booqee: why can't u guys simply pray to God once and for all, instead of mary who would then intercede for you?? Where is it in ur bible dat God said pray to mary before He can answer ur prayers?? If there's any intercessor it is our Lord Jesus Christ. I pray God open u pple's eyes o..
I pray to God straight..in the name of Jesus and he answers my prayers..he's not an incapable God that he'll need one mary to intercede for me mehn!

busolayemi: A frd of mine needs moni to push up his business...he's askin me if he can borrow from his MIL...dunno wat to advise him o...wat ya fink?

stainless40: I'm right now in a pains. In a relationship with someone whom i cherished so much. Since i started my relationship with him i had never talk to or visited any other man in the name of girlfriend, boyfriend relationship. Was hooked with this man LATE in the year 2009 and was loyal to him up till date. He take care of me and i also try all my possible best to be a good girl. Late last year,everything wasn't the same again. I can no longer see that lovely and caring man he used to be. There is nothing about me that pleases him any more. We continue managing ourselve up till this year but to be sincere i don't understand his movements again. Can't even tell my stands in his life again. I am so so confused ,always crying my eyes out because of this man. Have checked myself but saw nothing or where i have done wrong to him. All he can do now is looking for where to see fault in me. My heart is over loaded with pains and unhappiness. Don't just know if this is how true love works.

osram: Which one would u manage to live without?
1) 3months without sex
2) 3months without your phone?
3) 3 months without alcohol
4) 3 months without money
5) 3 months without eating your favourite food
#be honest

ifyalways: OP,so did her parents give you their permission to take their daughter to another person or start acting as her guardian?
Do you know that without her parents consent,her current madam and anyone can have you arrested for child trafficking and kidnap?

Do good but do it right.Invite the girls parents to come remove their child from the current place then offer any help afterwards.
Im assuming this is not a new office,you know,crime syndicate looking for who to involve and implicate.

Goodluck to you . . .and the girl.
if you are in Lagos,you can report the girls case to the office of the Public defender,Alausa or Ojuelegba.

striktlymi: Good day nicky,

I believe enilove has a point there. I am also of the view that it would be wrong to "ship" this little girl off to some "knight in shiny armour" without some background check, even when such persons come with the best of intentions.

If you can't get someone you know and can relatively trust then I suggest you get the 'social service' involved. I am not sure whether the goverment has one but I believe there are some private initiatives that might be ready to take up the case of this young girl provided that your fears are genuine.

If the above approach does not work out and you hopefully get someone online, I will suggest you have some criteria for screening people. I believe firmly that the parents MUST be involved in any process you come up with. Remember that the needs and well-being of this young girl are paramount.


Thank you!

enilove: Why dont you take het to a God believing Church,they might hepl her,even with her education.She will also know more about God.
If she gets inpregnated where she will be taking to,your kindness may backfire on you.
A church is a better idea.You do not know who is who.
The bible says the heart of a man is deceitful above all things,and despirately wicked: who can know it.

Please do not give what you do not have to who you do not know.
The church is a better option.There wickedness everywhere.

Reyginus: Good Morning.
I admire your compassion towards the little girl. I would have done same if I have the capacity to. Another thing I'd like you to ask her is if the girl will be willing to leave her guardian and also whether the guardian is willing to let her go. The consent of her parents too.
Thank you.:-)

striktlymi:

Well nicky, there is no need to thank me!

What about the relatives? Sorry but before I can assist in my own very smal way, I need to know what the needs of this lady are.

I don't think a job is part of what she needs now and if she has a "madam" who looks after her, why then does she need help?

How come a young girl of 13 whose parents are in the village end up with this lady who you believe is not taken proper care of her?

Sorry. For the questions but I do need to understand!


Thank you!

DaDewdropsNVS: Typical Nigerian WICKED madam!!!!
Cursed by Satan.
Sorry, I have no business in WESTERN Nigeria. . . . . . .Lagos included!
The house-help may have turned to a witch from all that BOOZUM-PUNCHING TOURNAMENT. Abeg carry go! I dun wan witches around my family. Thank you!

ifyalways: Re-phrase your story please.
Who blows whose b.reasts?where is the girl from?where are her parents?
Is being a househelp the only option for her?

striktlymi: Good morning nicky,

You seem like a lady with a very big heart and I admire you for that but my ish is, why is this little girl not with her parents or any of her relatives?

If indeed it is impractical for her to be with the parents or relatives, is it compulsory that she works? I am of the view that she needs to focus on her schooling rather than being made to work.

Who is taken care of her school fees for now? Is it your brother's friend or someone else? I will really like to assist this lady but there are things I need to understand about this young girl's situation.

Thank you!

Ozegbe: I never wanted to post this for a very long time, but I couldn't just bear it today when I came back from church...

my aunty is married to this igbo guy who didn't go to school but has money. he has been working with chevron for 15 years and has a lot of business in Lagos. with the kind of money he has he can get a loving wife his heart desire, but he choose to stay with my aunty (she is beautiful and big,very very fair). I know igbo people like very fair and big ladies, but my aunty treats him like a slave and the guy dey annoy me. my aunty is actually the man of the house, why he is not not even the woman, he his like the house girl. my aunty is a very strong Christian who goes to church almost every day. I know her to the core, so the question of juju no even dey at all. my aunty taught him many things he knows today, like how to dress and go outing, all that stuff associated with big boys. he has money but behaves like a local village boy, maybe because he is always under the sea.

what kinda love is this? they have been living like this for many years, the guy family have tried to talk to him that this is not his wife but he won't listen. though she is my aunt, but I don't like the way he treats the guy. I use to stay with them. I just recently visited them and stayed a week and nothing has changed from what every body knows. the thing that baffles me is the fact that she is a very devoted Christian, a leader in her house fellowship. she is very friendly, kind and extremely generous. she plays a lot with people except the husband...

IMO I think she likes the guy money but not him. I

I just couldn't help it today when she was talking to the guy like a child and that one just sit down like mumu dey look outside. seriously I was ashamed. she can't even talk to me that way, I will rebuke her immediately...

so nairalanders what do you think about this.....is there anything I can do?

onyenro: Hi naja peeps. Just need ur advice. I am a young enterprising guy, the only son and i think i am ready to tie the knots but the issue is that my past girl friends leave me without a word and later wish to come back. Two of this just happend in the last two years. Of course, i dont let them in. Right now, i have given up searching to my mum to do it.... What do you think? Is it totally wise? What are the advantages and demerits of this form of mate searching? Thanks

nlmonpoint: Ayomipo Oriade is ma name,"I met my love and my heart long time ago and I have ever since then been so loving, caring and faithful. In fact I am deeply in love with her BUT lately say since the past 3 yrs, she had been soo demanding. Now she is demanding I build a house in her own NAME b4 marriage ? Though, I am a rich Guy and I have never really shown it to her how much my riches worth, not omo baba olowo o buh self struggle and strong hustle made me ok. Ladies and Gentle men of Nigeria, the challenge now is I am yet to build n complete a house of my taste own taste, my baby has put me on a race to build NOT even buy a house worth not less than a hundred million. I made a vow though secretly on ma own that I won't leave her no matter any storm/hindrance and I never confessed such a vow in2 her ears. The p now is I don't have such an amount to build a house in her name and she is treathning not to marry me. What can I or should I do because I don't wanna lose her in fact, I can't leave her cos she get package too baaad. Pls advice me and God Bless !!!" You may send me a mail via freeminded_guy@yahoo.com if you think your advise is confidential !

Sweetlemon: Ok. This is how it all went.
I arrived there Friday evening. Was welcomed by grandparents, parents, and siblings with smiling faces but questions dancing in their eyes.
Dinner was served and everyone from grandpa to the last born had questions for me. E remain small I for piss for pant. I answered the questions truthfully and to the best of my knowledge.
By Saturday, his sisters were complimenting my fashion sense and asking for tips!
Had a woman-woman talk with grandma and mama. They said they were relieved they could see that I loved their boy (thanks to those who advised me to show my feelings for him) then had some other private discussions.
Spent the rest of the evening on a couch with him till 2am then we went to our separate bedrooms. (whatever you guys are thinking we did, remove sex from ya minds! But I don’t know how much longer I will keep saying that o!)
Went with the family to church Sunday morning. Then grandma and mama asked me to prepare Afang soup to add to the dishes for the family reunion that evening. Then his cousins, aunties, and uncles started trooping in……….and so did my sister, brother and cousins! Before I knew what was happening, he held my hands and in the presence of all, with the most beautiful piece of jewelry I have ever seen, explained why he wanted to settle with me and asked if he could buy the bed from my dad. I could only nod my head, just regained my speech this morning.
Our parents should be negotiating on the price of the bed and when the bed can be bought soon.

Sweetlemon:

LMAO!
Yes o! He proposed yesterday. As in he asked me if he could come buy the bed from my father!

binger: Your command of the English language intrigues me...pardon my curiosity,what kinda job did u get in V.I??

Koolking: You stay and reap what you sow. You owe her. I keep advising people, don't make promises you can't keep, especially if it's to get in between a woman's thighs - they will hunt you down.

Your lingering ex is the offshoot of your past.

dmcdad: Gosh!!! This is f**king unbelievable... Permit me to presume that you are either immature, inexperience or ignorant of the nitty-gritties for going into a relationship and/or marriage.

It's alarming to note that, at this stage of your life, you don't really know what you want out of a relationship (don't even talk about marriage, because with this thread you put up, it shows you sure don't know anything about that) and as such, anything goes for you (beauty & general appearance). Don't get me wrong, there is nothing bad in getting to date a beautiful lady, but you need to set your priority straight. Beauty and the likes are wonderful attributes, but they are secondary in consideration whenever you wanna talk about matters of the heart (love and relationship). What you should be more mindful of is the inner qualities latent in a person. What does the bible say about a virtuous woman? That she is beyond the price of pearl(not about the physical appearance, but the attributes that are more than just the eyes meet. One like that will definitely make you live longer.

The truth of the matter is, beauty fades. It's just a matter of time. You can peruse through 2sexy's thread (my ex is dying of frustration). In the thread he highlighted the fact that, he couldn't even look at his ex gurl eyeball-to-eyeball. Why? Because the beauty of then, was gone. She was looking older, with pimples all over her face blah blah blah...

It also shows that you never liked the gurl in question. So, my humble advice is that, don't ever rush into anything with anyone if you don't really feel the spark, and when you do feel the spark, nurture it until it becomes fully blown. One other thing you must also take cognizance of is that, you should work thoroughly on yourself so that you would always be contented with whomever you are with, irrespective of the person's beauty, because you will always come across someone (if not people) that are more beautiful and physically endowed with everything you might crave for in a woman. I gave this advice to my elder brother sometime ago, that he should choose someone and stick with the person for the right reasons, instead of trying to get every beauty he sees around, and today he is a changed man and a very committed individual.

In a nutshell, go into a relationship for the right reason and with the right person, and be ok with the person's physical appearance. Beauty is good, but it shouldn't be the sole requirement for going into a relationship, there are more things worth considering than meets the eye.

Take care and goodluck

Shi2: Baby, am a hungry dog hunting for such type of baby.
Glory be 2 God. Where can we see?

Plzzz let have you mail or phone no. I will get in touch.
I cant wet to see that day……

hala me on my email if U are OK with it.
gurutype1@yahoo.com.

Love U baby.

ife01: I am the yound cute guy you are looking for.
You didn't have to make this post before you find me, I have always been there for you but you failed to call me when you needed me most.
I am Farouk by name, some call me Lawan, I know I have all the characteristics you want in a man and I will not only help you to take some busy schedule of yours off your system - I will assist in reliefing you of your power.
Kindly mail me and lets get rocking.
PS: attached is my pix for your viewing