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Annabelle12344:
I just created this account to post this.
I'm really Disturbed.

My wedding is approaching and I'm so excited about it.
Before I met my husband to be, there's this married man I know. Right from day one he told me who was married but his family based in a different state. I told him I'm single and I can't marry a married man nor date a married man. We both laughed about it.

Years passed, he became so close to my family and everybody around me. He comes to my house, gist with my mum, siblings and my family members are very accommodating.
I had my boyfriend whom everyone knows, that I have nothing with this man.
he support me financially some times. I have been helpful as well in my own ways. most times, I helped him out with cooking, even followed him to supper market to pick beautiful clothes (wears) for his wife and children. I have known this man for about 4 yrs now, but never have I had intimat.e relationship with him. He's like a big brother to me although he deeply loved me and have asked me out severally, but i have never involved myself with him s.exuallly.

This man have been so good to me, but now, I want to get married and he's so angry with me, he appears so hurt and heartbroken. He's behaving as if I betray his love. He's acting as if nothing mean anything to him any more. He almost lost his job last week due to lack of concentration. He takes his job carelessly now,

How can I help him heal emotionally, without distracting my own marriage?

Is ignoring him at this point the best option?


How should I handle this? Pls advice

U caused everything my dear, from the onset he said he was married was when u should have distanced urself,but u wanted the friendship u kept it, feeling cool in ur mind ur not dating him, but in his mind hes looking for something else, he has grown to love u , nothing more, u made the mistake,it's normal for him to feel hurt, if ur supposed husband do same to u by having a female bestie outside I'm sure u won't be happy, u can't heal him, just distance urself completely,so he can find peace and learn to forget u n focus on his wife n kids, ..... that's all I can say ..

MNK ur loved n valued,

My thoughts tho...
I understand how you feel,it's never easy in anyway, it hurts alot yea, there's always a way to deal with stuff like this, talk to your hubby softly, just try n loosen the heaviness in ur heart n talk to him, appologize to him even if ur not wrong,tell him ur sorry if there's anyway u might have offended him be soft on it,then gently ask him if he still cares about the marriage with his reply n body language u will know whassup, if his positive about it, then u tell him u really want this marriage to work, despite anything, n u want his quota, it's two wonderful n concecrated people that builds marriage, tell him u need his support u can't do it on ur own alone, just try it's not easy, after that ,listen to him, I believe he has things to say, from there decide in ur heart to do ur part, give him his maximum respect, cook, infact just fufill ur duties with a smiling face , ignore whatever that he might have done in the past ,just try free ur mind ,it's not easy but try, always be happy,read ur books, ur bible, dress well, always be on point, take care of ur self, ur body, eat, press ur phone, do the normal things u do that makes u happy, occupy ur mind ,but always be happy,smiles always, don't let anything bother u, he might take time to relate to u like before, but don't let it bother u, then try n cut off from ur ex , this ex's are not always happy for us ,so please try to cut off, do ur part so tomorrow he wouldn't say this is what my wife did or do please, and be prayerful ok, Welldone, God's grace ahead....

Nawaooo things dey happen

So sad..I'm still in shock...rip sir

It's 1400 here ooo

iammo:



If Ipobians treat their parents like this, isnt it obvious why they come online to insult and curse everybody not supporting their stupid ideology


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R u okay

I feel ur pain,it's not easy at all, just try husslling outside ur job, and again if it's possible let her start up something any how okay, this all I can say.

I'm patiently waiting ooo

clumsydyna:

You cheat on her yet, you don't want her to cheat, inside life. I don't understand why people use the word "cheat" when there is no commitment, you should only use the word cheat in marriages and special partnership. A boyfriend or girlfriend owes you no commitment until you have both decided that you have sampled enough and want to settle down with your choice, then comes "marriage".

Exactly,don't mind him, u don't want to be cheated on but ur cheating on her.....enjoy the flow

ominilongest:

Nooooo
Na Stick E go bring

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175:


Fear politicians

Honestly,

Christonjnr:
They just beat you abi?

Me I was harassed,beaten,slapped,and even threatened in front of my uncle, by SARS.
They allegedly rebeled me to be an Internet fraudster,a yahoo yahoo boyjust because I was wearing a nice cloth and smells so good.
It happened in Benin,on my way travelling to east,they stoped me and uncle,called my uncle a fraudster, just because he's driving a clean Venza,when they see he's a CEO of himself, they started harassing me,calling me a yahoo yahoo, they searched my IPhone,but couldn't see any implicating material,they asked the job i was doing,I told them I was a corper,and they said that I'm a cultist when I was in school, that they will prove it to my uncle,they started looking for my phone again,but couldn't see anything again.
They demanded to see my acct bal,which I vehently refused,they slapped me and threaten to seize my phone and carry me to their station,fear engulfed me and I open my bank mobile app,they saw almost 700k, and started asking how can an ordinary corper that collects just 19800 have such a money. They started searching for my android phone to see if I have other implicating thing there,but they couldn't,and when they saw a picture of a tiger I downloaded,they said they talked it,that I'm a cultist,they told my uncles that im an active cultist when I was in school,and he wouldn't know about it. When I started crying the other guy gave me a resounding slap,and threaten I will not see my phone again.
My uncle suddenly became so worried if those men a truly SARS. After everything they forced my uncle to make a transfer of 65k using their POS. #endsars# police are not truly our friends.

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Chai sorry, u suffered..

Mayng01:
Killing at 15 , his father must be a sars

Lols

ReluctantAdult:
The reason I don't support monogamy or marriage in general. It's not a man's nature to stay with one woman.

So it's a woman's nature to stay with one man ? Just saying.. men need to learn how to have self control

Honestly ur terrible,you did all these to her, just Goan pray to God to forgive you, and touch her heart to try and acknowledge you back as the father of her kids,...women are really trying.