Dates are the best, except for when they're the worst. In fact, there's nothing like sitting through an entire meal or dumb activity to make you wish you'd followed your gut and stayed back home (where no one can terrorize you with an hour of awkward personal conversation). In truly dire date times, you could always just look your date in the eye, and be a polite and honest person, and say, "Look, this just isn't working for me and I'm gonna go home, but have a nice night!" But if you're like me and can't even imagine that sort of confrontation with a near-stranger, you can instead use a sneaky tactic to worm your way out, so they don't even realize you've left until you're safely back home, alone, just like you like it.

1. Put a twist on the classic "My friend just called and there's been an emergency" move by having a friend stage an actual emergency call. Don't make this anything too alarming because it would be the biggest annoyance ever. Just cook up an emergency enough to pull you away from your bad date (surprisingly it might even make you seem like a hero).

2. Better yet, have two friends come to the same restaurant and stage a breakup so dramatic you have to leave with her immediately. Bonus points if one of them throws a drink in the other's face (commit to your roles). Not only is this a total mood killer, but if your date honestly asks you to stay after witnessing such a gruesome breakup, they're definitely a sociopath and you shouldn't be out with them anyway.

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This is coming from a heart broken girl. Pls I need ur advice, I ve a boy friend who only has my time when he wants sex. Every other time he spends with his male friends and only remembers me when he is Hot, yet he tells me he loves me. I do love him but ve dis feeling am being used.

sinaj:
hmm



d truth iz dat u will surely crave for the need of love and belonging.

u can ask Abraham Maslow

Hi, no one says we don't need love, but should we kill ourselves before love comes? NO
Enjoy your SINGLE status while it last.

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A large proportion of the population seem to think that it is unfortunate to be single. That they can only be “complete” once they have met that special someone with whom they would find eternal happiness. Nothing could be further from the truth. Oh, this article is most certainly not to condemn all of those happy couples. Know that I am infinitely happy for all those of you who have found someone just right who loves you for you. But what I mean to say here is that the idea that you need another human being to make you happy, to make you feel whole is not just absurd and rife with inaccuracies, but also paves the way for misery and false expectations. These thoughts, that you are incomplete without a partner, is what will keep you from true happiness, rather than your single status itself. Instead, what we all need to grasp fully is that loving ourselves first is the key to attaining true happiness. With self-love comes acceptance for who we are, self compassion, a realisation of self-worth, and the courage to face even the most adverse of circumstances. And this comes from utter and complete faith in ourselves. ‘Ourselves’ being the operative word. Not another human being. So if you have perhaps been consumed by morbid thoughts pertaining to your single life, here are some points that should remind you why single life is magically wonderful.

1. Freedom
Being single brings with it an amazing sense of freedom. This is something I am certain anyone who has ever had a breakup can relate to. I distinctly recall the feeling I had after I had finished mourning the assumed loss of my very first relationship. It was as though an ethereal sensation of lightness that had stolen over me. I felt free. I felt the ability to do anything. And that has not changed. It has been a long time since my first breakup, and much has happened in between, but that sense of freedom remains constant after the end of a relationship. Smell that? It’s the sweet aroma of freedom.

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2. A dearth of meaningful conversations

“Love is friendship that has caught on fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.”
-Ann Landers

When you’re in love, and I mean well and truly in love, you are comfortable with your partner and all that they are. Which means you are also comfortable talking about most things with them. Your partner is your friend, unlike lust, in which case friendship and the meaningful conversations that come with it are lacking. Conversations making up your problems, your hopes, your dreams, and your life in general are missing from your interactions.

Certainly, they ignite fire within you and you cannot breathe for the passion that keeps you up at night, but is that what it is? Passion? Love? Or instead, just one of the baser emotions? Could it possibly be lust?
A relationship based on lust is great if you know what you are getting yourself into and do it with your eyes wide open, for a good romp in the hay. But what’s important is that you don’t delude yourself. Here are some signs that what you share is lust, and not love.

1. You’re dressed to impress
You are always looking your best with them. You eyebrows are waxed, you are invariably dressed to advantage, and your Brazilian is immaculate. Whether you’re a man or a woman, the point is that you take particular care in your appearance each time you meet them. In a relationship that is based on more than just the superficial, you and your partner wouldn’t care if your hair wasn’t perfect some day because your relationship is much more than all that lies outside.

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3. Giving them ultimatums

Nobody loves ultimatums, especially emotional ultimatums. My boyfriend gave me one long time back when he wanted me to start a healthy lifestyle and go to the gym, he told me I need to start going or he will stop meeting me and hanging out with me. What did that do to me? I didn’t go to the gym, because I never wanted to do it under pressure or under fear of losing someone, and hearing that from him made me pretty sad inside because he knew it would affect me if he took our time and put it under a microscope. Do NOT give ultimatums, use your love and kind words if you want your partner to do something for you or for themselves.

Ultimatums in relationships are a horrible form of emotional blackmail, they may just seem like mere words but they hurt deeper than you can imagine. Do not use emotional blackmail with the person you love.

ogogoromasta:
and if I dont
stop deez tinz
nko?

Its not a must you stop them, its a choice you have to make if you value and want to keep your relationship

Things you need to stop doing in your relationship, immediately....pt 2

2...As I’ve mentioned earlier, your thoughts are yours alone and no one has the power to get into your mind and dig out what’s happening in there. You need to speak your feelings out, it’s very damaging to keep something negative inside in hopes of your partner realising it on their own, because they won’t. Don’t make them play the guessing game, don’t make them go through the fear and the constant hopes of you opening up to them someday or maybe blowing up entirely because you kept so much inside. If something is bothering you, even the slightest, talk it out. Don’t worry about how big or small the issue is,
it’s always wise to just talk it out and be done with it now rather than having a huge quarrel about it later when they think everything is fine.

It hurts the most when you think you’re “content and okay” with your partner when it’s the complete opposite situation in their head. It hurts a lot when you suddenly realize that what you thought was wrong, that your partner isn’t happy with you even though they looked happy and content. Wouldn’t you like to just talk it out rather than waiting for a miracle to happen? Don’t keep anything pent up inside, it will only turn into aggression one day.

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As always, this one is going to be completely from my own experiences. Relationships are no walk in the park, you don’t just wake up one day thinking that your relationship is going to run smoothly without you doing anything about it, it definitely is a constant struggle no matter what, and the struggle is well worth it. A lot of people do a lot of things that constantly damage their relationships, a lot of people don’t do a lot of things that have the same effect, it’s all about knowing the person you’re with, knowing them and “understanding” them to a level where you minimize your chances of damaging them, you are still bound to make mistakes no matter how hard you try not to, but this article is going to help you make less mistakes. Let’s begin.

1. Don’t keep a list of mistakes
A lot of you would be nodding your heads in disagreement right now but this is very true to everyone, no matter how much we love the other person we are still
bound to make a very small list in our heads, a list of mistakes they’ve made, the point here is NOT to do that. Just like you, your partner is human, and they will hurt you at some point without even realizing it. The strength here comes into play when you forgive and forget, most of us say they’ve forgiven and forgotten but we don’t, we still keep a small memory of those events hidden somewhere deep inside of our heads.

These things can go from being really small to really big. How about that one
time when your partner forgot to do something you asked them to, or that one time your partner did something you told them not to? Do you know the reasoning behind it? Do you know exactly what was going on in their heads at that very moment? You don’t. None of us can get into the minds of our partners and we shouldn’t have to either, give them enough space and confidence to make their own mistakes without the fear of you keeping tabs on those mistakes. To err is indeed human, to forgive is indeed divine.

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Breakup's should not be the end of the world for some of us. Yes it hurts but we can definitely pull through.
here are some key steps to help you....

1.You can do all the things that your ex-partner hated.
2.You'll learn to appreciate having time for yourself again.
3.You have more time for your friends.
4.By ending the relationship, you can put things in more perspective and see how much you've changed and grown.
5.You're free to find someone who fits with the person you are now.
6.You can relearn how to do nice things just for yourself.

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What happens when you make yourself totally available for someone who isn't?

If there's one thing you must know about me, it's that I have a type and that type is "unavailable."

It's something that started when I was in school. Crushing on guys who weren't attainable, Keep that in mind when I tell you about Steve*, the guy I met after staying a long while away from relationships.

At the time, I felt like I was ready to find someone new, and Steve, with his beauty and fine frame, seemed like an excellent contender for the role of boyfriend.

We e-mailed (texting and all) each other as much we could or should I say "as much as I could", because I did most of that. I was the head of communication. Mind you we both weren’t in the same zone so I felt the need for continuous communication.

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THOU SHALT NOT...
Don't say that you weren't warned! Nothing can kill a budding relationship faster than one of the dating mistakes below.

RUSHING INTO SEX
There isn't a universal right time to become intimate with a new partner, however, if you have sex before a man has had a chance to get to know you, then you risk him placing you in the "fling" category and losing interest. A man has to invest and appreciate your other qualities beyond the physical for him to want to make you his girlfriend. So don't be afraid to take your time and make him wait until it feels right for you.

OPENING UP TOO FAST
Likewise, it isn't smart to rush in and tell him all of your sad childhood stories. Although it's natural to want to speed up the bonding process, you have to pace the amount of information you share. You don't want to scare him off or convince him that you're a high-drama mamma.

CALLING/TEXTING TOO MUCH
While it's true that we live in an age of over-sharing, you'll just have to trust us on this one and play it cool. Men typically enjoy playing the role of the chaser, not the chasee, so constantly calling them can have the reverse effect of making them less interested, not more. So put down that phone, and let him sweat it out for a change.

FAKING ORGASMS
Faking is a like a harmless, little white lie, right? No! In the long run, you are actually doing both of yourselves a huge disservice by allowing him to think that his moves are pleasing you when they really aren't. Besides, what if you marry him? Are you really going to keep up the lie?

EXPECTING HIM TO CHANGE
People do not change very much as they get older, especially men. So if there are numerous things about him that you can't stand, then it might be wiser to just change to a different man.

NEGLECTING YOURSELF
While it's important to nurture a budding relationship, sacrificing all of your energy and time to it and ignoring your own needs is a huge mistake. Whether you're in a relationship or not, you should always love and take care of yourself first.
Its always you first.

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Uyi Iredia: Hmmn. No space for broad shouldered, big assed, fat dudes. I'm screwed. Seriously, there has to be a lady here that is turned on by fatness, na by force to get abs to be sexy

Good news young man, i ve someone who might be interested in you.

You may not even realize you're doing it, but saying these three little words is an instant turn-off to guys, not to mention awful for your own self-esteem.

If you want to turn off a guy fast, allow me to recommend three magic words. To guys, these words are the Holy Grail of annoying things girls say, the abracada bra of instantaneous mood killers, the uglier cousin to the infamous lose-lose query: "Do I look fat in this?" The three words guy’s pray you never say to them: "I look fat."

Imagine the worst thing a guy could say to you (thought joggers: "I'm in love with your sister," "I killed a man...", multiply it by 10, and you'll start to understand just how awful it is for guy’s to hear "I look fat" coming out of a girl's mouth, especially a girl they really like or, worse, love. "When a girl says she looks fat, all they think is, How can I get out of this conversation as quickly as possible? She's either fishing for compliments, she doesn't like herself, or she actually has gained weight, in which case, So what? Do something about it, or stop worrying and be comfortable with yourself the way you are," he would say.

Now, I'm not a man, but I'm guessing "Please, make this stop" isn't the reaction most girls are hoping for when talking to a guy. Yet that's where their brains go when they hear those three words. Here's why.

When A girl Say "I Look Fat," They Feel Helpless
Once guys hear that, they know that no matter how many times they tell you how hot you look, you won't believe them. You've already crossed over to the dark side of deep insecurity and you're too far gone. Guys hate feeling helpless.

It's a Guaranteed Killer of Good Times
"As soon as a girl says those words, the night's ruined," "She's already feeling down on herself and in a bad mood. It's a drag." It's also totally pointless. "It's basically like saying I look ugly.

You're Planting a Seed of Doubt in There Minds
Your guy knows you're not fat. He can see you're not fat. But the more you say you're fat, the more he'll start to question the evidence.
A scenario: Had a friend who was involved with a really pretty girl who was so convinced she was overweight. She told this friend she thought she was fat so often that when his parents came to visit, He didn't introduce her to them. Why? Because he doubted whether what he saw when he looked at her was what other, more objective people saw. Saying "I look fat" connects you and fat in a guy's mind. And once that connection has been made, it's tough to shake.

You're Making Them Feel Insecure Too!
I get it--there's an incredible amount of pressure on women to look perfect. But it's easy to forget guys feel some of this pressure too. "When a girl says she looks fat," "First the guy is like, seriously? Then he thinks, Wait a minute....Is she? Followed by, Crap, now I feel fat. I should probably hit the gym tomorrow." On uttering those three words, a guy goes from having a good time to wondering why the girl he's with thinks she's fat to considering whether she is fat to feeling fat himself. That's quite a plunge.

So please, the next time the urge to say those three little words hits (even if it's just a force of habit), fight it. If you think you look fat, chances are, you really don't. And even if you have gained a few extra weight, the guy you're with probably doesn't care. So don't mention it.

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Pamela Gold:

how am i supposed to find him when u have already chased him away by telling him that u will report him to his wife? has he even paid her bride price?

tell him to bribe me wit a pack of lolly-pop nd i promise not to tell.
abeg i no fit laff o

Pamela Gold: i love guys with flat tummy, slim, no too much biceps pls, i love dark guys, with pink lips, sexy dreamy eyes, tall Mmmmmmmmm? straight nose lolzzzzzzz and i love guys who knows how to dress......

hmmmmmm babe re u sure u will find him?

Pamela Gold:

ARE U SERIOUS? ABEG U NEED TO ADD ME DEN, ARE U ON BBM? ME WANT ME SOME HANDSOME DUDE

if u shear ur pin here, i will report u to ur wife. bt i cld take a bribe sha

If i don't die of laughter, i swear i wont die again.

For the guy's who were waitin for a re-match, i think some one beat me to it.

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boy's will always be boy's

I kno am goin to laugh my head out on this, some guys ve been askin for the male edition and nw here it is . Tell us wat part of a female attracts u most. i kno u dont need pictures. ve fun papi's

Ich_el:
The gods has ansad ur prayerz *open armz n beckonz* come 2 papa girl

hhahahahahaha

pasqal09: Well if I was the Joseph dude, I'll collect the 20 million because if he fights for the Ada chic, he'll lose and lose everything. He won't win.

So he should collect the money jor, there are many fishes in the sea.

so u advice he should just give up on his love? hmmmmm

Strauskhan1: what freaking satisfaction do you want again wen you've got ur kids for your man

THAT'S WERE U GET IT ALL WRONG. I WOULDN'T JUST MARRY HIM FOR THE KIDS, I MARRIED HIM FOR MYSELF ALSO.

Well as for me o, if everything is there and number 8 isn't, whats the point. . lemme ask dis, which of u ladies want a very beautiful man dat can not satisfy u in bed

seunfly: Why not include the size of his wallet, cos that is the only thing that makes a sexy and handsom guy to most Nigerian girls.

Size of wallet dosen't count here.