Bro your reason to quit mastubation I doubt wud help, so also is ur unreadiness to quit premarital sex wud help.

Try to diagnosed properly and treat any infection diagnosed adequately.

Get married then satisfy urself therein.

If you need help in accomplishing a better living this way that is happy living, I urge u to accept the way that leads to life, the way of righteousness, Jesus.

I understand d dilemma bro, its not strange, don't ever think you d first infact millions are experiencing similarly all over the world even right as am saying this, so don't be alarmed.

Bro its a simple case, its a case of our multi-diversity and multicultural nation, sure you should expect this to possibly occur(don't make mistake of comparing this to someone in another country eg USA, UK or Australia, might not work its lot of different).

In d light of d above, ur case is simple, don't take it too killing lol, just ease her fears @Mum, this applies to u if u serious o- call her, guess u haven't even spoken to her self, lol our conservative nature though, call ur lady afterwards ask her to give her mum d fone, just try to reach her, that is if u can't get to her physically, all your aim is to ease her fears, get them from her and do justice to them, wish you all the best. Cheers.

lisbonabdulahi:
thanks, but the cost of that perseverance though

Actually, dt was a retype of the original message, it failed to deliver, was lazy to retype thus summarized that, was so excited you noted my humble advice thus wud unleash another remix.

Again, I really commend your perseverance and proper understanding of the concept of considerations (seeing ur considerations for ur kids, many won't this far).

I would like to ask you this(rhetoric), would you be very happy if she repent of her ways and be the your amazing wife?

Sure u would and would accept her back, implying the problem is her present behaviours, thus if she changes, you fine, thus the question of the real problem indentified.

Brother, you in a challenging time, its unfortunate but yes u are, its a problem just like an unfortunate ailment, it occurred, what to do now is seeking endless solutions options as you don't know what would yield the exact result you want just like one would do seeking cure for an ailments.

The underlying point is its a life time commitment, no way out. You are in it bro, and forever in the marriage. With this in mind you need to handle this as a man you are, from what I could gather from your wordings, you are a the real man, and be that man you are, saying this cos you would need courage to pass through this, less I forget, more perseverance(s).

So as I said, be less anxious and avoid being radical as some might have advise, a self-controlled person better and more noble and greater than a victorious warrior. Take things calm acknowledge u in a soup lol, but endure it bro, I mean till whenever, I pray and strongly believe won't be long, even God self, seeing this from you would help u out, that's depending on ur motives, but I understand u a sincere one, so he wud help u.

Before I suggest some helpful solutions trials, let me say this, if the situation was the other way round and you see her doing this for you, won't you be elated, I feel we men could b selfish lol, so that is it bro.

Try the following bro,

1. Give her space.
Pls do this, would help her think more, and retrospectively, don't bug her, engaging her in quarrels, pls don't, ensure after it all you look back and beat your chest with distinction.

2. Stop reporting her in ways that she sees as vindictive, judgemental and making her devilish.
Bro, that isn't true, I believe for you to have married her if she was as above, then lol u try. Remember u can explore !more respectful ways of reporting her, let's say her pastor, parent (not junior sisters o, but can be elder she regards, since u said she isn't in good times with them,u might have to suspend that), but try to, to someone mature or elderly she would highly regard.

3. Pray to God who instituted it, and said its a good thing.

4. Be very nice, cordial and thoughtful, you are a very intelligent person (pls don't ask me how I knew lol), and very important creative, get her unaware lol, she won't know how she fell into smiling then laughing, man man man, win her all over again, let her know you dt man that can win her heart anytime, any day and anyways lol.

5. Rebrand yourself.
Bro, if there is something u doing that makes her disrespect you, pls that needs to stop, example example o no be real o lol, let's say the guy is into immoral habits, eg porn, irresponsibilities, late nights, drunkenness, lies, etc this might make her feel she has nothing to lose from the guy aka no respect, so pls bro, I know u don't sound like one, just giving extreme examples yours can b little versions of the above but same family.

6. Bro take it from there.....

In my conclusion, bro you a man, be a man, be strong, calm and calculative, don't blame anything or anyone, also remember her background that might av affected her, I tell u u can change that, give the world a story, make an impact in your generation, let people also benefit from your feats lol not just enjoying and deriving courage from others own. In all be less anxious, have fun(no be wahala bringing type o) infact do that with your kids to avoid her thinking its with another, also that way it won't affect them too, before we begin addressing another in future, God forbid in Jesus name, I pray the Almighty God would see you through, Amen cheers bro.

Should you be interested in reaching me, let me drop my mail.

nueleita@gmail.com (Anyone can mail lol@ spammers).

I commend your perseverance bro.
My advice is for you to stay put, marriage is an endless commitment, tus ur resolution moves wud b endless too.

While u seek out this ways avoid being distressed, its a trying time.

At the end she wud b back to you, and u wud have d best of her.

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babyfaceafrica:
who asked where you are from?.....must everything be tribal

Did he direct it to you? How was that a problem? He is proud of his origin, good for him...

Oyind18:
I no see reason why I go show them love.

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Why not 'dey ur lane' hypocrite and hater, hope u receive similar treatment on any special day of urs.

Wish the couple, happy marriage life ahead...

Most Nigerians to me are so bad mouthed, hiding in a corner, hidden in the cloak of social media and uttering warp statements from their perilous mind.

Beautiful couple, u look amazing, I admire ur both outlook, great corpers lol, hope u receive the nysc incentive.. Congrat

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Upon carrying her from right below her ass, no pound of flesh protruded. Pancake ass

I bet she's from Ibadan, see makeup

So its only big ass that defines beauty for you, how pathetic?

U need personal reorientation.

Angelstartups: The idea of first choice or second choice needs to be abolished.Candidates should be given the opportunity to select even upto 3 options per institution type,without depicting which is first choice,second or third choice.That way the institutions will receive scores of all the candidates that picked them and take it from there to select top candidates based on merit.
In developed climes,SAT or TOEFL or UCAS (UK) doesn't ask for first choice or second choice or third choice,they allow you select the schools that interest you.In fact,you can still forward your scores to other schools after the exams.Nigeria should take a cue from this and stop limiting Nigerians from been educated.

Awesome, dis fellow nairalander, said all dt ws on my mind, i think jamb is inconsiderate here, are d unis,polys and colleges complaining, i fink d problem wit most agencies in naija is dt, dey fink dier hatched policies for nigerians are automatically correct.

omosebi#1:
do you mean d applied geology is better than geology

Its a mata of preference, one may like dis, anoda d oda, bt2 say 1 is beta dan d oda is a fallacy.

omosebi#1:
what is d difference btw applied geology and geology, and also geophysics and applied geophysics ............thanks

I fink, d applied prefix, says it all.

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Well said, Mr Daniel, there is a limit to the use of distorted eng lang b it acting or playing.

Emenike.