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Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 7:28pm On Jun 25, 2020
Pascopele:
That girl is not anything, she was never a cultist, don't get it twisted.
Who no go no know

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Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 7:27pm On Jun 25, 2020
Passionate888:
Carefully read this; Their prescence aren't felt there. I never said they are not there.
Says who?! Their presence is felt in Uniport
Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 3:38pm On Jun 25, 2020
What's the essence of the thread?if you know a thing or two please share you maybe saving someone.
LostAddict:


That's what I mean, I went through the poem analysed by the guy and I noticed it wasn't detailed. The guy who talked about Atabor/ATB only touched the surface, he did not even go deep in any way. I am also yet to see even the slightest concrete detail about Amici except mentioning Egba which everybody in the know already knows of it's existence.

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Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 3:22pm On Jun 25, 2020
enthronedbyGod1:


She was actually from the water.

She also came as promised to confirm if I meant what I really said.

As soon as she entered my room and sat on my bed, I opened my door, windows and cottons wide, brought out the new Bible I bought, sat down on my chair and started speaking to her,

She stood up , left and never returned again.

As for your story about the juju fortification, it's very true.
No be lie oooooooo
Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 3:20pm On Jun 25, 2020
sweetguy10:
When I was in 100L I ignorantly dated a black bra girl until she opened her mouth and told me herself . Though I’ve always noticed she wears black pants and bra/undies most times , most of them are lesbos etc .....how we went our separate ways is a story for another day though i had to run away from school for close to a month as she was threatening me with fire and brimstones....


In 400L I dated an Aloress , their male counterpart number 3 girlfriend. Screwed her anyhow till the guy got to know and started looking for me and even placed a bounty on my head , stupid idiot .....

The downside is those female cultists are always possessed . InFact most of them are witches , Nymphomaniacs, petty thieves and THEY ARE ALL PROSTITUTES .
Yes, very true
The bolded hardly will you see a female cultist that is not a nymph
The italics, you tried and happy you were lived to tell the story. Austin was seriously dealt with, we never heard nor saw him again.
The CAPS, is always the end product of being a female cultist. If the male counter part were just having a good time and maybe 3 of their female counterparts join them, guess what?! you guess is as good as mine.

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Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 11:52am On Jun 25, 2020
The schools are name after barracks e.g Nairaland barracks. they are sometimes referred to as odb soldiers they pipping or greeting is THE NIGHT IS DARK ARYZ APACHE
Kingfish542:
make person still cast Apache(tutu) na
Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 9:16am On Jun 25, 2020
They identify themselves thus, name Judge xyz or Jxyz, code 0085 nairaland marine. EGBA is there god, Queen Mother is Kokori. Their female counterparts are devil incarnate.
ekene101:
To do best of my knowledge,jurist(grand lord) aka Amici originated from Edo state,akoko Edo (igarra to be precise) they are very brutal but rarely gets into issues with other frats,one thing I dread about them is that you hardly know their members,they don't roll in groups,they don't dress to impress,they don't intimidate or oppress others,they just blend into the society like normal ordinary people.you hardly know them except you are close to or related to one of them.
These guys had issue with elebe some years back at igarra and caught one elebe,tied him upside down,set fire with wood under his head and were playing cards and drinking their thing. Very brutal and silent guys.

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Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 8:59am On Jun 25, 2020
Through the 1990s and 2000s, the groups inspired terror: Students were hacked to death or shot in their sleep, and professors were murdered in their offices in what seemed to be random attacks. Such crimes are often assigned to new members .
MummyIMadeIt:


Just imagine.. undecided
Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 7:53pm On Jun 24, 2020
Accountability:


Obviously @obelz experience entails secondary school cult groups evident from JVC (Junior Vikings Confraternity) and the members' ages stated, tho this thread focuses more on tertiary institution cult groups which is the herald of cultism&in that scenario, White Angels is the female counterpart of Jurist Confraternity while that of Vikings is Viqueens.

Hopefully you've not changed your mind about sharing your efficient gOaT meat to encourage more to #saynotocultism.
You don't know me and should not just conclude. I have been there, seen & done it. I haven't even revealed the useless group and have gotten threat's.

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Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 1:54pm On Jun 24, 2020
Peacebeuntoyouu:


Actually boss, she had so much Faith in her jazz, most of these girls engaged in such rubbish lifestyle are very fetish.. some go to the extent of putting incision on their private organ, with the belief that any man who enters there becomes their dummy. It works for some, not all, that's why you see some one them getting car and property gifts from clients and you begin to wonder.

PS: Please, does guys arguing about the potency of jazz and what not.. avoid quoting me. I'm not joining issues with you guys. Whatever you belive is right. angry

Blessings
This is also true.

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Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 1:47pm On Jun 24, 2020
enthronedbyGod1:




. Characteristics of the few I dated as a student.

1- They have an unusual boldness.
2- They have no respect for their privacy ( private parts). There lies their power to kill any man
3- They are champions of nudity.
4- They are drug addicts.
5- They are champions of seduction and if you aren't strong willed you'll fall like a pack of card.
6- They pay allegiance to their male counterparts.
7- They are demon possessed and when it comes upon them they gain unusual strength.
8- They are very beautiful.
9- They are sexually disoriented hence have no respect for their bodies.
10- They sell themselves to the highest bidder.
11- Their sexual strength is second to none.
12- Their bodies are their greatest weapon.
13- Lastly more than 75% of escorts ( refined prostitute s) in Nigeria are into one frat or the other.


I was actually with one when I renounced my ways, she gave me 2 weeks and said I'll be back ,cos she felt she was irresistible, but its almost 2 decades and I've never looked back.
1. Bold female cultist don't beg students for assignments, tests or exams. Instead, they take the trade to randy lecturers and get their grades in exchange for sex without anyone knowing about it. This is when lecturers claim it is a mutual affair. Most of them are nice students. They are good to their classmates and this perhaps is a calculated effort to make it difficult for their colleagues to reject them when they ask for their assistance.

2. There lies their power to kill any man who has no control of his third leg.

4.This is a criteria and once you are hooked, it over except you decide to embrace God. three of my friends in the same cult group are in rehab, they have been there since 2017. Cocaine, codien, refnol, weed addiction

6. ABSOULTElY VERY TRUE

7.Spot on, The male counterparts use them to bring down their rivals and in many case they are fortified spiritually in diabolic means just to achieve their aim.

8. This is also another Hidden criteria

All you stated above is nothing but the truth. Your number 13 is SO TRUE mostly they come out with pass after many extra years. In the event of no Job they relapse into their old way, bad habit are difficult to change. Our leaders, very connected with Made men in the society from wealthy postgraduate students, politicians, business men, and military personnel, among others. she was nicknamed Bella Lucie aka KURELLA. She never graduated

NUGA games was hosted by Uniben in 2011, the Chancellor came with his entourage, ALL of us external plus some of the girls in that school were drafted to pleased the entourage. Money sent to us to shared almost turned nasty if not for the intervention of some male counterparts.

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Art, Graphics & Video / Re: Graphics Designer Whatsapp Group by OBelz(f): 1:11pm On Jun 24, 2020
Yes I am using my original mail, but I have not responded to any dm so far
Nezzjnr:

shocked shocked shocked shocked

Hope you aren't using your original mail and please when giving out stories... When it comes to identies.... Use a fake name instead.... Same thing the OP did
Art, Graphics & Video / Re: Graphics Designer Whatsapp Group by OBelz(f): 12:02pm On Jun 24, 2020
Thank you. I have received countless of DM's or PM's with threats.
Nezzjnr:
Obelz it's advisable you remove your picture from your profile


These guys are heartless.... They may do everything to silence you
Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 11:50am On Jun 24, 2020
You see with the infiltration of cultism into secondary schools, they have become many female cult group. Notable ones are
Black Bra or Black Brassieres or Black Bowls or Black Queens-Ayes
Vice Queen (Vipers)
Red Devil Girls/Red Rose-Pirates
TG Girls (Trigger Girls),
F-Tibi (Future Tibi),
White Angels (JVC – Junior Vikings), 'Whitey’,
Pink Lady (Apache),
Bad Dragon,
BlueQueens/ Birds Eiye
Red Sea- Buccaneers Association of Nigeria (BAN) or Alora
Accountability:


Most people don't understand that female confraternities have direct links to male confraternities especially through ideologies/OT like Red Rose is the female version of Pyrates&when one consciously or unconsciously has dealings with members of such female cult groups, there's a high tendency to be exposed to the their corresponding male counterparts&the trouble that ensues. You can enlighten us more to #saynotocultism by mentioning the female confraternities alongside their corresponding male cult group counterparts, you can click my moniker&view my posts to separately see my posts on the various campus cults in order for you to easily indicate their female versions.

Atheists&religion fanatics, Nairaland is big enough to get another land free of charge without harassment from omonile, then invite yourselves&settle your matter there, otherwise kindly pretend you have sense&stop derailing.
Human influence is a powerful social variable that can make or mar a girl’s sense of worth, academic performance, career choices and vulnerabilities.

Many students that belong stated that their parents are too busy for them and do not care about their welfare or academics as long as they are seen attending school. Ify clearly stated that she plans to run away from home because of undue parental pressure on all fronts right from secondary school.

Another student noted that her parents are forcing her to go against her desires. One complained about intimidation from her folks, another complained that her parent have anger issues, and often transfer their aggression on her.

Some complain of lack of money from parents to buy books, many carrying worn bags or wearing torn shoes and designers. A few expressed strong desires for not being able to buy other simple things, like a favorite dress. A few other parental issues like emotional abuse (insults thrown at student constantly), lack of trust, parents’ assumed conclusion that student must be a bad child at school, overburden with excessive house chores, lack of attention, love and care from parents/guardian, and insistent from parents that student must hawk were a number of pressures these make these girl want to belong.

Cultism makes cult students live in fear and are ruled by fear. The fear is as a result of possible attack by rival groups. In their halls of
residence they are afraid, in lecture rooms, library and even while walking along the streets they are afraid. All these lead to loss of concentration
in their studies. Some on their own stop going to lectures because of threat from rival groups.

Some parents have to withdraw their wards from school because of threat from cultists. For some, that may be the end of their schooling. Cultists disrupt normal school activities. In the event of fighting among rival groups or adverse security reports of possible out-break of violence as a result of cult activities.

In 2002, a cultist female student in Delta State University, Abraka, Nigeria, and a girl-friend of a cultist in University of Benin, Nigeria, was killed and hewed into pieces on the instruction of her boy-friend. The offence she committed was that she said she wanted to pull out of the relationship to enable her marry. See my first post about leaving the group.

Delta State University, Abraka, Nigeria, in 2005. A mercenary who was hired from University of Benin, Nigeria, to write a paper for the girl-friend fired gun shots in the examination hall to escape arrest. This led to confusion everywhere. He was later rusticated and cause serous mayhem in school environment.

A case in point is the event which took place at Enugu State University of Science and Technology, Nigeria. Two young men walked into an examination venue and fired gun shots into the air to scare people away. In the confusion which ensued, they got at their target and murdered him in cold blood

Delta State University in Abraka, the activities of secret cult groups resulted in the death of a Principal Assistant Registrar and his wife. Two secret cult groups – the and the Bucaneers were engaged in what appeared like an all-out war.

Students of Delta State University in Abraka, carried out a massive destruction of some parts of the campus on 7th September, 2002. The Vice Chancellor’s lodge was burnt in the process, so also was the department of linguistic building.

On 5th August, 2002 a 300 level economics student was shot and slaughtered at the Dalimore area of Ado-Ekiti, the Capital City of Ekiti State, the source of the crime was traced to cultists. Incidentally the slain student was the only child of his parents.

At the University of Jos in Plateau State, reported that two undergraduates were callously shot dead while they were deeply asleep. This happened when some cultist groups were engaged in a battle of supremacy during the miss “Unijos” competition.

In Edo State, reported that some criminals suspected to be cultists set a house ablaze at 32 Omokaro Street, Benin City when the cultists, after ransacking the house could not find the people they were looking for

Cultists spearhead riots at the slightest complaint. In the process of rioting, they loot school property, burn down buildings, humiliate school authorities, create uncertainty and hardship in the school community and breakdown of law and order. A former Vice Chancellor of Delta State University, Abraka, Nigeria, during a riot was carried in a car boot to Edo State University, Ekpoma, Nigeria, blindfolded. How they were able to get a whole VC.? Your guess is a s good as mine. There is a saying that say EVERY MAN HAS A PRICE

In the event of fighting rival groups, they kill one another. Parents, relations and friends lose loved ones. Parents who had spent all their resources to bring up their children and wards for dependence at old age live the remaining part of their lives unhappy, frustrated and full of regrets.

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Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 9:54am On Jun 24, 2020
butterfly777:


How do they "toast" people into joining them?
Do they forcefully initiate girls too?
Yes, in some cases. . Do you remember why people who drink at open bar wants to take a lick and when they return because they did not tell someone to watch their drink, they order another drink? Female cult group were the founders of such despicable act.

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Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 9:50am On Jun 24, 2020
In the late 1990s, all-female confraternities began to be formed. These include the Black Brazier (Bra Bra), Daughters of Jezebel, etc. Female confraternities have supplied spies for allied male confraternities as well as acting as prostitution syndicates. The operations of the female cult groups are significantly different from that of their male counterpart although they have some similarities.

Some inherent similarities are
-Control of human communication, the follower is convinced of the higher purpose within the special group, that the world is sharply divided into absolute good and the absolute evil,
-Personal boundaries are destroyed and every thought, feeling, or action that does not conform to the rules of the group must he confessed,
-the group advances the idea that the cult's laws. rules and regulations are absolute and, therefore, to be followed automatically and without question,
-No alternative viewpoint is allowed,
-Loaded language invokes fear or other thought-stopping techniques,
-Controlling the words used to communicate helps to control thoughts,
-The value of individuals is insignificant when compared to the value of the group, group belief supersedes individual
conscience and integrity,
-The group decides who has a right to exist and who does not and harassment of non members.

The basic activities undertaken by the female cult group as significantly different from that of
the male are:

(i) Sexual atrocities with opposite sex
Sexual Atrocities With Opposite Sex and Prostitution Syndicate: Peer pressure is everywhere.
In campuses, female cult members are referred to as" the bad girls". The bad girls willingly embraced prostitution, because of their insatiable need for the good things in life. New members are lured into the confraternity by various subtle means and empty promises. Recruits are enticed by the prospect of having access to money and employment opportunities. They gradually coopt the more conservative ones. If one person has 3 cell phones, another wants to do the same. If one student has flashy clothes, the other wants it. For those who are probably not from the very rich families, (they are forced to start looking for ways to make up and in many cases; they end up being lured into sleeping with men with promising offers

(ii) Agent of set-up In a report by vanguard newspaper on march 7, 2014 was the case of a female cultist by name Miss M****, who set up her friend to be raped in Ilorin, a female student of the College of Technology, Offa, in kwara state. She was Paraded by the police for allegedly luring her friend to he gang-raped by five of her cult members. She confessed at the Police headquarters in llorin that she was also gang-raped much earlier by four boys before she was initiated into the cult group. She said she lured her friend to be raped by her cultist friends because she refused to join them in spite of the pressure mounted on her. She later regretted her action after realizing that she has not gained anything since she joined the group. Rape set-up among the female cult group is a way of building their ego and could be criteria to move up in the hierarchical ladder in the group. The set-up could be in terms of rape, drug trafficking, prostitution syndicate etc. They are also used to set up rival gangs, they are tailed, get their movement where they stay, eat sleep and what they like to drink. Most often that not new initiate are usually given these assigments just like their male counterparts externals are also used for the mapping out

(iii) Sexual perverseness/Lesbianism 20th April, 2015, a 17 year old female student of Niger Delta University was attached by Red Roses female cult group members who are into lesbianism. Her refusal to join the group spurred the attack on her life and was equally injected with harmful substances and for days, she was in a state of craziness. She was tied to a chair, severely beaten by four girls and her hair attachment was forceful removed.

(iv) Prostitution syndicate

(v) Alcoholism/smoking/drug abuse

Cultism is not a child's play. It is a hydra-headed monster that has to be tackled with a multi-dimensional approach. The cooperation of everyone. both within and outside the school system is needed.

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Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 9:12am On Jun 24, 2020
Becoming one of the members of such group, you will need to go through a certain procedure for new-comers, which implies VIRGINITY loss (with the presence of other members of the clan), cutting of thumbs, cooking a kind of a soup with the blood from these parts of the body and then drinking such a beverage. During an initiation ceremony, the eyes of the initiate are expected to be closed while sonic incantations are recited. The new entrants are made to drink some concoctions mixed with blood.

Prospective cult members must demonstrate the ability to use weapons, while ability to consume alcohol, use drugs & being a lesbian is are added advantages, wearing of provocative dresses that accentuate natural curves and contours is almost a must. They must also be able to display unusual bravado during altercations with uninitiated female students. Most female cultist must be a smoker of marijuana and all brands of cigarettes, she must be able to consume all kinds of alcohol. To guarantee her acceptance, she must pass the test stated above.
After you have become a member of this group, you can’t leave it unless you are dead or you come under protection of more stronger clan.
MummyIMadeIt:


You are welcome oh, please if possible follow accountability tables of content for more clarity.
. For the female cultists, their initiation may include being forced to engage in some immoral activities. Among the Jezebels and Amazons for example, new entrants may be made to undergo six rounds of rigorous intercourse in quick successions. They may also be made to fight with other girls. In my own case I fought with Jane and I really injured her. She still has the scars till date. Please, Jane if you reading forgive me. You are expected to move around in groups of four or five as a means of protecting themselves against possible sexual harassment. After initiation new members are taught to communicate with other members in coded language.

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Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 9:03am On Jun 24, 2020
You playing with fire. I know of someone that was a very close friends to the Number 1 in the cult group, he was never a member but he was loved by the sect/cult. He grooves them, booze them, buy food for them infact if you don't have your ears on the ground you will think he was a member. War broke out between the two rival cult, the opposing sect came for him, what they did to him was not even near brutal, he was killed.
dontknownutn11:
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Brother true talk but forget..it all depends on your level of interaction with ur frat guys. I am no cultist but i roll well with my ayes and eiye guys in d hood. I greet some ayes by saying CLEAR ROAD or AMIGO. They just laff and say u dey craze..The birds i dnt really like to say dat word Abrakaya cos its just kinda rubbish but i do call them rugged. Who them born well mk he raise hand touch me for my hood?? Na ur fellow men go play you that day. All na levels. Just like the yorubas will say " Omo buruku ni ojo ti e" ...A bad child has his good days. I have cultists as friends cos you no fit carry S.U go meet aye/eiye/viki if u get any misunderstanding.

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Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 8:55am On Jun 24, 2020
julifeisgood:
Throughout 1998, both K and Efosa tried luring me into the NBM. I am the studious type, though from a middle class bbackground. I was also very young - I was only 20 years old in 1998. They tried using girls, fame, attendance at invites-only parties on and off campus to lure me, but I refused.

I faced my studies and fellowships.

And then, the July 10, 1999 massacre happened.

I remember that we had just resumed from another Professor Omole campus closure and Ife was hosting the national gyration of the Kegites Club. Different Kegites Club from several campuses were around. That night specifically, I remember watching the gyration at Awo Hall Cafe for a few hours, and then going upstairs to the TV room to watch "mojo." Somehow I slept off while in the TV room. And then those gunshots woke me up. I remember running from Awo Hall TV room to the back of Angola Hall's Block A non-stop.

And then a few hours after the dust had settled, I learnt Afrika died in the attack.

A few days later, I was shocked when Efosa was caught by students and brought to Awo Hall Coffee Room for interrogation.

I became tramautized. All of that drama was happening around me.

Thankfully, today, I can say I have no regrets refusing to join NBM. I have a job, and a family now. I'm not searching for anybody, nobody is searching for me. I'm just living my normal life. I'm not watching my back every now and then.

So please, young folks, do saynotocultism. It has no benefits at all. I'm praying that 22 years down the line, you will look back like I'm doing today and be cool with the fact that you refused to join a fraternity.

And for those already in, my heart and my prayers are with you. I respect your decision, and I'm praying that wherever that decision leads, you will find mercy in the eyes of God/Allah.
The bolded is usually what they use to lure people especially for the youngs ones within the ge of 18-24yrs

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Crime / Re: My Story As A Cult Member........initiation Phase Included... by OBelz(f): 2:07pm On Jun 23, 2020
Cultism have killed dreams. I may share my experience soon after which I will deactivate cry cry cry cry cry cry cry

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Romance / Re: I Really Love Him But What Do I Do? by OBelz(f): 1:42pm On Jun 23, 2020
wink
Reex12:
your welcome dear
Romance / Re: What's The Most Extreme Measure You Have Taken So You Could Avoid Having Sex? by OBelz(f): 1:41pm On Jun 23, 2020
Good boy!
emmax27:
I intentionally didn't buy runner cause I knew she wouldn't wanna bleep without it since she's a runs babe and she can't to sleep at my place, when the heat was getting too much she just asked if I have rubber I told her no, mehn I could feel the diappointment in her tone
Romance / Re: What About You, Do You Like Them Young Or Old? by OBelz(f): 1:38pm On Jun 23, 2020
I always preferred older men. I am not necessarily attracted to older men, but I'm still attracted to the same general age as I was when I was 18, men in their 30s-50s.

The following reasons are based only on my personal experience. I realise that someone's age doesn't necessarily mean any of this will be true, but they're the qualities I noticed in general that were different from younger men.

Older men (at the time I was 18, meaning men in their 30s-50s):

-They usually know what they're doing in a relationship and in bed.

-I found they weren't looking for someone to do their laundry, clean up after them, cook for them. Too often, younger men were just leaving home and an unfortunate number didn't have basic life skills and were looking for someone else to step into the role their mommy played in their lives.

-They've made mistakes before and have learned from them. Maturity counts for a lot and you can only really get that through experience.

-They were established in their jobs and knew better how to keep work and family life in balance. Younger men were so often trying to impress their boss that they forgot to take time to impress their girlfriend.

-Older men were more likely to value my intelligence, interests, and maturity rather than physical beauty. I was always put off when I felt men were only interested in my looks or it was the first thing they'd comment on. Sure, there has to attraction, but I'd rather someone be attracted to my mind, which will improve with age, rather than my body, which will get older, wrinklier, greyer with age.
PoliticallyInco:


Your choice depends on your priority at that time. And your priorities are informed by many factors including how you were raised, your personal experiences and how the society (custom,religion,etc.) influenced you.

For those who dont mind dating someone older, the question is are you ready to settle down with one partner or are you still trying out multiple? There is no right or wrong here.

Usually for platonic friendship women start with their mates, then for dating when women start out with some older guys. By the time they are ready to marry it will depend on their personal preferences and peer pressure. By instinct, a woman wants a strong virile man who is also wise and smart. Unfortunately wisdom usually (not every time) comes with age. So for marriage instinct is there. Which is get a man who is strong and wise/smart enough to cater for you and your offspring and to keep you alive. But reason kicks in based on experiences and societal pressures and influences. Some women reason/feel that the man should not be 2 to 3 years older so they can grow old together and have the potential of being lovers for longer. To them, living with this person for long overides the desire for a mature minded man. Some women however, feel/reason that they want an older man. One who is well established and can offer all the support they also need as they go through life.

It is however interesting to find that a major denominator is that ALL WOMEN WISH AND HOPE THAT THE MAN IS WEALTHY/COMFORTABLE AND HAS ACHIEVED MUCH, REGARDLESS OF THE AGE DIFFERENCES. Unlike men who usually do not view this as a must. So long story short is BE WISE/SMART, BE PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE AND BE COMFORTABLE. The age thing will most likely be reasoned by the woman as not a big factor.

For me, it wouldn't matter. For various reasons, I shall date a younger lady as long as she is within the age of consent. For instance in Nebraska I will comfortably date a 16 year old. I remember even in Hawaii. It isn't against the law. If I discover things I don't like, fancy or accept, I'll break up. And I will also date an older lady as long as she is physically attractive and active and if I see things I can't stand I'll call off the relationship as well. I was never influenced to consider age difference as a big factor. I was raised to consider the law and to not be hypocritical about my physical desires, needs and preferences.
Romance / Re: What About You, Do You Like Them Young Or Old? by OBelz(f): 1:35pm On Jun 23, 2020
kiss
pomide:


Hello ma, it was a complement...
Romance / Re: Why Do Women Usually Fall In Love With Funny Men? by OBelz(f): 4:10pm On Jun 21, 2020
Dobson43:




My dear, well said. Being funny shouldn't be the main thing. You made sense pass hot Agege bread and groundnut
grin your last sentence
Romance / Re: What's The Most Extreme Measure You Have Taken So You Could Avoid Having Sex? by OBelz(f): 4:06pm On Jun 21, 2020
Luckygurl:

grin grin

Hahaha!!!

I once read a post where a woman wasn't comfortable with the husband's choice of song when things are about to go down. He'd always insist on playing Don Moen whenever they're about to get intimate. The Lady was asking for suggestions other than the so called worldly songs are totally out of it grin grin

Break ups happen and everyone moves on. cheesy
I prefer fela's song while being intimate.
Romance / Re: What About You, Do You Like Them Young Or Old? by OBelz(f): 3:59pm On Jun 21, 2020
Hi
pomide:
You really do not look 20 o Obelz
Romance / Re: Why Do Women Usually Fall In Love With Funny Men? by OBelz(f): 2:41pm On Jun 17, 2020
Most people like to laugh. Most people like to be with people who they can laugh with. There's nothing mysterious about this.

The problem I find is that many, many men think they're funny, they try very hard to be funny, and they just aren't as funny as they think they are.

I have a friend who is always cracking jokes. I'm not saying that he isn't funny, but it's as though he feels like he has to be funny all the time, so he forces himself to make jokes even when they aren't particularly good, because he's taken on the persona of "funny guy." He obsesses about it, continually checking his Facebook and Twitter feeds to see how many likes or comments he's received. He wants so badly to be liked, and this is what he does to make himself feel liked.

Unfortunately, having worked so hard to fill the role of "the funny guy in the room," he neglected to learn how to address more serious matters. He can be very insensitive to the moods of others, and will crack jokes in situations where it's really not appropriate, or try to show off how clever he is when others aren't having it. And if someone else is cracking jokes, he seems to feel he needs to outdo them, and creates a competition out of what could have just been a relaxing evening.

Of course it's good to have a sense of humor, to be able to laugh and to make other people laugh. But humor should be organic and appropriate, not some kind of achievement you aim for. People don't always find the same things funny, and trying too hard to make someone else laugh isn't funny at all, it's just uncomfortable.

Be yourself (as long as you're not a jerk): it's always the best advice.

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Romance / Re: Dear Young Guys At The Age Of 25 To 30 by OBelz(f): 9:56am On Jun 17, 2020
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