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Hot argument ensued yester­day at the Agboyi/Ketu Cus­tomary Court between Mr and Mrs Adesola when the wife, Mrs Balikis Adesola, told the court that she caught her husband red-handed with her friend in a hotel while the husband opposed saying that his wife and her friend set him up.

The husband, Mr Adewale Ades­ola, had earlier brought a petition to the court to dissolve their five-year old marriage which is blessed with two children on the grounds of threat to life, lack of submission, lack of love and care and laziness.

Mr Adesola said that the love be­tween them has been marred with too much drama and that he is tired of her constant harassment and lack of submission.
Mr Adesola said, “the annoying aspect of the relationship between us is that, every time we quarrel, she makes it a point of duty to destroy our property and inflict injuries on me. She doesn’t cook or fetch water and she is always too quarrelsome. She doesn’t respect my family mem­bers including my mother. On one occasion, my wife even locked me in the cell during one of our quarrels. We fought and the next morning, she went straight to the police station and I was arrested. I slept in the cell that night. This action of hers is the last I can take; I will no longer stay married to her. I will take care of my children but I have nothing to do with her.”
The president of the court, O.T Williams then asked the wife, Mrs Balikis to react to her husband’s al­legation.

She heaved a heavy sigh and said, “The reason my husband wants to dissolve the marriage is not because of our fights, but because I caught him red-handed in a hotel with my childhood friend.

“My childhood friend stays very close to us and because we have a sat­ellite dish, she comes sometimes to watch Yoruba movies and because we have been friends for a long time, she became close to my husband. One day, she came to me and told me that my husband always calls her unnecessarily and it has become very worrisome adding that she de­cided that it’s better she told me so that it won’t look like she’s condon­ing his behaviour. Then, one day, my husband sent her a text message that she should meet her at a certain ho­tel and she quickly came to me and showed me the text message; it was so unbelievable.”

At that point, the husband, Mr Adetola quickly interrupted say­ing that the wife and her friend set him up which caused an argument between him and the wife, as both of them accused each other of lying. The president warned him and told him to wait until the wife finished her own narration noting that if he had anything to say, the court would of­fer him the opportunity.

The wife then continued: “After I saw the message, I then decided that my friend should go and keep me up­dated so I could meet them at the ho­tel just to catch him red-handed. So, she called my husband and they ar­ranged. On the day she was to vis­it, she told me and I stayed around the area. As soon as she got into the room, she quickly sent me the room number and I went to the hotel and entered the room.

Pretending that they asked me to get them food, the receptionist gave me permission and I went in. I knocked and he opened the door and he was very surprised to see me. We started fighting there in the hotel until the hotel management chased us out and he started claim­ing that he was set up. That was the genesis of all our problems. He said I don’t take care of him, but he is ly­ing, he is a barber and the shop he uses was given to him by my brother before he travelled abroad. He only gives me N500 to cook but I aug­ment it with my own money and sometimes, my mother assists me a lot in taking care of my children.

Meanwhile, his own mother will nev­er assist us or even appreciate what I do for her son. She rather fights me and finds every wrong thing about me. Anytime I have a quarrel with my husband, she would come to the house and tell me to go and spend three months in my mother’s house. If I don’t go, she would disturb me until I go to my mother’s house. In­stead of my husband to caution his mother, he will even encourage her to do whatever she likes to me. About destruction of property and inflicting injury on him, my husband is lying. Whenever a property is destroyed, it’s as a result of our fight. So, he can’t blame it on me.
The court then asked the hus­band to react to his wife’s allegation of catching him red-handed with her friend.

He still insisted it was a set up say­ing, “It is her friend that keeps calling me and she comes to the house and watch Yoruba movies until very late in the night. She will be giving me ‘some moves.’ Then one day, she told me that we should meet at a certain hotel and I was wondering why she would ask me to come see her in a ho­tel. So, I asked some of my friends of their opinion and they told me to go and see what she wanted. When I got to the hotel, I saw her downstairs and she came to me and said we should go up in a room as downstairs is so open and anybody could see us. It wasn’t up to five minutes that we got up to the room that my wife knocked on the door. As soon as I saw her, I just knew that they both set me up and that was how it happened.”

The president of the court said that, he could see that both of them were not prepared for marriage be­fore they got into it. “They did not seek wisdom before they embarked on the journey,” he stated. He told them that they really need to think about the marriage and put into cog­nizance the two children they have. He said they should think back how they loved each other when they met and see whether that love can come to life even if it’s a little before the next adjournment.
The president adjourned the case till April 5, 2015 and reminded the couple that the customary court is not only meant for dissolution but also serves as a platform to resolve marriage crisis.

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Tension on Friday enveloped Gbaramatu kingdom in Warri South-West Local Government Area of Delta State as men of the Nigeri­an Navy recently deployed to the area following re­newed vandalization of oil installations, were alleged to have shot dead a sand scooper on Thursday.

The victim identified as Bernard Pius was allegedly killed at a jetty in Tebujor Okpelama community, a Gbaramatu enclave where wanted ex-militant leader, High Chief Government Ekpemukpolo alias Tom­polo hails from.

Since the incident, anger is reported to be building up among the people as the fragile peace existing in the kingdom was said to have been threatened by the killing.

Tebujor Okpelama com­munity chairman, Moses Yabrade told journalists at the village that the late Pius was scooping sand at the jetty when a naval officer he identified as Izonfade Kenneth led other naval men to the area and shot at their son unprovoked, who in turn fell into the river and died.

The Navy officer who is incidentally an Ijaw, regu­larly patrolled the vicinity in a gunboat following re­cent vandalization of major pipelines in the waterways of Warri South West Coun­cil, Yabrade narrated.

Tebujor Okpelama community chairman ex­plained; “The incident happened at about 10pm Thursday night. Pius was scooping sand and it is a normal commercial ac­tivity at such quiet time when fishermen also ply their trade. The victim was alerted by folks that his sand boat on a 40 horse­power engine at the Jetty was drifting.

“He then rushed back and was pulling it back ashore with another boat. That was the point Izon­fade patrolled in with other colleagues in a gunboat. After shooting and kill­ing him he moved into the community bragging about the act and threat­ening to shoot another person if he does not get gratification.

“He was offered N5000 before he joined his col­leagues in the waiting gunboat and they disappeared, leaving us to mourn our dead. Inciden­tally, the shooter is an Ijaw man we initially see as one of us, but he and his col­leagues have been terror­izing us. The officer must be brought to book or we will take to self-help.”

A prominent Gbarama­tu Chief, Chief Godspow­er Gbenekama, the Bebe­nowei (Chief Mobilizer) of Gbaramatu kingdom lamented the incident calling on the federal government to ensure that the naval officer was arrested and persecuted.

Gbenekama who con­veyed the corpse of the middle age man to mor­tuary said if nothing was done by the government the situation may snow­balled into crisis in the Ni­ger Delta region.

But in a swift reaction to the allegation, Com­mander, Nigerian Navy Ship (NNS) Delta, Com­modore Raimi Moham­med said it was too early for him to give a true picture of what transpired, noting that his men may have fol­lowed standard operating procedures and not shot indiscriminately.