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amancalledgodd:
Pls try to get her
Women are really scarce and needs to be treated well. I put my babe on monthly salary 100k and this june is her birthday.
I have an upcoming surprise for her.
Make i no talk much she dey here dey read. Spoil your woman o

Who told you that women are scare.you are a simp bro

wfjimmytobby:
There is this calm girl and decent I met about a year and half ago. We met and vibe then start about a week after we met.

She was loving real, not materialistic and very smart, this make me fall more for her..

She was in her final year in school when we meet and she didn’t let her studies affect our relationship. She was always active, infact she was more dedicated and active than me. So I made up my mind that after she is done with school and all I should be able to probably settle down with her.

So fast forward to a month ago, she suddenly changed. She stopped talking to me reply my messages and kept asking her what’s wrong she ain’t giving me any answer despite all my efforts..

Then after that she asked me to leave her alone…though she didn’t block me on her socials and she is not doing any suspicious it really shocking to me. For a girl that craves for my attention all this time and after have already start giving her my 100% she suddenly switch and wants me to leave her alone..

It really surprising and after I thought about everything the only wrong was that I do get mad at her if we had an appointment and she didn’t turn up that’s all..we didn’t even fight or argued much through out the time we were together…now in the situation the question is should I just give up on her and move on or I should give it more time hoping to get answers to what’s wrong…

Bro leave her and move.she has seen another man and you will be wasting your time trying to bring her back

Goodman024:
Good evening, everyone. Hope y'all had a great day.
I have a question please. I just want to know if am the one not seeing this as I should or something.
So the thing is that my pregnant wife, currently in her 2nd trimester is making it look like I don't assist her enough even though I do help very often, even before she got pregnant. I don't see any big deal in it at all, I cook sometimes, do the whole house cleaning every now and then, and even help her wash her clothes sometimes. But I would say these days I haven't been helping out alot due to work schedule, not that I don't help at all, I still help whenever I can.

But in her own words, it's as if she wants me to do 80% of everything because of her condition. I didn't overreact or anything when she said it, but I was like what sort of talk is that.

I just want to know if she's right and I'm the one not seeing things as I should.

Kindly share your opinion pls.

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She is a lazy and manipulative woman so better watch however always help when necessary

Kennitrust:
Good day my follow Nairalanders.

Everyday, life opens a new chapter of life to us. My own chapter had been opened and and it read... "it time to get married.

In the church I attended, there I met this girl so mature enough to be taken in as a wife. I approach her for the first time and I started asking her out. Seem she knew my intention, she started asking me about my church life, my family, my business and all that not.

To be honest with her, I did my best to answer every question in the language she could understand.

She seems not still satisfied with my account, she sent me this message at about 5am.
Said until I respond to those questions, she won't have anything to do with me again.

I'm truly confused on wether everyone that finds love 💕 really goes through this rigorous question.

And more about her life, she spent almost everyday in church after work. She said if I'm truly serious, I should also be as serious as she is in going and participating in all weekly activities in the church.

Please help, how do I answer this questions, since it the only options she said can bring us together?

Leave her alone she is not your type.you cannot spend the whole day in church the way she does.i believe such questions should be answered as time goes on during courtship.why should she set jamb questions for you just because you want to marry her.with her attitude she will end up marrying a very pretentious bad guy

Ehinjuola:
Please, I need sincere advice because my mind is not at rest anymore. What started as a normal family visit has suddenly turned into something I never imagined in my life.
My wife and I went to her family house to discuss our forthcoming engagement and other marriage arrangements since she is already pregnant. The discussion took longer than expected, and before we knew it, it was already late in the evening. To make matters worse, rain started falling heavily, and getting transportation back home became very difficult.

I was outside in the rain, moving around and searching for a vehicle that could convey us and my uncle, who accompanied me, back home safely. Throughout that stressful moment, my wife didn’t even seem concerned. She stayed where she was without making any effort to assist or even show worry about the situation. Surprisingly, her mother later came out to meet me at the roadside, praying and hoping we would find a vehicle soon. Even her father’s younger brother joined me in searching for transportation.

After almost one hour, we finally got a cab. While we were inside the vehicle, my wife tried to start a conversation, but I was already upset and disappointed, so I kept quiet. After dropping my uncle close to his destination, we continued our journey home in silence.

At some point on the road, I finally spoke out in anger. I asked her why she behaved so unconcerned despite the fact that we came to her family house for something very important concerning our future together. Instead of calming things down, she became angry too and started saying hurtful words back at me.

As we were walking home, she suddenly said she wanted to ease herself by the roadside. Because I was still angry, I continued walking slowly ahead without paying much attention. After a few minutes, I looked back and realized she was no longer behind me.
I immediately returned to the exact spot where she said she wanted to ease herself, but I couldn’t find her anywhere.
Since that night, my wife has been missing for 4 days.

I have contacted her mother several times, but she told me not to report the matter to her father yet. According to her, she believes her daughter is safe and will eventually return home. But honestly, I’m becoming very suspicious and confused. Part of me feels she may know where my wife is hiding, but I can’t say for sure.

What keeps disturbing me the most is this: Where did my pregnant wife sleep that night? Who is she with? Is she safe? And why would she disappear without contacting anyone for 4 days?

Right now, I’m emotionally exhausted and scared. I truly love my wife despite our misunderstanding, and I never imagined something like this would happen over an argument.

Please, experienced married men and women on this forum, what should I do at this point? Should I involve her father and report this officially, or should I still keep waiting and hope she comes back on her own?

Report the case to her father immediately.how can your fiance be missing for 4 days without a trace and you following the advice of the mother.i bet you she is in constant communication with her mother hence her mother's calmness.

She refused to obey the principle of marriage and she failed while coming here to confuse and deceive others.at her father's house she is cooking with firewood but will refuse vehemently to do same in her husband house instead she insult her husband and call him names.80% of marital crisis is caused by women.you can take it to bank

obi4eze:
This is both hilarious and ridiculous. What about the man? Was he lashed too?

The man was canned too but he didn't faint.that was why he didn't make headlines

This the highest disgrace and embarrassment a man can have.why on earth would a man kneel down to propose to a woman.it is abomination in Igbo land.knelling down to beg a woman to marry you is a western culture and it is not acceptable in Igbo land no wonder they worship women over there a women deal with them.in Igbo land a woman kneels down to confirm who her husband is during trad wedding.
Any man kneeling down to propose to a woman is a simp and worthless

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

You walked away too late,thank God you did not die,you are very weak to tolerate several slaps from a woman you married with your hard earned money.the law empowers you to defend yourself in the face of violence.you should have defended yourself the first time she slapped you by giving her a brain resetting slap which will deter her from trying that the second time.you even allowed her to stab you before you decided to quit.bro you are a simp.

Hemanwel:
She nor reach! Although she's been having this feeling of entitlement over my funds because we dey lash each other. And to be truthful, she hasn't asked me directly for money, but she's kept sounding it to me how she is in dire need of money to take her business to the next level.

Bro run oo,if you mistakenly give her the money.you will never get it back

Bro you are wasting your time trading with your peace of mind.what are you still doing with unproductive and irresponsible hookup woman who is busy pressing phone and you are working your ash out.kick her out immediately because she is a liability and doesn't deserve you she will meet those men deceiving her out there and they will chop her and clean mouth and eventually dump her.please priorities your mental health

I pity men who foolishly invest their life savings or hard earned money on a girlfriend who will definitely leave you immensely she sees a higher bidder.that is foolishness

deluckiest:
She's feeling insecure. She has no reason to doubt my loyally. She's one of those ladies who always support their gender. She believes no woman.can misbehave without the influence of the man.

I want to put an an end to it. I don't want to continue tolerating her.This is 2025.

You must be a mumu man to allow your wife that you married with your money to torment and control you .wise up and be a man.dont be a simp

Bro building a house before marriage is not ideal unless you are excessively rich.building a house is not something you will finish in 3 to 4 years but you must rent a house before marriage.women are naturally selfish and I don't know the exact reason why your mum is delaying you.i will advise you to get married to a working class woman and not a liability as soon as you hit 30.while in marriage you can be building your own house gradually.i didn't build house before I marry because it is a Capital project.i started building my house when am already married and raising children.be wise

Why would a woman challenge a man to fight when she knows that she cannot withstand him.she is relying on public sympathy.if she had walked away the fight wouldn't have happened.women should understand their physical weakness and challenge their fellow women.men should also challenge fellow men.i she deserves what she got

CyrusVI:



Dry bones shall rise again

This man na talk and do. He's giving his all to ensure the masses are happy with him.

Its even immediately sef, from Sept24....Just wow

I'm happy for the Civil Servants.

You must be a fool and a sycophant for saying this

The man is a simp,simply send the senseless idiot woman back to her father she doesn't have home training

Bro do not worry or kill yourself because of that selfish gender who are more interested in collecting than giving.build and develop yourself,acquire special skills and focus on your life and make more money and market service.you will be surprised how the female selfish gender will rush you and will make your choice.stop toasting girls ,allow them to chase you and you will be happy.stop making yourself cheap,carry yourself with dignity,self respect and humility.
Thank me later

In tandem with child's right,the custody of the children will normally go to your x wife because the children are still tender but you have visiting rights too.you also have the right to spend some time with them during holidays.you also have the responsibility to provide for those children because they are yours.if your x wife fails in her custody right the children will be taken away from her and given to you.please note that custody is not the same thing as ownership.you own the children so far they answer your name

The truth is that the company GSK that manufacture Augmentin has folded in Nigeria so all their drugs are very scarce and expensive.next time go for a good alternative like Flemming 625mg
Thanks

Zooposki:
Even the Bible calls men that cannot provide for their families worse than an infidel.

1 Timothy 5:8 - But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

You don't even know bible.it didn't say if any man,the bible said if any .any can be a man or a woman

It is shameful and degrading for a man to kneel down to propose to his fiancee.this is not our culture.Simp men everywhere

Jennyclay:
Honestly, Nigerian men are so childish.

Men should learn to help a lady without expecting anything in return .

If you like spend millions and billions on me, if I don’t love you anymore I will kindly end the relationship.

And you try to forcefully take my property from me just because you bought it for me then I would have to report you to the police or sue you for stealing.

Good for nothing men everywhere!!!
Bunch of morons!!

Many women are useless only waiting to scam men.foolish women everywhere looking for a man to scam

I support the guy 100%.he is a wise man.if reject a man's love also reject every goodies that come with it

I don't think it is wise to quit the job since the only problem is incessant calls from your boss.you can choose to block him in two of your line while also controlling his calls on the remaining line.the summary is to regulate his calls by blocking and unblocking him when necessary.if inquired why you will tell him that you have bad network in your area.your boss will get tired with time
Thank me later if it works

IconicR:
I hate seeing this thing on men

Piercing of ear, weaving of hair plus all form of funny hairstyles na na na

Anyways it's all these small small boys that do all these rubbish

I know matured men when I see them

But you will like it when women wear trouser and traditional isiagu attire you are also comfortable when women wear boxers or even senators attire

fadilaMaikiriki:
Please, is there any you would recommend?
Thanks.

Take Gestid susp 10ml 3x daily until the farting disappear

Bro don't try it.you need your freedom and she needs her freedom.what if she has HIV,it could be a way of transferring the disease

piper7:
First time seeing a woman paying child support.

Do you think this is fair?

Yes very fair,let them pay so as to feel the pain too

Taking a woman on a date is a foolish and bad investment because you have wasted the money and she will not even appreciate you.she will leave you tomorrow for the next rich man.better save your money and invest in useful ventures that will yield returns.from the returns send your parents money for their upkeep

For your sanity and peace sack the girl and get a better one.the girl is selfish.do not be a simp

They should trek back to Nigeria through our several boarders