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 Career / Re: Coy I Worked For Refused To Pay Me My Expenses, Pensions And One Month In Lieu by obaao(m): 1:19pm On Mar 23, 2017 |
Liznix: My guy, I will advise you to follow these simple steps if you already have an existing pension plan account: 1. Write a mail formally to the company and state the following; you can involve a lawyer if you can't do it a)Can you explain reason why my contribution is being deducted from my salary (10% by employer and 8% by employee, Sec.4(1) Pension Act 2014 amended) on a monthly basis were not remitted to my PFA during my service with you? (Between state the period you worked with them) b) Why has my contribution not be remitted to the appropriate pension fund within 7 working days as stipulated by the pension act Sec.11 (3b) of Pension Act 2014 amended ? Appreciate you respond to my request within the next seven days before taking next action. 2. if no response is received within the 7 days, send a reminder and copy your PFA 3. if there is no response again within the same period, send to PENCOM and copy PFA and the company. I have advised people to do just these and they are smiling now. To achieve this, you must be determined to fight on until you win. Best of Luck. 1 Like |
| Career / Re: Meet The 12-year-old Girl Who Pays Her Own School Fees By Selling Newspaper. Is by obaao(m): 8:02am On Feb 15, 2017 |
Waking up as early as 5:30! Arriving at her desk by 8:00! When does she go to school and study? Her parents, not her, should be going through this struggle. Lazy gals and ladies waiting on your parents or aristo, doing illegal jobs, blaming government for unemployment and screaming of lions on the road, Wake up and be useful to yourself. Can someone please connect me with this girl? It is time to alleviate her hustle. State your e-mail address for follow-up. Thank you. |
| Properties / Re: Building A Four Flat: Need All The Help And Advice I Can Get by obaao(m): 7:12am On Dec 26, 2016 |
JohnIfie: Haven't had 3 experiences in construction, I will advise you do not consider an architect for supervisory work. The best professional you can use for building construction are the builders. You can negotiate your pay and it is was always between the rate 7.5% and 10% of construction, finishing and any other work he handles. You can reach my engineer on 07069768989. He handled all my 3 buildings and even just completed one. The depth for foundation of any building depends on the texture of the land and what is to be built on it. Regardless of the experiences of the artisans, they are still far below professional advise. I wish you the best. 2 Likes |
| Politics / Re: "Obasanjo Was Wrong About Chibok Girls" - Falana, Odumakin by obaao(m): 12:51pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
muykem: I tire o...Some people just be lawyer dem no understand conditional statement |
| Travel / Re: Nigerian Lady Gives Oyinbo Peppersoup In US, Then Lands In Police Station (Pics) by obaao(m): 11:56am On Oct 13, 2016 |
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| Politics / Basic Guide To Arguing Either In Favour Or Against The Recent Arrests Of Some Ju by obaao(m): 10:12pm On Oct 09, 2016 |
Before you argue either in favour of the recent arrests of some judicial officers by the DSS, it is important that most of you know the following facts. They will guide you to argue intelligently and intelligibly. This is my part of contribution to the change agenda. 1. No judicial officer has immunity against, arrest, search, investigation and/or prosecution in respect of an allegation of crime. 2. The National Judicial Commission (NJC) is responsible for the appointment, discipline/punishment of judicial officers only in respect of breach of judicial ethics, and not crime. 3. Even where a judicial officer has been sanctioned by the NJC for any misconduct, the state still reserves the right to prosecute the erring officer if his misconduct amounts to a crime. 4. The Administration of Criminal Justice Act (2015) is the procedural law that guides the activities of all federal investigating and prosecutorial agencies like the police, EFCC, ICPC, DSSS,etc., as well as the Federal High Court, High Court of the FCT, National Industrial Court, Code of Conduct Tribunal, etc. 5. Any action taken by any prosecutorial agency either during investigation or prosecution must be in line with the ACJA 4. Under the ACJA, there is no time limit or time frame when a person can be arrested. There is no day that a person cannot be arrested. 5. Sections 12 (2) & 13 ACJA give a law officer the power to break into and out of any house for the purpose of arresting a suspect who fails to let the arresting officer in. 6. Section 43 (1) ACJA states: "A warrant of arrest may be executed on any day, including a Sunday or public holiday." 7. The person arresting may not necessarily be the person to prosecute. A private person may arrest a suspect and hand him over to a prosecuting authority(Section 23 ACJA). 8. A person may be arrested notwithstanding that the person arresting him is not in possession of an arrest warrant on demand, but can show the warrant as soon as practicable. Section 44 ACJA. 9. "A warrant of arrest issued by a Federal High Court sitting anywhere may be executed in any part of Nigeria." Section 47 (1) ACJA. 10. A search warrant can be executed by anyone to whom it is directed (Section 147 ACJA). 11. "A search warrant may be issued and executed at any time on any day, including a Sunday or public holiday."(Section 148). 12. Apart from the President, vice president, Governor and a Deputy Governor, no other person has immunity from arrest and/or prosecution. 9/10/16 Bro Chuks Ubani |
| Business / Re: Banks Reject Cheques Issuance To Savings Account Users by obaao(m): 4:25pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
UNIQUEISRAEL: Dropped cheque for my bank into savings account and was honored. |
| Politics / Edo Election Result In Tabular Form by obaao(m): 2:26pm On Sep 29, 2016 |
Although, INEC has not officially announced the winner but the collated result below emanated from the collation centre. 17 out of the 18 LG results are tabulated below. Judge the winner by yourself. APC PDP Variance Voided 1 Akoko Edo 24,545 13,027 11,518 1,684 2 Egor 26,177 19,514 6,663 3 Esan Central 9,781 10,180 399 1,153 4 Esan North 9,130 16,220 7,090 5 Esan South 9,554 11,466 1,912 806 6 Esan West 13,114 16,311 3,197 1,563 7 Estako East 18,078 12,552 5,526 1,056 8 Etsako Central 10,373 8,827 1,546 549 9 Etsako West 29,199 10,843 18,356 2,127 10 Igueben 7,802 7,560 242 508 11 Ikpoba Okha 33,469 26,096 7,373 3,826 12 Oredo 37,612 30,492 7,120 4,311 13 Orhionmwon 15,262 16,446 1,184 1,788 14 Ovia North 17,561 13,141 4,420 1,545 15 Ovia South 16 Owan East 21,233 12,889 8,344 1,523 17 Owan West 12,862 10,132 2,730 18 Uhunwomnde 10,911 8,667 2,244 1,759 TOTAL 306,663 244,363 62,300 24,198 |
| Family / Re: Mia And Rozonno McGhee That Had Sextuplets 6 Years Ago Vs Now (Photos) by obaao(m): 6:27pm On Sep 22, 2016 |
Glory be to God for the production and protection of the children but the parents will have to do extra work because having 1 kid in a class in this economy recession could be frustrating talk less of 6 kids in a class. 2 Likes |
| Jobs/Vacancies / Re: EFCC 2016 Recruitment Result Is Out. Names Of Successful Candidates Published by obaao(m): 8:54pm On Sep 18, 2016 |
KINGMAKER001: Where were you when the vacancy was published? 2 Likes |
| Family / Re: Is This What Makes A Marriage? by obaao(m): 5:08pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
Hello, my dear. Marriage takes two to tangle and play the games of fools. From your write-up I can conclude your marriage was based on pretense. The two of you failed to reveal your true identity before tying the knot and that is why your husband could not inform you of his parents accident until after 2 years. Regardless of the situation of things with the two families, your marriage is of more importance. If truly you love your husband and you want to be together with him for life, then you guys need reconciliation. Go about it this way.... 1. Do away with ego 2. Be nice to him. You can start with knotting or removing his tie. 3. Give him his favorite and be scratch his head while eating. 4. Make him happy both in the sitting room and bed room 5. Bring up the discussion when you notice he is in a good mood. 6. Allow him to talk and also state your mind. 7. Apologize on behalf of yourself and your family. I expect him to do the same. 8. The two of you should talk to your families on behalf of each other. 9. Then visit the offended family members and apologize together. 10. Most importantly, PRAY. Prayer can move mountain and can change the stony heart. In conclusion, organize family feast where everybody will be present and end it there. Afterwards, live your life without as if they do not exist. YOUR FAMILY IS YOUR FUTURE, SAVE IT FROM CRUMBLING. 3 Likes |
| Education / Re: Outstanding Result In Waec: What Does It Mean And When Shall It Be Released? by obaao(m): 6:36am On Aug 08, 2016 |
fikfaknuel: Regardless of the course you intend doing, you need a credit in Mathematics. Please go and enroll for GCE and concentrate on it. The outstanding means being withheld. |
| Religion / Re: Tim Lahaye Is Dead by obaao(m): 10:36pm On Jul 25, 2016 |
LifeQuest: I remember one of his books, 'I LOVE YOU BUT WHY ARE WE SO DIFFERENT'. That book has made me to be emotionally intelligent when dealing with people. RIP, TIM 1 Like |
| Politics / Mr. President, Can I Talk To You? by obaao(m): 11:05am On Jul 20, 2016 |
Your silence on the spree killing of Nigerians by the Herdsmen is a cancer to your government, among other things, which will deteriorate the sanity healing being experienced in the society. Sir, this singular action of yours contradicts your diversification policy of the economy by boosting the agricultural sector. Farmers are being killed like herds while the grazing on farm lands reduces the chances of improving the economy. What amuses most is your failure to address this issue but proactive in sending condolence messages to other countries if bereaved. If one of the reasons why we voted for you is being jeopardised by a group you once headed, then the security of the country is on the thin line. Sir, you are the president of Nigeria and not a group, tribe or association. The argument on these marauders' status in Nigeria should not be an issue for debate. A foreign criminal is a criminal; a local criminal is a criminal and must be made to face the court of law regardless of his status in the country. Over 1,500 generations have been brought to an abrupt end and not a single herdsman has been arrested. You cannot claim innocent on who the leaders of these herdsmen are and ensure them to produce the perpetrators of the peace in Nigeria. Few months ago, the National Secretary of Miyetti Allah Cattle Breeders Association granted interview on reasons for the killing by members of the association. Despite the incriminating statement given by the Secretary-General,no institution has invited him for questioning. The failure to save Nigerians from these blood thirsty group is a failure of Security and is inviting civil war into the country. Mr. President, ACT before it is too late. |
| Family / My Wife's Lover Named Our Child by obaao(m): 5:35pm On Jul 15, 2016 |
“My wife’s lover, Temitope, gave my child his name on the day of christening,’’ a divorce seeker, Mr Femi Ojikutu, told an Igando Customary Court in Lagos on Friday. He said although the lover was not physically present he sent in the name. Ojikutu urged the court to grant his wife’s request for the dissolution of the five-year-old marriage, calling her an adulterous wife. “On the day of the child’s naming, her lover, Temitope, sent a name (Temitope) to be given the baby.’’ The wife, Olaide, 29, a trader, had filed a suit seeking to end to the marriage because her husband allegedly denied the paternity of the boy. Ojikutu, 37-year-old businessman, also told the court that his wife must have been impregnated by her lover. He added:“My wife is unfaithful, she made love to her lover while she was pregnant. “I discovered this when she slept off after chatting on facebook. What attracted me to the chat was my name that I saw on the screen and I was curious to read their conversation. “Her lover told her that he enjoyed the sex they had together and my pregnant wife also appreciated him for giving her a good sex. “Because of their chat, I denied the paternity of the baby from the womb up till now because I am not sure I am the baby’s biological father. “Also in that chat, my wife told her lover everything about me, my full name, where I work and where the guy can locate me and since that day I became afraid because I do not know what they were up to. “When I informed her mother about her daughter’s conversation with a man, she told me that I was lucky that her daughter did not bring the man to our matrimonial bed,’’ he said. Ojikutu accused the woman of being uncaring as she usually starves him of food. “She does not cook; instead she goes to her mother’s shop to assist her in selling. “Anytime I called her mother to release her to come home, she used to tell me that her daughter is not a slave. “So I wash my son’s school uniform and also do the cooking. I am also fed up with the union.’’ The estranged wife also gave her own account: “When I was carrying my second pregnancy, my husband saw my chat with my `male friend’ on facebook and accused me of dating him. “He told me that he will not accept the baby because he believed that the man I was chatting with impregnated me. “So he kept to his word and refused to accept the baby so my family took up the responsibility of the boy who is now two years old.” Olaide said her husband was envious of men being around her and prevented her from working so that other men would not go after her. “I got a job in a bank but my husband did not allow me to take up the job and he is always monitoring my movement “Any time I go out and I did not come home before 4.00 p.m. he will lock me out,” she added. She urged the court to dissolve the marriage. The court’s President, Mr Adegboyega Omilola, directed the two parties to go for a possible reconciliation with their relations. He adjourned the case to July 26 for further hearing |
| Politics / Re: Only Few Nigerians Are Complaining Of Going Through Hardship – Femi Adesina by obaao(m): 6:52pm On Jul 09, 2016 |
sharpden: STOP CREATING CHAOS WITH WRONG HEADLINES. Reading through, there is no place where he was quoted saying 'minority are complaining of hardship'. BUT minority are those complaining against the government. |
| Properties / Re: Vacating A House Before Tenancy Expires, Do You Get A Refund? by obaao(m): 7:23am On Jun 25, 2016 |
JuanDeDios: In Nigeria, depending on your agreement with the landlord but in the U.S. It is either you pay more for moving out before expiration or you get sued. |
| Romance / Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by obaao(m): 11:44pm On Jun 19, 2016 |
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| Politics / Dogara Orders Investigation Of Three Reps Over Sex Scandal by obaao(m): 6:48pm On Jun 16, 2016 |
John Ameh, Abuja The Speaker of the House of Representatives, Mr. Yakubu Dogara, on Thursday directed the investigation of three members of the House over an alleged sex scandal. The Chairman, House Committee on Media and Public Affairs, Mr. Abdulrazak Namdas, confirmed this in Abuja, saying that the leadership of the House took the action following a formal complaint made by the US Ambassador to Nigeria, Mr. James Entwistle. He said, “We are in receipt of a letter from the US Ambassador, alleging misconduct by some members of the National Assembly, who attended a training programme in the United States of America. “The leaderships of the House has commenced its own part of the investigation. When it is concluded, we will brief Nigerians further on this issue.” But, Namdas declined to answer questions on how the investigation would be conducted. He did not say if a special committee had been constituted for the assignment or whether it would be conducted by the regular Committee on Ethics and Privileges. “When we say we will conduct an investigation, we will conduct it and there will be a report,” Namdas stated. The development came as the US formally withdrew its visas from the three lawmakers, an indication that they had been barred from future trips to the United States. |
| Education / Re: The Difference Between " I'm And Am" And How To Use Them by obaao(m): 2:59pm On Jun 10, 2016 |
babs123: you are very correct. you don't use am to start a sentence. people mistake I'm to Am because they sound the same. You can't use Am without I preceding it except when asking a question. |
| Romance / 7 Types Of Women That Are A Pure Waste Of Time by obaao(m): 7:29pm On Jun 06, 2016 |
We’re all very busy nowadays, and between work, socializing, keeping fit, and relaxing, we barely have the time to date. This makes it extremely frustrating when someone we are interested in is wasting our time. Luckily, when you know what to look for, it is quite easy to identify and avoid potential time wasters. You need to have an abundance mindset – realize that the girl who is wasting your time is not ever going to be the one, and that you should move on as soon as possible to meet other girls who are potentially a better fit. Clichéd as it may sound, there are other women out there who won’t end up wasting your precious time. The women who just aren’t worth investing your time in No idea what types of women will only end up frustrating you? Here are the top 7 types, along with ways to avoid them. #1 She’s just not that into you. There is nothing worse than falling for a girl who is just not interested in you. She might be a friend, a colleague, or someone from your past. This is usually the case, leading to you coming into consistent contact with each other. Seeing her regularly keeps the feelings fresh and makes it impossible to forget about her. Really, the best thing to do is avoid her and cut contact for a period, at least until you have met someone else or you have completely done away with whatever feelings you have for her. If you’re colleagues or close friends, it might not be possible to avoid her altogether, but you should keep things professional or friendly for a while, and focus your energy on meeting other women. Meeting someone else is the best way to get over her and is also, funnily enough, the thing that is most likely to make her like you, since other women liking you can instantly make you desirable in her eyes. Reality is rarely like a rom-com, and trying to woo her when she is initially not interested is unlikely to get you anywhere, especially if she rebuffs your advances by saying… #2 “Let’s just be friends” or ljbf[/b]. The classic line that women will say to let a guy down gently. She might give reasons, such as the fact that she isn’t looking for a relationship or she doesn’t want to ruin what you already have as friends. Recognize now that these are justifications to spare your feelings. It is her being nice and not telling you that she just isn’t interested. The same applies as in #1. If she says LJBF, that is the end of the line for trying to seduce her. You are not Hugh Grant, and, again, the rom-com plot hardly works in real life. Maintain your relationship with her as it currently is if you wish – especially if you are genuinely already friends – but move on to pursuing other women. You will get over her when you meet someone else that you like and who likes you back. Once you have been “friend zoned,” it is nigh on impossible to get out of it. She doesn’t view you as a potential romantic partner, and you should move on as quickly as possible to avoid putting yourself through a fruitless emotional rollercoaster. #3 She’s still into her ex. This isn’t your fault, and there really isn’t a whole lot you can do about it. If she can’t get over her ex, perhaps she is still in love with him and maybe even continuing to sleep with him, then she will not give herself to you. When her emotions are elsewhere, you will never connect on a deeper level. You might be able to have a fling or a rebound relationship with her, and if you choose to pursue that, it is your prerogative. However, keep in mind that you may not progress any further. In time, when she has allowed herself to truly get over her ex, she may realize that she can learn to want you after all. Don’t try to force it, though. Either keep things casual between you or give her some time, and revisit the idea later down the line to see how she responds. #4 She’s always “busy.” If she has blown you off three times with excuses about being busy, she is probably just stringing you along. Chances are, she only sees you as a guy whom she can have at her beck and call whenever she feels like getting some attention or validation. She might promise to make it up to you or she might show her remorse, but if all she has to offer you are excuses and apologies, then you’re better off not seeing her. What you can do, however, is try to turn the tables by being unavailable. The next time she blows you off, avoid her for a week or two. It might give her enough time to realize that she misses you or that she actually likes you. But if she’s still as elusive as ever, there’s really no point in staying in touch with someone who can’t be bothered to invest some time in you. #5 The text buddy. We spend all day staring at our phones, and women especially love to text and chat all the time. Don’t let yourself fall into the trap of becoming text buddies. You think you’re “getting to know each other” but really, communication through technology is no replacement for talking in real life. You want to maintain an air of mystery and give her reasons to want to actually meet you and get to know who you are for real. So baring it all through text will only make her lose interest very quickly. Text a bit less than she does, send shorter messages, and don’t be scared to cut a conversation off or not reply until the next day. Women love a guy who makes them chase him a bit, so don’t come across as too keen – otherwise, you end up being her validation at the other end of the phone and never get to see her in reality. #6 The gold digger. We’ve all heard of gold diggers, and maybe you’ve met some, especially if you are financially well off. Do not become the guy who pays for everything and gets nothing for it. Whether you pay for everything on dates or not is up to you, and doing so doesn’t in any way make her a gold digger. What does make her a gold digger, is when she doesn’t show any interest in you, rebuffs your advances, and still wants you to buy her things or take her to places without the relationship moving forward over time. It is faulty logic to think that if she isn’t in to you now, you need to throw more things or money at her. It won’t make her like you more, but she may well like the money and string it along for as long as she can. If a girl isn’t into you when you take her for a picnic in the park, she won’t be into you when you take her 5-star dining, either. #7 The flake. You’ve made plans, and she flakes on you at the last minute by making excuses or worse, not even showing up. Sometimes, emergencies happen, of course, but she will be apologetic if it is with a genuine reason. If she has flaked on you more than once, she is probably not really into you, and she’s just keeping you around as her backup plan. Seriously, if a woman flakes out on you when you’ve already tried your patent best to ensure that she’ll have a great time with you, you’re better off exerting the same amount of effort on a woman who can appreciate what you’re willing to do for her. Despite the initial feeling that she may be wasting your time, you can still try a few techniques to get her to appreciate you more. But if that doesn’t happen, remember that there are billions of women out there. The one who keeps wasting your time is not the one you are meant to be with. |
| Romance / 7 Types Of Women That Are A Pure Waste Of Time by obaao(m): 7:24pm On Jun 06, 2016 |
We’re all very busy nowadays, and between work, socializing, keeping fit, and relaxing, we barely have the time to date. This makes it extremely frustrating when someone we are interested in is wasting our time. Luckily, when you know what to look for, it is quite easy to identify and avoid potential time wasters. You need to have an abundance mindset – realize that the girl who is wasting your time is not ever going to be the one, and that you should move on as soon as possible to meet other girls who are potentially a better fit. Clichéd as it may sound, there are other women out there who won’t end up wasting your precious time. The women who just aren’t worth investing your time in No idea what types of women will only end up frustrating you? Here are the top 7 types, along with ways to avoid them. #1 She’s just not that into you. There is nothing worse than falling for a girl who is just not interested in you. She might be a friend, a colleague, or someone from your past. This is usually the case, leading to you coming into consistent contact with each other. Seeing her regularly keeps the feelings fresh and makes it impossible to forget about her. Really, the best thing to do is avoid her and cut contact for a period, at least until you have met someone else or you have completely done away with whatever feelings you have for her. If you’re colleagues or close friends, it might not be possible to avoid her altogether, but you should keep things professional or friendly for a while, and focus your energy on meeting other women. Meeting someone else is the best way to get over her and is also, funnily enough, the thing that is most likely to make her like you, since other women liking you can instantly make you desirable in her eyes. Reality is rarely like a rom-com, and trying to woo her when she is initially not interested is unlikely to get you anywhere, especially if she rebuffs your advances by saying… #2 “Let’s just be friends” or ljbf[/b]. The classic line that women will say to let a guy down gently. She might give reasons, such as the fact that she isn’t looking for a relationship or she doesn’t want to ruin what you already have as friends. Recognize now that these are justifications to spare your feelings. It is her being nice and not telling you that she just isn’t interested. The same applies as in #1. If she says LJBF, that is the end of the line for trying to seduce her. You are not Hugh Grant, and, again, the rom-com plot hardly works in real life. Maintain your relationship with her as it currently is if you wish – especially if you are genuinely already friends – but move on to pursuing other women. You will get over her when you meet someone else that you like and who likes you back. Once you have been “friend zoned,” it is nigh on impossible to get out of it. She doesn’t view you as a potential romantic partner, and you should move on as quickly as possible to avoid putting yourself through a fruitless emotional rollercoaster. #3 She’s still into her ex. This isn’t your fault, and there really isn’t a whole lot you can do about it. If she can’t get over her ex, perhaps she is still in love with him and maybe even continuing to sleep with him, then she will not give herself to you. When her emotions are elsewhere, you will never connect on a deeper level. You might be able to have a fling or a rebound relationship with her, and if you choose to pursue that, it is your prerogative. However, keep in mind that you may not progress any further. In time, when she has allowed herself to truly get over her ex, she may realize that she can learn to want you after all. Don’t try to force it, though. Either keep things casual between you or give her some time, and revisit the idea later down the line to see how she responds. #4 She’s always “busy.” If she has blown you off three times with excuses about being busy, she is probably just stringing you along. Chances are, she only sees you as a guy whom she can have at her beck and call whenever she feels like getting some attention or validation. She might promise to make it up to you or she might show her remorse, but if all she has to offer you are excuses and apologies, then you’re better off not seeing her. What you can do, however, is try to turn the tables by being unavailable. The next time she blows you off, avoid her for a week or two. It might give her enough time to realize that she misses you or that she actually likes you. But if she’s still as elusive as ever, there’s really no point in staying in touch with someone who can’t be bothered to invest some time in you. #5 The text buddy. We spend all day staring at our phones, and women especially love to text and chat all the time. Don’t let yourself fall into the trap of becoming text buddies. You think you’re “getting to know each other” but really, communication through technology is no replacement for talking in real life. You want to maintain an air of mystery and give her reasons to want to actually meet you and get to know who you are for real. So baring it all through text will only make her lose interest very quickly. Text a bit less than she does, send shorter messages, and don’t be scared to cut a conversation off or not reply until the next day. Women love a guy who makes them chase him a bit, so don’t come across as too keen – otherwise, you end up being her validation at the other end of the phone and never get to see her in reality. #6 The gold digger. We’ve all heard of gold diggers, and maybe you’ve met some, especially if you are financially well off. Do not become the guy who pays for everything and gets nothing for it. Whether you pay for everything on dates or not is up to you, and doing so doesn’t in any way make her a gold digger. What does make her a gold digger, is when she doesn’t show any interest in you, rebuffs your advances, and still wants you to buy her things or take her to places without the relationship moving forward over time. It is faulty logic to think that if she isn’t in to you now, you need to throw more things or money at her. It won’t make her like you more, but she may well like the money and string it along for as long as she can. If a girl isn’t into you when you take her for a picnic in the park, she won’t be into you when you take her 5-star dining, either. #7 The flake. You’ve made plans, and she flakes on you at the last minute by making excuses or worse, not even showing up. Sometimes, emergencies happen, of course, but she will be apologetic if it is with a genuine reason. If she has flaked on you more than once, she is probably not really into you, and she’s just keeping you around as her backup plan. Seriously, if a woman flakes out on you when you’ve already tried your patent best to ensure that she’ll have a great time with you, you’re better off exerting the same amount of effort on a woman who can appreciate what you’re willing to do for her. Despite the initial feeling that she may be wasting your time, you can still try a few techniques to get her to appreciate you more. But if that doesn’t happen, remember that there are billions of women out there. The one who keeps wasting your time is not the one you are meant to be with. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Romance / 7 Types Of Women That Are A Pure Waste Of Time by obaao(m): 7:15pm On Jun 06, 2016 |
We’re all very busy nowadays, and between work, socializing, keeping fit, and relaxing, we barely have the time to date. This makes it extremely frustrating when someone we are interested in is wasting our time. Luckily, when you know what to look for, it is quite easy to identify and avoid potential time wasters. You need to have an abundance mindset – realize that the girl who is wasting your time is not ever going to be the one, and that you should move on as soon as possible to meet other girls who are potentially a better fit. Clichéd as it may sound, there are other women out there who won’t end up wasting your precious time. The women who just aren’t worth investing your time in No idea what types of women will only end up frustrating you? Here are the top 7 types, along with ways to avoid them. #1 She’s just not that into you. There is nothing worse than falling for a girl who is just not interested in you. She might be a friend, a colleague, or someone from your past. This is usually the case, leading to you coming into consistent contact with each other. Seeing her regularly keeps the feelings fresh and makes it impossible to forget about her. Really, the best thing to do is avoid her and cut contact for a period, at least until you have met someone else or you have completely done away with whatever feelings you have for her. If you’re colleagues or close friends, it might not be possible to avoid her altogether, but you should keep things professional or friendly for a while, and focus your energy on meeting other women. Meeting someone else is the best way to get over her and is also, funnily enough, the thing that is most likely to make her like you, since other women liking you can instantly make you desirable in her eyes. Reality is rarely like a rom-com, and trying to woo her when she is initially not interested is unlikely to get you anywhere, especially if she rebuffs your advances by saying… #2 “Let’s just be friends” or ljbf[/b]. The classic line that women will say to let a guy down gently. She might give reasons, such as the fact that she isn’t looking for a relationship or she doesn’t want to ruin what you already have as friends. Recognize now that these are justifications to spare your feelings. It is her being nice and not telling you that she just isn’t interested. The same applies as in #1. If she says LJBF, that is the end of the line for trying to seduce her. You are not Hugh Grant, and, again, the rom-com plot hardly works in real life. Maintain your relationship with her as it currently is if you wish – especially if you are genuinely already friends – but move on to pursuing other women. You will get over her when you meet someone else that you like and who likes you back. Once you have been “friend zoned,” it is nigh on impossible to get out of it. She doesn’t view you as a potential romantic partner, and you should move on as quickly as possible to avoid putting yourself through a fruitless emotional rollercoaster. #3 She’s still into her ex. This isn’t your fault, and there really isn’t a whole lot you can do about it. If she can’t get over her ex, perhaps she is still in love with him and maybe even continuing to sleep with him, then she will not give herself to you. When her emotions are elsewhere, you will never connect on a deeper level. You might be able to have a fling or a rebound relationship with her, and if you choose to pursue that, it is your prerogative. However, keep in mind that you may not progress any further. In time, when she has allowed herself to truly get over her ex, she may realize that she can learn to want you after all. Don’t try to force it, though. Either keep things casual between you or give her some time, and revisit the idea later down the line to see how she responds. #4 She’s always “busy.” If she has blown you off three times with excuses about being busy, she is probably just stringing you along. Chances are, she only sees you as a guy whom she can have at her beck and call whenever she feels like getting some attention or validation. She might promise to make it up to you or she might show her remorse, but if all she has to offer you are excuses and apologies, then you’re better off not seeing her. What you can do, however, is try to turn the tables by being unavailable. The next time she blows you off, avoid her for a week or two. It might give her enough time to realize that she misses you or that she actually likes you. But if she’s still as elusive as ever, there’s really no point in staying in touch with someone who can’t be bothered to invest some time in you. #5 The text buddy. We spend all day staring at our phones, and women especially love to text and chat all the time. Don’t let yourself fall into the trap of becoming text buddies. You think you’re “getting to know each other” but really, communication through technology is no replacement for talking in real life. You want to maintain an air of mystery and give her reasons to want to actually meet you and get to know who you are for real. So baring it all through text will only make her lose interest very quickly. Text a bit less than she does, send shorter messages, and don’t be scared to cut a conversation off or not reply until the next day. Women love a guy who makes them chase him a bit, so don’t come across as too keen – otherwise, you end up being her validation at the other end of the phone and never get to see her in reality. #6 The gold digger. We’ve all heard of gold diggers, and maybe you’ve met some, especially if you are financially well off. Do not become the guy who pays for everything and gets nothing for it. Whether you pay for everything on dates or not is up to you, and doing so doesn’t in any way make her a gold digger. What does make her a gold digger, is when she doesn’t show any interest in you, rebuffs your advances, and still wants you to buy her things or take her to places without the relationship moving forward over time. It is faulty logic to think that if she isn’t in to you now, you need to throw more things or money at her. It won’t make her like you more, but she may well like the money and string it along for as long as she can. If a girl isn’t into you when you take her for a picnic in the park, she won’t be into you when you take her 5-star dining, either. #7 The flake. You’ve made plans, and she flakes on you at the last minute by making excuses or worse, not even showing up. Sometimes, emergencies happen, of course, but she will be apologetic if it is with a genuine reason. If she has flaked on you more than once, she is probably not really into you, and she’s just keeping you around as her backup plan. Seriously, if a woman flakes out on you when you’ve already tried your patent best to ensure that she’ll have a great time with you, you’re better off exerting the same amount of effort on a woman who can appreciate what you’re willing to do for her. Despite the initial feeling that she may be wasting your time, you can still try a few techniques to get her to appreciate you more. But if that doesn’t happen, remember that there are billions of women out there. The one who keeps wasting your time is not the one you are meant to be with. |
| Crime / Re: Alfa Kidnaps And Rapes Dubai Returnee In Lagos, For Five Months (photo) by obaao(m): 6:34am On Jun 06, 2016 |
This is the aftermath result of you failing to realise that you do not need any Alfa or Pastor to help solve your problems. No issue can be too difficult for you handle if only you believe that through your own mouth the Almighty God can come to the rescue. PRAYER, FAITH AND PATIENCE are the solutions. But wait o, 10 times in 5 months while in captivity, I am sure you've lost count. 12 Likes 1 Share |
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| Family / Man Divorces Wife For Building A House Without His Knowledge - Vanguard by obaao(m): 5:57pm On May 25, 2016 |
Lagos – A Lagos Island Customary Court on Wednesday dissolved the 17-year-old marriage between a transporter, Haruna Amunikoro, and his wife, Alimotu, after he complained that his wife built a house without informing him. Granting the husband’s request, the court President, Mr Awos Awosola, said that the effort of the court to reconcile the parties had failed, as Amunikoro insisted on divorce. “The marriage between the two parties is hereby dissolved with effect from today in accordance with the Lagos State Customary Court Law, 2011, Order 3, Rule 7, as amended. “The custody of the first child and only son, Anus, 15, is awarded to the father while that of the two girls, Simiyat, 10; and Aishat, 7, remains with the wife. “The petitioner should pay the children’s feeding allowances of N10,000 on a monthly basis through this honourable court and should also be responsible for the children school and hospital bills. “However, both parties are granted unhindered access to the child/children at any reasonable time of the day,’’ he ruled. Awosola also ordered the petitioner to give the respondent N250,000 compensation within seven days of the judgment with which to start her new life. Amuniloro, 42, who resides at No. 91/93 Odunfa St., Lagos Island, in his petition, told the court that his wife, a trader, bought a plot of land in Ikorodu and built a bungalow on it without letting him know. “My wife has also started giving out tricycle and motorcycle to riders and they pay for them on installment, which is the same business that I do. “I have warned her severally to stop the business but she would not listen. On two occasions she has stabbed me with a kitchen knife and a scissors. “My wife is not sincere with me. She hides so many things about herself from me. I cannot cope with her secretive ways any more, please separate us,’’ he pleaded with the court. Alimotu, who did not deny the allegations, said that she started being secretive with her husband because of the sudden change in his behaviour and his infidelity. She told the court that their marriage which was once blissful took a different turn in 2012 when they rented their own apartment. “We were staying in my husband’s family house before we rented our own apartment in 2012, since then my husband has been unfaithful to me. “He brings different kinds of women into our matrimonial home and sleeps with them on our bed. “Whenever I confronted him, he beats me. On three occasions my husband beat me to a pulp and stripped me naked. “I joined him in doing the same business because it is a lucrative one, but since I started it, I have had no rest of mind,’’ she said. Alimotu, who had consistently prayed the court to reconcile them as she still loved her husband, however, pleaded with the court to dissolve the marriage without further delay. “Since I have been begging my husband and his family for so long and nothing positive have come of it, please dissolve the marriage so I can go on with my life,’’ she said. Sign iLagos – A Lagos Island Customary Court on Wednesday dissolved the 17-year-old marriage between a transporter, Haruna Amunikoro, and his wife, Alimotu, after he complained that his wife built a house without informing him. Granting the husband’s request, the court President, Mr Awos Awosola, said that the effort of the court to reconcile the parties had failed, as Amunikoro insisted on divorce. “The marriage between the two parties is hereby dissolved with effect from today in accordance with the Lagos State Customary Court Law, 2011, Order 3, Rule 7, as amended. “The custody of the first child and only son, Anus, 15, is awarded to the father while that of the two girls, Simiyat, 10; and Aishat, 7, remains with the wife. “The petitioner should pay the children’s feeding allowances of N10,000 on a monthly basis through this honourable court and should also be responsible for the children school and hospital bills. “However, both parties are granted unhindered access to the child/children at any reasonable time of the day,’’ he ruled. Awosola also ordered the petitioner to give the respondent N250,000 compensation within seven days of the judgment with which to start her new life. Amuniloro, 42, who resides at No. 91/93 Odunfa St., Lagos Island, in his petition, told the court that his wife, a trader, bought a plot of land in Ikorodu and built a bungalow on it without letting him know. “My wife has also started giving out tricycle and motorcycle to riders and they pay for them on installment, which is the same business that I do. “I have warned her severally to stop the business but she would not listen. On two occasions she has stabbed me with a kitchen knife and a scissors. “My wife is not sincere with me. She hides so many things about herself from me. I cannot cope with her secretive ways any more, please separate us,’’ he pleaded with the court. Alimotu, who did not deny the allegations, said that she started being secretive with her husband because of the sudden change in his behaviour and his infidelity. She told the court that their marriage which was once blissful took a different turn in 2012 when they rented their own apartment. “We were staying in my husband’s family house before we rented our own apartment in 2012, since then my husband has been unfaithful to me. “He brings different kinds of women into our matrimonial home and sleeps with them on our bed. “Whenever I confronted him, he beats me. On three occasions my husband beat me to a pulp and stripped me naked. “I joined him in doing the same business because it is a lucrative one, but since I started it, I have had no rest of mind,’’ she said. Alimotu, who had consistently prayed the court to reconcile them as she still loved her husband, however, pleaded with the court to dissolve the marriage without further delay. “Since I have been begging my husband and his family for so long and nothing positive have come of it, please dissolve the marriage so I can go on with my life,’’ she said. 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| Crime / Re: Ex-Army Captain Commits Suicide In Calabar by obaao(m): 11:08am On May 23, 2016 |
Reading the story above, proper investigation has to carried out to establish the truth. This looks so much like murder case. RIP, CAPTAIN. |
| Career / Re: Lecturing Job Vs MNC Job Which Do You Prefer? by obaao(m): 7:58am On May 22, 2016 |
Sorry for late response. I will advise you go for federal electoral Job if only it is a permanent one than going to Shell Contract Job. Contract Jobs in Oil Companies are not as fantastic as people think. Mentioning one out of others: No other payment apart from your salary which is meagre to what it should be and can be laid of anytime. But for federal, you are good for anything. |
| Business / Re: Six Silly Mistakes Business Owners Do by obaao(m): 6:48am On May 21, 2016 |
8. Not paying workers' salaries This will result to stealing and poor response from workers. 14 Likes 1 Share |
| Family / Re: Freeman David, A Nairalander Is Dead! by obaao(m): 8:28am On May 02, 2016 |
RIP. LIFE IS SO SHORT AND UNPREDICTABLE. NO ONE KNOWS WHO THE NEXT PERSON IS. BE GOOD TO GOD AND MEN. LET CHRIST REIGN IN YOUR LIFE. SURRENDER TO HIM. MY PRAYER IS WE SHALL ALL LIVE LONG BY HIS GRACE. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Career / Re: Lecturing Job Vs MNC Job Which Do You Prefer? by obaao(m): 8:30am On Apr 24, 2016 |
In this secular world, there are 2 aims: Money or Career. If your aim is to make money like N1Million in a month (this is real), you can opt for MNC but you might be on the same level for a long time due to discrimination and mgt's discretion and finally be shown the way out. If your interest is career, go for lecturing and professorship will be your limit without any discrimination and you will still have time for personal business which will eventually bring the money. The choice is all yours. 1 Like |
| Family / Re: My Husband Sleeps With Me Once In 5 Months – Woman Tells Court by obaao(m): 9:56pm On Mar 14, 2016 |
'.....he is impotent.' No more comment. The children are not his. Court should just dissolve. 1 Like |
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