ayde: Lolz @ op's story.. , na JJC things jare.

Lagos life is just too hectic and stressful. Lived half of my life in Abuja and had to relocate to Lagos on job and marriage basis but 2years down the line and I'm still not used to the life here and have refused to get used to it!

How Lagosians live sanely in this insane enviroment, I still don't get it .

Efemena_xy:

My dear, it shouldn't matter jor. Forget people's general perception of living in the village.

Trust me, I prefer village life. The pace of life there is sooooooo leisurely slow, peaceful and the air free of pollutants.

If you've got the money, setting up in the village is akin to living in the countryside or better still, paradise on earth jare.

yellowpawpaw: I hate lagos with passion!
Will prefer to stay in ibadan and the neboring cities than lagos.
The pple r very harsh, public transport is a nightmare, everybody is always ready to shout any minute.
Too much stress.
U hardly get fresh (I mean fresh fruits) in Lagsidi. C the bananas, they r just not like the bananas I used to know.
Agberos everywhere.
Infact, I still don't know how pple manage everyday for that city.
The only hangout places r shoprites and that useless barbeach(one corner is brothel huts), another corner for cele pple.
No where to take kids to.
A city where one will prefer to leave his car in his house and enter public transport.
Overhyped city.

ileobatojo:

No, didnt think it was the pushing either. Pretty sure it was some leg bone from you jumping in fear out of a moving bus.

Efemena_xy:

Yeah



Now that's funny!

Chillisauce: OP, very funny sh1t! Sorry o.

Lagos is one crazy place I don't like visiting. Most ppl are very harsh there. The environment is not friendly at all. Public TP is worse off. You just have to be extremely careful and smart. If you survive in lagos, you can survive anywhere.

ileobatojo: Lol OP, funny story! The fear of Lagos is the beginning of wisdom...or foolishness, depending on how you look at it.

You were indoors for a whole month? You probably broke a bone with those your James Bond moves! Sorry dear

Efemena_xy:

Tell me something: did you write that piece up there as an entertainment, fictional piece? Or just to recount what happened to you?

If the former is the case, then take my comments as a bit of constructive criticism on how to improve your writing. If the latter is the case, then just ignore my comments.

Johnklein: thats just wat misconception abt lagos causes..
@op pls frm which city or village were u comin frm?

Efemena_xy:

Yeah I got the message after reading through your post - but I read through your post expecting something entirely different (as I'm sure other readers will to).

Bottom line is, you leave your readers suspended, expecting something entirely different to have happened. Your present ending falls short of expectation and the anti-climax is a poor let-down.

Efemena_xy: I don't get it.

The title of your thread doesn't correlate with your post!

Your first time of what??

thorpido: It wouldn't make any difference if your dad is like me.I had to lap a matured girl one day who happens to be a neighbor.She's like a younger sis and I didn't feel a thing.I wonder why it's such a big deal for one's daughter.

dommfa:

Poster, do not mind anyone telling you it is right for your uncle to bring his wife's blouse to you to wash. She wasn't sick, and even if she was, its your uncle's duty, not yours. Same people would not even wash their own mother inlaw's wrapper. They have failed to read the part you said you have been 'serving' them for years doing other chores, but just because you chose not to wash your uncle's wife's blouse, you have become arrogant and ungrateful. If eating her food gives him the right to hand over her blouse to you, then its better you stopped.

I have a very close friend in this situation you described, and if not because I'm 100% sure he doesn't even know nl exists plus the little twist to your story, I could have sworn it was him. This dude stayed with his uncle for 12years before he got married. He stayed with them throughout his service year as their 'houseboy' till he got a job. He decided to still stay with his uncle for some time till he sorts himself out to raise enough money for an apartment. His parents stay outside that city. There is no chore he has not done in that house just because they are housing him

He cooks the food they eat, washes dishes, cleans n mop the whole house, washes the uncle's undies, their cars, scrubs their bathroom, run errands, like buying roadside akara n moimoi for their own consumption alone, grinding pepper, changing their sheets n laying their bed. What does the uncle do? Nothing! The wife, all she does is to babysit. Baby is close to 2yrs btw. If he goes to his parents for 3days, he'll come back to their house to meet accumulated dishes of 3days, n soaked undies waiting for him. He got bk from work one day and the uncle told him to go n prepare food for his wife cos she's on her way n has called that she's hungry. He set out for an event just last week saturday and his uncle called him on phone to come back home and clear dishes ; the plates he and his wife used for breakfast. cos his wife wants to cook lunch. Dude never complained and he has also stopped eating at home for months cos he got tired of cooking for them, and whenever wife cooked, she left him out. That still hasn't stopped him from washing their piled up plates. He also once saw the wife's clothing while washing his uncle's and he kept it aside.

He endured it all in silence but loathes his uncle n wife so much. He's moving out next month never to step his foot in their house or have anything to do with them anymore. The treatment has been that bad. He thought he was helping out rightfully too, but he overdid it and they took advantage of him.

Op, I don't know why you allowed your uncle talk you into paying for the 2bedroom flat, you should have stuck to your own initial 1room. Move out to a cheaper accomodation once your rent expires and be independent. Also, learn from the experience, treat people right.

From different experiences around me, Living with a relative for a long period of time should be avoided at all cost. It usually turns out to be a nightmare, a very ugly one.

yellowpawpaw:
The truth is finally out from ur mouth yet u still want to justify ur yeyecious outburst by all means possible isn't it?


And yes he has the right to bring his wife's clothes for him to wash cos he is under their roof.
If the poster doesn't like it, nothing stops him from communicating to his uncle in a respectful manner than storming away after boldly telling him no.it didn't end there, for close to 2 yrs he stopd eating in the same house he is living and u r calling white blue?
If he don't want to eat and enjoy normal family life with them, why didn't he pack out as soon as he got d job?
Why rubbing it on his face?

bellong:

Which manual outlined such duties of the wife?

YOMITEWIN: I can't blame u, cos u were not in my shoes, Incase u dnt know, when all dis happened, am still busy searching 4 work. If he asked me to leave his house I will definetly leave. My mom doesn't know all dis tins are happening, evrytime she ask me yomi are u ok! I wil tell her yea am fine! Am not an arrogant person, walking out of my uncles doesn't shows am arrogant. I guess u nid 2 check d word arrogant very well on ur dico

yellowpawpaw:
U can write ur trash for all I care, but poster has a pride issue for walking out on his uncle. I hope if someone younger does that to him, he will not grumble.
It is very disrespectful of him whether its the wife's cloth that caused it or not.

The rest of the story, not my biz.
Everybody is entitled to his or her opinion, u don't like mine, I don't blooooody care.

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