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so if your father slaps your husband he should return fire abi,especially in public where people are there.i wish your husband future or present best of luck,that is why men don't marry this day this generation of women are manner less definitely not wife material

Sophyrocks:
You will never allow the same treatment from your father in law. I repeat, No mother raises her hand or slaps her daughter over mere pics. Only a troublemaker does that.

Answer the question first

NmaGOD44:
and let me make it clear to u dat if both of them were in peace....the DIL would have been the one to present the pics to her MIL even before she makes her request.....my mum can't hate me and still demand something from me...it doesn't work dat way...and I don't tolerate shit from people

Answer the question first

NmaGOD44:
and let me make it clear to u dat if both of them were in peace....the DIL would have been the one to present the pics to her MIL even before she makes her request.....my mum can't hate me and still demand something from me...it doesn't work dat way...and I don't tolerate shit from people

Answer the question first

Sophyrocks:
No mother would strike or slap her daughter over mere pics!! Get that straight. The Op's mother is too petty!! Slap a woman, AN ADULT, that you know u aint in good terms with over mere pics!! You are only asking for trouble!! Only a woman who is a troublemaker and jobless would do that.

As for strike,let me ask you so,if your mother strikes you,you would strike her back,or if your mother wants to take pictures from your husbands house you would stop her,please answer

NmaGOD44:
ur story has nothing to do with the issue at hand.....did the wife throw her MIL out?....did she not welcome her well ??...was she the first to strike??.....pls read the whole story before dishing out ur advice ...abeg

She did do that,she pretended till her husband went out,did you read no sooner had he gone out they have started.the story is very related,if you conduct yourself stupidly your husband would pay for it,at every given time a wife is an ambassador of her husband,if he insult people on the road the husband suffers for it.her conduct matter 100% and in this case her conduct way nothing to speak of,to her own husbands mother for that matter of all people.i ask if her husband had fought with her father how would she take it.please answer me

NmaGOD44:
ur story has nothing to do with the issue at hand.....did the wife throw her MIL out?....did she not welcome her well ??...was she the first to strike??.....pls read the whole story before dishing out ur advice ...abeg

God pass them

jomoh:
Is this another EkitiGate replaying here









Lalasticlala

i can see you come from the same line as the woman,but fact remains,any woman who doesn't respect her husbands parents but respect her own,can not be said to be a wife,rather a woman on a mission,and my people say that is just the beginning,if she gets away with that,she would set her eyes on bigger embarrassment. my mother can not kill me after all she left and raised me before the wife sew me that she wants to marry.so what can you say is your excuse for holding a picture of my family.the answer is simple trouble maker.

Now if you give your mother free hands in my house,how much more my own mother when am the head of the house,anyway you look at this the wife has brought out her true colors and it must be contained before it causes a bigger problem.

I would give you a story,true life.where i come from the first son of the house becomes king once his father passes on.so time back the king passed on and the elders traveled to go and inform the first son that his father has passed on and he should come and prepare to be crowned,when they got there,the tradition is that once people come you first offer them water to drink,then give them food pending when your husband can attend to them.but rather when they got to the eldest sons house,the wife asses them to be poor people therefore she kept them out for hours,after allowing them in she just walk away without greeting them because she heard they came from the village.to cut the long story short after a while the elders stood up and walked out of the house,they told her to inform her husband that they have seen his wife,then they went straight to the house of the second son,his wife immediately offered them water and food before the husband came and they told him that they as elders have agreed that he be made king rather than his elder brother.he was made king when the elder brother heard he wanted to start a fight,they asked him why he is just coming and didn't his wife tell him that they came to this house or didn't she deliver there message.let me stop there the idea is his lineage lost out and this is no story,they had to make the elder brother a third class king to keep the peace but under his younger brother.

Women who don't know the beginning of anything want to claim more knowledge then does who have been there before them would end up destroying there husbands

ugwum007:
a big and empty drum..thats u

So your wife fought with your mother over pictures,please ask your wife one question,would she stop her own mother from taking does pictures.if not then she is a disrespectful,arrogant idiot. definitely she should be kicked out of your house before she brings bigger trouble to you

perfectionist:
Nairalanders, I'm in a quagmire! About one week ago, my mother came to visit my family with her sister and a friend. After the preliminary greetings and felicitations, I proceeded to take leave of my guests in order to go and service my car, leaving them in the hands of my wife after having provided some refreshments for them.
Now, my wife and mother have no love lost between them and barely get along but the joviality they displayed together in my presence combined with the fact that my mother's sister and friend were also around made me to believe all will be well and nothing will go wrong.
No sooner had I left home than I received a frantic call from my wife to return quickly that all hell had broken loose.
Upon getting home, I found my mother and my wife on the 3-seater going at each other with both wailing. I managed to separate them and proceeded to find the cause of the fight. I was told by the two onlookers (mother's sister and a friend) that my wife prevented my mother from taking some photos of the child dedication we did a few weeks back from the photo album. This incensed my mother and led to my wife being slapped following which all hell was broken loose. My mother even sustained a deep scratch on her face.
Now, my family members have insisted that my wife must leave the house for committing this abomination (their words, not mine). Indeed, my mother has told me in no uncertain terms that mother and son relationship has ended as long as my wife continues to remain in the house.
I love my wife and has two young children with her but this whole issue has complicated things.
What should I do? Your candid advice and suggestions will be appreciated.

what does that mean. abeg that is rubbish.any woman who raises her hand on a man should be given the beating of her life,as in beat the devil out of her.rubbish

mpowa:
There's no sensible reason for any[b] REAL MAN [/b]to beat a woman, not to talk of the mother of your child, he's a BEAST and until we start telling ourselves the truth in this society, we won't move forward.

if he doesn't want her, since they're not legally married, he should move on, but he must take care of his child. This is what happens when boys and girls start having babies they're not prepared for, they need to grow up!

OK,we hear you.why are you here to try to spoil his name abi,in all you have said,you have not mentioned one thing that you did.all you are singing is all that you did for him,you haven't told us anything he did for you.i thank God you have packed out,please why are you still trying to associate yourself with his name.i no even see your surname,lastly i don't know you if not for that may D you put for front.so go get a life

Airforce1:
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All this wouldnt stop the people from coming out to vote,please tell wake and PEJ

Please name the school zara is attended that is collecting 12 million,i can comfortably tell you that PEJ bought 10 vessels in one day at the cost of 500 million dollars,then go and see her hotel she built in bayelsa and her school in Abuja before you come here to talk.that is minus the petroleum minister who 800 million dollar in cash was found in her house in abuja.see if you want to speak about corruption,i tell you no government in the world comes close to GEJ government

Onozboy:
THINKING ABOUT THIS:
Buhari's child Zara is paying over 12million Naira as school fees developing her future and career. Jonathan's children are also abroad for studies and residence while developing their career and living in affluence. Atiku Abubakar's children are abroad schooling. Tinubu's children are abroad schooling and living in affluence,they are all developing and investing in their children to continue to rule us after they are gone. You are there as a jobless graduate wearing APC and PDP customized vest and polo, chanting "Change" holding brooms and carrying umbrellas chanting "Transformation" killing yourself, fomenting trouble and constituting nuisance to the society because of Peanuts that can't make you a better person? Stop being a disgrace to your discipline, stop wearing APC vest and carrying PDP umbrellas because that is the wish of politicians for you. they know if you have a good job, they can't use you as a thug/'propagandist'. If Buhari will not bring all his ten children to the street for campaign and Jonathan will not bring his children and blood brothers to the street for campaign, then you are a disgrace to your family if you don't stop masquerading yourself as PDP and APC agents, because up till now, I have never seen Buhari 's children and Jonathan's children on the streets wearing APC vest and holding brooms, neither have I seen Jonathan's children carrying the PDP umbrella even on Social Media let alone in the streets. To whom brain is given, Sense is expected! Just Vote. No violence! And be safe. Spread the news! God bless Nigeria.

No comment until i hear from the second side,because i don't think the man is mad to just wake up and be beating her,watin she do?make she tell us first and if he is so bad,please pack and leave his house and stop trying to come and claim innocent

emusmith:
Her name is Tola Senami Akindein and last night, according to her, she was attacked by her husband of four years, Yomi Akindein. Pics were taken as she went to the hospital for treatment. She said she's endured years of abuse from the man and has ended up in hospital many times. According to her, he's been beating her for 3 and a half years of the 4 years they have been married. They have a 5 year old daughter. She said the beating last night was the last straw for her.

Oh dear Lord. Women please don't stay with abusive men. Find the strength to walk away. Please. Pic of the woman before the beating after the cut..

This is disgusting





http://lindaikeji..com/2015/03/photos-see-how-badly-man-beat-his-wife.html?m=1

Am laughing,see the way you are explaining as if men no get say for the matter,na woman dey decide everything.you can do sugar daddy but know when to quit,you should date only men when done hammer so you can marry them not them marry you.you they joke.this is why they are not married because they think the world revolves around them,how many of them can cook,how many can clean,how many can manage a home,how many can handle little income when the going get tough,with all the sweat things they have collected from sugar daddy.
Woman wake up,my people have a saying if the bird would learn to fly without landing the hunter must learn to shoot without aiming.
Most women are not marriage material and so the men are refusing to marry.abi who wants to die of heart attack

Woged2005:
In my recent interactions I observed that most single ladies who are getting anxious about marriage due to age have one thing in common - Almost 70% of them were once in a relationship that wasted their time, blinded them to reasons, and later disappointed their expectations. This included:

1) Sugar Daddy Relationships: This is practically a No1. on the list. Most of today’s desperate single ladies were once involved in a relationship with a sugar-daddy who simply kept them for s*xual purposes while lavishing them with gifts, money, travels and lodging in expensive hotels. They got carried away by the eupohria. It’s even more shocking that despite the gifts and money most of the ladies received, some have nothing today to show for such relationships than regrets, anger and bruised emotions. You can even see the trend today on Nigerian blogs (including NL) as young ladies of 'easy virtue' brandish expensive gifts from their affluent sugar-daddies to justifying their ‘hustling’. But what many people don’t read is what happens to them later as they age. These are same ladies littered in churches later in life crying “Lord, why has thou forsaking me”, while others are enmeshed in various frustrations.

A sugar daddy never loves a girl. Just face it! They enjoy a young, beautiful body they can experiment their s*xual fantasies on. They keep their own daughters safe under secured environments, but waste another young lady’s opportunities, sometime derailing her future. In the end, they return to their wives & kids, while the sugar-baby is left in emotional bruises and negative spiritual consequences.

2). The Immature Boys: Obviously, boys don’t marry, men do. Here I define a 'boy' as a male human not yet ready for the responsibility of marriage (he might be rich, grownup, even has a job). ‘Boy-friend’ is what you do when u're a teenager, experimenting with life, not as a adult. Once you hit social maturity and wants to settle down (except you are rising & maturing proportionately with ur boyfriend) hanging on to a mere 'boy' at the expense or real, potential suitors is a waste of your time. He might be cute, sings well, athletic, funny, has six-pack muscles, or may one day become an Engineer etc, but sista, after 25 a lady should get real. I don’t expect a smart lady at that age to wait for another 3-4yrs for a boy to ‘grow-up’.

Knowing a man who is a marriage material:

- He is Single- Because married men are not available except in cultures/religions that permit polygamy
-Emotionally matured – If he still fumes, gets into open fights, feats of jealousy, & possessively controlling, abeg apply ur brakes. He’s a time-bomb
-Has a stable means of livelihood- otherwise, how will he pay ur dowry & feed ur kids?
-You know his close friends –They are either married or getting married, so he’s under peer influence. It’s irresponsible to date someone you don’t know his/her close circle of friends to determine if u fit in.
-Most time you are his only girlfriend- The more the competition, the less could be ur chances.
-He has asked you- Until a man pops that ‘M’ question, don’t predict his intention is marriage. He may like you as a person but there are other reasons you may not end up his wife (individual differences, religion, culture, s*xual incompatibility, family resistance, health issues)

Be smart. May God not allow anyone to waste your time this year!

Grammar and reality are two different things,when reality hits you grammar goes to sleep.you are still speaking grammar,when the time reach for reality,then practicability would come in,once again as your friend said you never get husband yet

mollysteeze:
suffer to get husband? I hardly think any self respecting person, be it man or woman, should think that way. Can't even reply the bf and sugar daddy bit, obviously we aren't on the same page

If you spend the kind money he just spent under so short a time on an issue that would cost you even more money down the line,trust me you wouldn't be smiling either

Mimienudles:
True but most grooms hardly smile

Meaning? You that is brave why you no go marry am,abeg the girl they find market,she think say to get husband easy,oya now enter market second time come tell us

shaddi:
This space is dedicated to her CORWADICE husband




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Mrs Harvard is arranging the last debt she can give Nigeria.and in a hurry too.knowing fully well that GMB would never borrow from world bank

i dont know where you are from but in African culture a man is allowed to take more than one wife,so you must we deceiving yourself and like your friend say you never marry,when you suffer to get husband then you would learn how to keep one,for now na boy friend and sugar daddy level you dey,aging never start

mollysteeze:
Over the years, in what is a total paradigm shift from the values a lot of our mothers had (well at least some), the "other woman" has now become tolerable. I am not sure when along the way it happened, and no one remembered to send me a memo but it appears to now be the norm.

I always have some nagging urge to blatantly say "No babe, it is downright unacceptable", when my friends broach me on this subject, but you end up being the friend who likes to break up homes because she's not married yet. People say if I was in those shoes I would feel differently.

Well Maybe.

However, no matter how much shame I would feel, I knew myself before I got married, my values remain my values, knowing my self-worth is what shapes every corner of my life and that is the core of me. To change now or later would be to deny who I have been for 26 years. While I am never an advocate for divorce, I have realized people do not change overnight.

A year back, my friend's boyfriend told her he was confused who to pick between her and two other girlfriends. Well she fought for "her man". Trouble is today they are married, and he's still seeing one of the other girls, who he has now rented an apartment for in Nigeria, and he's here half the year.

I've realised, the people who complain about there husbands or fiance throwing some other woman in their face mostly had an inkling they were cheats while they were dating. They were the ones who fought of five other girls to get their man. But the question is, if when you were dating there were five of you, why do you think today he would be satisfied with one. I have no doubt in my mind, everyone has an idea of things their partners are capable of in their subconscious, the trouble is a lot of us convince ourselves to believe some other truth that better suits our wants.

My mama has taught me, life is too short to jump into something you can't tolerate all your life, the sole reason for sharing your life with someone and giving up your freedom should be because they make you happier than anyone else in the world. Do not compromise your values or one day you would wish you had not.

But then, on the flip side, if you like smelling some other girls perfume on your man and having your kids run into daddy and "Aunty Bintan, the side chick" at the hotel near their school then go right ahead.

To who

ammyluv2002:
Virginity is a big deal

i dont know about dating a male lawyer,but guys if you date a female lawyer,your own done finish,there problem no get solution,in fact you must run,except you be high level politician when fit deal with am

emusmith:
If you have never given a thought about dating a lawyer, this post is going to come as a reminder that you might be missing out on something wonderful. Yes I know there are a whole lot of misconceptions about lawyers, but hey, you might want to check out these reasons why you might at least give a thought about dating a lawyer. So here we go:


1) You will be proud to introduce them as lawyers to your friends and family

Who wouldn't want to associate with the prestige and respect the legal profession commands? You wouldn't have to wait to be asked what he or she does; you will just have it rolling out of your mouth, though that’s not a guarantee of money rolling from them to your pocket. You will be proud to have a “learned” person as a date, and your family and friends will be so proud of you.


2) Dating a lawyer means you wouldn't have to pay for legal services

Now you've got all your legal issues addressed for free. You don’t have to pay any consultation fee of any sort. You will have free legal services all to yourself. Now that is something to think about, because legal services these days
are not that affordable as it used to be.

3) Lawyers are known to be good dressers

I know you wouldn't want to date folks who are horrible with their dressing. If that’s the case, then your chances of avoiding that could be reduced if you date a lawyer. Lawyers are generally known to be good dressers, probably because of the nature of the profession; where they are trained on how to dress.


4) Lawyers are known to be smart and intelligent

Wouldn't you want a partner you can make a good and intelligent conversation with? I bet you wouldn't want to be hanging around a mate who doesn't know the things happening around in their environment and can’t make intelligent conversation. Lawyers are known to have a wide source of knowledge of things happening around them in the society. Lawyers are also known to be avid readers, which exposes them to a lot of information. All these exposures, tend to make them more smart and intelligent than their mates.

5) Lawyers are good story tellers

We all long to hear good stories every once in a while. Lawyers by the nature of their training know how to tell stories. Also, the nature of their work also makes it easy for them to come up with stories to tell. I mean, they are always in the center of human interaction and conflict resolution, and so they get to know and see stuff. Wouldn't you want some good stories every now and then?


6) Lawyers are good talkers

Sometimes it can be sexy to be a good talker. You know you want to hang around people that you will be proud of when they open their mouth to talk. Lawyers are known to be good talkers, eloquent, and come off as intelligent when they talk. In fact, the greatest orators are known to be lawyers. So if you want to have such folks as a date, you better check out lawyers.


7) Lawyers will stand for you even if you are wrong

Wouldn't you want somebody who will stick out for you even if you are wrong? If that’s what you are looking for, then look no further, because you will find that in lawyers. Lawyers by their training don’t just give in to stuffs without putting up some fight. So, if you have a lawyer as a date, you are sure of having someone who will stand by you whether you are wrong or right. Now tell me if you wouldn't want that?

Assuming you have never given a thought about dating a lawyer, now is the time to do that.


I dedicate this thread all my learned colleagues in NL: Females and Males- in no particular order

Highly laughable

marcus19933:
As the 2015 General elections approaches different media houses has continue to thrill us with the various statistics on how the elections will go..... Guardian Newpaper dropped this today.. Please comment without insults.. THANKS

IF my memory serves me right ojukwu was on self exile when buhari was in office,and are they trying to say that once you come from a certain tribe you cant be touched if you are accused of doing something wrong?

PhockPhockMan:
This is a serious warning to Ndigbo.
He who have ear, let him hear.



#ihavedecided. GEJ TILL 2019.

All this cant help you na Buhari we need,na buhari we want and na Buhari we go get

ShowYourCertificate:
http://www.thisdaylive.com/articles/pdp-asks-buhari-to-clarify-role-in-massacre-of-300-igbo-soldiers-civilians/204638/

Oya make we no fight because my baba say make i no dey fight on Sunday

delishpot:
And you did not read where I said they should also destroy churches Based on that same point you so desperately want to make? Abegi go sidon.
They should scatter them all. If you get any seF make dem scatter am join. Ya juju na toy.

I am not from the world over, let those from the world over worry for their own.
If I am rich and give charity to people abroad, will you not wonder why I left the poor of naija and worry about the poor of the "world over" . So now as I list naijas problem, I should rather worry about the world over ba?
Like I said, when we see those who serve God in truth and in spirit, the light will shine through.

Please na your God fit fight for himself,ignorance is a serious issues,then the slave mentality kicks in the minute you added Nigeria,please tell me which church the world over is not a money making venture

delishpot:
So Erin and shigidi nor get power fight back too? Naim be say dem be waste of time too na. Abegi, any juju or deity wey dem scatter him house wey no fit protect himself na waste of time. If e nor fit save himself, na how e want take save those wey dey worship am?
Plus I like how they scatter them. Let them also scatter churches and mosques. Not because I do not fear God but because 99.9% of religious places in naija are set up as businesses and nothing more.

When those that trully love God open place od worship, we will knoW and all see the light shine through.

My brother may God bless you,they attack traditional places of worship without respect,if we begin to attacked churches and mosque how would they take it

Harbioollah:
The rate at which Nigerians frown at anything traditional these days is alarming. Not at shrines are kidnapper's den. I'm not a traditionalist though but I think its dangerous for anyone practising Unorthodox religions in Nigeria cos someone can just see them and accuse them of being ritualists. The rest is history

That is what western life brings confusion

kay29000:
I have noticed that, in recent times, most marriages break up within 5 years. I have been the best man at two weddings in the last 4 years, and those couples are no longer together. Even some of my family members that got married in the last 10 years are no longer together.

Why is the case of divorce and separation so high these days. And if it is not divorce or separation, you read on Nairaland every day how one wife burnt the husband or cut off his manhood, or how a husband beat his wife to death.

Why is this so rampant these days?

I think you are confused,none of this is for Nigerian girl.this are for white want to be

JUNIT1:
They say women are hard to understand, but maybe it is because we don't understand what they require from us men

Below are 6 Lists that women want from men.

Correct smell: Deodorant Ads may be going overboard showing men being lured by women's perfume. But the other way is also true. Choose a deo that suits you. Especially if it's your first date, it's best not to try anything experimental. Know what smells best on you. Remember, what smelt heavenly on your friend might stink on your skin! For everything depends on your body odour. When you spray perfume on your body, what you smell is a combination of the deo spray and your body odour. Choose wise.

Correct Surprise: Women love surprises be it chocolates, love notes, gifts or even a bouquet of flowers. Women don't mind them in any numbers. You are sure to score brownie points with this one!

Correct honest guy: Honesty is still the best policy. Never lie to her if you are thinking of a long-term relationship. Never mind you will face some initial flak, but eventually you will win over her trust.

Correct body: What with the celebrities being obsessed with getting a six pack or eight pack abs, girls too go ga ga over men with a well-toned body. Get into the habit of regular workout so you can make heads turn!

Correct dress: Nothing turns off a women than a poorly-dressed man. Do a style-check, spot the trends in fashion, speak to a stylist to find out what looks best on you. Clothes maketh man literally!

Correct hairstyle: Nothing like a funky haircut! A good hairstyle can give you a different look altogether. What are you waiting for? Get that stunner look so you can impress that chick you have been eyeing.

Correct hands : You might have taken your girlfriend to the hottest restaurants in town, yet she will not mind if you can cook one of her favourite dishes (or even plain instant noodles) when she's hungry. Such moments are never forgotten.

I hope this clears the confusion

see what white man has turn Africa into,so your father slap you watin happen,you want to take vengeance,my guy the slap is better than a curse,if he curses you i swear you go pay money tire to all this fake pastors and still you no go see front.you better respect yourself. didn't they tell you that in conflict resolution there is what is called timing.you should have assessed the moment before speaking

Freest:
It happened this morning oh, was bathing and prepping for work when i heard my dad at the top of his voice, before i knew it i heard mumsy crying, he had slapped her. Am in the same house( Haven't been able to move out yet) and i couldn't just bear my mum crying so i went to my dad to tell him what he did was not right. He is almost 60 and so is his wife, at that age you slap your wife i was trying to use the voice of reason as i was angry but kept my calm (Who wouldn't be angry seeing his/her mum cry?) before i could finish explaining and appealing to him i received from his left hand of righteousness a resounding slap... it got me confused as i didn't know what i did to deserve such. I didn't say anything harsh nor abusive. Am angry but didn't wanna return that slap nor say words I'll regret. I told him I'm moving out and he just lost a son, he replied that i wont be missed. I wanna do something he'll never forget, before i leave, please i need advice as it dented my personality even amongst my younger siblings and neighbors. I really am confused on what to do before moving out. Am so pissed now
pls sincere advice. thanks

HAHAHAAHAHAHAAHAH

ayindejimmy:
lets not get carried away. maybe its to help him conduct the next CAN election