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healthserve:
1. Tell us about the fights you've had in the marriage.

2.When it started, how many you've had. How far you go before you settle.

3.How long each party keeps from one another during fights.

4. Who makes more attempt to reconcile after quarrels.

5. How often you want to go together for an event, but one party decides not to go, and who most times does this.

1. We've had countless number. The first was when she advised me against involving myself in MMM but I jettisoned her advice.

2. I guess answer 1 has addressed question 2.

3. Seven days highest.

4. She did. Many atimes when she offended me, she would tender apologies, even before I get back from work.

5. We haven't had too many outings together. Most times, it's either she's free and i'm busy or vice versa. When we were both free, we did attend events without any rancour.

BTW: I'm sorry it took me this long to reply you. Been busy. Also, I appreciate your efforts at providing solutions to this issue. God bless you!

healthserve:
My man.

We've all vented. Its high time for constructive inputs. If there's life an a will to solve a problem, solutions will arise.

I have a few things to say and I want to assure you at the end of the exercise, you'll find the right path towards resolving this issue.

But first I have some questions to ask. If you don't mind.

Go ahead and ask

PrimadonnaO:
Please, be careful what you say. Lots of people have it better, and they didn't marry prostitutes.

Your case is just really peculiar.

Maybe I was being hyperbolic. But my point is: I am going to marry - in my next life - someone I perceive to be VERY GOOD in bed. I can't believe at about 40 years of my life, I haven't really enjoyed sex.

PrimadonnaO:
Long distance relationship...

oh kk. Not really.

PrimadonnaO:
One of the reasons I feel being single is the best way to abstain from sex is because I can't honestly see how two people who are attracted to, and love each other can avoid having sex for so long.

So, I don't know... @Obukomena, how did y'all do 5 years of courtship without sex? Was it a LDR throughout?

And then, now y'all are married and sex is still a challenge? Wow. I'm at a loss for words. But it really does seem your wife doesn't love you in the least bit... Because I mean, she's not even making any effort towards finding a solution to her supposed problem.

Feel so sorry for you. Ñdo.

What's LDR?

stinflame:
This your story the one kind.. You have a high libido and u were able to do a NO sex courtship. You have a high libido at 37 and you blow only one girl. Lolll.. Una fit una self.

Church caged me. The fear of God was on my mind. That's the reason I haven't started having affairs outside my marriage

liberalchick:
Your wife should see a doctor, she might have a medical condition.

From what you described she has entry pain. It’s caused by a lot factors one of which is poor lubrication. She probably doesn’t make enough estrogen that’s why her vagina is dry. Sex was normal during pregnancy because estrogen levels are off the charts when a woman is pregnant. Estrogen levels drop sharply after pregnancy. Since she doesn’t want to use a lubricant, you should try spending more time on pre-intimacy.

You should tell her the lack of sex in the marriage is a very big issue for you and she should see a doctor.

Do u know what? I sought help from one of the female doctors at my workplace; I gave her number to the doctor so she could call my wife and advise her on what to do. She got enraged saying I was telling people about her. I had to tell the doctor not to call again. My sister, in my next life, I am going to marry a prostitute I swear!

Tomide007:
Soo u think that a lady who has been actively having sex for 10 yrs all of a sudden decided not to have sex? Its possible but only something drastic can cause such a. Quick change....I feel like saying a lot of things but it might destroy your marriage.....but its obvious your don't have the ability to make your wife Hot ....make her crave for u....and I'm not sure she married u close she was in love with you but because she's getting old and she needs to marry asap.....quite common with ladies around 30 years.......Learn how to make love cose its obvious she prefers pre-intimacy to sex...learn, I have a female friend who gives her hubby DAT same treatment code she ain't in love with him but with the bf ......I get plenty things to say but the story no resemble true sef.

Brother say it. I can get one or two things to pick up

stinflame:
Sorry but the truth is, she don't fancy you.. Leaving the churchy aspect aside. When it comes to sex, with the one you love or fancy, trust me beast mood is been activated. This applies to pastors and every individual. The good thing is they are all doing it legally.
If the reverse was to be the case, let's assume you impotent. Will the situation be as light as this.. Call her for a discussion and be plane and blunt no sugar coating. because from you ordeal it seems you are tired and very soon sleeping around will become a norm, and that isn't who you are.

Very good points, bro. The urge for sex with her is gradually dying. Because of that, I stay 4-5 wks without nearing her cos it's going to be same style, same frustrating experience, no kissing, etc. Na the build-up of the urge dey make me go near her again. And guess what? I have a high libido. Imagine someone who had had sex only once before marrying at 37. Hmmm?

konkonbilo:
Maybe you should take her to a sex therapist without informing her cos from your narration she sees nothing wrong in it. If she's aware she might not want to go with you.

Pls, where do I get one? You can't believe we have been practising only one sexual position since we got married.

Because of this sexual ish, the marriage is driving me crazy. I am no longer happy in my marriage. I don't enjoy sex with my wife.

Thanks for your contributions!

Adding up the story put up there, is it possible that a woman can experience pains sexually this much OR my wife doesn't dig me?

skywalker240:
If you can afford it, do it

i mean DNA TEST

why was the sex not painful during pregnancy?

Good question! They say women crave for sex more when they are pregnant. Guess that was what happened. Besides, this baby I'm talking here looks me. My wife is no-longer proud of her past, actually. She's now a preacher of the Word. Reason I have never suspected her of infidelity.

Darammliveth:
How on earth can you agree to a no sex relationship with a girl who is not a virgin anymore? Well the whole story looks fake to me because a sane man cannot tolerate such. Man pikin don suffer for punna hand o

She had changed from her old ways. This is what I am going through, bro.

I married my wife three years ago and we had a child two years after wedding. Before we married, we actually dated for 5yrs. During this time, we were on a no-sex-before-marriage relationship.

On our wedding night, I realized there was something wrong with either of us, cos the sex didnt go well. I'd thought it was the fatigue caused by the day's activities. Subsequently, I noticed that my wife was always shouting and withdrawing from sex each time I penetrated her. I asked her why and she said the sex was painful.

My wife had been in a sexual relationship for almost 10yrs before I met her. I, on the other hand, had only had sex once in my 37 yrs (age I married). When my wife and I agreed to the no sex before marriage thing, during our period of dating, I started looking forward to our wedding night. I started fantasising on what sex would be like with my wife. I longed for sex with her....

How did she become pregnant? Ever since we got married, the kind of sexual intercourse we practised was one in which I would have to penetrate her ONLY with the tip of my joystick, or She pushed me away. Achieving full penetration was a mirage for me and it was frustrating and not enjoyable at all! I could not achieve that full penetration cos to her, it was paining her. That was how we had our sexual intercourse until she informed me she was pregnant. I didn't question the ownership of the pregnancy cos we are both Believers. I must sincerely say that it was DURING her pregnancy that I enjoyed sex with her. It was the period she allowed me to achieve that normal, full penetration I craved for. It was the period she was making those sounds typical of an intercourse.
We both paused sex until 3 months after childbirth.


From the time we resumed sex up till now, matters have become worse. This time around, no partial nor full penetration. All she wanted was for me to just rub my joystick around her vagina and she would cum. This, to me, wasn't my definition of sex. It's a frustrating and nightmarish experience. The sex that I so longed for It now looks like I am married to a woman without a vagina. This situation is killing me softly. I am dying inside. I don't know who to discuss this sensitive issue with for advice. Worse still, She told me bluntly that active, penetrative sex is a TURN OFF for her. She prefers passive sex. My wife doesn't even allow me to kiss her anymore. I guess she allowed partial penetration before childbirth cos she knew if i didnt penetrate her at all, she wouldnt get pregnant. Is this what I am going to live with the rest of my life?

NB: I had advised her to seek medical help; she said NO and that she didn't see it as a problem. I also advised her to use Vaseline during intercourse; she insisted it was inimical to her health. All other suggestions brought before her fell on deaf ears.

Pls, I need advice on what to do.


Modified: Pls, don't just view and ignore. I need your advice. I brought this matter up here cos it's a faceless forum. I will not seek help on Facebook cos it's a sensitive issue concerning my wife

Hi good people!
I bought my Gionee M3 Mini on wed 25th Nov and I have been enjoying every inch of the phone until last night when I mistakenly deleted the pre-intalled UC Browser.What happened is that: I noticed two UC Browser icons; I decided to delete one of it in order to have more space for storage and to my greatest surprise,both went off.I downloaded another UC Browser from Playstore but unfortunately, it hasn't been able to read files from web pages; unlike when I newly bought it.What do I do now?Do I need to return to the default/factory settings?
cc : seunlayi

seunlayi:
download mx player or vlc player if it is not still playing, check the video property and make sure the name has 3gp or mp4 if not, you can rename it and add .3gp or .mp4.

get another charger, the follow-come is dulling.

Bro,I have downloaded the VLC Player; still can't watch downloaded mp4/3gp videos.

seunlayi:
download mx player or vlc player if it is not still playing, check the video property and make sure the name has 3gp or mp4 if not, you can rename it and add .3gp or .mp4.

get another charger, the follow-come is dulling.

kk..thanks!The phone na machine, ah swear!Browsing is super fast!

@seunlayi,pls I got this phone on wed and I have downloaded a video on waptrick but have been unable to watch. Is there anything I need to do before I can watch?
cc: seunlayi

Modified:
Also, how can I make it to be charging real fast?Thanks in advance!

Interesting...

joe4christ:
And i guess the crowd who turn up at each GMB rally are likewise paid to clone themselves so the turn out in the rally would be mind blowing abi?
you are just as clueless as your paymaster, keep deceiving yourself for reality to hit you hard come Febuhari...
I can only hope you dont develope high BP

Which crowd,please?The Reinhaard Bonnke crusade crowd your VP candidate called Kano rally?I wonder how much more of it may have been posted!
Guy,I am not a GEJ supporter nor a GMB fan but I have been convinced that everything APC has put up for its campaign so far has been nothing but PROPAGANDA!
PDP is equally guilty of it though!My point here is that,for you to think that the number of 'likes/shares' on nairaland on a comment about GEJ and GMB will give an inkling as to who will win the general election is goofed already..Thanks!

APC supporters on nairaland now have their brains running on pentium zero.They can no longer dissociate party from individual, all cos of hate.
For the records,Amaechi who was adjudged the Best Governor was under PDP for 6 yrs and APC for 2 yrs.So technically,most of his achievements were under the PDP.

BTW:

If you think the number of likes/shares on
nairaland will give you a clue as to where the
election victory will tilt come february 14,then you're on a long thing!
Be informed that some nairaland members
have more than one username.Some have as
many as 5,6,...even 10 usernames.
If I lie,ask anyone who Berem and
jackbauress01 is?.Na the same person;
and mind you,she's a pro-GMB...and so on and
so forth.
Dont be a learner!

PStacks:
Random Sampling.

Click "like" to vote Goodluck Jonathan

Click "Share" to vote Buhari


Let's have an overview of what is to come

Bro,you think the number of likes/shares on nairaland will give you a clue as to where the election victory will tilt come february 14??
You dont know that some nairaland members have more than one username.Some have as many as 5,6,...even 10 usernames.
If I lie,ask anyone that who is Berem and who's Misjackbauress?.Na the same person; and mind you,she's a pro-GMB.And so on and so forth.
Dont be a learner!

DOWHILE:
What is this one saying nw? Can't u see i was quoting? ............can u just quote what u just said nw. when, where was dat said?

In his first quote,he was quoting what GEJ said in 2011 that made you to sentimentally vote him.
This year,you want to vote GMB because he declared his assets by saying he has at least 1M in his account; he has 150 cattle,etc.

danjumakolo:
Presidential candidate of the All Progressive Congress (APC) Muhammadu Buhari on Thursday launched a fact-checking website to counter all attacks on his personality by the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP).
A statement by his media aide said the site is dedicated to sharing “facts and disapproving many lies being told by the Goodluck Jonathan campaign against Muhammadu Buhari.”
“This is announcing FactChecki.ng, a fact-checking site dedicated to sharing the facts and the figures, and disproving many lies being told by the Goodluck Jonathan campaign against Muhammadu Buhari, presidential candidate of the All Progressives Congress,” the statement said.
“Happy New Year! 2015 is the year we reset Nigeria’s clock by electing competence,” 'Gbenga Sesan, a social entrepreneur team and a member working on the site, said.
“Let’s kill lies against #GMB16 via factchecki.ng,” he said.
“Our volunteer effort seeks to kill lies that are introduced to discourage you from supporting the candidacy of Muhammadu Buhari/Yemi Osinbajo. Please share the facts from the FactCheki.ng website with everyone – via SMS, through your favourite radio/TV shows, on social media and much more,” Sesan said.
He urged Nigerians to cross check any statement by the PDP by mailing it to the site.
“If you come across any lies about Buhari or any claims which accuracy you are not sure of, please send such to lies@factchecki.ng,” the statement said.
Daily Trust reporter visited the site around 2:44pm on Thursday; some of the controversial claims against Buhari being addressed include questions such as “Did Muhammadu Buhari call for post-election violence or ask his supporters to kill? Did Buhari say Muslims should only vote for Muslim leaders? Did Buhari promise to make Nigeria ungovernable?”
The site handlers provided detailed answers to these controversial issues by providing video clips, online links to newspapers stories, among others to convince their audience.

Is it a lie that he truncated a democratic govt in 1983 and did not hand-over to a democratic leadership until his administration was toppled?Is it a lie that he placed a ban on the press and oppressed journalists across the country?etc..

JK is OK for Lagos!

Genius100:
I don't understand what the big deal is. If she can't produce milk, then give the baby formula. If she starts producing milk later, then she can switch back to milk or combine milk and formula.

There are thousands of women that choose not to breastfeed. Although not ideal, the babies are perfectly normal with formula.

We felt it was not right to give a baby who is barely a month old formula...Anyways,I appreciate your contributions.

upmanagers:
I ve seen two women that had dsame issue.
Wasn't cos they did position well wen feeding baby or didn't take necessary measure. Both had the same problem
1. They delivered over 10days after EDD (may not have been the problem
2. They were both over stressed by work before baby was born. This particularly reduced the fluid in their body (very few women experience this after effect)
And so with the husbands sucking, all the water, plenty pap (ogi) and palmwine drinking, plus all other tins different pple would suggest their was no way out.

If she has been to the hospital and still nothin they baby needs to feed
Solution:
1. Start giving baby baby formular bt mix very light and use spoon instead of bottle.
2. Get a good multi vitamin for baby e.g haliborange or any other one you are sure is good.

Goodluck

I'm so grateful for your contributions,bro!

chaircover:
That doesnt sound right
They wouldnt just send a baby home to starve to death
Are you sure that that was all they told you?
Please go back to the hospital or go to another better hospital that is experienced in obs.

Thanks for your contribution!

Appswheel:
This post lacks credibility. Selling wrong values. You have not told use the source of his so-called riches. What is there to gain here? What is there to celebrate? If he made his money by adding value to society, selling a product, creating a service then I will find meaning in this post. Until then............. this post is empty.

Don't mind them,jare!
His school mates are also here shouting "beef", "hate"etc...kidzzzz

chaircover:
You need to go back to your midwife or health professional
Milk prduction is in response to how much the baby sucks, so if the baby isnt sucking, milk production will be low
Things you need to get your midwife/health professional to look at is if the baby is latching on properly and if the baby is actually sucking
Also is the mum eating and drinking well?

What is the baby eating? formula milk from a bottle? Sometimes formula fed babies reject the breastt beacasue its easler for then to suck from a teat

Also check that the mum isnt wearing too heavy sceneted perfumes etc. Baby needs to identify mums natural scent.

These are just pointers, but Please first things first go and get both mum and baby checked out

Congrats.

The issue here is that the baby has not seen enough milk to suck from the mother's bossoms...Just few days back,a formula was given to her for the first time...You needed to see how she consumed the the food in split seconds.

shymexx:
Don't you lot have obstetricians and gynecologists where you live?

Asking folks on here is like having tooth ache and asking plumbers for prescription lol.

If ti.ts that are meant to be lactating aren't, just hit the hospital ASAP.

The mother went to the hospital on Monday and was told there was nothing they could do 'bout it.Besides,I believe we got doctors on here,reason I opened the thread.