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I feel very comfortable with it, because it's not condition, just my personal choice. Yes i have been betrayed by friends, boyfriend and all, most times, there's peace just being by yourself but i know sometimes, there is no just reason when there is an event and i dont go but still i end up not going, i may feel guilty i mossed the event but that is about it. maybe there is a reason, maybe i am hurt or something but for now most times, i like my me time a lot. Who says it is compulsory pr necessary to always be out up and going with friends. I have a whole lot of them but most times i find myself not answering their calls all the time or looking for excuses so i dont hang out or something. just stay , watch tv, then when i feel so bored, i could go out. my brothers r complete extrovert is that y i should be compared to them?

Same with me, even if the first is guaranteed not to ever cheat, what kind of life would i be living with him. no spice, nothing, just "i love you" and sweet words, that's it?

Treetop20:
what is wrong with that?
i don't see anything wrong with that lifestyle at all

Thank you. they make it seem like i am just i dont even know what to say. when i have things to do, i do,school is not in session now, so what else? aside work, friends and all,just be indoors and watch tv,

Hollysmile:
I understand where ur mam is comin from. It's not basically about u going out, but about u not bein socially retarded.
Don't think it's o.k bein indoors 24/7. think of places and good friends of urs dat u find fun going out wit, and Go Get It!
Gal, u need a new lesson. Don't be a jerk!

But what if that is what I prefer and sometimes we need time to ourselves, isn' t it? I love going out but at times or most times, i need my me time. I might be having problems that i need to get over with and be by myself, instead of showing concern, it's like even making me feel worse. I don't think i am anti-social but i like being mostly indoors by myself without getting bored or lonely.

A guy that is very caring, sweet, non cheat but very boring, kisses your feet all the time and no spice
                                       
                                                                   OR

A guy that tells you when you are wrong or right, does not kiss your feet all the time, interesting, capable of cheating, but you enjoy being with all the time??

~Sissy~:
i don't think you are anti social you are an introvert person just like your brothers are extrovert. and there is nothing wrong with being an introvert person. everyone is different, so are you.

mbola:
There's nothing wrong with you girl. It's not as if you dont go out at all.

Yes i go out when i want to but much less than i'm indoors. my parents especially my mother makes it seem like something else making me uncomfortable around her.

tpiah:
more people are keeping to themselves these days for various reasons, including the lack of privacy and invasion of personal space which is very common abroad where every tom, d*ck and harry is all up in your personal business.

However, it could be a phase.

Easy internet access doesnt always help matters, I'm afraid. if you're not careful you get used to being either on the computer or staring at the tv for a good part of the day- time that could better be used resting or doing some other activity.

You can also look for some kind of club that does things you're interested in or would like to take up.

No man is an island, but I think you'll probably perk up after a while.

I agree with you too but the thing is i am not lonely or bored. i have things going on this is just what i prefer

This is old news now. Thanks all though.

@Oyinda, just regular couple's argument.

@Sissy, yes maybe i was just overwhelmed or something but it's fine now.

I'm not depressed. I get sad or so once in a while but not the reason for staying indoors, maybe i am not just that person that goes out toomuch, my friends disturb me all the time but sometimes i have to tell them i dont feel like just becasue i feel like staying indoors but sometimes, i am the one to force them out.

maybe more like 40/60. yes that is what i mean but it's like my family do not see it that way like i am doing somehing wrong. It's just my own choice and i'm not bored or lonely. when i want to go out, i do but most of the time, it's indoors by myself,maybe just watching tv.

But i socialise a lot. I just spend most of my time indoors because that is what i prefer.

I have a lot of friends but not everytime i like going out. I prefer staying indoors and on my own most of the time. I could watch tv a whole day and I don't feel lonely or bored. I just prefer that. My family especially my mother always makes me uncomfortable being myself like i have 2 brothers and i am the only girl. My brothers are very outgoing in that they like spending time outside a whole lot. My mum would compare me to them and that puts me down. I am no angel, I do all hings but at the same time i still prefer being indoors even by myself, on my own.

The other time, there was an event mentioned and my elder brother was saying something about his high school friends that I don't keep in touch with mine. I do but not all of them just very few i like. It's like they don't know me well or something.

I have friends, places, events but i also like spending time with myself a lot, just my personal choice, so am i anti-social, shy or what?

Some people seek attention.

That is what the media portray, that Jesus had long hair. I guess till i get to heaven, i'll find out.

It is the truth, abortion, gay marriage, absolutely wrong.

jagunlabi:
Do you wish for that to happen?
The level of wickedness on earth has always been great.See your OT bible tales for real acts of wickedness.I doubt if modern humans can top those.

he wickedness is increasing daily.

God is never tired.

Honestly always looking for ways to contradict the Bible and find flaws.

They are still human beings so whichever way, though it might be bes to just keep silent.

It goes both ways. Sometimes I feel some are real, sometimes they are unbelievabke. Only God knows if it is actually real or the people performing it.

Na wa o, see how much some people can write just to argue against God.

I agree. I myself find it easier to forgive other people than with myself, maybe it has to do with Christ laying down his life for us.
You look nice in ur picture.

Hmmm, it depends on the circumstance, maybe not.

They dont wanna feel threatened.

Hell no

tpiah:
I dont have much patience for a guy who lists his partner's bad qualities as if he has none of his own, as Naija men are wont to do.


Instead of saying, "applaud me for putting up with this woman in my saintly way"- and plenty of these "matyrdom" threads abound on NL- why cant someone start a thread about his own negative issues which his girlfriend is putting up with like a saint.


That's just me sha!

That's right.

Nice piece. Had to print it out.

Trustworthy
Good hygiene
Honest
Good sense of Humor
Fear God.

I don't think it's easy to forget. You would always have it at the back of your mind.