₦airaland Forum

YourMain:
I just think there's no room for insecurity in a relationship. If you don't feel secure in your relationship then why are you in it.

insecurity dont just develop like that... there are causes I think.

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]i'm not bothered about what I will find out. I feel i'm strong enough to handle whatever it is.

It will save me the stress of wasting my time. Once I notice something off I always ask and I also tell my girl to do same.

That's how we always roll. It's not insecurity to me.[/color]

agree with this... it saves one from alot lies, deception ,Std who knows etc

Slimzybaby:
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Dem no know oo ... Sometimes if e reach the one wey she no understand again, she go ask me wetin she go reply am. Life has been fun ever since i started dating that girl over a year ago.

lol.. you sef dey vex o.
Why you dey cut show na.. And d gal mk sense for ur life o

YourMain:
Yes. But you're making yourself that person. And there's honestly no need.

na... I'm very neutral though.
Wanted to hear opinion

outstandingsyll:
Please call my friend mercy, today is her birthday 08134212742

she dey share money??

YourMain:
Lol you don't trust them. But what will checking their phone solve ?

lol. na

You keep getting me wrong...like I said, I'm not the typ that snoop and so much give people their respect Nd privacy.

I read a story on Nairaland how a man caught his cheating wife when he checked her Facebook acct and discovered the wife was not only a cheat but has bn lieing and deceiving him .

I have heard and seen lots of similar stories too

Do you think the man made the wrong move??

suwalee:
I can't try it so many peeps told me to but it just not my style I don't even touch my sis fones too I hate to invade ppls privacy

good one... I I only touch with permission aside that, I'm out..

Dont pick people's call or read messages too

YourMain:
You're right.
Insecurity results in periodic checks.

And what breeds insecurity ma'am?? wanna learn

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]I don't think periodic checks results to insecurity.[/color]

gbam....e be Lik u really read and understand the post itself..
one can't just wake up and start checking...something leads to something..


For some it's a lesson and learnt and they will forever be happy they do while for some reason it's a no go area

suwalee:
it's wrong if u respect dem u won't do that communication nd trust is the key to lasting relationship mind u fine he's cheating wat are u gonna do about it ladies steer clear frm their phones to avoid tears nd aches

Good.. an opinion noted...
anyway,i hardly go thru people's Fone.. brought up the topic to hear from people.

Slimzybaby:
No biggie! Infact my babe do initiate convo with my side chicks sef! Can you imagine?

The babe believe me die and i'm not ready to cheat on her. We're just paddies

lol and dom side chick no know??

double post..

people no dey sleep o


kudos lalasticlala

mysticgal:
Nawa these moderators, does this picture help us cook jellof rice for Christmas

lol...

boboLIL:
Even those that don't av the skills? Lols.... I weep for nigerian education... My children. Can nva go public school...oh

Public school hardly employ unqualified personnel, it's mostly private.

Even if you don't have a degree / background in Edu, you will be trained

Here to read comments

Mzgracie:
Does it matter who ll build back all the burnt churches and shops.. Why not show them example of being a good christian or state, rather than revenge all this time. Nigerians like to compare and contrast alot, we like revenge always.

No wonder we have failed to grow

oh lawd

reminiscing:
Your face and powder has no UNITY

see how u yab the guy.. u de vex o.

Abbykem:
I hate that shit. I don't do it. Anybody can check my fone. If we are dating, u are not in prison infact u ar free. The way we chat is just different.

nice it means you are against it

Acidosis:
I don't see any harm in reading through one's chats...

You're only trying to know things your partner won't ordinarily tell you.

However, I won't recommend this to those whose partners are perpetual flirts. You will always find something devastating (could be sex chat, sharing nu.de, exchanging foul terms, or promising to visit some guys at their homes, etc.).

Some people already know their partners can't be trusted, in that case, I won't recommend snooping and exchanging phones. We only pretend to be dating saints and angels.

A girl whose boyfriend is always around girls has no business checking his boyfriend's phone. You're only trying to confirm what you already know.

A guy whose girlfriend has over 1000 male friends and always acting like "we're just friends, my boyfriend trust me", has no business checking her partner's phone. What you're trying to confirm by checking her phone is already known to you. If the exchange of Smiley (kisses) with every tom dic.k and harry don't upset you, something terrible will.

Lastly, relationship problems will end when individuals involved fulfill their roles appropriately.

Gbam... well said bros

lalasticlala, mynd44

AfroKnight:
Lol. I just wan clear myself make all these amateur feminists no face me ni.

If babe cannot pick call in my presence, I normally keep quiet. I try not to bring it up until I see other corresponding signs. It's too much stress to be investigating a woman. There will always meet more interesting guys who are richer, more fascinating and more handsome. Normal tin. Once the signs are obvious to me, I'll prepare my mind for a break up.

true.. me no get time to dey snoop up and down.. at the right time fowl yansh go open jare ..

teenagers ke

AfroKnight:
Fight must shele. Why? Because I go ask simple question and she go wan dodge the question. And na that dodging go vex me...small time, quarrel don start.

PS: By fight, I no mean physical fight o. Just quarrel.

Lol. .I know.
Atimes when people start misbehaving we will know.
When they don't pick calls in front of you and even when they do, they reply with one or two words like yes I no, fine etc or switch off their Fone

frankay430:
very wrong

Good....different opinion though .

AfroKnight:
Lol. Nor be my fault. If I check her phone now, na den I go dey see all d kurukere movement and I nor go fit take am. All the happiness will now turn to fight.

Make she hold her phone.

lol.. fight ke? u dey try o.
The only time I noticed that didn't even act as if anything happened.. we were sitting together and d messages came in..
It was in her front self I opened it and we read together.

She was thinking I will shout or do something crazy but me no get time..We continued our gist.

misspicy:
okay bro

i pirru him too

illustration 101 :
so I have a bf,he locks his phone and doesn't care about my phone too,in short he doesn't touch it,I later discovered I was the side chick......
I would have saved myself the relationship stress if I had snooped earlier

lol @ side chic

YourMain:
Why would you be with someone you're suspicious of Anyways. I get what you're saying. It just makes me iffy. No matter what you see on that phone, as innocent as it may be, your head will make it 100 times worse.

You should just talk Your partner if you're not comfortable in your relationship and if his response isn't satisfactory then realise you're so much better than someone that makes you insecure in your relationship.

lol.. like I said there are things that brings about suspicions..It Jus don't develop overtime you know..

Favolly:
First time I did it....

Found out he had a babymama and another ex that had done 4 abortions for him.

Did I regret doing it? Nope

Will I do it again? Of course

That Caveat is very valid; anyone that wants to do it should be prepared to face anything he/she may discover

very true.. I have seen cases where people who think they are in love with the best person only to discover their partners are actually cheatz.

Honestly if you didn't discovered that, you have a higher risk to be dump, contact STD as a result of several partners ,Heartbroken too..

My opinion is simple, I don't hide anything from friends not to talk more about partner, only those who have a skeleton will hide their fones from their partner..

misspicy:
and then they doubt themselves and check each others phones



bro we are on the same page

lol.. sure..
That's why I said its not my thing and I won't discourage any who want to thread that path they should just gather courage to face anything they see

YourMain:
Lol no I wouldn't care. He should trust me enough to know there's nothing on my phone. If my phone rings he's allowed to pick it up or if I got a notification he may read it. And vice versa

There's no point in being in a relationship if you're insecure. If you've to check up on him every minute. You're just giving yourself unnecessary headache.

Just my opinion though.

thats why it's written once a while especially when there's suspicions and lack of time/affection.


like I said, it's never my thing/style to snoop