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very funny thread. funny babe, funny guy, funny posts.

deniyor:
Tough spot to be in. Anyways I will refrain from advising you on this one, but I do feel you real well. If you happen to know the right choice to make, abeg tell me so I keep in my list of options when such comes up again.

really? meaning you have been here before. its not funny o

I make the calls most times, but for girl A, within 5 minutes i exhaust everything there is to talk about, Except times when i stretch it to just make her feel good. On the contrary girl B can constructively engage me for even 45 minutes. you see what i mean.

Ebonyeyes:
Do this two girls know you are juggling them? Sad state of affairs.

juggling ke? una don come o Well the girl B knows girl A, and girl A suspects there is a girl B, becuase like I said we stay off without relating for weeks sometime without any trace that someone is missed.

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thanx.

I only said I personally would not do sex before marriage. My position. But if you say considering two people at a time is as bad as dating(sleeping with) one at a time , then thats your position , I cant fault you. I sincerely would have preffered a straight forward advice anyway. thanx all the same.

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From my post it should not be difficult to deduce that the second lady is new, and at this stage she is trying to place the cards on the table before we get deeper. I dont think i have commited some big crime as you are trying to paint here. I have stated the concerns I have with relating with the first girl, which i have made clear to her. I have not been explicit enough to tell her I am considering someone else. I take that blame. but relax its not as bad as you are trying to make it look.

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Thanx man. Advice taken.

estrella:
I can understand what you are going through.The things of the Spirit may not seem sensible but is the best for you in the long run.I personally don't think that the second girl is the one for you.The fact that she is born again but she doesn't want to obey God's law of keeping the marriage bed undefiled shows that she isn't really born again unless she wants to be delivered from what may be a stronghold for her.
The first girl sounds boring in the physical but are u more concerned about the physical than the spiritual?
Marriage isn't all about intimacy.If it were,we would be getting married to some of the weirdest pple on the palnet.When it comes to God ordained marriage,you have to put your feeling outta of it.Yes you may not love her now,but who says you cant love her with time? Would you rather have a woman who loves God and is willing to obey him over her desires than a woman who doesn't? My problem with most young men is that they hardly think about what influence the woman they want to marry may have over their kids, you're thinking only of your selfish desires, how your flesh can be stirred by her, how about the mission you both will have in the kingdom? or the kids you will bring into the world? have u read the story of Joyce Meyer's marriage? or Rick warren? read about the marriages of great men of God and learn from them, you sound like someone who wants to please God with a holy life but is torn by his desires, stand on the shoulders of these men and see if the Spirit won't talk to you about what you need to do, Open your heart and God will honor your desire to lead a Christ worthy life, Good luck,

You really got me thinking deeply. Thanx.

y me:
let me get this straight ___you are contemplating on two girls
one which you can do without and the other which you cant do without
are you planning on getting married just because she is very religious?
what about compatibility?
dont make the mistake of getting married out of desperation cause it wont only make life hell on earth for you
but might also lead you to so many mistakes which you are definitely gonna end up regretting
so beware,bewise and dont fall a victim
just take your time and you are gonna find your missing rib
nope ou cant so please get that off your head
even if you try to sooner or later her real her is gonna come out

I am considering her not necessarily because she is religious, but becuase she is available and she is not likely to make me compromise some of the values i believe in at least for now. I and somehow feel that with the funny marriage stories one hears, it will be wise not to shut the window of God's mercy by compromising religious beliefs in the process of looking for a wife.

I am aware too that someone that professes sexual purity might be a bigger devil, when issues like forgiveness,tolerance et al, are considered. I also know that friendship is key in this. The funny thing is we were mere acqaintances in church and everything seemed fine until she asked me to define what we were doing.

Missy B:
First, You're desperate to settle down . . . .That wouldn't do You any good.
Be patient, take Your time . . . .It's better to settle down [late] with 'Your right one' than rush into marriage with just anyone and jump out before You even say 'I Do'.

You can find Ladies who are attractive, born again with good moral values.

I admire the sincerity of Girl B but [b]I don't see her as 'the one'.[/b]
Girl A doesn't do it for You? You musn't marry her .

Conclusion: You musn't be with either of 'em if they don't measure up. Keep looking.

Thanx. Really sometimes i feel i am being too desperate too. But society and even church are part of the problem. when one hears this "you cant get it until you are desperate like the woman with the issue of blood" messages, it becomes too difficult to keep ones kool.

I respect the girl B's sincerity too and am trying to work on the theory that i can talk her into seeing my point and relax. The trap in that approach however may now be that i might be suspecting that she catches her fun elsewhere. sorry if i offend anyone here.

@all
I appreciate all the responses , I will try and answer some of the questions.

I am someone who grew up as some "good guy", and very religious. NEVER DID IT. somewhere between my youth service and my first few years of work i slipped morally and got really loose with the opposite gender. Never thought i could get that bad, but really i was. Some years later I saw how dangerous that lifestyle was and "repented" again.

Now as a "repented" guy, but with loads of bad deeds behind and an understanding of what excites me in a woman, I am in a fix. The kind of girls that excite me are not in church and if(when) you find them in church,its only a matter of time for you to find that they hardly want to play by the religious moral rules. The only serious relationship i had after "repenting" , though started in a semi-religious manner, later slipped to serious moral compromise. She would pass for a "saint" by every standard outwardly, but was of the position that since i was serious about settling down with her then it was permissible to DO IT.Somehow we had to end it , even though i still strongly feel i loved her.

Now i am in a fix . I have two friends.Both acclaimed "born-again". 

While one  is religious and states her conditions as the basic revelation-see pastor-courtship-marriage-intimacy route, which is what i believe in, she does not excite me and we hardly relate at the same level even in normal conversations. sometimes We could spend weeks without relating on phone, and it doesnt occur to me that i am missing anyone.

The other though confessed "born again" too has  openned up that she will find it almost impossible to keep intimacy  out until marriage. In fairness she admits that she knows the ideal,but that for her, it will not be realistic at this time. I must confess that I find her very attractive too. Aside  the intimacy issue, we relate excellently,though with a few differences once in a while. We relate on phone every time and i cant help missing her when we are not relating.

Now i feel i am running out of time and need to take a decision on one of these two fast. To settle with the very religious one will require a lot of faith, because i am not really excited about her. To settle with the other might involve some compromise and the way it works is anytime one hears any powerful message in church, the first consideration will be  what to do with the relationship as it affects ones spirituality.

Is it me that is confused? am I fishing in the wrong place? and what advice do you have for me.

NB : I know NL that abusive comments cant be ruled out, but somehow i will find a way to learn a lesson or two.please your suggestions

neily:
Married men are ready to give money. While young guys are stingy. Nobody wan suffer. Even you.

This is not always true.
I have seen single ladies with high paying jobs(especially bankers) date married colleagues shamelessly on the one hand. The annoying thing is they are mostly of marriageable age , praying by fire for God to give them their own husband on the other hand.

If you are a guy and still a virgin , dont allow a lot of posts here drive you into doing things against your vows.


As touching sex ,experience is often overrated. Yes most times.

Within 2 wks of exposure I came to the conclusion that most ladies just make mouth. The ability to "collect" does not mean they are good in bed.

For a guy that is still a virgin, just ensure that you are physically fit( every man suppose dey do exercise) and imaginative. With these two keys you will perform wonders when the right time comes.

Besides there are countless literature out there that will provide sound theoritical background that the so called "pros" are too proud to find out.

I pick timaya anyday

one of these days Sanusi will also display what he learnt in sudan to the whole world.

@OP

Infact though rare but there are still virgins. My GF is a virgin and she is over 24yrs. Infact the virginity thing is part of what is affecting my final decision now. Why because i know say i spoil well well b4 i became this religious, now even with religion i kind of feel it will be safer for me to have a partly spoilt lady for marriage on the grounds of sexual compatibility.

I am afraid of taking this risk on this rookie/virgin . I NO WON CHEAT AFTER MARRIAGE O.

Infact this year's EXPERIENCE was super,the Nigerian Artists did not do badly att all. I hope the organisers will be able to cope with next year's crowd.

Onlytruth:
How does a Nigerian youth move on when nothing is working We can't even generate electricity! We can't organize a reasonably fair election. We can't even have security in our homes. The youths can't even go to school and stay there. Meanwhile billions of dollars are exchanging hands yearly. People like me are driven by what I saw in the two and half years governorship of Chris Ngige in Anambra state. In those short years, I came to see that it is possibe for my corner of the world to be built to first world standards in under ten years! But guess what, I cannot even vote him in again because someone in Abuja is desperate to impose a candidate on us. We can't even choose our leaders! So, if that be the case, pray how can I "move on"? Those are the things that destroy Nigeria, not Biafran agitators.

Yes , if the reports of a lot of Anambrarians is any thing to go by, then Ngige must have been very good in his short reign as governor. BUT DO YOUR REMEMBER THE IT IS THE SAME "ROGUERY DEMOCRACY" THAT PRODUCED HIM AND EVEN GAVE YOU AN OPPORTUNITY TO SEE THE OTHER SIDE OF GOVERNANCE?

I know Fashola still has a lot of work to do, but believe me if we have just 10 governors like him, we will forget all this secession talk.

There is still hope for this country.

people should just relax with this ABURI ACCORD talk. The minorities in the Eastern region also wanted their form of "Aburi accord" which ojukwu was not ready to cede.

The british helped to strengthen the centre and weaken the regions when oil was discovered and the projections showed that strong regional governments would only birth monumental economic imbalance when the oil boom fully kicked off. The Eastern region was going to be miles ahead of the North economically . Ojukwu on the other hand wanted regional autonomy because the economic gains where mouth-watering for the east.

According to the TIME Magazine xray of the civil war, analyst found it too difficult to reconcile the high level discontent of the minorities in the Eastern region under Ojukwu and his(ojukwu's) lamentations then. If Aburi succeeded , the minorities where always going to wake up someday and ask Ojukwu for their own "ABURI".

Lets forget the past and move on guys.

@poster

And when did girls become so honest that they now need permission to date both guys and choose the better of both?

I think marriage talk is rather too early here anyway. She needs to create some room and meet the UK guy and be sure who she wants to be with and talk marriage thereafter.

sley4life:
Never. Mikel is a overated player. Mikel is million miles away from jj

Which miles? do they play the same roles?

Mikel does the DM role well, I dont know why the National coaches are not playing him there but forcing him to be another okocha.

noetic15:
as a matter of fact both of them are a nuisance. of what benefit is their "royalty" to their subjects. these are people who give out titles on a pay as u go basis to treasury looter.
These are people without an ideological basis, who command an influence in the unfortunate country.
If the truth must be said, both of them and their fellow traditional kings must either be abdicated of given the Rawlings treatment before Nigeria can move forward.

Bro you are not wrong. But the errors in the two of them apply to almost every tradtional ruler in the country.

Lets stay focused on the historical details here for the benefit of people like me that just want to know.

I think a lot of posts support that Alafin is the paramount yoruba traditional ruler. I am however curious because in elementary social studies we were taught about the importance of IFE in traditional youruba history. I am not yoruba but would really be happy to know all surrounding detail.

^^^^^^^^^^^ Nigeria will give them real problems but that match will definitely produce more than one goal. may be 3-2

chic2pimp:
I swear down una don hurt naija players pride ooo. Next team dey face go chop cane tire,una go see.

Ha even you sef fit swear down for dis team. hmmmmmmm. 
OUR GOD IS REALLY A MIRACLE WORKER

Sagamite:
Putting emotions into analysis is what pisses me off. 

People don't have the brain to be objective? 

As far as I am concerned, the fundamental problem with the team is a solid striker poacher that can position well and score goals.

And probably keeper, but this Okafor is not the first choice. The first choice is injured at the mo that is why we are using him.

Infact our sports analysts are about some of the poorest around. They just wait for the score and use that to make statements. That is why you never have the opportunity of rewatching any match  nigeria loses, to them once you lose , you have played badly .

I have explained here after the spain match that the team is playing well , although it is very sad the scoreline has not been fair considering  the balance of play .

I can not remember any nigerian match where a team , less one man will cage the opponent in their  half for an entire 45 minutes like it happened against venezuela.

If by providence we manage to qualify, some  of this strikers like IGHALO and Fatai might just start pulling their weight.

TexMex:
I don't know why a number of NIGERIANS can't make dispassionate assessments. It was unfortunate that the Flying Eagles couldn't score in their matches against SPAIN and VENEZUELA. Even FIFA commentators attest to it that NIGERIA should have won all their matches against those teams on the balance of performance. Yet, our local commentators will still be raving against a set of boys that have put their limps on the line. Why can't we just appreciate our5 own and make constructive criticisms?

MY BRODA MAKE GOD BLESS YOU PLENTY PELNTY

AfroCynic:
A man walks into a bukkateria and says to the Mama put… Man: Abeg give me N20 rice, N10 plantain plus 2 kpomo and 2 yar'adua. Mama put: Oga abeg no vex, but which wan be yar'adua? Man: (laughs), u no know? na SNAIL now!

You don kolo, I swear   

maedan:
It's a shame u all feel that way.
Some countries with not even half of Nigeria's problems,
Are already war zones.
You dont have 2 give up on your country -
So that one day your country wont give up on YOU.

seconded

With today's results we have moved very very close to the airport because except for group D  and our group (B), all the third placed teams are set to get four points and qualify

Group A
URUGUAY and ITALY already qualified while Egypt needs just a draw to go through.

Group C
Germany already qualified, USA or KOREA will definitely take one of the spots whichever way their result turns out. Cameroon needs just a draw against Germany

Group E
Brasil and CZECH already qualified. Costa Rica  needs just  a draw against Czech in their last match to make 4 points.

Group F
UAE already qualified, Honduras or SA will definitely take one of the spots. Hungary that demolished SA 4-0 needs just a draw against UAE to go through.

Except by special providence even if we beat tahiti 10-0 we are likely to go out since all other losers most likely would have 4 points. Painful

rasputinn:
Set your calculator aside,no more permutations,whatever happens tommorow,Siasia should be promoted to coach the super eagles still

Even if he wins the cup, the hawks in NFA will not allow it,not to talk of going out in the first round.

bibiking1:
forget it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I wish man, but I just cant.