner.
Day 9: (My guy is bored and wants to try again)
Guy - Hi **3 hours later** Girl - Hello dear. Tnx 4 the other day. Guy - you’re welcome. Where do you stay? Girl - Lugbe n u? Guy - Gwarinpa Girl - K
Day 10:
Guy - hi Girl - hello dear Guy - Can we hang out sometime? Girl - where? Guy - anywhere you want Girl - ok, Junkyard Guy - Ok. Girl - Can I come with 3 of my friends?
Day 14:
(Date is set) Guy - hi. Are you still coming? Girl - yes I’m getting dressed. I will meet you there.
**I hour later** Girl - please can you help me book Uber, my app is not opening
Just say you don’t have transport FFS �
Day 15:
Guy: Yesterday was nice. I can’t wait to see you again. Girl - ��� Guy - when will that be? Girl - Don’t know
(How will she know when she’s arranging other dates with men?)
Day 25:
(Guy posts picture of him and a female friend chilling on status)
Girl - hmmm Guy - what? Girl - nothing. Your babe is fine. (this is how they ask if you’re single) Guy - she’s just a friend. Girl - hmmm ok
Day 33:
(Girl has not heard from guy in a while)
Girl - Hi dear Guy - hello. Girl - long time. How have you been? Guy - I’m fine. You? Girl - you forgot me nau. Can we hangout again? Guy- ok. Will you come to my house? Girl - I can’t come to your house.
Day 42:
(Guy finally wants to ask girl out after 6 weeks talking stage)
Guy - Do you have anyone you are emotionally involved with? Girl - why do you ask? Guy - I want to be that person if you don’t have. Girl - Can you take care of my needs?
(What fvcking needs? Are you a special needs person FFS??)
Guy - I believe that we can take care of each other. This isn’t a fling for me. I want to have something special and permanent with you. Girl - hmmmmm Guy - Please be my girlfriend Girl - Let me think about it.
(Basically when they say they want to think about it, they have agreed. But Pride)
Day 47:
(5 days after guy and girl officially start dating)
Girl - hey baby Guy - hi dear. Girl - can you do me a small Favour? Guy - anything for my girl. What is it? Girl - I want to change my phone screen.
Day 58:
(11 days after guy changes phone screen, phone screen breaks again)
Girl - baby, my phone screen broke again. Guy - we just fixed it. You have to be careful Girl - I’m even tired of using the phone. My mates are using iPhone 11. I want one. Guy - ok. How much do you have let me support? Girl - N32k
Day 65:
(Guy finally buys iPhone 11 for girl)
Girl - Thanks baby. I love the phone. Guy - You’re welcome, my love. I love you. Girl - I love you too. (After a round of sex) Girl - baby what are you getting me for my birthday next week?
Day 71: (1 day after Girl’s birthday)
Girl - baby, thank you for the cake and the dinner yesterday. Guy - You’re welcome. Girl - but you didn’t buy me a birthday gift Guy - I got you an iPhone 11 last week. Girl - it’s not a birthday gift. You are too greedy. My ex bought me a birthday gift. Guy - How am I greedy? I got you an iPhone 11, a birthday cake and paid for a dinner for you and your friends. Girl - so you’re counting everything you’ve done for me. Guy - that’s not the point. Girl - I want a break from this relationship
Day 85:
(Relationship on break. Guy misses girl and wants to make it up to her so he shows up at her place unannounced and sees another guy wearing boxer in girl’s house. Other guy introduces himself as her boyfriend and says girl went to the market. Guy walks back into his car and cries like a baby. Then calls girl on phone)
Guy - hello, babe. I came to your house and I met some guy who says he’s your boyfriend. So this is what you’ve been doing to me? Because we had a small misunderstanding. You’re cheating on me. Girl - I’m sorry but you pushed me to him. You stopped caring about me. Guy - How did I push you to him? Girl - You took a break from me Guy - babe, you asked for the break Girl - so if I asked you to put your hand inside fire, you will put your hand. Guy - babe, you were upset and asked for a break and I respected your request. Should I have fought you? Girl - If you loved me, you would have fought for me. Guy - It’s fine. I guess this relationship is over. I wish you the best. Girl - Don’t call my number again Guy - It’s fine. I won’t. I’m just disappointed that after everything I’ve done for you, you can treat me this way. Girl - what did you do for me? (This is a trap to get you to list things that you did so she can say you always list things that you did) Guy - really? So I did nothing? Girl - is it IPhone you want to call? I can buy it for myself
Day 105:
(Girl has broken up with new guy, is now missing guy. Actually, her eye don clear. Picks up phone) Girl - hello, babe it’s me. Guy - hi dear. How have you been? So happy to hear from you. Girl - I’m fine. How are you? Just wanted to check on you. Long time. Guy - you’ve done well. I’m fine � Girl- I miss you ☹️ Guy - I miss you too. Girl - Can we have a sit down and talk? I can come to the house. Guy - Oh let’s meet somewhere else. My wife is at home. Girl - wait. You’re married? So all these while you’ve been deceiving me while you had another woman you wanted to marry? Guy - no, I actually met her one day after our break up (day 86) and in 15 days (day 101) we got married. I didn’t cheat on you or deceive you. Girl - It’s not possible. You lied to me. Guy - babe, you’re the one I caught cheating Girl - So are you saying I wasn’t good enough for you in 85 days but she was good enough in 15 days? Guy - Well, she was more ready to settle down. Girl - So what do you want from me? Why are you talking to me? Guy - You’re the one who called me oh. Girl - (hangs up, deletes and blocks guys number and social media everywhere)
Day 106:
(Girl is now a feminist (misandrist), posts on Facebook)
“Menaskum”.
What simps go through every week. At all cost, avoid the typical Nigerian girl.
When businesses under government regulations are suffering. Now you want to add churches as well and appoint northerners as their God to direct their finances.
Sometimes I wonder why I was born in this country. If it was in a country with sensible leaders it would have been okay. But here, it's full of corrupt leaders. Now corruption would even enter the church? God forbid!!!
GLYCOLYSISS: I got to know TRP the ruthless and hard way ,guys. Damnit ! I wish I knew them when I was like 10 years of age,it would have saved me lots of emotions and drama. I just SMH when I see guys trying to argue or convince some men about TRP, don't expend your energy doing that. Accepting the redpill truth,despite it's staring you right in the face,is one of the toughest thing out there. Coming to term that the girl you can take bullet for , don't actually love you in the sense you're being taught all your life is tough to agree to that. Learning that all the things you have being taught since childhood about women is a lie ,it just tough to accept. Learning about the hypergamous nature of women ,it literally kill all your desire to treat them as the angels and princesses you thought they are. Learning about the female dual mating strategy makes it one hell of a task to take women in their late twenties serious, especially pertaining to marriage and serious commitment. Just learning anything about redpill is a huge threat to everything you strongly believed in and what society taught you. I don't hate men and women that ridicule the redpill message,I feel their pains. Coming to term you have been fooled all your life ? Damnit ! I hated everything redpill then,because I perceived it as a threat to "do the right thing" I have grown up to believe. I'm still in the anger phase guys,I feel it in my veins, blood and bone, primary reason I took a step back to absorb the redpill knowledge. Thanks for everyone that got the balls to expose men to the nature of the women they have being dealing with all their life,I genuinely appreciate from the bottom of my heart. I have being going through these books ( PDF) ever since I got disillusioned of the female nature; The Rational male (1-3 ),The myth of male power,the power of pussy ( a book though for female,but will expose a guy to trick women play in regard to their most precious asset ),the manipulated man,No more Mr nice guy ( a basic on these journey) ,the selfish Gene etc. You got any you could still recommend for me ? Got loads of redpill Twitter handles I have been keeping up to date with,they are bomb guys. Once more ,thanks to everyone that made it a duty to spread the redpill message.
I wish men out there will genuinely just take a look at these rabbit hole and see how deep it goes...
Kindly share some of those twitter handles with me. Remarkably, the redpoll has been helpful with my side businesses and work. More importantly, it has helped to filter the kinds of people I allow into my life.
YorubaKinging: First of all, you are already crazy because of the way you dress , and your songs are meaningless just like a crazy woman
Secondly, I know Trump was chosen to bring the downfall of the great America, so trump is going to win .
And lastly, if trump wins, hes not gonna end his tenure because he's going to die in office from a strange illness
Why would you wish the death of another man who has his own family? Don't you have a family? You can express your grievances. But wishing him death shows how depraved your mind is. It's a shame that you're Yoruba man.
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It's rampant in Nigeria too. If you just bend down or for any reason I see a waist bead, I no longer see fashion or an attempt to watch your weight. I ghost you immediately and make sure we're just far away friends.
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