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Donald95:
We Igbo's are taking this Atiku Presidency too personal. It may make other regions desert PDP for us. Our leaders here in the east should close their mouth abit. right now, Buhari, Oshiomole and Tinibu are drafting a bad rugged plan to win in 2019 while we are busy shouting up and down like women as if we can do it alone

You have a point bro, please tell them oh, I can't vote for buhari again neither will I also vote for Atiku, I am sorry to say this but look at it from a rational perspective, most igbos don't have voters card because of biafra and sit at home politics they have been initiating from time past , so how would they deliver Atiku/Obi if APC choose not to rig the election??

For Mature minds alone, not for Chicken Hearted minds.

This is bullshit and misplaced priority, what have they done about the Muslims wearing hijab while been decorated with weapon of mass destruction.

I Love that music sha, it tells alot about the Nigerian society

Good Evening Everyone

Please I need clarity on Shipped from overseas Phones and Phones in our Local Shops.

I have been trying to ask about this for some time now, I have made some calls on that too, and yet to be clarified.

I needed to change my phone, and I have got 55,000 naira to spare for now, visited some phone shops in ikeja (Slot, Pointek and others), I also visited Xright in berger, I got same price range for Gionee X1s, 55,000 naira, but in Jumia Shipped from Overseas same kind of phone is giving it out for 39,995 naira, this difference is extremely ridiculous and I will appreciate if anyone would enlighten me and others who don't know the difference between both.

Thanks

tunjijones:
I know there are many criminals in Nigeria but there are millions of us that are not criminals that earn a legit wage that pays tax, and that are not happy the way other nationals treat us. So Mr falz am a Nigerian and am not a criminal

You got it all wrong, falz is 100% correct, though I agree with you that you are not a scam, falz isn't originally calling Nigerians a criminal but he was referring to Sars officers, how they treat every Nigerian as if they are all criminals.

People hardly understand shallow meaning, how then would they understanding deep meaning.

Marshalxv:
Congrats bro.

But please don't lead us halfway, tell us the full gist. What was her reply ? how did she react to it?

She tried to explain the aspect of not buying anything for me, that she uses all her money to settle school issues.

And that for the facebook issues, she didn't do it, then who did it she said she don't know, but she is not the one.

Then as for the name change, that it's her phone that did it.

She wasn't able to defend everything I listed here.

For her reaction, she said if that's what I want no problem, which simply means to me that she had probably move on before now. But I am very sure she would still feel it later.

EzendiEgo1:
Stupid story for the Gods, This is why I did commented on your last post.

Childish behaviour

Thank you bro, people sees things differently.
I can see you have a PhD in maturity.

(21-05-2018)

Oh, I'm so relieved.

I just ended the relationship today, I was bathing this morning when she called, I missed her calls, and she quickly composed a text message saying:

it's my sugarbunny's birthday, I am so happy to have you as my first love and friend, I pray that as you add a year today, heaven will open for you, everything you lay your hands shall prosper. do any how it's your day your babe gat your back, always remember that your babe love you and will always do.

I'm sorry the spell has been broken, I called her later in the day and told her that I saw her calls and got her message that I really appreciate everything she wrote in the text message but unfortunately I can no longer continue in the relationship, she knows I wanted to get married to her at most next year but telling me that people change and that I don't expect her to be the same person I know last time I saw her, was one in many reasons I am doing away with the relationship
I told her that I am certain that she had already moved on but was finding it difficult to tell me because she wants to have me as a backup plan.
I gave her the following reasons for moving on without her
1 Blocking me, my friends and family on facebook and not giving me a valid reason what caused it.

You can't love me and not love my family

2. For being a narcissist who only thinks and cares about herself alone
3. For not appreciating recharge cards that i used to send to her.

when ever I send her cards I am still the one that calls to find out if she has recharged, on several occasions she has said, oh she forgot

4. Changing my name on her phone to someone's else name and said that it's her phone that did it
5. There is no give in her dictionary, all she knows is collect, collect and collect
6. For disrespecting me on several occasions.

The list goes on and on....

It could sound stupid listing this things but if you reexamine them deeply you will know they aren't suppose to be taken likely.
Mind you, I have told her these things severally and I have given her over a year to adjust but she had chosen her part so she should face the consequences, that's only if it will affect her.
When I said it's over that both of should go our separate ways, she said if that's what I want, no problem.

Seriously I don't know I could do this on my birthday but I am glad I did it.
....And I am totally free and relieved now.
Hope to see a better person soon.

Link to Previous Post: https://www.nairaland.com/4513677/ending-toxic-relationship-monday

Stycon:
Do an update when you end the relationship ~ if this story is not fictitious tho

I will, it's my story, not a friend's story.

ndy87:
I guess d girl is young and for now she wants to explore, she may feel u are trying to shove seriousness down her throat so she feels she cant deal. Give her space and please at the moment you don't need a relationship cos u have to heal completely. Try not to talk about the issue so u don't hurt more than u already have. U ll come through.

She is 27

MicroSweet:
Now you are talking! You just defined why you described her as toxic! I see reasons with you. Well, I think you may have given her too much attention, and she took you for granted. Secondly, long distance relationship rarely survives. You've learnt your lessons. Dust yourself and move on. You don't even have to schedule the break up. It doesn't have to be a ceremonious breakup. Just cease to contact her henceforth. Peace!

Thanks bro

MicroSweet:
Dude wait!

What makes the girl toxic? Because she doesn't get you gifts? That's the only information you dropped about her. May be, you should reconsider your choice of word cos your lady isn't toxic.

Bro a lot that I can't even say them all

1. Saving my name with someone's else name when I visited

2. Blocking me and all my friends on facebook and still claiming she didn't do it

3. Bro it's plenty, any relationship that lacks trust is a toxic one bro.

I have taken more than any one in this world could take in a relationship

unleemited:
Long Distance relationships are naturally difficult.
My advise is TALK! TALK!
Visit her not with the purpose of ending the relationship but having a crashdown talk.
she's this and that bla bla... Have you spoken to her about it before? About your expectations.
Remember those times you just started and the love was sweet-ing you.
Recreate one of those moments and hold a crashdown talk, in person.
Then re evaluate your self and future after that.
No amount is too much on that trip bro. it's the best or last investment. All or nothing.

There is nothing I haven't done

seyezy:
I am sure this guy must have discussed with the lady in questions. You ladies have funny way of behaving. It is only when the guy call it quit that you people get to realize that a bird is better than thousand in the bush. 3 years relationship and the lady has never bought anything to show that she love the guy in return, not even a singlet. My brother, 100% support you quit that toxic relationship.

I have talked to her more than you can ever think, I usually don't quit relationships, but. I'm quitting this one and I am cutting her off

duduade:
Happy Birthday in Advance Dear, you deserve better

Thanks so much, I really appreciate

austyn0:
You can't figure out ONE thing you have learnt from her for 3 solid years and all you have been doing is spending, coupled with the distant state of the relationship......Sorry, buh whatever depression you are getting from the impression you got is deserved,, out from that den and fashion for yourself a good woman that can only improve you in all ramifications,, time waits for no man....Goodluck.

Baba na five years self, late 2012 till now, I just have to take my time, after ending the relationship, I will have to cross examine myself to be able to identify my own faults, I have always ask her to tell me what I am not doing right, her answer has always been nothing.

Mcslize:
Pls kindly end the relationship. Don't kill yourself cuz of a girl. Walk out with your self respect in tact. Forget about your whole 3yrs investment in her and walk out with a lovely smile on your face.

Thanks bro. God bless you

Maket:
What if you died before the day. End any toxic relationship without procrastination.

OP, You're in a relationship for 5 years and have dated for 3 years. OK I HEAR TAKE 1 year to be lying.

It's a choice to see what you choose to see, go back and read it again, 3years + could even mean 7 years. If I lie for you, you wan dash me money. I can't lie because of cheap popularity. Be guided

biacan:
I did like you to post it here so that intellectuals can deliberate on it

It's voluminous, only if you will personally read it first, then I would post it for all

biacan:
Instead of you to advise him on how to fix his relationship you want to ruin what he has worked hard to keep Listen well and listen carefully there is no relationship without challenges and if run away from your fears now you'll surely meet them in the future

Bianca, I would like you to read the full story, please send me your mail

SenorFax:
Congrats on finally waking up

Before you beg the guy not to quit, think of these:

-Am sure the girl didn't buy anyone anything for 3years, right? Not her bestie, friends, family, or anybody...... If your answer is yes then you must be high on "Tramadull"

The saying goes, you can't love without giving and you can't give without loving.
Another goes like "Your heart will always be were your money is", more goes to commitment and care, you'll always care for what you love, no matter how broke you are.

This is 3years guys...... Raise up your hand if you can withstand this. Jokes apart, putting yourself in the girl's shoes is good, but putting yourself in the guy's shoe is even more realistic, this ain't Disneyland.

Giving something back is not mostly love, it's called appreciation.

Thank you for your perception.

NwaAmaikpe:



Please don't end it.
Who are all of you dumping these toxic girls for?

Abeg let every man carry his cross.

I am dumping them for you of course. Lol, do you want her number.

graciousify:
please try talking to her about how you feel.

The story is voluminous and I can't share it here, I only picked a few paragraphs to express myself, but if you don't mind I can send it to you to read and advice. Although I have already made up my mind.

Most of these girls don't really love us, it's just a symbiotic relationship, I would be ending my present relationship on Monday, my birthday, I really thought I would get married to her but the relationship has become a toxic one so I had to move on with my life. I can not manage a toxic relationship, imagine sacrificing so much in a relationship that you have to go out of your own will to meet her needs , I have bought her phones twice, paid more than half of her house rent in school twice, it's a distant relationship and we have dated for 3years +, she hasn't even bought me an handkerchief before, I can't figure out one thing that I have learnt from her, I don't and won't regret what I have done for her but I am saddened that I have been in relationship with the wrong person for 5 fruitful years of my life. I will be 31 on Monday.

I don't regret spending on people but I usually get frustrated spending wrongly on people.

I like living people better than the way I met them.

I wouldn't really assume that I didn't learn anything from this relationship, I have learnt a lot and these are the things I have learnt...

1. Even the kindest person can turn into a cold-hearted person.

2. Even if you're madly in love, you should never think with your heart but with your brain.

3. You should never put your happiness in someone else’s hands because you never know when they will decide to leave you.

4. The more you show a person you love them, the less they will reciprocate or appreciate it.

5. It’s human nature to take things for granted, specially in long term relationships. They’ll always look for something better once the infatuation phase ends.

6. Relationships should not be governed solely by love, but also and most importantly by trust, understanding, maturity and SELF-RESPECT.

7. The moment you lose your self-respect you will see your partner as ‘too good to be true’. You will put them on a pedestal and be their slave. Never lose your self-respect and dignity.

8. Master the balance of power and you’ll master the whole relationship.

9. If you constantly show them you love them and care for them, they will start taking you for granted.

10. Distance yourself from your partner from time to time. It will help you see your relationship in a proper perspective.

11. Two main things should be present in a relationship: Trust and communication. If one of them is absent, your relationship is doomed to fail.

12. Being needy and clingy out of love is never a good idea because it will push your partner away and make them love you less.

13. The person that loves less in the relationship is the one in control of the relationship. It’s important to set a balance of power between you two or else one of you will definitely get hurt.

14. If your happiness is in someone else’s hands you’re rooting for conditional happiness. If they leave you, you will end up all alone, sad, depressed, hopeless and even suicidal. No one on this planet should control your happiness other than yourself.

15. The moment you hurt your partner, they will change forever even though you try your best to bring their good old self back.

16. Even if you give someone your heart, it’s not guaranteed that they will reciprocate.

17. The moment they start showing lack of interest, believe them instead of trying to convince yourself that they’re ‘mad’ or ‘going through a phase’ and that everything will be alright.

18. What’s meant for you will always be yours.

19. Sometimes God removes people from your life in an abrupt way because you were being led to danger.

20. If you walked away from a one-sided, toxic, negative, low-vibrational relationship, you won.
And the list goes on…

Most importantly, stay strong in any relationship you’re in. People come and go, the ones meant for you will stay. Stay strong when you're at your lowest and never let a heartbreak define you.

Just have faith and learn to always smile no matter what!

Patrinus:
Beauty truly is in the eyes of the beholder! No hating she really is ugly....looks like a grasshopper.

Props to her though, she doing pretty good for herself.

since I have been seeing her pix on the Internet, she has always dressed decently not all those our slay mamas that dress indecently and move around looking for who to devour. No man wants a state property as a wife (prostitute). Chioma is at the top of her game and she is doing excellently well.
kudos to her

Theajala72:
President Buhari, today vowed that his administration would not disappoint Nigerians. The President made the vow during an All Progressives Congress(APC) rally in Dutse as part of activities of his two day working visit to Jigawa.



He told the party members that his government is aware of the hardship faced by many Nigerians as a result of the economic crunch and hike in prices of essential commodities but that he is doing everything possible to ameliorate their hardship.



He informed the party members that the Federal Government has stopped the importation of rice to encourage the local encourage local production and empower farmers.

SOURCE- https://nairatrend.com.ng/i-will-not-disappoint-nigerians-president-buhari/

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You have already ridiculed and disappointed us for not fulfilling any of your campaign promises, rather you have taking us through the harder part of life ... I can't personally vote you this time.

A young Nazi was ordered to check the house for Jews. After minutes of searching, he declares the house clear.

His commanding officer is unconvinced. “Prüfe den Dachboden,” he orders. Check the attic.

“Die Dachbodentür ist offen! Sicher würden sie es nicht offen lassen!” The young soldier says. The attic door is wide open! Surely they wouldn’t hide there!

His commander shakes his head. “Geh sowieso hin.” Go check anyways.

The soldier climbs the ladder. As he peers into the darkness, he sees at least a dozen Jews hiding in the attic. All women and children.

Their terrified faces look back at him. Nobody dares to move. The young soldier turns and shouts to his commander.

“Alles klar!” All clear.

The soldier closes the trapdoor, leaving the Jews in the dark. He will never see them again.

Decades later, one of the young children in the attic will recall the anonymous soldier’s kindness. Every single person in the attic survives the war. Many attribute their lives to the young man.

Dishonesty is right when it saves lives.

slurity1:
Haba! Nigerians are just not patience for once. Complaining has become part of our live both good and bad development attract same criticism. too bad

When you are not giving people proper information about the programme, and you expect them to be patient, that's absorbed.

saintade01:
Fuel scarcity deliberate attempt by President Buhari to impoverish Igbos – Ohaneze
By Ebere Chukwu -

The President General of Ohanaeze Ndigbo, Chief John Nwodo, has stated the current fuel shortage in the country was a deliberate attempt by the current administration to impoverish Igbo people.
He also stated that the policies of the President Muhammadu Buhari-led administration do not in any way favour sons and daughters of Igbo land.
Nwodo said the fuel scarcity was to ensure that whatever Igbos living outside brought to Igboland would be expended on fuel.

He called on Ndigbo to never forget to bring back their wealth to the homeland.
He said this in his Christmas message, adding that the period provides good opportunity for Ndigbo to pray more to God to send succor to alleviate their sufferings in the country.

He said, “They know that at this period in the year Ndigbo travel a lot to their homeland, that’s when the government chose to close our airport, that’s when they allow fuel shortage to take place, this is very unfair and insensitive.

“It’s a deliberate policy of impoverishing our people to ensure that whatever wealth our sons and daughters bring home during Christmas is expended on the obvious effect of fuel shortage and none for investment.

“The proceeding events in the country especially as it relates to Ndigbo since this administration came to power underscores the imperatives for our people to think home with their wealth,” Nwodo added.

Source: https://www.today.ng/news/nigeria/45055/fuel-scarcity-deliberate-attempt-president-buhari-impoverish-igbos-ohaneze?utm_source=NNDTW&utm_medium=twitter

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I just sighted a Narcissist !

showghan:
Bros, work on your English... you will get a good wife.

It's not true brother, ATEKE TOM (Militant Billionaire) who can not even construct one sentence who is now a king in Okirika, Rivers State, can marry even a first class graduate from Harvard University, it's a fallacy for you to vehemently say that with good English you can get a good wife.

With money (wealth) you can achieve almost anything not with good English, Na good English wey the good wife go chop.

speaking good and polished English is perfectly ok, and you can achieve that by reading books,watching movies. etc, but it's still not as important as having money.

why all this English rating self another person's language, don't you get, till tomorrow Mandarin Chinese is the most spoken language on Earth. This should tell you something

Rainmania:
But bros with this your English sef, how you been take graduate? Na this English you wan use go further? No wonder you couldn't land a job.
Biko just go into spare parts business. Thank you

Since the guys English is your core problem, and secondly you have a good job, how come we haven't been seeing you as a news broadcaster in any of this broadcasting stations, probably you were been employed to be speaking English by someone who has never even entered classroom before... Grow up brother, life is more than speaking English, most wealthy footballers don't even speak english.

Onojasteve:
I met the lady in my 100 level in the university, we have graduated and done with our one year NYSC service, I learn photography and have being surviving with it, I couldn't get any better paying job, so I decided to further my studies, and when I told her about my plans, she only said, she wish me well that she can't wait.

That was all, only for friends to start calling me telling me congratulations, was wondering what the. Celebrations until one draw my attention to her facebook wall, she was engaged last night.

Am just so pain and terrify

Probably you don't know what God has done for you, this is what I figured out from your story, during the period of your relationship she was cheating on you without you knowing, the guy that engaged her did not just come out of thin air , she does have a plan B and you never had, that's why you are so pained and terrified, but still be grateful to God that she is gone, believe me that your dreams are so big that she wouldn't have made you achieved it, that's why she was removed from your life, see it this way and see how you will move on with your life without stress.

Brother, can you live with a liar and a cheat? if yes, keep bothering yourself, but if NO - Move on brother.

The moment anyone gets married, he or she begins to come across people who are 10 to 20 times better than there spouse!

if this is true I don't see why you should continue bordering yourself about her. definitely you will feel it because she took you unaware

I am certain that you are going to find someone far more better than her.

I technically broke up with my girlfriend because my instinct tells me from her actions and attitude she is planning a hit, it's also a five year relationship. if I get anything like this your case I wouldn't be surprised, terrified or pained, the question is how sure am I : I am 90% sure, I have started the story already but it's voluminous and am trying to summarize it for easy reading.

Do have a nice day ahead. stay blessed