Glad i'm free

For the fact that your sister's is as stake, you had no choice than to speak out. except you dont love your little sis, but if you do pls speak out to save the innocent young girl.

Your mum is the problem here @OP, she has no business reporting her to her son. the moment your mum start seeing her as her own daughter then i guess the problem is half solved. why can't she call her to order in a calm and loving manner? even her son told her exactly the same. @OP please dont have that mentality that your brother's wife to be is a slave o, she's someone daughter o. Pls don't quote me out of context, i never said the lady in question is not guilty, but i strongly believe if there's love peace will outrightly reign, make her your friend, see her as your sister. and see if peace will reign or not. you guys should please erase that thought off your mind including your mum o, i mean the thought of your brother should not marry her becos she's not a good wife to be, leave that to your brother to decide no be una. FINALLY, please tell your brother to move out of that place, he should not marry there o to avoid see finish, let him get accommodation else where with his wife to be and live peacefully.

Gerrard59:


I wanted to post same but it expired yesterday. Covid-19 has done more harm as it has worsened an already damaged economy. People wey graduate this year and last really have a hard time. Na the next generation I dey pity. Mmbom!

Exactly bro, sincerely speaking we are really going through a whole lot expecially during this global pandemic. I graduated late last year i was happy and hopeful that things will get better for myself and family, having coming out top of my class. here i am today still job hunting, i'm yet to secure a job. still at the look out.

tyup:


Amen thanks xoxo much bro for the Advice

concerning the Grade let's say I come out with 2.2 what do you think I should do to make it to the Air Force?

To be candid bro, airforce happened to be the most strict forces. i doubt if they will bend their criteria or pre-requisite for enlistment. If you have a strong connection bro i think you should be able to get in, the system has failed us already. I dont mind bro if you can help me with any of the forces, even if it's para-millitary i will gladly accept it. As for my result, i narrowly missed first class.

tyup:


I still got hopes of coming out with 2.2 tho

you talked about they accept 3rd class but their recruitment portal said smtin bout accepting nothing less than 2.1 or is there other special recruitment?

Navy and airfoce accept 2.1 minimum while army accept 2.2 as minimum for commission officer. I'm sure you know that CGPA doesn't fly like rocket science? considering your current CGPA and level, you just have to avoid C Grade totally. Your best bet are A & B Grade. This will make it much easier for you to achieve your 2.2. In a nut shell bro, you just have to fall in love and marry your book. I strongly believe you know yourself better base on reading pattern, improvement is all what you need. Start reading from the beginning of the semester, dont joke with test, assignment, classwork & whataview. Treat all past questions thoroughly, attend tutorials & ask questions on what you seems not to understand. Then pray to God to crown your effort. Best of luck bro.

Lizzyangel:


thanks Ma'am....I'm not feeling entitled to him, I'm just scared and hurt as I don divulge too much for him for nothing sake. I really and will forever appreciate the people whom have helped me..I'm just pained ni

I quite understand how you feel sister, having divulging your present condition to him. You just have to be strong sis if not for anything but for the sake of the foetus in your womb. be rest assured that you ain't alone in this situation, christ is with you. Divine favour shall locate you and your household, pls be strong sis. Wishing you a safe delivery.

Babyboy4life:
People have called me a thief, people have called me a scammer, people have insulted me thoroughly someone told me to be a conductor , someone even told me to end it all by contacting coronavirus because I asked for help to get money to learn skills and start my freelance as if I'm entitled to anybody's money.If I was a lil okay and someone asked me for a favor that I might not be able to do I would either comfort or ignore him rather than insult him Maybe this world doesn't need people like me.Ive tried my best to get jobs but it seems the universe has marked me as someone to frustrate.God bless you mummy.I hope someone takes care of you and makes you weep no more.
GOODBYE.

Try to be strong brother, don't allow what people do or say to you weigh you down. God will send a helper to you bro that will wipe your tears off completely.

I will get a cheap & affordable hectres of land in ogun state [preferable] & then engage in commercial farming [cassava and ugwu] they're highly demanded in market with huge profit. though u can also add some oda farm product. you tend to benefit 2 things here 1, huge profit from farm product & secondly the land will be appreciated where u can decide 2 go into real estate, sell out part of it & have ur building also. Transportation is also a very lucrative business to venture into, with 1.5m you can get a neat tokunbo varagon bus then give it out for 8k as daily delivering, from there u can turn the 1bus to even 10buses depending on how prudent you are. u can actually grow from there and start having tipper for carrying sand, they deliver 35k daily, thats for small tipper o. I have some few other businesses that one can venture into without fear of being collapse as they seems to be basic neccessities of life. I have a first hand experience of these businesses aforementioned above not hear say.

wirinet:

It depends on who run the upkeep for the house. Family expenses for a 6 months to 1 year period will buy most cars (tokunbo). If the wife runs the house alone, then she has some right to buy a car for whomsoever, but if it's the man that runs the house or it is being done jointly, then it is wrong for the woman to buy the car without consulting her husband.

Even if the woman is financially buoyant and able to raise the kids herself, a woman raising kid alone without a father or father figure hardly ends well.

The deed has been done already & she has apoligised, i disagree with your last statement bro some men out there are mere figure head i'm sure you know that. some women can singlehandedly raise a child successfully without a man while some obviously can't. Also, it takes the grace of God and not the presence of the father. Pls don't get me wrong here having both parent is quite splendid but never a measure to determine the child's coming out good or not.

wirinet:

Divorce is harder on women in this part of the world than on men. It's very difficult for a woman with 3 or 4 children to start all over again. If the children are still young, they stay with the mother. A man can simply disappear and start a new family. Men in these parts are not forced to pay child support.

Yes you are perfectly right bro, some women are truly going through hell either divorced or not. But the op's wife seems to be working, she should be able to raise her kids up herself with or without a man.

I'm pretty sure the man will outrightly object her from buying the car for her mum had it been she informed him before hand, but all the same she should have notify him about it. That aside, He should go ahead with his divorce, i wonder why some men feel like they're doing a woman great favour by marrying her.

addictiv:
Well if the roles were reversed and the man was the one buying a car for his mother when his wife is trekking and jumping danfo on the dailies... Most women will not let us hear word. They ll call the man all sorts of names, and tell him to go and marry his mother since she's more important to him.... Double standards everywhere. When a woman does something.. She's being a strong woman, she's standing up to patriarchy, she's acting within her rights as a woman. When a man does the same thing, they wail like an unfed toddler.
Mr op send that disrespectful and inconsiderate woman back to her mothers house.

Go back and say you are joking dude.

That cousin of his seriously need to be arrested for bullying that young lad, you have to leave that house bro pls talk to your parent. let them find a place for you that you can put up with, pending till when the ban against inter state travel will be lifted. Pls do that asap bro, don't allow that idiot to kill you.

bukatyne:


Leave to where?

I am wondering why you are salty this blessed afternoon.

It still hit my imagination till date how some people reason, how on earth is her old moniker that of your business? please, please and please respect yourself. This op topic is a critical issue affecting most women out there and this shit have to stop. once again please respect your dear self.

Pls op call your parent expecially your mum and narrate what you are passing through in her sister's house, i'm sure you are their son i careless if you are their biological son or adopted. they must i repeat must find a solution to that asap without any iota of delay. pls bro do that now pick up your phone and narrate everything to your parent. pls make sure you go to a very far place to make the call and pls try as much as possible to cry while you are on the call. this one go let am know say water don pass garri. NB: that niggar beating my bro like a bag of beans, don't worry the young shall grow.

Alero3Arubi:

I do not quite understand what you mean.

The option 2 you listed above is the socio-cultural effect to the 11 miscarrages by a known woman. Hope you got this?

Alero3Arubi:

Can i send an email through nairaland or you want to send your email?

I have someone who had lost 11 pregnancies, the option 2 is the effect i notice

dukeprince50:
so that hunchback albino is giving FG free education? can you tell me one meaningful thing NK has said that could help the FG? Reno has far much more educative posts than ur hunchback albino

Lol, you get bad mouth.

Smoke55:
hahahaha Cry Me A River!! I Didnt Ask You For The Coward Biography Nah!!

You sound so dumb & daft, must you put "hahaha" in your comment? Young man argue constructively and stop showcasing your clown trait to the public.

sydneyboss:


Inter State is working in my area low-key, I'm taking loan, u are asking me for loans lol

Better then, i thought you can help link me up to where you intend to take up the loan. i never meant you loaning me directly. Congrat in advance to your new bus.

Nenyezz:
Please what are the conditions you are referring to. thanks

If you have a bus you can register it under student (SUG) or military personnel. The later is sure the best bet, no police harrasement or agbero disturbing including lastma, thats for the safety of the bus. As for the driver he must have a driver's liscence, passport photograph & 2 other guarantor in their place of permanent residence. Also, the millitary personnel you chose to use to register the bus will also be there, a lawer & also a police officer. The driver will write an undertaken alsong side the 2 guarantors attached with a passport photograph. then you are free to go. If he encounter any problem on the road expecially with the police, he can easily contact the millitary man for rescue. You don't neccessarily have to use a top millitary officer, the least of them all can do the job. once in a while you sef go dey find the army man card money o.

sydneyboss:


I'm taking a loan to start up mine, I will drive myself, inter state

Boss man, thats the best option for someone that can actually drive. But why the inter-state route, considering the ban by fed gov't. Can you also help me with a loan?

Nenyezz:
But i heard if you dont drive yourself na so so stories your driver will be giving you. how true is this for someone that wants to buy a bus or keke and give it to some1 to drive n deliver cash daily?

Yea, very much truth. some of them are bad, very very bad. but there are few good ones among them if you can get any. I'm not a driver bro but i have few of them i can vouch for. There are other conditions that you can actually put them through, i kid you not bro it will be so difficult for them to outsmart you. Your daily pay go dey enter your account non stop, except the day he chose not to work. mostly, once in a week to allow the bus to be in good condition.

izicode1:


This is the best idea I have seen. If you are still single, which means you have all the time for yourself then go for transportation business.
If you understand the principles of this business you will forever be happy with this guy that gave you this advise

I am speaking or writing out of personal experience.

Exactly bro, if i can see who can loan me just 1m to pay back 1.5m i will gladly embrace it. i can even pay back before 5 month sef. There's silent money in transportation.

lambsbread:
Dear Nairalanders,
What business can i start with 2 Million naira that can fetch me at least 150k monthly?

Why not go into transportation bro? with 1.5m you will get a good vanagon bus that will be delivering 8k daily. you can imagine that? there's money in transportation business.

PerfectJUSTICE:



Be sincere bro, means or no means, real or fake, would you beg publicly?

I sincerely wish never to do such, but we need to understand the fact dat people are truly suffering. Having eaten 3 meals daily doesnt neccessarily means that it cut across board, nigerians are hungry bro, I'm pretty sure u wouldnt want 2 tell me dat you've not come across with any1 within ur neighbourhood, expecially this pandemic period amid lockdown. Even the holy quoran & bible categorically stated that the needy are bound to be among us. Bro, i'm a young graduate from a very vulnerable home, i had 4 other siblings excluding myself. I kid you not bro we barely eat once daily, was it my fault that i was born poor? but it could turn out being my fault if i chose to remain poor. The op should be help if he can truly provide his details 2 authenticate his claim. Magnanimously, people take advantage of dis period 2 lure & get money no doubt. But trust me the real ones are amids us.

This is so great, you and your friend are just too lucky and furtunate. I honestly wish someone could help me get a job with the nigeria custom. I will forever be indebted to the person

PerfectJUSTICE:
All of una get time o. This man should have close friends and family members. Besides his church or any group (social/traditional) he has associated himself with should come to his aid. Another alarming thing is that he is new on nairaland. I'm not saying he may not really need help but am only saying we should all be careful. Who no need help? We all need help. I'm a married man too with kids living in Abuja. And those that stay in Abuja knows that the lockdown affected so many things but I didn't come here to start begging like someone who doesn't have hope and plans. Reason you should always have a plan B as a man. I rest my case!

You may be right, but you chose not to come online to beg probably because you have a means to reach out to your kids. if op doesn't, then he has no other choice than to seek for people's help here. whether he's real or fake that i can't say.