Zuchey91:


No, I recently told him about the cheating part.

chatinent:


If you have evidence your husband is cheating and cannot remain in the relationship, you leave. If you are not leaving, you are still married to him! At least, I believe the only grounds for divorce is adultery.



Can two wrongs make one right?

Your reconnecting with an ex is a payback, yeah?

What if everything was a mirage and the end brings you this dropped eyeballs that your husband wasn't cheating actually? Can you unscrew the screwed? Or you wanted a reason to cling to to return to the arms of this new 2face?

Why condole cheating if that's the case?

If you cannot accept it, you leave the union. That's the only ground morally acceptable to regroup with your new 2face.



I doubt you have feelings for 2face...it's this new attention he's giving you when you so need it that's translating to emotions, pills, and feelings.

Hanty, I will not mince words.

You are afraid of your tendency to meet your ex and ...history history...yeah?

What is the assurance your ex would make a good husband? If he would, you wouldn't have left him!

You are still a married woman whether or not you accept it!

How do you manage an ex who knows you are married but wants to screw you! Doesn't it ring the bell to you he only misses your body?

Wetin dey happen for this world sef.

Abi is it only my brain that has no downtime?

koyyess:
If you want to leave the marriage, leave with a clear head and not because you are receiving attention from your ex so you don't keep getting disappointed by men.

As regards your ex, the fact that he is your ex and is divorced is a deep red flag. Why didn't it work while you both were dating? There is a reason he is your ex. Don't do anything you will regret.

I won't deceive you, the marriage is over and only your 'horseband' can fix the damage.

Let your horseband know you are aware and see the reaction. That will give you a clear guide on what to do.

But listen, between now, the time you tell your partner you are aware of his cheating and after then, I want you to start looking your best not for him but for yourself. Learn a new skill, hobby....start making friends. You may end up attracting another person other than your ex but don't put that in mind. Just do it and see wonders.

Only start dating after you have left that house if your decision is final. Don't tow the part of your 'horseband'. It's not worth it.

Bola146:
madam deep inside you, you know what is right for you expect you are just deceiving yourself. Why not ask yourself the questions why your husband is cheating and fighting always? Some men need attention and real sex which many married women take for granted. Your ex you knew then might not be the man you know today. If your husband is a responsible man ( financially, caring and physically) please think twice, don't regret when lust ruin you, don't just conclude about leaving, what if your ex didn't show up? Find a way to ask him what really went wrong. But If your husband is the opposite of a good man, please still think twice before you marry your ex. I wish you best of luck!

chris51:



The ex just wants a fling. If the lady is sensible, let her work on her marriage

Zuchey91:


Our upbringing is totally different, he comes from a family where women are supposed to be suffering and still be silent...this I found out after marriage...and I come from a family where women have a say.

I know how it would end if I tell him about it and I am not ready to go down that road. I am tired of the constant quarrels.
I can say I have gotten to my elastic limit and I have no strength of fighting for this union anymore in me.

chatinent:


Thanks boss.

I'm in South East.

May I send my account number address?

Zuchey91:


Our upbringing is totally different, he comes from a family where women are supposed to be suffering and still be silent...this I found out after marriage...and I come from a family where women have a say.

I know how it would end if I tell him about it and I am not ready to go down that road. I am tired of the constant quarrels.
I can say I have gotten to my elastic limit and I have no strength of fighting for this union anymore in me.

Zuchey91:


No, I recently told him about the cheating part.

Okortor:
Oh, I'm in south west, no shakes...I go regard u soonest.

Chinny024:

We are in hospital. We know what women/men pass through in the hands of adulterous partner.. Many of them despises condom...They dive in naked in every hole they come across... If actually that there is evidence, then she should leave.. Even the bible supports that..

chatinent:


If you have evidence your husband is cheating and cannot remain in the relationship, you leave. If you are not leaving, you are still married to him! At least, I believe the only grounds for divorce is adultery.

Semaj77:



Adultery isn't the only grounds for divorce

DukeNija:


Dumb advice

chatinent:

I doubt you have feelings for 2face...it's this new attention he's giving you when you so need it that's translating to emotions, pills, and feelings.

chatinent:


How do you manage an ex who knows you are married but wants to screw you! Doesn't it ring the bell to you he only misses your body?

Zuchey91:

Pls forget the ex. He is a distraction
Since your husband feels women should not talk, telling hima about the cheating will make him more emboldened and may even turn it on you. So I get that you not telling him.
I feel your pain. Divorce may not be an option sha. Talk to a counselor. Talk to him about you guys doing couples counseling. If he doesn't feel women should talk den don't argue with him. State your points at other times. You will have to be the emotional mature one in the relationship. Then pray. You can join NSPPD PRAYERS by Pastor Jerry Eze. Every morning 7:00 to 8:00am. It's a global prayer platform. I wish you well.

chatinent:


To me, like I said, it is.

alextywo:


Dear madam for clarity sake regarding okafor's law as mentioned above.

OKAFOR'S LAW also known as OKAFOR'S LAW OF CONGO DYNAMICS state that

C1 + P = C∞
Once a congo has been shined once (C1) , it can always be shined (C∞ ) provided it was shined properly ( P) .

OKAFOR'S LAW can also be termed as law of repeatable action "if you have done something once, you can do it again. If you have been somewhere before, you can still go back there"(but mind you in your situation going back there again(To your EX) it would either end up in SAMBISA FOREST OR YABA LEFT).

In a nutshell What was fvcked can never be unfvcked. But can be refvcked provided the fvckee reconnect with the fvcker and the desires remain constant.



There's also something unique about this Okafor's law as applicable to your situation. Its conform to NEWTON'S LAW OF GRAVITY.
What do I mean? While YOUR HUSBAND is acting as the motion of the moon, Madam acting as a body failing freely on EARTH provided there's an existence of YOUR EX acting as a FORCE OF ATTRACTIONS for soft landing.

Madam please apply your IQ , don't allow your EQ to play fast one On you.

May God help YOu

berrystunn:
How did she conclude that the husband is cheating? ....

Kobojunkiee:
She is his wife and she knows what she knows..

So again, How do you conclude that it is the devil that will take her out of the marriage?

Zuchey91:
I need matured inputs please.

I am a married woman, with a child.

My Marriage has been really rocky. Quarrels every now and then.

What basically causes the problems is our differences, we just don’t understand each other, it wasn’t so visible during dating.

Although we did not date for long....but being married, it has been from one issue to the other, right from a week after our wedding.

I have always contemplated leaving, but I am yet to be fully independent.

Sometime this year, I found out he has been cheating (I was not surprised, but I was heart-broken) my discovery strengthened my resolve to leave the union.

In the process of nursing my heartbreak, I reconnected with an ex, we got talking and he helped my heal. I did not tell him what I was going through at the time...I was just enjoying the attention he was showing me.

I should state that I did not tell my husband about his cheating, I held all the emotions back, it was a very difficult period for me because I am usually the outspoken type.

My ex is not based in the country where me and my husband reside, we just communicate on phone, he says he misses me and would want us to meet when he is in town.

I should also state that my ex was married but divorced.

I would not deny my having feelings for my ex, and I also do not want to believe in a fairytale ending, I am just confused.