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Hi everyone, I’ve been silently following this thread, and I’ve learned a lot, and even started investing myself.

Unfortunately, my account officer has been giving me a lot of trouble. I placed an order for T-bills back in January, but by May, I discovered the money was still sitting in my book balance. When I emailed her about it, she insisted the transaction was done. I asked for proof, and instead of providing it, she said she would cancel and redo it. At the time, I overlooked it because I was overwhelmed with other responsibilities.

Now I’ve asked her to release my money at no extra cost, but she’s defaulting again. I know that if I report to the CBN, I have a strong case - she has no reason to keep holding my funds since she already defaulted.

The irony is, I only recently realized I could have been investing from home myself. In fact, the savings I invested in August have already yielded a good return. I honestly wish I was around to walk into that branch and shout it down It's already 10 months, no good interest.

If she fails again tomorrow, I hope I am right to escalate it to the right quarters.

Happy new year. I pray God visit your homes with bundle of joy. End your secret tears with His arm of love around you.

I used to be active here some years ago. I have 2 kids now, may this be all of you's testimony in few years to come.

🙏

Happy new year. May the Lord visit your homes with bundles of joy this 2025.

I used to be an active member here some 11 or 10 years back. Blessed with 2 children 9 years ago.

God will do yours too.

TobyeCole:
You are wise. Husband was reported to this evening and was in shock. My entire family has been summoned and we're discussing on these issues. Thanks for being an objective person.




And this is why I've always respected you despite your satires. Your seer's eyes. Ability to see the truth as it is. I wasn't just shocked seeing my family being burnt on the burner with lies. I know understand why people who are bullied take their lives. I felt deep hurt in my heart and for hours couldn't get myself.


I'll take some time off to let it simmer. The shock still unsettles me. BTW, you are 100% accurate on the entire picture you painted. This is all that transpired.

See how hasty you are to conclude it's mama lekan. Omg, did you first show her my post? Eya, maybe she's not even a Nairalander now oo.

This is 2020 o, go make peace with your neighbor.

My conclusion on you, the way you concluded am mama lekan, it's the same way you concluded the real mama lekan negatively influenced your girl and it's too bad.

You owe her an apology. And if you're intelligent enough, the first thing would be to check my past posts and try to relate it with her. You don't just conclude.

Make peace with that woman and apologize.


Good night

blank:
@TobyeCole, It is almost 9pm. Since you say the op is unemployed, she should have been in her house since. Have you had a discussion with her yet?

As in ehh


Did you have a meeting with me @tobyecole?

All typed isn't related at all with his claims.

And your story, you picked a girl from the street 10years ago, how old is she now? And you leave with your mother, I see, you are not married and probably training her to wife her or already sleeping with her?

baby124:
Who got the job for her? Did she come to you for the job herself or did MIL approach you for the job? You should not have gone begging psychos, it’s a waste of time, just wait for them to do their worst and stay out of it. Shebi their worst is that they don’t want her as wife anymore? Ok! But she is your employee. Her private business should not be your concern.

It’s strictly business and your kids come first. Ask her if she wants to go back to the village... if she doesn’t, try to rent her a room in another neighborhood where she will be coming to work from. If they ask you questions, tell them she came back by herself and she begged for her job back. Also, as it’s difficult to get help, your kids have refused to cooperate with anyone but her. So you had to rehire her. Besides you don’t want to get involved in her private affair. Shikena.

Thank you.

We decided not to house her.

Na two eyes I get.

She will find help somewhere else.

sassysure:
The way nairalanders are attacking this guy that came to burst the madam's bubble without asking the relevant questions is mind boggling because they saw bad man and MIL.

I read the woman's story and abandoned it cos has so many loopholes. Only one person in the beginning was sharp enough to read in between lines and used sarcasm that only few will understand to describe the situation.

Don't get me wrong but let's examine her story.

So,a married woman has been working for her as Nanny and the said married woman don't have kids too?
Who is looking after her kids?
Her husband suggested she start living with them when her family said she have tp go to the village.Really? Why will the husband suggest another man's wife start living with them?
A married woman that has problem with her family and they want to send her to the village? To do what actually and stay with who since her husband's family is in the city.
She didn't even tell us how much she pay the said Nanny.
Instead of her to try and make peace with the said Nanny and her supposed husband cum MIL she is begging that they should not send her to the village.

She was busy demeaning the other party involved.
Haba!

Now, a guy came and said the person isn't a nanny but somebody living with them.
Can u reconcile this to why she didn't mention how much she was paying the said woman?
This will buttress her story too as to garner the support she earnestly seek online.
Her husband suggested the said Nanny live with them.
There is no way that man will suggest the nanny live with them if that Nanny is married and an adult too.
No fuccking way.
Cos the consequences will be dire. Now we can see why the husband suggested that. Refer to the comment where somebody said the husband should marry her too.

Also,this man has been online accusing her endlessly but she suddenly disappeared instead of her to come and debunk it.


If u are conversant with living with adolescents, from the man's narratives, u will see that the lady is at the peak of adolescent where rebellion is the watchword. Once one boy tell her she is beautiful, reasoning will flee.
Yes, instead of her to stay in their house and get pregnant, it's better she goes to her father as I believe too that the said person is not married.

My only problem is that they may be high handed with her and sometimes not meaning it but out of anger as a typical Nigerians, will always remind her where she came from and that alone can make her become stubborn and rebellious.
She is at that tender age, they were supposed to handle her like their child( it can never be the same). All she need is communication, and all about sex education.
Remember, her background will still be haunting her.

Chai, you are very wrong.

The vacant rooms are in the BQ .

You failed to read my post cos if you did you will read where I said I have tried so had for her marriage to work, n she has no kids. I can't say much but she's got a baby for the union but late.

Even if she's not working for me n she's in need of accomodation, I can decide to allow her stay there.

I once house my kids school bus driver until get got a place with his family n leave.

Logic doesn't apply always. You try to use logic plus fiction but you got it all wrong.

TobyeCole:
That is what happened. Look at how she came to the Internet to blackmail my family









The young girl had become rebellious and would stand to curse my mother to my face.


This has been happening repeatedly. The girl isn't her nanny. We only attended the same church and my mother said she couldn't teach the girl assignments and the girl should go to her house and in turn help her do her house work









This is a girl I picked from the street mentored and trained her for almost 10 years.















But she started becoming rebellious and acting against every instructions given. When we saw she has grown and doesn't want to stay with the family as she even threatened us a few times the gather stayed in a three bedroom and we stayed in a small house along with many of such issues we noticed we had lost her and before she got pregnant we asked her to go home so she won't get pregnant untimely nor do harm to our family as she had turned covetous always beating our own kids for no reasons cause she.. Oh my God. It was good I did o.










The girls mother threw her away to the street some years ago









I picked the girl up clothed her fed her trained her. Even today she left if you saw her skin its spotless clean. She eats 4 to 5 times a day














She then started receiving attention from all boys around and turned prideful and arrogant.







I took her to various pastors to speak with her different people. Before rebellion became another thing we then called this woman the OP with the aim of trying to talk to her several times
















She's just a neighbor we allowed our kid go visit and help take care of her kids. It was good we were doing






















She's only speaking from the loss of having the freedom to leave her home and her kids while the girl does the chores.



















God almighty will judge you mummy Lekan for all these lies you've spoken about me today. Heaven bears witness that you won't go unpunished for tarnishing my family's good will like this.





Can you guys now see part of the reason we had to decide that the girl go. Can you see how the girl's disloyalty opens the door for this to my family















Nairalanders be careful whom you open your family and home to



























I double dear you mummy Lekan to come speak all you typed here to my face. I'm at home

You see siemilaities in all I typed? But I don't see any simility in all you typed.

Don't go fighting that woman cos she's definitely not me.

Read my previous posts, you'll see I can't be call mama lekan.

Am shocked you are accusing me of destroying your family. I respect families, i respect the elders.. am not that woman okay.

Calm down.

I'm not unemployed, check when I posted yesterday and check the time am responding now, I work.

My post is not in any way related to us at all.

*My nanny is not a student
* Not picked from th street, she was properly married into her home - main reason why we keep pleading, what God has joined let no man put assunder is what we believe in.
* She hasn't been married for 10 year! Like you're grooming your little girl for marriage right? This my own is fully grown.
* Both households are not tenants, you and the mama lekan are not.
* My kids go to school and I pick them up on my way home, I help with their assignments.
* The woman who works for me doesn't work all day, she closes latest by 11am because she helps her MIL at her work place.

Hian, all my fellow Nairalander, I don't know this guy from anywhere.
So please calm down, don't kill before you realize you're wrong.

I'm a peace loving easy going young woman. Reason why I don't even want to house the said woman. I consider other people feelings in my decision making.

I live in a serene environment, so you can't go gossiping while you leave a little girl at home doing chores are Tobyecole claimed.

Tobyecole, be careful not to hurt the wrong person.

sassysure:
The way nairalanders are attacking this guy that came to burst the madam's bubble without asking the relevant questions is mind boggling because they saw bad man and MIL.

I read the woman's story and abandoned it cos has so many loopholes. Only one person in the beginning was sharp enough to read in between lines and used sarcasm that only few will understand to describe the situation.

Don't get me wrong but let's examine her story.

So,a married woman has been working for her as Nanny and the said married woman don't have kids too?
Who is looking after her kids?
Her husband suggested she start living with them when her family said she have tp go to the village.Really? Why will the husband suggest another man's wife start living with them?
A married woman that has problem with her family and they want to send her to the village? To do what actually and stay with who since her husband's family is in the city.
She didn't even tell us how much she pay the said Nanny.
Instead of her to try and make peace with the said Nanny and her supposed husband cum MIL she is begging that they should not send her to the village.

She was busy demeaning the other party involved.
Haba!

Now, a guy came and said the person isn't a nanny but somebody living with them.
Can u reconcile this to why she didn't mention how much she was paying the said woman?
This will buttress her story too as to garner the support she earnestly seek online.
Her husband suggested the said Nanny live with them.
There is no way that man will suggest the nanny live with them if that Nanny is married and an adult too.
No fuccking way.
Cos the consequences will be dire. Now we can see why the husband suggested that. Refer to the comment where somebody said the husband should marry her too.

Also,this man has been online accusing her endlessly but she suddenly disappeared instead of her to come and debunk it.


If u are conversant with living with adolescents, from the man's narratives, u will see that the lady is at the peak of adolescent where rebellion is the watchword. Once one boy tell her she is beautiful, reasoning will flee.
Yes, instead of her to stay in their house and get pregnant, it's better she goes to her father as I believe too that the said person is not married.

My only problem is that they may be high handed with her and sometimes not meaning it but out of anger as a typical Nigerians, will always remind her where she came from and that alone can make her become stubborn and rebellious.
She is at that tender age, they were supposed to handle her like their child( it can never be the same). All she need is communication, and all about sex education.
Remember, her background will still be haunting her.

Am not the one. He must have tried to add one or two together to arrive at wrong conclusions but not me.

This my own paddy can't tutor my kids cos she is not schooled at all. She's is a totally village girl.

I don't know who that fellow is.

Am an old member on nl and if I choose to use my identity it shows I've got nothing to hide.

Some people know me well. So I'm not mama lekan, my kids can't even answer lekan. I'm not from the tribe that answer the name

My narrations are not similar to yours but don't go and kill someone thinking it's me cos you sound bitter.

Am definitely not who you think.

You said the mama lekan lives in a 3 bedroom, hmm, did you read when I said I have two unused rooms? Or you mean I use only one room with my kids n hubby?

First let me thank all� who took their time to respond to me. Baba God bless you all. We are not keeping her at all.

This is so urgent now.

This woman is so nice to us, my kids love her and am heart broken she's leaving today.

I have being trying to manage her marriage, she has issues with the MIL and hubby, they don't want to see her around. Her husband wants to take her back to the village, we've done all our best, I knelt down with other elderly people to beg but the MIL insist she's rude and want her to leave.

I will really be hurt to see her go, who else can I trust my kids with? I leave my rooms open with no fear, she doesn't steal and obey all instructions to the letter. In fact, am soooo free with her around my kids.

I have two vacant rooms around, we don't mind housing her, my husband want her to stay with us but I said no, I thought about it carefully and so said no. My reasons are;

* I don't want to have issues with the MIL, we are both house owners, not just tenants that will depart sooner or latter so I don't want any issue with a fellow landlady.

* She is way older than me, I call her mama. So I hate to hurt an elderly person. Taking her DIL in will surely hurt her. And she might think so instigated the DIL against her.

* I don't want other landlords to see me as a bad person.

* What if something happens to this girl or what of if she starts to misbehave?

*My sister and older relations advise against it.

* Her MIL will do everything possible to tarnish my image in our estate.


This girl isn't a bad girl, she is this village girls that if you manage well, you'll get the best out of them but her MIL n hubby are phycos. Very difficult to be with. She's highly unforgiving. She insist this girl must go because she doesn't fit her status. But they saw the kind of person she is before marrying her.

Enough of too much talk.

What do I do to keep her without hurting her MIL.

If she leaves, the stress will be too much for me and I don't think I'll get someone else due to trust.

I need help.

Ignore my typos pls

RiyaGoddess:
I really thank God for the compassionate heart He's given to me. When I saw the video, I heard the Holy Spirit say to me Shile, you would have passed the test...

Yay It's my first Christmas ever next tomorrow. I can't keep calm...
#12MonthsLovingJesusWithNoRegrets


Modified- Please I no buy Christmas clothes ooo. Can I wear my old clothes to church for Christmas service or must it be new Christmas cloth?
This is my first Christmas ooo how una dey do am?

May God give you Christmas gift

You will end well dear.

Enjoy His sufficient Grace.

.

baby124:
I am not totally sure if she knew the camera was there o. That her boyfriend is definitely a psychotic person. She should have runaway when he entered rehab. That’s why I don’t blame people for running from partners when they enter trouble. Some kinds of trouble speak on the personality of the person. A whole lot is wrong with that guy. He’s scum and he brought her down with him.

I hope her parents fight for her and move forward with pressing charges on all involved in the leak. Let all of them be expelled. The boy and all his friends and leakers!

I think she knew the act was being recorded. She was looking when he went to turn it off.

To me that guy delibrately made her have se.x with him to destroy her life. Am not in school you too should leave. Seriously I pity her.

If her parent wanted to do anything it would been all over social media by now. Babcock is very strict when it comes to sexual offences. During our days, you don't stand/sit together holding yourselves and them catch, they will say you were caught in the 'act' or them catch you after 10pm with a guy, your own done finish be that.

But since it happened outside school, and she wasn't the one who leaked it, maybe a good lawyer will win the case, as a student of Babcock, you don't live carelessly, cos the teaching is you must never bring down the image of the school down, in or out of the school, infact even during holidays.

Most cases against the school are never won, well I don't know of any. All they go to court with is the student handbook, they tell you that it's your second bible, read it, know it. And so many seminars are held to explain the student handbook.

Am sure the part stating the purnishment for her offence was read to her, and she also read it before she was served the expulsion letter.

extremelygolden:
Hmmm. Please try the Canadian stuff again, for you and the children. When he hears you have immigrated, he'll try to contact you.

Person when never see food chop na im wan travel?

What I want for her a a good paying job here in naija

Mrsabuh1:
honestly you are right about everything , what u said is painful but that is the actual truth, now my father blamed me ,he doesnt even want to listen to anything ,he said I shldnt bring my three children to him .while I was away I wasn't allowed to see my kids ,traditionally they said the kids belongs to my husband and I can only take the female child away but even at that he didnt even allow me take my daughter. he knew if he purnish me with the kids I ll come running back and he won .my father still blame me for everything and said I didn't give them enough time to investigate his family before marriage ,I was 22 and trust me I didnt really know much,I dont even know what the word RED Flag means , the signs were there and obvious but I was too dumb to notice that ..now its late and I dont know what to do ,business isnt even growing that much as the proceed from it I use in providing food .. I feel so down,wish I can turn back the hands of time

All I can say now is eyaaaaaa

So sad, I wish an in that position to help you get a job.

Please let a Nairalander who can help help her get a job, only because of the children please. Innocent little once.

But why is your dad saying you shouldn't bring them in, they are his grand kids now or maybe you never remembered your family when it was all good. This is one mistake so many make. Don't forget your family because you are married. What of your mum? I can't condemn or judge you. I pray God help you through it all.

Your family shouldnt deny you of the support you need now, cos family is everything and you are are still part of them.

Were you close to your husband's family when it was all rossy?

Keep applying for jobs, contact friends to help get a job. Are your kids in school?

I pray God help you, I can't imagine how you feel now.

It is clearly stated in the student handbook that as a student of the school, you must not carry out any activity that will tarnish the image of the institution. As a new student, you sign a copy of the student handbook and submit, another copy is also given to you to read.

If you can't abide by the rules it's no point wasting your parent hard earned money. That case, no court can win it, because it is clearly stated in the handbook.

How on earth will you allow a guy video your se.x activities with him? Is that not crazy? I blame the girl, this guy has been expelled, you should have cut all ties with him, you can't run your vision with a visionless individual.

I feel for her, like she did it under duress or she was hypnotized.

Accounting is about 800k, ×3, plus the shame she's brought on her family, friends . I hope she won't kill herself.

Girls, please stop being the victims, the guy stylishly cropped his face off the video. Haaaa, wicked, he must have hynotized her. Or her village people are strong.

cooooooks:
Is this not supposed to be done during the courtship period?s

Human beings unfold daily. Marriage is continous learning and the discovery of each other is daily.

Imagine, your hubby eat beans every other week, and then one day you cook beans and he's like 'don't we have food in this house?', and so many other funny attitudes. You can't know him in all areas during courtship. Whoever tells you you should know everything about him during courtship is not a realist.

Forget all these sweet mouth marriage seminars we attend oo. When you enter, you learn with real marriage experience.

If we know it all, no need to build after marriage. The bible says, only a wise woman build her home

The poster will learn so many things from the man and she will begin to overcome those things that triggers argument with time. And the husband too will grow older to learn to stop reacting rudely to trivial things.

The rate at which marriages break nowadays, the best advise to give any young couple is just patience patience patience not reacting back in the same gesture.

My granma sends me garri, dry pepper, oil from village, oh, let me not forget she sends yam and plantain too, even melon. Mama can send the whole village if possible.

My hubby enjoys it now. Initialy, he wasn't comfortable with it, I told him mama do that to all her children and am not an exception. She cant travel to your house empty handed, never.

What we do is we give her money in return, there are times i send her money to get me oil. Not an insult at all. All caring mothers do this and it's not because they want to disrespect you. The only thing is give them the cash, more cash to cover the food stuffs and more, buy them cloths and things you know they need. Chikena.

On arguing, you guys are still new, stop running upandan. My hubby n I argued alot when we newly got married. I had to learn to laugh when he start, when I start my own he goes to bed because we never liked the way we argued. You both are still in that 'know me know' you period.

You want to look out, no good man out there ooo, forget getting love outside. Build your home.

Ohhhh, am in so much pain now for this. God can not be mocked. How can you hold bible, pray in Jesus name and prepare bible study notes on the bed of adultery?

What an evil!!!!

In all, he shouldn't kill himself, i pray he repent totally, ask God for mercy. Let his family also be by him. It's so had for him now, i pray he finds mercy and I pray he hasn't even offended the Holy Spirit.

Hmmm wao, and there are so many in public places and churches, even mosque.

All the preach now is sowing seeds. The seed of righteousness.

Rinde01:
The real culprit of this fight between mercy and tacha is Cindy, she behave immature by telling tacha wat mercy said

Very true.

Na Amebo.

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Carmal90:
New one sir..
5 years

eheeen? my renewal an immigration guy asked me to bring 60k!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 10years 95k!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

okay now, na why you see dem riding prado, building 10 buildings in month.

Where did you do it? How early did you go? have you captured?

Carmal90:
I paid less than 18k some 22 days ago.

Renewal or new one?

I was told there is for 5 years and 10 years, so which did you pay for please?

segunolapad:
[b][/b][color=#990000][/color]Good day everyone, please I'm currently in Ife I want to obtain my Int. passport... someone recommended Oshogbo for me. But I need information from those that have done theirs in Oshogbo.
pls I need details about their charges and the time it takes to have the passport... I will be needing the passport in December
thanks

I called my uncle there and he said the process their is not stressful. He promised ot help me find out by monday, I will hate stressing out here in lagos, I might visit Osogbo soon for a ceremony so I might just do it there with my kids.

Hi house, please I have some questions to ask.

If am renewing my passport, will I be required to capture again? my funny question though
If I fill the form online, how many days will it take for me to be called to capture if am capturing.

What do my kids need to get their int'l passport? is NIN just enough?

Thanks.

Everyone will testify by God's grace.

This thread will soon be 10 years. I know God has something good for every woman here to celebrate the decade.

zeezzy:
Good afternoon,lovely sisters.Rejoice with me as I put to bed a set of twins after 11yrs of waiting.All thanks to God Almighty,tnx to wonderful friends,tnx to my dr ,Norbert Ekeh of Regenesis fertility centre and the entire staff,Tnx to my wonderful brother, Oga Seun for a platform like this.It's been a long wait,thank you, Lord for this outcome.To my sisters still waiting,let's continue pushing,we will all be mothers.

Zeezzy, waoo I remember you well. One of the oldies. Wow, congrats dear. 11 good years!!!!, all tears are wipes off, all thanks to God Almighty.

Richy4:
This kind of gist is sending shivers down my spine.. U were practically living with a dangerous creature ... who was not paying rent... and for two years or more for that matter.. haba!

I'm guessing you gonna teach me on how one can get his eyes closed at night knowing fully well that a dangerous snake is living with him.. Some people are way too 'tough' for my liking..

Walahi, heeennn, who put fire on the roof and sleep? I wish I don't read this post, cos if I dear here any movement there on the roof I'll think it's snake.

Not all posts are worth reading!

Haaa, snake for two plenty years, haaa. I weak!

Thank you all mothers who responded.

I'm takien noted of all you have all said, I will try more and pray more. Really appreciate Babythug for your inputs.

Hello mothers.

Please I need help.

My kids are too active, too hyper active. Never seen such busy kids!

One is 5 and the other is going to be 3, it's being crazy.

We always cause a scene whenever we go out. From running away and me running after them to so many other things. Car almost ran into one of them some weeks ago. I felt weak, someone even insulted me and looked at me disgustingly cos of it, like i wasn't watchful or stupid not to put them to caution.

Once i pack they are ready to jump out of the car and begin to run. People say i dont allow rhem to go out, where dem wan go? Afterall they go to school.

My hubby is pisssd and am stressed over this attitude of theirs. I can't sit beside them, my 3 years old will turn my body to her play ground. I lock myself in my room 70% of the time. They hadly take a nap.

How do engage them properly? For now it's tv or playing with toils (which they dont fancy that much), i buy different toils and they get tired easily with them.

Am thinking of stopping oat for them, they take oat almost monday to friday before leaving for school. Could oat be the cause?

I don't want to start beating them so they wont get used to it and become stubborn.

Am seriously thinking of resigning my job, get a shop where they come to every day after school. Let them begin to go out now since them say I no dey allow them go out. Whenever we go out they become weird.