As an addendum:
In Islam marriage is an act of worship and obidient to Allah's instructions. So how would you go into such all important assignment and religion of your partner isn't an issue to you?
Islam sees religion as a jihad, and thus a man married, don't bother on what religions faith his offspring will practice. What a waste life?
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I will speak to you from an Islamic point of view... generally speaking, there are many genuine reasons why Islam frowns on such marriages... unless she converted to your religion, then Islam frowns at marrying an unbeliever in the Deen... and it's quite a good reason as well...

supposedly you died before her, all your kids will revert back to her religion, and in the sight of your Lord, this is a grave misconduct , all this i love you, she loves you won't save you... when you're choosing a partner, you're not only choosing for yourself, but for your kids and their future...

even if God spare your life, your kids might end up confused and might later revert back to her own religion, and this might break your heart..children mostly generally incline themselves to what their women follows, this is why you should be very careful who you choose to be your wife.. you might not be the one who takes the Deen seriously, but if you fear for your own future and theirs, you would fear for the outcome... that's if you're truly God fearing or you fear His wrath.. but if you're one of those claiming woke muslims, then I have nothing to say to you... and since your wife is not inclined towards your religion, do you know the outcome and consequences when it comes to willing or sharing property when you're no longer on this earth?

you're one of the men who thinks emotionally, you're not the first person to fall in love and won't be the last.... some of the ones greater than your love ended in divorce, so have you thought of this possibility and the effects it will have on your kids?? or na still I love you, she love me too?? now you seems blinded by love, all this will seem like nonsense to you, but e go soon clear for your eyes...

from your story, it seems you guys still have issues on which religion your kids should themselves adapt to, this is just the beginning of the problem, that love go soon clear for your eyes when you're asked to account for that decision you took years back... maybe not in this life, but in the next...

even if you're a idol worshipper, find another idol worshipper to marry or someone who's ready to convert to what you believe in... when it comes to marriage, leave emotions out of it and think logically before you dive in... love is not what sustain marriages... the risks is much greater than the illusions of enjoyment in it... find someone who aligns with your interests and beliefs for your own peace of mind and for the future of your kids...

apart from religion, marry someone who aligns with your interests and dreams... even if it's the person occupation... if you know your wife is an actress, then you should all the things involved in being an actress, don't come out crying when she starts kissing random people on screen and eventually cheat on you and make you father another man's kids... religion is not the only thing that should be taken seriously, there are many other things as well, marriage is not a joke... it's better to be single than dive into marriage while leaving your brain behind... love won't save you when problem arrives... love is just the emotion to attract people to each other, not the emotion needed for a successful relationship, and the thing is that most people can't differentiate between love and lust, and that will be the cause of their downfall... [/quote]

Steve Kadiri of a blessed memory. He passed on 1999 or 2000.
Zakari Muhammad again,
Nice memories!!!

But God ordered man to go the world and multiply.
Those of us who do the multiplication are not on this platform. Nice write up.[1quote author=ibechris post=124577038]Having many children in a bad economy can lead to various consequences, including:

1. Financial strain: A bad economy often implies limited job opportunities, lower wages, and increased unemployment rates. Raising a large family in such circumstances can impose a significant financial burden on parents, as they struggle to meet basic needs like food, clothing, education, healthcare, and housing for every child.

2. Limited resources: With a bad economy, resources become scarce, and families with many children may struggle to provide adequate resources for each child. This can result in compromises on education, healthcare, and extracurricular activities, affecting the overall development and opportunities available to the children.

3. Increased poverty: Raising many children in a bad economy can push families into poverty or exacerbate their existing poverty. Poverty affects the quality of life of both parents and children, leading to inadequate nutrition, lack of access to healthcare, housing instability, and limited opportunities for upward social mobility.

4. Limited future prospects: In a bad economy, parents may struggle to save money for their children's future needs, such as college expenses or starting a career. This can limit the opportunities available to the children and hinder their ability to break out of the cycle of poverty in the long term.

5. Education challenges: A bad economy often impacts the education sector, leading to budget cuts, reduced resources, and overcrowded classrooms. Children from large families may face difficulties in accessing quality education due to limited financial and academic support, potentially affecting their future prospects.

6. Strained emotional well-being: Financial stress and the inability to provide for all children's needs can lead to increased parental stress and tensions within the family. Children may also experience higher stress levels due to the lack of resources, witnessing their parents' struggles, or feeling neglected or overlooked.

7. Limited parental time and attention: Raising many children demands substantial time and attention from parents. In a bad economy, where parents may need to dedicate more time to work or multiple jobs to make ends meet, the ability to provide individual attention, support, and guidance to every child may be compromised.

It's important to note that these consequences can vary depending on factors such as the specific economic conditions, the social support available, and the resilience and adaptability of both parents and children.[/quote]

Washing of clothes is no longer duty of of lady/wife of this generation o!
They'll tell they're not your dry cleaners. Better still, provide the house a washing machine.

almarthins:


To many of them na body wey dem go offer the man, and cook for him or probably wash his cloth.

The African/ Nigerian way of life style is never in abundance in abroad o.
If you haven't marry before sapa as a lady, in abroad its another huddle entirely to get man for marriage.

The next action from them is to threat you with publishing your name and photo on all your phone contact that you chop gbese, bachi etc and you no wan pay.
Loan apps is one chance o!
Report them to @ICPC for justice.

Since 2013, 10yrs ago I haven't been to saloon because I have been the one serving myself with my clipper.

All family should endeavor to have motor cycle for short distance movement.

You have been cheated, bro.
This can bought at N100 in my location as a result of cashless economy.

Facilitate or felicitate?

Guy, you went too far.
You didn't figure it out early how the categorized you in that relationship - you're more in love than she does. She is more focused on her job, her attitude while you guys were together should have signal you that. She has never introduce her boss to you in anywhere and so you don't have any need to have reached her boss on her where about.

Now, if you're Muslim or christian, go and marry your holy book for constellation and soul mending. Over time you will see reason to take her matter behind you.