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Let me get this,she knew the man was married,yet she still went on doing runs with him,after she got pregnant from all indication she wanted to either blackmail the man or destroy his home.i don't support murder but even she herself is an evil person

itsdumebi:
I just got this photo of the late Aisha...May her killer know no peace!

UPDATED STORY :
I got more details on her death from an eyewitness who revealed that the murder was committed by a neighbour, a married man she reportedly got pregnant for.

The guy who also resides in the estate argued with her and threatened her after she said she will tell his wife about the pregnancy she had for him.

The man got angry after she said she will report to his wife and struggle ensued. Moments later, she ran out of the house with scars all over her body, and while running she fell into the gutter.

when she was found by neighbors , She was still breathing so she was rushed to a specialist hospital along Ogudu road then to the General Hospital in Gbagada, but no one would admit her without a police report, that was when she was taken to the police station. it was there she gave up the ghost.

The murder weapon, a bloodied knife, was reportedly seen but later got missing. The suspect is currently being detained at the Area 'f' police station in the estate.
http://itsdumebi.com/murdered-silverbird-staff-graphic-photo-of-aisha-mustaphas-body-after-it-was-found/

from the way you are talking she done use juju for you,my guy a man can sleep with 1000 women but he always knows who is number 1,women on the other hand get emotionally attached to who they are sleeping with.so guess what you better waka far quickly before she kills you for the next guy

82sarahluv:
My wife has cheated on me during a tough time for us. We got back together 2 months ago, but I found out she is still in touch with him. Should I leave her, or have an affair of my own? We have a 5 year old son - this is why I'm not able to consider leaving her easily.
Thanks to all of you who have not jumped on the 'having my own affair' part. I only added this as an option because, her having an affair completely shattered my confidence as a man and is affecting my personal and professional life. I have considered an affair as a way to prove to myself that I can still have a partner if we separate. But now I realize how silly that is. I'm going to try talking it out with her again and resolve this like a man, and hope that will restore confidence in myself.

Let me be the first to tell this guy,you have destroyed your own life with your own hand,even if you get away with this,your life is still finished because somebody who helps you in your time of need and you repay the person with evil especially when you are up.does matter is you and God one on one.no pastor can help you

dre11:
Family of woman allegedly beaten to death by her husband petitions Lagos CP.......

I hear women making noise thisdays about such issue,i have some questions for you.
1) is your husband your own next of kin?
2)what made you go looking for his next of kin are you planing to kill him?
3)did you marry him so that you can collect when he dies in other word is he your insurance policy?
4)am very sure if you have given bath to a male child,he would have put that child as next of kin
5)you are a thief because i would expect you to be fighting for your children to be next of kin not yourself,if you are fighting for yourself then you have evil intentions

BritneyStacy:
Don't know exactly what to call it; rude awakening or shocker of my life!! I stumbled on photocopies of my husband's pension's scheme form, Life Insurance form and will.

As I went through the forms, I saw that my I am not my husband's next of Kin or beneficiary!! His younger brother is!! It hurts to realise that for a house that Ђåvε̲ made more than 60percent contribution to, per adventure something happens tomorrow, I will be left at the mercy of my brother in laws!!!

I haven't confronted him yet because I don't know how to. But I intend starting a secret saving account for myself because as at now, he access to all my bank accounts. I have also decided to stop contributing a dime to the house because I don't Ђåvε̲ any stake in it!

Are my thoughts in order? Please I need suggestions...what do I do? Married men why on earth would your wife not be your next of kin?

welcome to westernization,there way of life there problems,so enjoy

LewisO:
[color=#000033] [size=14pt] Rape rape rape everywhere, nawa o! What has become some of the people of this age? No
sense, no conscience.

There should be stiffer legislation against rape in Nigeria because the increase in rate is alarming. [/size] [/color]

is it an offence to be a military man,let me educate you,america that you are copying the democracy from,gives specail privelage to ritird military officer runiing for office,and do you know why,well because they have paid the ultimate price which is putting there life on the line for your safety.so i advice you go and educate yourself

BeeBeeOoh:
With military blood still running in his veins Bro, once a military man always a military man..

i suspect so

hensben:
Either the guy na troll Or him never leave this country once..

making and ak 47 and using it is cool by you right,slavery is a state of mind.you are in slavery sorry to inform you

Bonapart:
nothing like white man's way here. Burying a man with human head is kul with you right?
*Modified* I spit on ur tradition

ignorance at is peak,but yet jesus attended jewish functions,slave mentality

Bonapart:
thank you. But not welcome in my bible. Two master at the same time is never welcome.
Thank you again

just imagine how ignorant you are,thinking the white man's way of life is better for you,my brother you are in mental slavery

Bonapart:
My people still wallowing in traditions. Indisposed ko in disposition ni...... traditional ruler dey blow grammar for us

the problem is the women want to be prosecutors and judges in there own case.remember you can force a camel to the stream but you cant force it to drink water,so as-long as you keep deceiving yourself that you define the rules for men,well none can come your way,those that are tolerant would just have sex,if you flaunt your money guess what they would use you.
So go and check yourself well,if you cant find anything begin to call all your ex and tell them to tell you the problems with you

eagleeyez:
I believe most of you will understand what I mean

Its really saddening when you see ladies over the age of 30 still single. I don't feel its about character as I have seen many ladies with terrible characters get married.

Most these ladies are accomplished. Even with the programmes for singles in churches, stilll no show.The muslims also have programmes where they assist singles in getting married,still no show.

Please, don't state that they want rich men as we all know what is going on now,our women are practically becoming bread winners. Some earn higher than their husbands

These single ladies don't mind getting married to men who are of a lower earning capacity.

What is then the problem?!?

SOMEBODY PLEASE TELL THIS PEOPLE ALL THIS CAN'T SCARE US

I am asking where are the women right activist,they say women are the most abused because men don't talk,where are they.

Gentle men word of advice if a woman lays her hand on you,make sure you beat the living day light out of her,beat the fear of God into her so she never tries it again or else you would end up just like this

Please is it polygamy that cause bad behavior,its the woman that gave birth to her that brought her up in such manner,in fact if not for the other wife,they should have killed the man since,so my friend please don't allow white man fool you,all it takes is just one bad wife to destroy your life

paolo96:
Say no to Polygamy.

of course when you have no respect for strangers how would you have respect for your husband.am sorry for that unfortunate man,that is if there is one

Rose2014:
Honey Pls don't quote me again
I prefer people with reason quoting me so we can dialogue.
Thanks a lot dear

most of them are usually the first to lunch other forms of abuses,so i advice you go and study about abuses

Rose2014:
So all the people that get physically abused in Naija are fatherless
U go fear reasoning na

if he is dead,he died of heart attack but i doubt that,any mother who supports her child to pack out of her husband house because he refuse to attend dinner in her house,is a control freak bent on destroying her daughters home,and the only way one can do that is if she has destroyed has too,i have seen this play out times without number

rokiatu:
God STFU and stop making assumptions like I said. It wouldn't hurt if you ask you know. Her father is dead.

i should inform you that they are several types of abuse,including verbal,emotional and psychological not only physical,my people have a saying a bad mannered woman is worse than a spear,because she destroys everything around her including herself and always looks for who to blame

Rose2014:
Same way my people say a child that used to see her father beat his mom will grow to beat his wife too

An abuser is a no no for me anytime. Let him go n fight with other men out there

there is no way around the fact,she mentioned her mother,her brother but not her father,there is no way there would be a father and this would happen,except the mother has chased the father away and assume the role of man,now she is trying to do same,from what i read the mother has thought her daughter to pocket her husband and the husband has refused to be pocketed rather he is bent on asserting his authority and the mother sees this as rebellion,so she is using her daughter to fight back and the stupid daughter is allowing herself to be used

rokiatu:
ya all so quick to jump to conclusion. Stop making assumptions please.

perfect interpretation

freshcvv:
A lot of info are hidden..judging from her writeup alone, one can see that the husband has been blackmailed so badly with all the "good things they did for him" that he now tries to assert his status..

When you keep using the help you rendered someone to maltreat and disrespect him (especially a man), ego kicks in, once his ego is defeated by the blackmail, he turns to a wussy.. This must not be allowed to happen by the man.

domestic abuse my foot,am equally sure you didn't read the part where she is spending late night by her mother.If her mother is lonely let her go find a boyfriend and leave there marriage alone

As for my daughter i would raise her right,and would teach her to respect her husband just as her mother respects me,only women from broken home like to brake there children s home,if i check the mother must have broken her own home.and that is why my people say don't marry a girl from a broken home because her mother would brake yours too

Rose2014:
I'm sure u didn't read the next two comments where op mention domestic abuse.
Beg an abuser so u can return to him? Are u kidding?
Like I always say, hope u'll say d same to ur daughters if their husband abuses them

is he married to your mother?

are you married to him or your mother?if you know what is good for you,you better run back to your house and beg your husband before it is too late.your mother has run her own marriage and your husband wasn't a factor,i wonder what is fooling you into thinking that your mother should be a factor in his own house.i repeat run home and beg before another woman moves in,don't say i didn't warn you oh.

lastly i ask if your husband places his own mother first before you and your kids,how would you feel?

rokiatu:
Please note this is not about me but someone very close. I need only serious advice please, if you have nothing better to say keep off.

There's someone very very dear to me that this is happening this to right now. And the lady in question is so confuse as to what step to take. This is how the story goes,her mother was having a family dinner and invite both she and her husband but the husband refused to go. Keep in mind that the husband don't love her mother at all. She have tried everything for him to love her mom to no avail. So this time she decided to take a step just to teach him a little lesson. After the family dinner, she decided to pack some of her clothes and take her two little girls and went over to her mom. She explained everything to her mother, and the mother didn't call her son in law either because of anger, so her elder brother decided to call him and talk to him about the whole situation. But he already decided he's never stepping to his mother in law house, never! And the wife may as well stay there because he ain't going for her, and he's not apologizing to the mother either, he don't like her and he's never putting foot to her house.



To cut long story short, the lady is now in a dilemma. To go back or not? He disrespected the family so now the decision is on her shoulders to make. They want nothing to do with it. She loves him, and they have two little kids together. The marriage is barely four years. They were high school sweethearts in Africa, the lady worked her butt off to bring him over, and now that he's settled and got all his papers he's acting like this. Her world is like crushing down.

Which bring me to the question, if you were the lady in question, what would you do?

so it is fair to assume that when a guy who you are not worthy of sleeps with you,you too must pay so he can feel better

andromida:
Anytime a woman sleeps with a man who is not worthy of her i believe it is o.k if she asks for payment. She knows she has not done right by herself and getting paid at least makes the act right on some levels within her mind.

God bless you

Yareey:
''she needs to be aware of the type of maniac she is married to''

What about her loving daughter?!

something comes to note.there are three kinds of education which are formal education,semi formal education and non formal education.formal education is acquired only within the class room setting,semi formal education is acquired within a semi formal education setting and non formal education is practically acquired from experience and the practical day to day leaving.it has been proven without doubt that the non formal education is the most potent form of education.a case in note is that the richest man in the world withdraw from formal education and used his non formal knowledge to achieve this feet. G.M.B didn't have a P.H.D yet he spare headed,supervised and built the economy in less than 2 years,built refineries.we all know that G.E.J is suffering from lack of experience both politically and developmentally and thus he has made lots of mistakes,what Nigeria needs is experience.proof of this is under the experienced hand of OBJ,the finance minister performed miracles by clearing all international debt but under the hands of G.E.J the same finance minister has run the economy to the ground by acquiring debt,massive corruption and running the economy to the ground.the difference is experience even OBJ didn't have a P.H.D either.so lady's and gentle men i think Nigeria needs an experienced ,deciplined person to run its affairs

him carry babe that na offence,him marry second wife na offence too,ok him decide not to carry babe nor marry second wife,that na bigger offence.Women watin dey do una,i have concluded that women just like trouble,if they don't see it then they must create it.

emusmith:
Sub Topic: How Do You Cope With A Porn Addicted Spouse?

This article had an impact in me and I'm sure it will do same or more if you open up your mind and heart.



Truth be told, addiction to porn has quietly destroyed some Nigerian marriages.

I just read this anonymous letter from the wife of a porn addict and had to share it here tonight. The letter was passed on from a priest who received it from one of his parishioners.

Read and let's hear what you think, guys.

Dear Father,

I write to you in an anonymous fashion because if I were to tell you who I am, I would be ashamed to come to the confessional, to Mass, to the place where I am gratefully being nourished. I thank you for the wonderful priest you are and for the pastoring you provide to all of us.

Anonymously in your pews are women holding families together against the destructive forces of pornography on our husbands and sons. We are hurting and ashamed, tolerating– not enjoying – marriages and dealing with our inadequacies and depression.

Personally, I feel like the 15 years of my marriage before my discovery were one big lie; that I have been “duped” by an otherwise faithful, church-involved, Knights of Columbus husband.

In the three years since my awareness was heightened, I have come to believe that an affair would have actually been easier to tolerate; for perhaps I could compete with flesh and bones, but not with this. That pleasure and satisfaction can come to my husband from something so 2-dimensional has shaken me to the core;my very sense of who I am and what I am worth is utterly destroyed.

My world was turned upside down and I know if not for our children, I would have left the marriage.

Unbecoming of me, I daydream about that day when I might still. I am certain you are hearing it in the confessional from the husbands; my own husband has now been forthcoming in his challenges with pornography and about his frequent confessions of the sin. He initially felt great relief that I knew and somehow thought that my knowing would give him greater resistance against the temptation.

Unfortunately, I think it just makes him deceive and “hide” more. If this doesn’t destroy our marriage, I fear my “response” will. The other side is the woman’s side: our sin is the profound anger and inability to forgive because it doesn’t stop; how do we trust it even would? Some husbands regret their failure to stand up against this temptation; many do not even think there’s a problem, but it has them held captive.

I have heard another woman say she would rather her husband were doing drugs; at least there are programs to get past that demon. I am confident this is affecting my husband’s ability to do his job, and I imagine it is threatening the security of his employment. My now sinful thoughts are giving in to anger; my energy expended trying to keep our home free of the temptations that come with every latest technology; my “revengeful spending” – these are not what God has called me to. I constantly replay Jesus on the cross saying “Father, forgive them, they don’t know what they do,” but I answer myself with a “but, no one told Jesus they would love him and honor him all the days of their life.”I have sons who serve at the altar, and I fear for them and their futures; for their future wives.

I try to teach my teenage boys about purity, the value of their sexuality, and the Theology of the Body, but they know the magazines and websites of their father, who is a “good man” and “receives the sacraments”—so I am just the “old-fashioned” prude of a mother. I feel constantly under attack, and it doesn’t seem there will be an end to my hurting.

I wish there were a support group for the women suffering this way, but we are all so ashamed that we can’t satisfy our husbands enough, and afraid to make it public and destroy our husbands’ reputations, that none of us would come. We simply suffer and die inside alone.

I am not offering any advice or asking you to do anything about this. Perhaps you can just say a prayer now and then for the wives in your parish trying to hold a family together.

Thank you for tolerating my rambling here. Thank you.

Courtesy of Aggie Catholics.

you should be asking yourself that,after all it seems you didn't read what you wrote,so go back and read it.as for who you are working for,tell them this is not how to do propaganda

feldido:
What did u use to collect your PVC?

does that look like PVC in your eyes?only goes to show that you haven't collected yours

feldido:
Saw this on Facebook, if it's true then INEC is really biased.

WHERE ARE THE WOMEN RIGHT ACTIVIST,NOBODY IS SPEAKING OUT NOW OH.i have said it the women folk are losing there marbles and very soon,murder and suicide rate would rise in Nigeria,just like the west.western sickness

All of them are taking because you don't meet the requirement they want,you dey find ready made,them they find something different from you

omowumee:
you know...those kinda guys that:

they talk less n do more
they put you in their future plans
they dress responsibly
they have decent jobs
they are good looking
they dont give unnecessary stories
they dont want a "no-strings" sex relationship
they cook soo well too..
the list goez on...is it jez me or are they all taken...?

Please educate me,define diplomats for me,very soon you would tell me that military attache is not a diplomat.
From the way you type i know you are from the corp,is good that you seem humble probably because we are on social media,but i can assure you,all you need to do is take a survey,go on the streets of any country you find yourself and ask 10 Nigerians what they think about the diplomatic corp or there embassy i can assure you 9 out of 10 wouldn't speak good about the diplomatic corp,yes there are some Ambassadors who try to do things well,at-list i know the man in New York is an outstanding fellow,i know the Ambassador in Washington tries his best even though most of the head staff under him are useless especially (Mr Balogun),i know Mrs Ojukwu too tries her best,but if we have over 100 missions and one can not count up to ten as functioning above average.then it is only fair to say that the diplomatic corp is a failure and thus must be over hauled immediately

justwise:
Its fairly obvious that you know very little about what you are talking about, are immigration officials diplomas?

You are just making things up as you go.

stories,please i think it be wise that you go check how many passports the immigration officials attached to the embassy in Washington are carrying,while you are at it,i think you should equally find out how many passport some member of the Nigerian embassy in uk family members are carrying.you can come out here to attempt to lie all you want but we know that the diplomatic corp is Nigeria needs total over haul,most embassies are useless to Nigeria as a country and even more useless to its citizens,rather than promote Nigeria and its citizens they lead the front line in condemning Nigeria and it citizens.i can remember when a Nigeria Ambassador to china came out to release a press statement defending china on maltreating Nigerians,i said to myself he is even doing the job for Chinese diplomats,it didn't stop there a Nigeria Ambassador to Saudi did the same thing.over here its no different.i am not aware of anybody the embassy has helped.

justwise:
You are making those things up, no truth at all, being a diplomat automatically disqualify you from applying to become a citizen of that country you are posted to including your wife and kids, they can only study in that country but can not work or engage in business.

No need of mentioning names because they don't exist. Diplomas can either carry the diplomatic passport or their Nigerian passport.