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You are a wicked somebody o. And you say this is not body shaming or cyber bullying? Continue o, God dey. Zaynie, sorry ehn. I'm rooting for you.

mizz2posh:
HaHaha, zaynie I have seen photos of you and you are a very beautiful woman, smart and confident, I admire you alot, I don't even think anyone can cyber bully or body shame you. I would absolutely have loved for enque to pair us, I would motivate and push you to your goal weight, because I love you very much , but I can't join the weight-loss group now because I'm still breast feeding.

Here is a photo I just took to motivate you, I should add that I have 3 children between ages 10yrs - 6months old, so you know if I can do it, you can too, .
I am in my mother's kitchen in Enugu so you can't comman beat me.

Sorry about your loss, dear. May God comfort you and the entire family. I know too well how you feel. I lost my dad 23rd December last year too and it was indeed a very black Christmas for me. And the last time l saw him was a year before that so I also didn't have a chance to say goodbye. I wish I could tell you time will heal this wound but I can only pray that God comforts you.

queenhecate:
thank you mamas. see me na, I don't have a father anymore, he is gone and I wasn't able to say goodbye cos I didn't travel this Xmas.

so many had I knowns. :-( :-(

That's the reason for the sad face.

enque:
Y d sad face Na?
OK... I forgot to add that I was waiting to wean my daughter b4 embarking on any weightloss ish, and thankfully she self-weaned at 10months+.

I do green tea and apple cider vinegar (or infused lemon water) on a daily to help detox my system, and I honestly don't know if that is good for a nursing mother

Yes. DS is 7 months.

enque:
R u still breastfeeding?

Me, me, me, enque. I want to join, please.

Frozen milk can last up to 72hours. Just make sure you thaw the right way. See attached screenshots.

angeltolly:
Mamas, I need help.I have an interview somewhere tomorrow and we are on EBF. Somebody will be following me to the venue with my baby. Can I express, freeze and carry it along so he can be fed incase I stay longer than expected. How long can frozen breast milk stay outside the freezer before it becomes bad

Pele dear. God is your muscle.

Benignasweety:
Wish Zizi is like your son
My son won't taste pap that is not creamy
I put 3scoops plus fisi
If not he dares not swallow the pap.
Now am left buying formula every 5days

I just use 1 scoop of formula because my son doesn't even like tasting milk in pap. Then I give him enough water to drink.

ftmum:
Hello mothers, I have come again oooo. Please I have a quick question to ask. For mothers given their babies pap, how do you measure the milk you put inside? Because since I started given my 6 month plus pap to take, I do add 2 spoon of formula milk into it, his poop is always strong. Please teach me OOOOO.

What I do is that I just scoop some of the pap into his plate and mix two spoon of formula milk with water and pour it.

Good morning, fam. How are our DHs and LOs? Thanks to all mamas that contributed to this matter. Your contributions helped preserve my sanity, i'm very grateful.

Had a talk with DH and we have agreed to let him stay in the guest room for now. He will be traveling home for the holidays to return in January and when he returns, we will set some ground rules and he will stay in the living room. I've made my peace with that.

E se pupo.

@treating him right, i will ma. Thanks ma. How's Cookiejar? Did the rape go down as planned?

beyedew:
oamronnie
Please don't share your matrimonial room with anyone, it's your space.
Don't agree to your sister and the guy sleeping in the guest room, dog and bone dey always clash. Let the guy stay in the parlor. A normal guy should know sef that he should sleep in the parlor in that kind of setting, maybe he was very tired last night that he didn't know when he slept on the bed . Please tell him he gotta be sleeping in the sitting room from today. Lay down ground rules. Above all, please I know it irks cos you were not informed, treat him right.

Tell your dh to please consult with you next time before he agrees to something like this biko. However you can grab his attention and make the point sink home please do.

Thanks mummy Muna. Today na today

zaynie:
Lol at true character.
Well, it seems your husband is the kind of person that doesn't like to rumble, just like mine too.
It is up to you to tell the boy to move to the sitting room and keep his stuff in the living room. If you don't, your husband won't and your sister might even be tempted to leave sef.
At the end of the day, it is your home and you run it the way you feel fit. Set rules before he gets accustomed to his new room.

Amen, thanks sis.
I believe she is. But i'm not even considering it.

isokey:
May God grant you wisdom to handle this. I hope ur sis is mature enough to live with an unrelated opposite sex in the same room.....that's if u r considering it.

Amen oooooo! Thank you ma.

This issue of allowing my sister and the guy stay in d room though, ko le werk! I gotta respect her privacy too.

katchycouture:
I advise you let him be, this is one big temptation you will have to jump and pass...just remove eye from how him and ur sister manages the guestroom.. you will see that they will bond so well and learn how to share the room..

I know a woman who lived with a guy who is her husbands relative, the guy stayed with them for 5 years in their room and palour apartment, people told her to send him away but she was a wise woman who didn't show the guy her anger...the guy travelled to jaPan and today he is a very very rich guy who lives in Abuja, the guy built a house for this woman there in ikorodu and her children travel to the UK with him every year..

What I'm trying to say is ignore this temptation and rather treat the boy like your brother, I know it is easier said than done but it is something you can do...

Pele ooooo.. your husband is a good man and his goodness will open plenty plenty doors of favour and blessings ur way.. oya say Amen

Thank you mama. I will.
Thank God for the close save o. This scorpion matter ehn, this is the 2nd one i'm reading about. May God continue to keep us o.

perfectcrown:
Dexterush,i appreciate The Almighty God on your behalf!

Oamronnie,you've read it all from sabi mamas. Pls also ask God for wisdom and patience to handle it all... Pele.


Mamas please help me thank God! I killed a very big scorpion in my kitchen! Where it hid was around where my son sits sometimes and play. The door dat is between my kitchen and dinning.. He even sat der dis mrng,stood up and was playing der,,i asked him to move cus i wanted to sweep and mop d kitchen floor. As i oused d broom @d corner of d door,i saw smtin dat looked like cockroach,i used d broom to bring it out only to see that it was a scorpion,it raised its tail and was ready to sting! I shouted @ my son to move back and called my hubby! Na so we kill am o!

I dont kn wat would hv happened if it had stung my son... God forbid!

Exactly! Thanks jare

JGracious:
Don't be angry ummmh...calm down
if I were to be in your shoes, I will let my hubby know that I yam vexing gidigan. I'll request that he tells me how he wants the new guest handled...[b]plenty times husbands will take an irrational decision and then expect madam to figure the workability [/b]out....ko jorara
i believe with the meeting, you will both have the chance to iron the issue at hand and for subsequent similar scenarios.



_{very annoying somchin}

Amen, thanks a lot ma.

jazzyjazz:
Breathe dear
The person you should speak with is your husband
Then plainly tell the guy that he would sleep in the living room henceforth
And tell your sister to move back to her room

It's hard, but you can do it

The husband is the head, we the wives, are the NECK
Point your husband in the right direction


May God give you wisdom

I did smile! Thanks dear

hunniesuzie:
Cheeeiiiiii! Nice guy husbands are truly annoying. I've managed to stop mine from inviting random family members to the house without checking with me, the one we're battling with is Santa Claus spirit now...always borrowing people money that they never return

To your point, dude needs to stay in the living room sorry, there's no 2 ways about it. Also you need to as calmly as possible have a conversation with him about how you guys are now a team, so he needs to check with you before any decision especially involving your space. You may need to reiterate this multiple times before it takes but that's the way the cookie crumbles

BAD ADVICE :
[s]Show him pepper. Things must finish more in the house now that you have an extra person, cost of food items has to go up afterall feeding extra mouth is not easy. Use the extra money to spoil yourself as your reward for the extra person in your house [/s]

Please I'm only playing oh, just wanted her to smile, before good women will come and seize my wrapper *runs off*

cc.
jazzyjazz
Alphahandmaiden
Hunniesuzzie
Ifyalways
Zaynie
Beeejaylere
Greatp80
Chanbaby

Hmm, thank you all and God bless you massively. Y'all make it sound so simple. And each advice I read is just making me more angry. I mean, it should be THAT simple! How did I get into this mess?
My sister, thinking she was helping, went to complicate things by telling the guy to go into the room and freshen up last night o. And that was how the guy just packed his bags in and spent the night there. Then, my husband sent my sister to our room to sleep there and I sent her out so she slept in the sitting room. Now, I don't know who I'm more angry at. Myself for allowing all these, my husband for putting me in this position or my sister for being too forward?
I've told this man repeatedly! Let's not start what we cannot continue. Now, how do I tell someone that slept in the room last night that he will be sleeping in the living room henceforth.
I'm just tired. I'm this close to misbehaving and showing my true character o.

I want to rant!

I usually don't do this as I'm not a 'sharer'. However, I need to let out all the anger building up in me. Perhaps, I will feel better after venting.

Here goes!

My husband is a very nice guy. Nice to a fault. The kind of niceness that make people take advantage of you. I put an end to the ones I know about immediately. Not gonna let anyone take advantage of my man. But there are times I find out too late and the deed has already been done. That's not why I'm here today though.

Now to the reason I'm angry. Hubby's family friend's son who just got out of camp today came over and shocker, he's staying with us for the duration of his youth service. We stay in a 2 bedroom flat. Hubby and I share a room, my younger sister (who I begged to come so she can take care of DS when I'm at work and also help around the house) uses the 2nd room. Now, a guy has come to stay. Please help me, where do we put him? I would not even have any issues with this if it was a girl. She would just share the room with my sister.

Mr. Nice is saying my sister should join me in our room while he and the guy shares the other room. This is an arrangement that I've agreed to in the past when we've had his friends over but hellooooooo, that was for visits! This is someone that has come to stay for a year! (or more sef, he finishes his service, decides to stay back to search for a job, he gets one, he can't rent an apartment yet, he needs time to save money, settle down, bla bla bla, a year turns to 2... you get the picture?).
Where was I? Ehn ehn, so hubby's arrangement is a no-no for me. I cannot be married and separated from my husband under the same roof. So I suggested that the boy sleeps in the sitting room and hubby is saying no o, that would not be nice.

Me I'm all out of ideas and really pissed off. Come to think of it sef, the boy's parents didn't ask me before he came o. They just gave my husband a call and of course, Mr. Nice wasn't gonna say no. Then they called me to say their son was coming o. What was I supposed to do? Say no after my husband had already said yes?

I cannot even walk around freely in my pants and bra anymore now.

Anyways, he's here now and the question is where to put him.

Mamas that have dealt with a similar situation in the past, biko come to my aid. How did you deal?

Cc
Ifyalways
Onegai
Hunniesuzzie
Zaynie
Hunniesuzzie
Jazzyjazz
Alphahandmaiden
Enque
All other mamas.


Thank God for your life Dexterush. Devil is a liar.

The things the fear of rolling over can cause a dad to do..

My son did this too. I started with Nan, he refused. Tried SMA Gold, he refused. Tried Similac, he refused at first but was taking pap alone. I continued trying the Similac as it was not easy for me to discard the Similac just like that as I did with the others (for this economy?) and eventually, he started taking it with no fuss. So now we take formula and pap+formula

Trendytessy:
About this family planning, people around are telling DH that it delays/affects another pregnancy when one removes it. Now he's not in full support again although he says I can go for it if I want. pls any mama that did FP and took in without issues indicate..,lemme know.

Also, my baby has refused to take formula. she's 14weeks. I tried mixing it with Ogi she didn't accept it but she took plain Ogi yesterday. I'm not comfortable with this her style. what do I do pls?
Cc. feddy27, zaniey, hunniesuzie, giddyperson and all mamas

Almost 9 months! Issnofair o. AF, come and see your customer here o

Chrisdada16:
please dont remind me of AF just yet 8months 3weeks past post partum AF has not showed still rocking myself make i enjoy will it last.

Ha! 7/3months post partum or after AF's return?
Me I can't wait o.

Misi16:
Sometimes AF is heavier and more painful after delivery, I experienced same didn't use to have cramps but started when AF came 6months post partum. But the heavy bleeding and pain stopped after 7 months, my friend's own stopped after 3 months. So just hang in there it will regularise over time.

Hmm. Another old wives tale. Thank you ma.

AlphaHandMaiden:
Na lie.

Works for some, didn't do S#!+ for me.

Sorry if you are still breast feeding in will suggest you see your doctor to advice on the medication you can take for the pain.

6months 3weeks post partum and AF returned with a vengeance today. I don't think I've had menstrual pain this bad in a very long time. Thought they said menstrual pain stops after childbirth. Abi na lie?

Are you in Abuja?

queenhecate:
ESE Gan

zaynie:
No problem. The similac is yours

I have this to give away. Location is Abuja

Thank you so much ma. I used it and got the discount.

MoyosBlog123:
Lol. Once ma.

Got it! Thank you very ma. At the risk of sounding greedy, how many times can I use it?

MoyosBlog123:
I replied ur pm ma.

I'm doing my happy dance right now! . Thank you ma. Oya where do I get it.

MoyosBlog123:
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Mami, Pls I want o. I PM'ed you. Hope I'm not too late

MoyosBlog123:
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