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Welcome to the month of multiple celebrations. Congratulations for seeing this month in joy and peace. if Christ tarries we shall witness more in wealth and happiness in Jesus Name
The Lord will answer all our supplication and the new month prayer and blessings in Jesus Name. All our long time prayers shall be speedily answered and we shall enter the new year with celebrations and testimonies in Jesus name

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Rkv-J0sqm4

Sufferhead:
Many ppl here has bashed me for asking for help and discouraging those wanting to help me.asking for help doesn't mean that your lazy and do not want to work but a though situation can fuel begging instead of ending it all.i fund myself in a remote village earning 10k after having challenge living in Lagos.life became worthless to me.everyday I pray for death to come because feeding almost once in a day.i have a business ideas but no capital to start it..my BP is at the highest level.no good job,no wife @35yrs ,no good
food to eat.i can die any moment from now.the situation is beyond my strength.i will miss righousness and lala.
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Those trying to reach and help me this is my a.c no
5411-0121-62
Ecobank

Please don’t go to the extreme. Many have been in this position and they survived. Ignore those that are toxic and relate with those that are understandable. Your survival is firstly on you and how well you handle the situation. #10k is small but with prayers and doggedness you will meet helpers. God will rise in your case and send helpers to you in Jesus name. Be focused and honest.

Please don’t stress yourself about infidelity. If a woman is in extramarital relationship, you will know. Women don’t hide their feelings so make yourself happy in this 9 year old marriage because you are still learning. Why on earth will a woman live her children in care of housemaids without any good reason
Please be yourself, play your part well. Continue to be a responsible father to your children and a good husband to your wife. You won’t run after a lady before she is caught no matter how clever she is. Does she hide her phone, does she have secret conversations, don’t suspect her please. Besides, did you discuss it with her, she should be corrected never to tell at her husband. Success in your marriage.
There are some things to be avoided in a marriage

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N5eeMYUzrWg

Please don’t stress yourself about infidelity. If a woman is in extramarital relationship, you will know. Women don’t hide their feelings so make yourself happy in this 9 year old marriage because you are still learning. Why on earth will a woman live her children in care of housemaids without any good reason
Please be yourself, play your part well. Continue to be a responsible father to your children and a good husband to your wife. You won’t run after a lady before she is caught no matter how clever she is. Does she hide her phone, does she have secret conversations, don’t suspect her please. Besides, did you discuss it with her, she should be corrected never to tell at her husband. Success in your marriage.

Iyaebe:
Please is it compulsory that a lady must know how to cook before marriage? What if her fiancee accepts her like that,should she still entertain any fears or she should go learn before the marriage.

Irrespective of whom you are marrying, please learn how to cook probably from a local cook or YouTube as the case maybe. Marriage is not about only you and your husband. What will your children be eating? Eatery food with high seasoning?
What about the health benefit and what you will save from eating outside. If your schedule is tight, buy pepper in bulk probably sat or Sun and freeze.
If you must eat outside, let it be once in a week or a while. If care is not taken, money to build house will go to stomach. My submission.

There are many reasons and many things to be fearful and worry about in the family.
Many things to worry about the children, about our finance, about our health and about uncertainty.
Why should I worry and fear less, it is because God that is the originator of marriage and creator of children and the parents is not dead. Our God is a kind and merciful God. He is always available to hear us and change our situation if only we are ready to obey and pray to Him. There is power in our tongue. We will worry and fear less about happenings in the marriage, family and children because He will prove Himself in everything that concerns us when we communicate to Him. He will answer our prayer of fear and worry in Jesus name.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tIN04cVs46Y

Lovebliss2:
The truth!

I think it depends on qualities individual wants because I don’t see why I should live the good for the worse.
Let’s pray for our men so that they won’t buy wrong market

samuel051:
Og the guy posted industrial sewing machines along his comment,it has been deleted by the mods,he is a notorious scammer or do you still see his initial comment?

Apology!
Didn’t see anything other than ‘good one’ you quoted so I was surprised seeing ‘Scammer’
Thanks for the clarification

samuel051:
Scammer tunde

What is the scam here?
I think we should encourage ourselves and learn from one another
What is bad in saying ‘good one’
Is anyone asking for money or anything at all here.

Opeyemiextra:
Women are also turned off by most of these things and more.

From men?
On point!

Isaiah 26:3 Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee. I pray that God in His infinite mercy will give us all round peace, comfort and strength in Jesus name.
Let us not be tired of praying for our marriages, lives, nation, children and businesses. May we all experience all round peace in Jesus name amen

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yY9tD4uLvC4

Yesterday, after we returned home, she started giving me attitude, I asked her what the issue was, she started telling me how I am killing the business, not taking good care of her, not having money to take care of her and all sort of rubbish, she brought out how incompetent I am as a husband and what have you. I never said a word to reply her and its eating me up seriously, I could not sleep the whole night. This is the person that I sacrificed a lot for. I was supposed a take a professional course this November, but because of her I had to postpone it.

Please I need your advice.

PS: I did not eat the food she prepared last night.[/quote]You have done well by supporting her. On her behalf, I say thank you but I will sincerely advise you:
1. do not ever neglect your food, it is prepared by your money so why are you throwing your hard earned money away?
Do not believe the quote that says the best way to punish a woman is to ignore her food and sex. Some women do not care o. Do you think she will not ask you for money for food when the food stuff finishes?
2. If you have any program to do any where, please do it well. It is to your advantage, do not postpone whatever you need to improve you as success requires sacrifice
3. The two of you need to know that there is a national economic problem. So we need understanding and tolerance to live as a couple in this nation now. Teach her with gentility and humility how to endure what we are passing through, you need to teach her because I understood from your msg that your marriage is just a year so she may still be young. Then you both need to know how to invite the originator of the marriage to your home. Do not allow anyone to drive you crazy and do not drive yourself crazy. Add necessary spices to your marriage and we will all overcome the problems.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c2_baCZsSFw

Lucrativress:
Some people can be insatiable cause they're confused in their needs of a partner.
Nothing seems to be a enough for them.
So they're better off with a bad woman.

Smile....
Let’s help them with our prayers!

Lucrativress:
On the contrary
If you dinnuh have big boobs and Ass.
60% of men will have a second date with a lady with these things you wrote.
Talk truth abeg
Men love bitches.
Na mostly the old News paper men dey check character first,the rest are moved by what they see.

Either we check before we buy or moved by what we see, the most important thing is to enjoy the relationship so one should follow what works for him, we just have to enjoy our marriage/relationship and never get tired of it.

Baueress:
Too much makeup!

Honestly, it makes some women look like masquerade but they do it because of themselves and their lovers. Moderation is the key

Hayee:
It is a lie good women are a huge turn offs to Nigerian men, to them they are very boring

Men are addicted to heartless gold diggers

Not all men. We can’t condemn any sex because of a terrible experience we have with one person. There are many men from good and godly homes. One will meet his type when search in a wrong place, let’s be good and we will definitely be appreciated

Favfables1:
A bad charactered unintelligent entitled woman is a very huge turn off for me...

Tueh!!!!
((Spits!!))
I don't think any other thing disgusts meore than this...

Women have learnt and will adjust where necessary

Richy4:
Some of them were not really like that offline... Many I believe are well behaved offline...

In my opinion, I guess people usually feel Since it was a faceless forum, they can be online what they would have desired to be in real life without societal judgement... Some put on the tough-nut-to-crack behaviour online but offline, they are docile

But an adage says behavior cannot leave one, irrespective of where you are, you should be real, no one can tell, we can meet somewhere somehow. You can’t hide for ever. Technology has improved. Let us protect our integrity and avoid embarrassing other people

Vision101:
Saucy ladies. Even though nairaland is a faceless forum the response by some ladies here to some of my innocent and jovial comments have made me to avoid them. You can imagine if I was dealing with them face to face. I'm a gentleman.

Smelly, stinking hmmm.

Some people are just saucy not because of sex. Saucy people turn both men and women off and I think those people that have that trait can stop the toxic act so that they can be more loved and appreciated

Harrykn:
Seeing a lady sef nah turn off

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Ladies are special species!
They must turn you on and not off
Maybe you are looking at their unattractive sides, start looking at their most attractive sides

MrBrownJay1:
- conceited person (who thinks the world revolves around her)
- yeye women who spend all the time on their phone taking pics etc
- babes who lack communication skills
- greedy broke aaass (aka order 5 different plates and doesnt even finish half of one)
- rude/agressive women
- babes who have a vendetta against men
- babes without any class whatsoever
- dirty/stinky babes
- women who dress like they coming for a p0rnstar casting (aka that you cant bring to mama)

etc etc etc

I hope women will learn and avoid all these
Thanks for letting us know what men hate

What turns a man off during dating?
Why do guys back off after the first date?
Men are considerate and not wicked but the attitude of women sometimes could make a man take a bow

If you want to keep your guy and want that relationship to blossom and enjoyable, there are so many things a lady shouldn’t do to her guy. I hope you will find the points raised useful
1 saucy lady. You have thrown caution to the dog, no man would want to have a serious relationship with such a woman
2. Lack of good character
3. Pride is controlling you and you think you have arrived
4. Hot temper

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k9gywvTXIF8

Responsible women have been a solid rock behind a successful marriage. They endured a lot of unprintable things and supported their husbands with prayer so that they can succeed in life.
I think such understandable and supportive wives deserve some spoils.
Our men should always make their wives happy and feel loved.
There are numerous ways to make your wife want you more. Let’s discuss few and feel free to add yours
1. Love her unconditionally and genuinely
2. Cover her mistake
3. Be her gist mate
4. Go shop with her
5-10.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PoKU_V8axwY

A Relationship is a loving friendship between two people. It is also a way in which two people are connected.
Many relationships have become toxic because of either personal error or lack of knowledge.
For people to enjoy their relationship, they have to sacrifice for it. There are many things that have crept into a relationship that is ruining it, it is not too late to enjoy that relationship if only you are ready to put in your best and also apply whatever good things you discover are working for a successful relationship

There are many things to throw away if you want to enjoy your relationship with that guy|girl or man|woman. Among the important 10 things to avoid in a relationship are:
1. Avoid criticism that could birth hatred
2. Avoid constant disagreement
3. Creat time for each other. Don’t be an absent friend or spouse
4-10:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N5eeMYUzrWg

It is not everyone that goes to church or answer a Christian is a child of God
You need to know the characteristics of a child of God before you claim to be a child of God
The ultimate goal of a child of God is to reign with Jesus in heaven.
Would you like to know if you are a child of God indeed
You will learn what a child of God must do and must not do which include a child of God must obey Gods laws and instructions
He must live a sinless life
A child of God must have faith only in Jesus
Get the complete qualities and be sure to be on the Lord’s side
Remember: whatever God cannot complete, He will not start it
Thanks for watching, God bless you



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xeratek:
As the best web developer in Nigeria due to my constant effort to help the less privileged and eradicate poverty, I have decided to revive the young man's music career

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You are a philanthropist

tomtomastom4:
I told my gf to give me some space and break.
She glared up. Said somethings to me and told my friends that I broke her heart.

Plz judge from my story if I what I did was wrong.
Sorry my story might be long.

I have been dating my gf for about 3 years now. I have the plans of marrying her by next year. Our both family knows about our intention.

But off recent, things haven't been all rosy for me and it's affecting my relationship with her.

Everything was going fine until I started a new business that am pushing. I got a new product from another state and began bringing it into my state of residence. It's not a fast moving goods, so it's difficult to market and I believe once the goods gets acceptance, it's going to move very well and the profit is promising.

So right now all I do is to push and push. And pumping money also. All these my gf knows about. In other to expand the biz a little, i got a loan of 1.5 million wch I added to the biz. The loan is to be paid back around march and I pay the person 100k per month.

Also to add, I work in a company that pays me 130k per month. So I use 30k for my monthly up keep and send 100k for loan repayment.

I must confess, since I started the biz things haven't been easy for me. I usually make sales from the biz, but right now I put all the money back to the biz just so that I won't run it down cos profit haven't started coming yet. Am still in the stage of putting in more money.

Sincerely what you need is not a break. No No! You need her all round support. Someone you are marrying should support your business by marketing it because if the biz is thriving she will enjoy from it, so now that it is at the beginning, let her join and do her best. But if she is not supporting and complaining, you can be excused based on her complaint till things turn out well and even then, you will think twice before continuing with her. My submission o!

wfjimmytobby:
I meet this girl around September we go so close and have always spend on her,going shopping and all that and always tell her how I feel..she do make demand from me and have always responded..but I l suspected that she has lots of suitors trying to get her and even her ex..cos she told me he is trying to get back so I decided to demand for sex so we can get serious but she refuse and said she is not ready and that a should wait but she keep requesting for assistance and even wants me to get her a new phone cos her previous phone got spoilt and all.. so I need your advice should I wait for her to be ready to give me her body and keep on assisting her or should I just give up on the relationship cos she might actually be trying to scam me or something

I don’t think people attach seriousness to relationship again. Sex and shopping should not be yardsticks for a relationship. Why would she double date? Kai, this world has turned to another thing!
My brother, no girl should coerce or expect you to spend money on her but you can assist if you want because giving is part of things that sustain a relationship and you are not expected to taste her apple too.

Don’t you have plans for each other ni?
You are to spell out your expectations in the relationship. Sex and shopping are not determinants at all. Success o

thebosstrevor1:
Throughout this week, i have been watching video clips and interviews of the young serena and venus Williams with their father and i can say that their father had an instrumental role in their success.

I think he should be a role model to every Nigerian father. This man saw the talent in his daughters and helped to develop it by training them and employing coaches for them.

Like when i look into our society, Nigeian fathers are in another world of their own,no relationship with their children talkless of their daughters. Most Nigerian men don't understand the role they have to play in the development of their daughters. They don't help in the development of their talents or education, no discussion with their daughters except it is about finance and paying school fees. The Nigerian father does not know his daughter and the daughter does not know her father except that she has his surname.

I was literally impressed with the way the Williams father interacted with his daughters, how he built them emotionally and mentally, it was mind blowing, these are the traits missing in the Nigerian fathers. I hope Nigerian fathers can learn a little from the venus and serena Williams.

I will just post some videos for you all to watch



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tEo29Lw8g-s


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Aza8EVSaf-8


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g4hrrHuHFak


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IZ_Dgnn437o

We are just unfortunate backward in this part of the world. Thanks to few fathers that identify their roles and play it well. Thanks to some mothers that are up and doing.
We are waking up and we will get there by His grace
When we see few people doing it right without compromising but greatly rewarded, others will follow suit. Thanks for awakening the spirit.

There are many roles to be played in the lives of children by the parents. No one is excluded in spiritual and moral training of children


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=StTBFkTOK5E

Anger is a serious issue in a relationship, between husband and wife, between parents and children, during conversation, when provoked, when insulted or hurt. Christians are not excluded in anger. If left unchecked, what it births is more hurtful and dangerous to health and souls.
We need love, keeping calm, staying away from what triggers anger in us and many more to control anger
The consequences of anger are deadly:
It kills, it makes one to lose friends and favour.
Learn more in this video and please avoid anger completely. God bless us in Jesus Name


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nh_VCFjGp-0

Kobojunkie:
Rubbish!

So what about all those who grew up with just one parent providing them with all that they needed?

Yes, fathers and mothers are needed where available, but let's not pretend that those who unfortunately don't have both parents cannot get the same level of attention and care from just the one.

No one is condemning anyone here. We are appreciating either or both of them and teaching ourselves to endure and pay the sacrifice of taking care of our children. Who ever that was there for us while growing up either mother, father, grandparents or guardian is appreciated and celebrated. But we can’t ignore the importance and roles of those that brought us here and we must be there for our children. Thanks

Opeyemiextra:
For me, it's my mother

Thanks to her and the good Lord will bless her more. God will reward her greatly.