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Agriculture / Re: Which Chemical Can I Spray On Cassava To Keep Animal Off My Farm by okenwa(m): 6:30am On Jun 10
I may not know the exact one to use, but visit the state ministry of agriculture for assistance
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Truth About Online Begging by okenwa(m): 6:25am On Jun 10
Very smart to observe that
Literature / Re: Which Books Can I Read that Will Positively Influence My Life? by okenwa(m): 6:17am On Jun 10
Truly all books has what to offer.
Out of the heart comes the issues of life, just have that mind set always
Family / Re: My Wife Wants To Kill Me. What Should I Do? by okenwa(m): 11:48am On Apr 30
Poverty and high bills have affected your marriage. The love is there. Your marriage is lacking finance. And she is disappointed in that.

The only proof she hates you is when she leave your house

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Religion / Re: Obedience Is Better Than Sacrifice! by okenwa(m): 10:36pm On Apr 07
Good message, this truth is lacking in most church

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Health / Re: COVID-19 Update For March 16 2021 In Nigeria by okenwa(m): 5:55am On Mar 17
Fake vasine, the pandemic is long gone. They are compelling people to risk their genes through liquid chip
Celebrities / Re: Bobrisky Set To Undergo Surgery To Look More Feminine by okenwa(m): 8:00am On Mar 05
The/her/his end is nigh
Car Talk / Re: Need Help In Starting A Transportation Business by okenwa(m): 1:30pm On Jan 27
Drivers
Bad roads
Check points on the way
Will be your challenger. Try to overcome the issues

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Romance / Re: Falling In Love With Your Partner Again by okenwa(m): 12:54pm On Jan 27
Take a school program outside of the regular home, after a month or two of absence. You will miss each other.

On return, buy gifts and look sexy for the partner. The candle can still burn for each other

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Nairaland / General / Re: Pope Francis Received Coronavirus Vaccine by okenwa(m): 8:23pm On Jan 13
Even the elect will be deceived.
Everyone please be wise
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: I Am In A Seriously Embarrassing Debt. I Need A Job To Pay Up by okenwa(m): 3:33pm On Jan 13
Sell what you have and pay. To avoid the shame
Health / Re: 90 Million Confirmed Covid-19 Cases All Of The World by okenwa(m): 3:23pm On Jan 13
Fake
No one will take their beast vaccine
Religion / Re: How Can I Know I Am Saved? Or Born Again? by okenwa(m): 3:19pm On Jan 13
You will hate evil
You will love humanity
You will detest unjust gain, glory and lifestyle.
You will not eye runs girl and yahoo lifestyle
The Spirit of God will be in you to direct your path
Crime / Re: Gunmen Murder Traditional Ruler In Enugu by okenwa(m): 8:39pm On Dec 27, 2020
He was a drug gangster, a notorious robber and exconvict. A self proclaimed igwe...even against the wish the people. He had the backing up of one prof Bart nnaji and some politicians in the state. Cause of death unknown

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Properties / Re: Closed Thread by okenwa(m): 8:02am On Dec 18, 2020
I thought foundation is to be dugged in the ground, I can see suffoce foundation
Properties / Re: 8bedroom Detached Duplex unit With 4bedroom BQ For Rent In Wuse 2 Abuja by okenwa(m): 7:31am On Dec 18, 2020
Sale or rent?
Crime / Re: Missing Ijeoma Neke Found Dead In Maryland Enugu (Photos) by okenwa(m): 11:32am On Nov 16, 2020
This death was masterminded, likely by a woman who may be her rival when it comes to loving a man

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Romance / Re: The Reality Of Ladies Raping Guys(My Experience) by okenwa(m): 12:57am On Nov 01, 2020
This is deep

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Romance / Re: No Love In My Home (advice Pls) by okenwa(m): 6:03am On Oct 10, 2020
[quote author=Preciousjewel01 post=94786736]NO LOVE IN MY HOME (Advice pls)

My name is precious( wrong name). Opened this acct to go strictly anonymous. All kinda comments are accepted, good or bad. All I need is great advice pls. This is gonna be a little long story but pls bear with me.

I was born and raised in port Harcourt but moved down to Kano 2013. My dad is never home 'cause he works in the USA. So, believe me when I say I hardly know my dad. Comes home once a year sometimes once in 2 years. So, it's been just my mom all along. He's the very protective type not minding the fact he's never home. Especially since I'm his only daughter. Thing is I've never had my freedom, always indoors 24/7. Childhood memories are also boring asf, just the ones from school that's all.
Being in the USA, my dad is the type that loves to flex and chill a lot. Gets me nice clothes and all that. When we moved to Kano, he decided to open a clothing business for my mom with the capital of 4M. He agreed and had it done.

Along the way, they began to have issues 'cause my dad kept claiming he's the owner of the shop and wants all sales made to go to his own acct. My mum disagreed 'cause she was like even a sales girl gets her own salary. The agreement they made was that she's gonna send the money from whatever sales to his account while he pays her monthly for looking after the shop and selling the materials. Not minding the fact she's his wife o. They ran that way for months till my dad stopped paying her. She complained about it 'cause this man doesn't give her own personal allowance even as his wife. The shop was closed down for months.

He finally came back to Nigeria, my mom got pregnant but lost the baby to miscarriage. Just a month after, my dad married another wife. Even me as his daughter kept pleading on whatever issues they have and to resolve it but no. It was as if he was under voodoo. My dad is 50 and the lady he married is just 23.His first son is 25,imagine.

I asked my dad why he did all that but he told me was that my mom is proving stubborn. Fine, so thing is his family were super happy he got married to another 'cause he finally married their tribe. The young lady he married is igbo and my mom is Hausa. There's no single person from my dad's who likes my mom plainly because she's a muslim and not their tribe. We're Christians

In just one week of marriage, he already gave the new wife a car and also opened a shop for her. All this while, he stopped eating my mom's food. Claimed she should only prepare food for us her kids. And so it was
He travelled again after spending a good whole year at home with us (for the very first time) to stay with his new wife. When he got married to my mom,he got her pregnant and left the following month. So, he never stayed with my mom. But when he got married to this one, he stayed with her for a year.
He left again before the lock down while his new wife was pregnant. Before then, he was closed to divorcing my mom. That's just like some months after he got married to his new wife. My mum stood her ground that she's going no where so, my dad and one of his brothers went all the way to Jos to go talk to her parents. By the special grace of God, they didn't get divorced.

He travelled leaving my mom with no cash and no business. He never calls us, even we the kids. My mum collected goods on credit and is even currently planing to take a loan just so, she could feed her 4 kids. The other wife's business also fell. She finally gave birth to a baby girl and also always kept complaining that my dad never calls her. My mum would only laugh and tell her that's the way he is. The new wife would go to her parent's place to ask for cash sometimes be in tears and be like what kinda marriage is this? My dad only called my mom once ever since he left early this year just to inform her that his new wife had given birth and that was it. Today is October 10th,my dad never called my mom nor we the kids. He called once on sallah day ranting and asking why we the kids never called him. Someone that doesn't send us cash, abeg how are we gonna get money for airtime and all that. With the little money I could get, I'd always send a vn via WhatsApp to always check on my dad but he never replies but reads the msg. I stopped checking on him.

The new wife keeps complaining on how she's gonna live with her lil baby and still calls her bf secretly saying she's fed up with the marriage and would like to see his face. She claims the marriage was all a rush and never knew all that glitters wasn't gold.

We always have light issues 'cause we use a prepaid meter and we always gotta recharge. Since my dad doesn't send money home no one wants to buy including one of my eldest cousin who my dad asked to begin to stay with us as a watch on the house ever since he got married to his new wife 'cause then, both my mom and the new wife always beefed each other. But they all good now
So, once a while it's gonna be this my elder cousin to buy the Nepa bills. Though, my mom was buying ever since my dad travelled not minding that she wasn't receiving money. She was also feeding this 21 yr old cousin of mine all through but stopped when things got really hard.

We had water issues since we had no light. So, we went to the next compound to fetch water, immediately that night my dad called and had someone give us 36k to keep for the light bills just so he could save his name outside. My younger sister stopped school recently and attend a home library Islamic school which one of my uncle's own. Since it's family related, it's gonna be easy for her to sort.

I've cried to my dad, kissed him a mil times, told him how much I love him but no, he listens to no one.He just neglects us, I'm so fed up and feel for my mum every day. What do I do to bring back love to my family as a their child? I need advice pls

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These are my comments:

1. There has been lost love between your mom and dad even before you people were born. It might be due to unfaithfulness from either party.

2. Your dad has a bad home-omen, as in a neglecting attitude to family responsibility. No one can change it.

3. He may have committed himself in a family way over there (abroad), such that he can not be seen communicating on the phone. (Perhaps the oyinbo family may sue him to prison)

4. Your dad may be very broke.

5. There has been hatred from his family over you people for long. And that must have caused or started from your mom's attitude.(he once told you that your mom is a stubborn woman....first impression will last for long)
Agriculture / Re: Cashew Nut Processing Machine For Sale-shelling Roasting Peeling Packing by okenwa(m): 4:27am On Oct 09, 2020
How much is it? Always complete your marketing when advertising a product
Religion / Re: Share Your Best Hymns by okenwa(m): 6:29am On Sep 01, 2020
More blessing
Education / Re: Adenyi Theophilus Earned Two Degrees While In Prison, Now Doing His PhD by okenwa(m): 8:27pm On Oct 27, 2019
God will continue to raise you up. Amen
Autos / Re: 2014 Toyota Venza With Panoramic Roof by okenwa(m): 10:36am On Jul 23, 2019
Five million
Autos / Re: Toks 2018 Lexus RX350 Available For Sale 23m Negotiable by okenwa(m): 10:32am On Jul 23, 2019
15m
Autos / Re: 2009 Lexus GS 350 Premium AWD , Classic Silver Metallic by okenwa(m): 10:30am On Jul 23, 2019
Please, be specific in your pics. I can be interested if you are clear
Adverts / Re: Wonder Block Moulding And Interlocking Stone Machine!!! by okenwa(m): 7:25am On Mar 17, 2019
So after 8 years, you have not reduced your price?
Unless someone call you before you can make reductions
Health / Re: J by okenwa(m): 5:23am On Mar 06, 2019
It is available
Politics / Re: The Perpetual Unrepentant Anti-workers Governor Called Udom Emmanuel by okenwa(m): 7:27pm On Mar 05, 2019
Which state has an airline?

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Politics / Re: If You Need The Best, Vote Obong Nsima Ekere by okenwa(m): 7:17pm On Mar 05, 2019
What happened to the man who brought the Airline industry to you?

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Properties / Re: Filling Station For Sale by okenwa(m): 11:31pm On Mar 02, 2019
The internet is universal, give details of the location
Properties / Re: Cheap Lands And Houses For Sale,rent And Lease by okenwa(m): 11:29pm On Mar 02, 2019
No contact?
Where is ughojor?
Politics / Re: Who Is The Next Senate President? by okenwa(m): 1:06pm On Feb 24, 2019
Saraki is not out yet. Wait for the official results

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