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The rise in the rate of divorce is a POSITIVE trend. A very positive one.

“For better for worse” has been a shield for very many assholes who hide under the guise of marriage to be the active devils in the lives of their spouses.

Dreams have been dashed.
People have lost their lives.
Families have lost their loved ones.
Children have been made fatherless/motherless or orphans. People have lost their wills to live.
Some people have been made depressed.
Some will live the rest of their lives in frustration, pains and misery.

If the rate of divorce has to be on the skyrocket high for less people to die or be sad in marriage, and less people to experience the above listed, then I think this is something to celebrate.

Anecdotal evidence from some studies reveal that societies with higher rate of divorce tend to have happier married couples. This is because those who are not happy are more likely to divorce. Not like in Nigeria where some women are so sad in their marriages, but they remain there and pray their husbands die so they can be “free”. Because they would rather be widows than divorcees. One comes with pity, while the latter comes with a stigma.

The average married British woman is much happier than the average married Nigerian woman. Yet, the rate of divorce is less in Nigeria compared to what it is in Britain.

Most often then not, the rise in the rate of divorce is NOT a negative sign.

I have never been married. But when I get married, DIVORCE WOULD BE AN OPTION for me. The moment I start feeling frustrated by the virtue of my marriage, and my husband and I are either reluctant or unable to work it out, I am out!

Life is too short to live miserably just to count years of marriage.

Whatever vow that I’m going to take would NOT involve staying put in a marriage where my spouse is clearly intentionally doing everything to make me sad, frustrated and ruined.

Success in marriage is a matter of how happy the couples are in their marriages, not how many years they’ve been married.

A person who has been married for 50years but has been sad in 49 of those 50 years FAILED IN MARRIAGE. Much more of a failure than people who were married for less than 5years but were happy 90% of the time.

When we say “Divorce is not an option”, we make it sound like marriage is a bondage. And it makes marriage seem extremely unpleasant.

Divorce is the way out of an unpleasant marriage. Since we acknowledge that not all marriages are or will be pleasant, it’s common sense for us to accept a way out.... as a side option for those who might need it.

For as long as some married people remain assholes, divorce will continue to increase.

Stop telling victims of domestic violence to remain in their marriages. Tell people to stop being violent.
Stop telling wives of cheating husbands to remain with their cheating husbands. Tell husbands to stop cheating.

Stop telling people to tolerate irresponsible spouses. Tell people to be responsible.

Not everyone is ready to trade their lives and happiness all in the name of “For better for worse”. “For better for worse” includes in sickness and in health, and some other conditions that are beyond human control. It does NOT include “When s/he cheats on you and beats you to pulp”. It’s does NOT include when he tries to kill you. For better for worse does NOT include any intentional act by your spouse to make your life miserable.

The rise in the rate of divorce is a POSITIVE trend. A very positive one.

“For better for worse” has been a shield for very many assholes who hide under the guise of marriage to be the active devils in the lives of their spouses.

Dreams have been dashed.
People have lost their lives.
Families have lost their loved ones.
Children have been made fatherless/motherless or orphans. People have lost their wills to live.
Some people have been made depressed.
Some will live the rest of their lives in frustration, pains and misery.

If the rate of divorce has to be on the skyrocket high for less people to die or be sad in marriage, and less people to experience the above listed, then I think this is something to celebrate.

after u people will start crying up and down like toddlers, claiming being victims of marginalisation...

whatever happened to "God bless NIGERIA"

"God bless AFRICA"

"God bless the land of my birth"

ya'll are just a bunch of ignorant boofoonz

dont quote me o

thank you sir...

i appreciate the concern

YES!!! i have

hello everyone...

I am a 26 yr old guy, and i'm not writing this thread in a bid to get any attention, but rather because its actually happening to me, and i have tried my best in so many ways to over-come this nasty addiction that has been eating at me for years....

I started masturbating at the age of 14, a habit that i picked up from a fellow student in boarding school. The habit actually started-off as a fun thing, but as i grew older, it started getting worse, worse in the sense that i moved from jerking off once a day to several times daily.

This has been going on since i was 14, but it never gave me any real concern because i was so young and naive, and also because i enjoyed it, and it never did cost me anything, unlike gambling, or smoking, or alcoholism, until i became 21.

At 21, I started noticing that my addiction was affecting my sexuality in more ways than i can count, it was even interfering with my sleep patterns. Infact the addiction became far more difficult to control, because i now had the internet at my disposal and also an extra addiction to porn which tripled my problem.

I have fasted and prayed, i have even put shame away and discussed it with a pastor, i have also tried out different rehabilitation programmes i found on youtube. But yet, i cannot seem to keep my hand away from my manliness.

I am confused, and in desperate need of help, because i cannot keep living this way.

Will appreciate any advice i can get.

thanks

so i got a hold of this pic on IG, and i began to wonder if its stuff i can actually do... lol

would like to know if any of ya'll nairalanders could pull this stunt.

bro...this is no joke
i honestly cant laugh about it
this was a gal i had future plans with
and she threw it all away like it was nothing

all i did was describe his look...
and i did that without any intention of mockery...
all i asked for was advice, and its fine not to be helpful...
but u also dont have to be so mean

thanks dear...
as it appears, that might be the only choice i have left

hey guys...

I really hate to bore y'all with my emotional problems, but my story ain't no fiction at all... and i really need all the advice i can get.

Clarice and I have been dating for 4 years now, and i can say that we have had a decent and happy relationship so far...

but recently, she started changing, and acting up uneccessarily... from getting angry about little things that she'd normally be passive with, to being super-secretive and scarce...

so i confronted her with it and she dismissed the issue with a silly excuse of being stressed out and blah blah blah...

so out of frustration, i finally resolved to doing what all frustrated boyfriends would do (started spying on her).

I gained access into her watsapp one day, and there it was... tons and tons of romantic messages with this guy that appears to be in a full-blown relationship with her.

The most alarming part is that this guy is an albino, asin... total albino, with yellow eye-brows and hair, and red patches all over the skin.

I dont even know how to start fighting this battle, but i love this gal so much. i will welcome any advice that might help from all you ladies and gents.

thanks.

hehehe... after spending their youthfulness on clubbing, whoring, weeding, sleeping in all sort of exotic hotels with rich sugar dadz... they are suddenly looking for a God fearing man that wouldn't judge them by their pasts

If u cannot say a kind word when u see something beautiful, then at least b quiet

H every1, I'm taking my time to write this piece, not just as a story, but cause its actually happening to me right now, and i'll be needing all the advice i can get. I happened to meet this girl at a movie theatre, she's young, fair, pretty, and basicly as i liked my gals to be. We connected pretty easily, exchanged numbers, and we both enjoyed lenghty phone calls with each other. in a matter of days we agreed upon seeing again. To my amazement she suggested that we met at my apartment, which was a little off, given how 9ja babes like to operate. I agreed without giving it a thought, and in d next couple hours, there she was in front of my gate, in a red skimpy gown, looking sexy as fvvk. So i invited her in, and to cut d long story short, we had SEX. Only to get a call the nxt day from a man who claimed to b the gals father, telling me i had taken his childs virginity, and threatning to bring his kinsmen to my house if i do not comply wit his terms. D worst part is dat d gal is no where near a virgin.

D lil peice of advice wasn't 4 u brah... How about u mind ur biz on this 1. DICK-HEAD

D fact that u got irritated by his closeness to u indicates that u might b HOMOPHOBIC0 (fear of homoz). But u wouldnt know wat chicken tastes like until it gets in ur mouth. So i'd advice u to try gay sex 1 day... And u just may love it. plz dont quote me

U just helped me out wit d most intense orgasm of my life. Tnx baby, ur a queen

On d contrary... If i waz president, u'd get a life-sentence as a woman 4 keeping silent during sex

If it was a bad relationship, then i'd be glad if i got out alive

Dont date? So how do u meet ur needz?

See these children o, its on NL that u guys wanna be lesbianing about eh?

When u become a successful career woman, u can pound fufu for ur husband before taking off to work. But until then, mind ur biz and stop judging others

Your comment demonstrates a profound level of ignorance, low IQ, and inferiority complex.

OH dear, thats where u got it wrong... As far as relationships are concerned, u may not get all d fish u need sailing one river alone... There's a river of good deek, and another river may hold all d cash

I've read her comment ova nd over again, and i cant seem to find d nonsense u are talking about

Just eat rat poison, and end d pain

Cute my foot... Mtcheeewww