UDUJ:
The next thing now in your rage you will accuse the innocent guy of rape. Rubbish

igwegeorgiano:
Being in a relationship with a destination on one's mind is a beautiful thing considering the joy of having the right partner in your world to make things happen. Am beginning to have a rethink about my present relationship with the most ungrateful of all ingrates of a lady on the planet earth.

Am presently in a relationship with a lady from the eastern part of Nigeria while I am from the south-south. We met over five months ago and within this short period I have spent well over 7million naira on this lady setting up a boutique biz for her getting her a befitting accommodation tastefully furnished and many more goodies to ensure she is comfortable including a car.

I don't want to bore us with other issues that cropped up which actually prompted me to share my experiences with this ingrate of a woman. I work so smart for my money as a certified mariner and I made my money from every available legit means am very comfortable to a very large extent but true love and affection is missing.

I went into a relationship with the sole aim of settling down with my woman whom I have done so much for. Just last night she called me and requested I assist her with with 500k to take care of some personal issues I agreed to give her the money but unfortunately I was able to raise 250k which I sent to her. Just few minutes ago she called to tell me that am a very stingy man. She told me I can't take care of her needs, yet I want to marry her. My people, am confused right now because I can't imagined myself going into marriage with this lady.

I have decided to relaxed any form of assistance to her henceforth so I can take my time to assess the situation of things in my relationship with her.

Funkyswagzz:
This morning I was talking about this girl that I met new to my friend.. how nice she was to me and all that so I just decided to call her and check on her. Next thing this girl busy my call. I called her 3 times to confirm if this was a joke and she repeated same thing. I now went to her WhatsApp to drop a msg and she was online. As I was trying to find out what was goin on this girl started insulting me for no reason... idiot, fool, he goat, she goat and what not.

So what caught my attention was when she said she regret not charging me for the sex we had. And when I said u shud have told me u are a hooker this girl started threatening me that she will come to my shop and deal with me and all that. I knew what caused all these things is because she's broke and have absolutely doing. She even lied to her mum shes goin to help her sister at her work place.

Guys I have never insulted this girl for once or declined her request when she asked me for money. As in never in my life seen this kind of attitude. How do i calm her down? Do I ask her to send me her I account number to send her money? I have never seen some broke and idle girl behave in such manner. It was a real shock to me. I know her next move is to go into street runs and I don't want that. Even if we won't date I just wan2 help this girl cos she's truly a nice person.

selemempe:
yes but men don't obsess about women of a particular demographic without reason. Did I do a survey? No. But you don't need a survey for certain things. For instance you don't need a survey to know that there is bad blood between igbos and yorubas

Deduks:
Please help Me, I need how to settle this with my fiancee. I can't seem to forgive myself for laying my hands on her as this is my first time of ever hiting a girl in my life. We've been on logger head of who is at fault and who will be the first to appologise but I felt betrayed and embarassed by her cos I love her so much.
We've been dating for over 7months and I've made my intentions open to her about settling down with her and she accepted.
Things took another turn in our relationship since last week of June. I'm a sales person in one of the companies in lagos and I have a client (a lady) I've pursuing to market my product to but have not been able to get an appointment with her. It happens that last week I called her (my client) and she told me she didn't go to work that day but if I want to see her it will be outside her office by 5pm. I obliged, and she sent me the address of the place where I will meet with her which is at a bar in one of the hotels on the island which happens to be near to where I reside.
The thing now is that I called my fiancee to notify her of my appointment with the said lady since its in the evening which means I will be coming back home late but her number did not go through may be due to network but I sent her a text which I know must deliver.
To cut the long story short, during the meeting with the lady at the hotel, to my authmost shock or will I call it coincidence I saw my fiancee at the other end of the bar with a guy. I couldn't believe my eyes so I had to call her phone and she picked and I told her to turn around from where she's seated which she did.
I didn't even believe what happened next as she stood up and rushed me at my table and started harassing and embarrassing me that I came to a hotel with a lady that I'm cheating on her. I was so astoned as I stood up and grabbed her to calm her down. I asked her what she was doing there with a man but she wasn't even listening to me. I told her I called her but her number didn't connect and I sent her a text but obviously she didn't see the text cos her phone must have been on silent cos she has been with a guy. She kept on acting crazy there and I had to slap her very hard cos she was acting creazily and embarrassing me and my client and also not answering my question of what she was doing there. While this was hapening, my client just left me and walked away which I don't blame her. I had to bolt out immediately too cos I couldn't stand the heart break and embarrassment.
The next day I received an sms from my fiancee still accusing me and saying that the man is her cousin who came to the house that day but they decided to go out to relax.
I later found out that the guy was her cousin who I'm yet to meet but the point now, is how could she act creazily like that the other day embarrassing me and my client and accusing me too.
We've not spoken for like 4days now looking for who will be the first person to appologise.
the thing is I love this girl and wouldn't want to loose her. But I didn't do anything bad to appologise cos I sent her a text to intimate her of my where about but she didn't tell me where she was going to.
Should I be the one to appologise to cos I was really embarrased that day or should I wait for her to do so cos she's at fault her from my own judgment.
Kindly advice me cos I've been loosing my mind since.

jerryfemi88:
Bybro from experience take ur stand before u marry her, what ever u cant take after marriage dont accept it now,she is bossy and wants to always be incharge im married and im suffering that right now ,trying hard to correct but its not easy ,u can apologise for d slap because realmen dont hit women ,but do it in a very matured way ,by letting her know she was at fault by those behaviours she exibited.

scrolldown88:
So it's ok to refer to the white woman as "bitch" but it's not ok to call the black lady nigga. Smh.

Black people have taken this too far. They have turned around to become exactly what they conderm, and the worst is, they don't even know it yet.

ibkonekt:


you really should understand before insulting.
what it means is this. (note that this is from a Woman's point of view)
lets say men are rated on a scale 1 to 10, (range 8-10 equals being high value men (6 feet tall and above, anything below 6ft is short, handsome, weathly, high social status, offer protection, respected in society, famous etc) these are what 80% of women in society today are all struggling for. in essensce most women want the same set of guy, this is called "HYPERGAMY" and it is out of control, women have this mentality of never settle, you go girl, chase your dream. but they keep dreaming until they are 50years, childless, single and miserable.

(Range 7-10) these men are effectively unable to get a young, pretty girl for marriage or long term relationship because of her hypergamy on overdrive thanks to feminism, in essence this man is invisible to 80% of women.

the end result however is that most women end up being passed around like Garden tools having slept around in their most beautiful years, then when their beauty starts to deteriorate they now lower their standards and attempt to offer fairly used to a SIMP, While the ignorant man that has been ignore most of his life will think he is getting a top lady

post=91077113:
I hope she remembered his tribe to mention

Remon Olorunwa Abbas

World highest fraudster

ebuka10box:
I see y'all as family, this forum has helped me a lot so I don't mind airing my problems. I'm a graduate, got no job and things haven't been really good with me this year due to the pandemic. Lotta insults from family and friends ,Lotta you know when you don't have money you don't have a say even IN family. I haven't slept with a prostitute until this year May, I really got depressed and that led me to that. I'm not proud of it but Its now becoming an addiction and done stuff like that 3 times. How can I get peace within?? Really gotta stop visiting brothels cause I don't like the idea of paying for sex and it's immoral. I wanna stop before it goes out of hand

SweetCunt97:
A broke lady cannot be a man's help meet? Was ur mom financially independent when she met ur dad? Didn't she support him to where he is? The term shouldn't be broke but lazy... Lazy, and entitled ladies should b avoided. Some are broke but willing to put in d work to grow.

Bellaqueee:
These are the problems we have with men that don't know what dey want

Iceyjayz:
Spot on!

I'm dating a south African girl currently and she's the epitome of everything a man wants in a woman, she told me herself that she doesn't depend on men for anything unless if I feel like spending on her, I swear since I started dating her, I've had alot of peace of mind and I've added more weight, being with her is the best thing on earth.

MuttleyLaff:
Business strategy be this. Better to close shop until trade picks up properly, than open it and be wasting air-conditioning, electricity/power/diesel et cetera on scanty pews.

covid2019:
As noted elsewhere in my previous thread: https://www.nairaland.com/5829221/build-small-house-now-keep, I have been seriously considering building a house, but after a few inquiries and inspections, I discovered that I could only afford a land and build in remote area in my state.

The effect is that my neighbours and everyone in my vicinity will be of low income or lower middle class. This effect is seen in churches, schools etc around there too.

Personally, I don't care about this but my elder brother will not allow me to rest. According to him, "Nigga, you like village too much, leave that place," he is of the opinion that I should even leave the state entirely-- he is New York based anyway.

NOW, these thoughts have been in my subconscious mind, having subliminal effects on me.

Considering, that this great forum has people from all walks of life, I have decided to bring this issue here: TO WHAT EXTENT DOES ONE'S RESIDENT ENVIRONMENT AFFECT HIM especially with regard to finance.

Should I forget about building now-- since I can only afford to build in a remote area now-- and rent in a highbrow, upscale area?

What are the advantages or disadvantages of living among the rich.


Thanks.

Shoodboi:
I am so pissed off right now.

I wasn’t angry when I broke the card. I just wanted to make sure that:

i. I will not be able to use the card or account anymore.

ii. I will be forced to open a new regular bank account.


The Story (in brief)

I suffered a failed POS transaction yesterday.

I sent Wema ALAT a mail and they are yet to reply as of now (almost 24 hours later).

I called them this morning and listened to a recorded message about how my call may be delayed because of COVID-19. I quickly cut the call. Their customer wasn’t effective before the virus came along, so I wonder what to expect now.

I later visited their bank and the customer care rep told me the transaction will be reversed within 14 days, if they were sure that I was really unable to withdraw the money.

14 days? Why is this so?

The money doesn’t even belong to me and the owner is very angry with me right now. Someone sent it to her and she wanted to use someone else's account to receive it, but I convinced her to use me—and then this happened.

Worse, she needs it for feeding and I don't have any money to give her. (She wasn’t paying me for the service in case you’re wondering.)

I suffered the same thing in the hands of GTB. (Their regular customer service email complaints@gtbank.com isn't even working anymore.)

In fact, I opened a WEMA Alat account because of GTB’s failures. I thought Alat will be better since they marketed themselves as a “Digital Bank”, but it appears that I was wrong. They are “digital” in name only.

This should be the third or fourth time WEMA Alat is doing this sort of nonsense to me. And that is without counting the failed mobile and POS transfers.

I am actually not concerned about GTB’s and Wema’s failures. I just hate their terrible customer service.

Failed transactions are one thing. I actually consider them normal. However, poor customer service and unwillingness to quickly solve failed online transactions aren’t. And this is unfortunately common with most banks and businesses in this country.

Now, I’ve have made the decision to stop going cashless. I will start moving around with cash henceforth. I’m sick and tired of all these failed POS transactions and sluggish customer service reps.

I know I will still do some online transactions but that will be occasionally (online shopping, international payments, etc.)

That said, I want you all to answer these two questions:

1. Which bank is reliable for online transactions?

2. Which bank has the most effective customer care service in this country?

I’m thinking of opening a Union bank account since I can see they have revamped their business, but I don't want to jump into conclusions as I did with Alat.

Could you all help me out?

P.S. Please UBA and Skye (if this one still exists) are out of the equation. I used them in the past and can confidently say they are terrible. They steal money.

I don’t want Access bank too. I’ve never read anything good about them. They and fraud are relatives. I don’t want Diamond bank either since they are the new owners of Access bank.

So, any suggestions?

Vyzz:
This is a question for rapist not men
Its time u stop this insult
Stop being a sexist

Weebo:
Here OP i did something to your question, now read it and comprehend how your statement generalises pointlessly.

Seeing murder cases across the world, and some insensitive comments of people online after the murder done by Whites on blacks. My curiosity has been largely aroused. I just need some thoughts of other people on this matter.
For White People :
They are logical being. Capable of thinking and anticipating. Yes there desire and emotion might overwhelm them. But their sense would always weigh their options no matter how emotional they get.
They know three things could happen if they murder:
1. It could get them jailed for 21 years or more.
2. When they kill their victim their conscience anputs them at a risk of getting arraigned for murder, and ultimately death.
3. People must have known their name or face. Neither should they recognise him during the act. Thus, they have to either leave the city, their vicinity or ensure there's nothing they can use to recognise them. Which is a massive headache.
Thus, why in the world would they still proceed to murder black people?
Are these acclaimed reasons even feasible:
1. The victim would have ended up killing someone else if I didn't kill him.
2. The victim is a drug dealer.
3. The victim would have easily been killed by someone else of his own race.
4. The victim would be dead after they kill him and no one can trace him. Which proves that the they have to be a criminal.
5. Even when reported, they have enough connections to get away with it.
6. My excuse is that he is a gangbanger
7. My excuse is that he lives on free government pay while i work my ass off and pay taxes.
Knowing that these seven reasons cannot override the three consequences above, why exactly do you think that white people would still choose to kill black people?
Please contribute. I feel dumbfounded about this.
Thanks.

StrikeBack:
A Real pastor cannot be killed by herdsmen
He is a fake pastor
Rip. Sir and ma






Denique