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please note its women who come up with that love me as i am,and don't change me but from the day they visit your house they have started changing everything,i think the problem in the family system visa-vise the relationship is that the gay movement have found a way to make the feminine gender into a problem unto themselves,thus making the life of the men a leaving hell by so doing,they come up with the story men are cheaters and dogs,the funny part is the lesbians cheat even more,then they tell the guys relationship is all about fighting,the truth is that gay and lesbians have the most violent relationships in this world.that why i say this is a sickness that is treating to end the human race

mcdokwe: Often times, we do meet people and fall in love with them despite their many shortcomings. Unfortunately, most books and articles we read these days tell us not to try to change people we are in a relationship with. This has however become the undoing of many unhappy relationships and marriages today, as people don't want to be CHANGED.
The fact is that someone can get committed to a terrible flirt, a drunkard, criminal, an abusive man, nagging woman and other shortcomings, but no one would want to have to cope with your vices for life.

I am of the honest belief that we get into people's life to impact them and bring about a positive behaviour in them even though that shouldn't be motivated by the desire to change the person. Such behaviour modification should come about with love and openness between both parties.

If you happen to have an undesirable character your partner is having a hard time coping with, make yourself amenable to change unless you want your partner to be unhappy thereby making yourself unhappy too. (Now that is a horrible decision to make) friendship should be fun and when it is not, it should be two people commonly dealing with a challenge and not people struggling to stay together.

even though you are a woman,pretending to be a man and writing this hate story that wicked people like you have been trying to introduce into the society,i want to tell you that God would destroy you first,in the words of fela (animal can not dash me human right because animal does not know that i was born already with the rights).
now i got some questions for you?
1) name one establishment,organization,institution or state,that doesn't have a head?
2) do you respect you boss in the office and if yes why because am quite sure you all are partners in progress of that company
3)when two people have equal right,how do you arrive at decisions when both sides refuse to back down
4) do you respect your pastor in church and if so,why? because to me you are all partners in progress in the house of the lord,infact in that partnership only you pays
5)why is it that when under attack,you run to your man to protect you,after all you are equal to him so am guessing you should have the straight to protect yourself
6)as for domestic violence,i can tell you with all confidence that nobody has really challenged it,if not you would quickly discover that the women are the abusers who later turn around to start crying blue murder,let me give you quick examples,if you insult your man and he slaps you that cant be violence because by law you provocted him,if you slap a man and he beats you up that cant be violence,its called self defense.that's the law.the men simply have been quite why the women have there way
as for women been better than men,i put it to you that its a big lie 70% of the problems in this world are women made,and i can tell you that women are far more heartless and wicked than men

Relationship101: Kudos to all the women (and men) that are standing up against domestic abuse. Africans have experienced a large dose of abuse (especially to the women) and we need to stand up against this devilish act. I lopve women. They are queens. They are strong, energetic, important and compassionate. Damn! Did I forget to mention that they are sexy?
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BUT*clears throat* for those idiots that think men are the HEAD which automatically place women somewhere beneath, I pray you fall into river niger and drown (fortunately for you, that isn't going to happen) but I still wish bad for you. To all those stupid women that has been brainwashed into thinking that they need to be beaten, harassed or maltreated for them to BE a woman, I pray you go to hell fire. You have lost your sense of becoming 'yourself'. You've sold your soul to an ideology that is contrary to the ethics of being a human being. To all those clergy that preaches 'submission' to women. I come against you with all my might. You have destroyed our women. You have made our wife remain in an abusive home simply because they need to be submissive to their fucking husband. What actually is submission? Is it the 21st century term for slavery. Woe unto you! You have made the teenagers in my street think that they need to FEAR men and give them respects they don't deserve simply because they are men.

Marriage is not a hierarchy of positions. It is partnership. It is BEING together. It is LOVE. It is kissing all night by the moon light without any thought for tomorrow. Women are not baby making machines. Their DUTY is not to be used.

A marriage without children can also be a sweet marriage if both parties agree together. Don't call the woman witch. (Yes I am talking to you the useless in-laws). Go get a job and stay away from peoples life. Women pride is my pride. Women courage is my courage. Women freedom is my freedom. I love women.

am calling on the President of nigeria to immediately follow suit.Africa must speak with one voice on political issues

Onyocha: Published on 22 July 2014

Written by The African National Congress in Parliament (ANC)

Following nationwide protests across South Africa against the ongoing Israeli attacks on Gaza (Israel has killed over 400 Palestinians including 100 children in the last 10 days) the ANC in Parliament has called for the Israeli ambassador in South Africa to leave with immediate effect. The ANC must implement this and the decision to recall the South African Ambassador from Tel Aviv with urgency.

The African National Congress in Parliament is extremely outraged by the wanton and unjustifiable bombardment and killings of innocent civilians, including children, in Palestinian territory of Gaza by Israel military forces. We echo the widespread condemnation of these senseless attacks on defenceless Palestinians and call on the government of Israel to immediately cease with this blatant act of criminality.

It is unacceptable that as the Israeli military is flagrantly violating the territorial integrity of Gaza, claiming hundreds of lives and injuring thousands, the United Nations Security Council fails to intervene decisively in line with its powers. The office of the UN Secretary General issues statements which have not effect. The UN Security Council must stand up and act to support vulnerable Palestinian people at the time when they need their protection. The situation involving Palestine and Israel is an undeclared war, in which the aggressor, Israel, has destroyed the Palestinian economy, robbed people of their land, unilaterally changed borders, and unilaterally built a wall of exclusion
to keep Palestinians out of their land. When it feels provoked, it unleashes the most sophisticated military hardware on a defenceless people. Palestinians have been reduced to cheap labour for the Israel economy. This relentless destruction of the Palestinian territory and its people by Israel must be stopped. The international community needs to act in unison on this matter.

As the ANC in Parliament, we stand unapologetically with the people of Palestine and pro-Palestinian campaigners in an endeavour to exert pressure on Israel’s government to comply with the UN Security Council resolutions and stop its killings and gross persecution of Palestinian people. We remain resolute in our view that the only long lasting peaceful solution to the situation in the Middle East is the attainment of a two-state solution between Israel and Palestine in which the two states exist side by side independently and peacefully.

Our strong condemnation of Israel's violent aggression, however, does not in any way mean approval of the continuing firing of rockets by Hamas into Israel, which has put the lives of innocent civilians at risk. We echo the call by the South African government for both parties to end all forms of aggression towards one another.

The ANC in Parliament will mobilise other political formations in this institution to take a principled stand against the criminal acts of Israel and further to ensure that Parliament as an institution formally condemns the deadly violence visited upon the people of Palestine. We will also invite other parties to the lunchtime picketing outside Parliament in support of the people of Palestine and in calling for peace in the Middle East region. As one of the measures to put pressure on Israel, we are of a firm view that our government must recall our ambassador to Israel and also ask the Israel ambassador to South African to leave with immediate effect.

During this International Nelson Mandela Day in which South Africans and the world are called upon to engage in noble acts in emulation of the world icon, we align ourselves with his profound statement that “our freedom is incomplete without the freedom of the Palestinians”.

http://www.alternativenews.org/english/index.php/politics/politico/8322-document-anc-calls-israeli-ambassador-to-leave-the-country

did u read JAY Z prenup,if you have you would agree with me

Forwetinnah: Into 3places for where? When there's a prenup?

rubbish,seun stop trying to spoil Nigerians name,this guy is no Nigerian,but an American,he was brought up by American sick system therefore he has behaved like an American.please stop trying to paint Nigeria bad

topsyking: An 18-year-old Nigerian man who is based in Long Island, New York, was arrested over the weekend for killing his 15-year-old brother and beating his mother into a coma.

The man, Charles Okonkwo Jr., 18,a mentally unstable teenager.

He has been charged for assaulting his mother, Chinwe Okonkwo, however; he is yet to be charged for the death of Bradley Okonkwo, his brother,

Charles’ father had just returned from a hospital visit on Saturday, when he discovered Bradley, dead in his bedroom. He then found his wife on the garage floor, laying down unconscious, surrounded by a pool of her own blood.

Mrs Okonkwo, who is a respected medical doctor, suffered severe facial fractures and brain swelling. She is said to be in critical condition.
Mrs Okonkwo, a Brooklyn doctor, has received the Congressional Leadership Award and runs Hope Outreach Foundation, a nonprofit organization that promote public health in Brooklyn and across the world.

It is unclear how Bradley died – medical examiners are still carrying out tests to find out.

Charles has reportedly admitted to “hurting” his mother and brother.

Speaking on the incident, a friend of the Okonkwo family, Lawrence Monwe, said: ‘This is very tragic. No one saw it coming…This was the perfect family you wouldn’t expect it to happen to.”
Members of Long Island's Nigerian immigrant community stopped by the Okonkwo house on Sunday to pay their respects to the family.

'This is very tragic. No one saw it coming,' family friend Lawrence Monwe told Newsday.



Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2700104/New-York-teen-arrested-killing-brother-15-brutally-beating-respected-doctor-mother-coma.html#ixzz38CiIxRhS
http://www.bellanaija.com/2014/07/22/18-year-old-nigerian-man-arrested-in-ny-for-killing-brother-beating-mother-into-a-coma/

am laughing in igala
women better than men,even women would tell you they don't like keeping women as friends they prefer men
babe since the creation of woman both God and man has not rested
abeg anybody when tell you say women straight forward,that person told you the biggest lie,women are so mixed up that they even confuse themselves

Lily4star: I might be wrong, but they are way better than Men, straight forward species, Yes na Yes and their No na No, very obedient people

E.g

God: Angel Michael, go and provide food for Onoja12, he has not eaten since last week,
Angel Michael: Yes sir, on my way right away,

But Man,

God: (visits him in a dream) Onoja Oghale is suffering, go to his place and give him N2000,
Onoja12: (wakes up from sleep), this one wey God dey tell me make I go give Oghale N2000 so, shey I resemble em papa?, all this kind fake fake dream wey person dey dream sef.

U see ursef

NOPE not just any kid,you must be a coloured kid cause black people behave like stupid people,no respect for there own but them must worship coloured skin,i don't know if its a cause but i want to belive its the brain washing the white has been using that has lead to this.
black nation must wake up and stop sleeping

macsika: Sounds like a joke. My gosh, Does it mean that only a kid can talk the president into acting reasonably. I guess we should get more foreign kids like this girl to teach the Government how to be leaders and not politicians.


Till then Check out Sia's new Album
1000 forms of fear.

LIFE OF THE WHITE MAN,WHERE THE WOMAN IS KING,
OYA JAY Z,TIME FOR YOU TO SHARE YOUR 600 MILLION IN THREE PLACES,TWO FOR BEYONCE AND ONE FOR YOU IF YOU ARE LUCKY,THAT IS MINUS THE HOUSE AND CARS PLUS SHARES,WHAT A RUBBISH LIFE.THEN YOU SAY YOUR SOCIETY SUPPORTS FAMILY,
TELL ME HOW WOULDNT YOU PEOPLE HAVE THE HIGHEST DIVORCE RATE IN THE WORLD,MAD PEOPLE

kendrick93: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2700264/Beyonc-Jay-Z-split-joint-tour-ends.html
http://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/beyonc-jay-z-split-secret-3894082

POINT OF ORDER,ANGEL ARE NOT PERFECT EITHER,CAUSE DEVIL WAS AN ANGEL OR SHOULD I SAY,IS AN ANGEL

Lily4star: Calm down, you guys ve ur problems too, stop acting Perfect, the only perfect species God created are Angels cos their words are steadfast.

so tell me i hope you too would agree never to ask your man for the same things.
and women are not giving and loving by nature,rather they are collectors and calculators by nature

zboyd: Generally, women are giving and loving by nature and will bend over backwards to please their man. But, there are some things a man should NEVER ask his GF/Wife to do for him or accept from him.

1. Force Intimacy. NEVER, EVER blackmail, coerce, manipulate or force intimacy on your GF/Wife if she's ill, not in the mood, tired or asleep. It's disrespectful, insensitive and selfish. And depending on the woman, you may be opening yourself up to a world of trouble - relationship-wise and legal-wise.

2. Have A Baby Out-Of-Wedlock. First comes marriage - then comes the baby carriage. If you want to do the Daddy thing - then marry your GF FIRST. Why do you want her to enter the world of Single Motherhood? And how is she to know you're really going to marry her as promised?

3. Start A Family Too Soon. What's the rush? Wouldn't it be better to give the marriage time to settle in first? Stop pressuring your Wife to have a baby, before you two have adjusted to the whole idea of marriage. If she's not ready - she's not ready. In fact, marriage counselors advise putting off having a baby for at least 2-3 years, to allow young couples to strengthen their marriage bonds first, before becoming parents.

4. Tattoo Your Name On Her Body. Why? Is this your way of asking your GF/Wife to prove she loves you or, is it a way of 'marking your territory'? Either way, it's her body, she can do what she wants with it and, if she refuses to mark up her body, respect her decision.

5. Alter Her Appearance. Never pressure your GF/Wife to diet, dress a certain way or to get surgery. It’s her body, and she's in charge of it. If you don't appreciate her natural beauty, then you should look elsewhere for a woman to fulfill your fantasies. Leave her be.

6. Have An Abortion. You knew the risk when you laid down and did the horizontal mambo with your GF/Wife, without birth control. Now she's pregnant and you want her to have an abortion, because you're not ready or you can't afford a baby right now. If she resists, try and come up with some alternatives. If she still resists, Daddy-hood is now your cup of tea.

7. Do Drugs. Why ask your GF/Wife to do drugs with you? Better yet why are YOU doing drugs anyway? Asking her to do drugs with you is the height of stupidity. If you wanted a drug addict, why pick a woman who wasn't? And don't try to manipulate her with that ol' "If you loved me, you would!" mess. If she loves herself, it's best she exits stage left and leave you with a quickness. You're poison.

8. Have A Three-some. This is tricky. Some men count themselves lucky their GF/Wife agreed to a three-some. Others regret the day they even suggested it, when their GF/Wife ends up falling for the other woman and leaving the relationship/marriage. Three-somes, and all acts related, can open the door to all kinds of nasty consequences that can threaten or end your relationship/marriage. Best think twice before diving into these waters.

9. Make A S*x Tape. You may view making a s*x tape, as a way of spicing up your relationship but, if your GF/Wife is like "HELL NO!" - back off. She has very good reasons for not wanting to make a s*x tape that could fall into the wrong hands. And no sneaky taping either and posting it online. Depending on the woman, you could find yourself dragged into court and sued for harassment, invasion of privacy, criminal voyeurism or defamation of character.

10. Cosign On Your Car/Home Loan. If you're married, this is a reasonable request. But why ask your GF to put her credit on the line? If you break up, she'll be responsible for those payments, if you don't pay them. Plus, she can sue you in civil court for breach of contract, if she ends up making the payments.

11. Change Her Religious Beliefs. Religion is a very personal thing. If you wanted someone who would be 'equally yoked' to you, then you should have informed your GF of that fact, from the very beginning - not after a year or two, after she's fallen in love with you or married you. That's wrong, especially if you've given her the ultimatum of either changing over to your religion or going your separate ways.

12. Sacrifice Time Spent With Her Family/Friends. It is the height of selfishness to ask your GF/Wife to give up spending time with her family and friends. Do you expect her to spend all her free time with you? What if she asked you to do the same? How would you like it? Careful. This is a major sign of a control freak.

13. Act Dumb So You Can Feel Smarter. Why ask/expect your GF/Wife, directly or indirectly, to pretend she is less intelligent or less handy around the house, to make you happier? Didn't you say you wanted an independent woman, with a good head on her shoulders, who is capable of taking care of things on her own? Now that you have one, you're complaining? And men say women don't know what they want in a man.

14. Change Her Morals. You should respect your GF/Wife's morals even if you don’t share them. Urging her to break them, is doing her a disservice. You should like her for who she is, and shouldn’t try to change her. Her strong morals should be something you admire, not something you wish to change.

15. Give Up Her Dreams. If your GF/Wife has always wanted to be a teacher, don’t try to talk her into being a nurse or anything else. Don't put her in the position of having to choose between you and her dreams. You may come out on the losing end.

16. Stop Doing Things She Loves To Do. If you ask your GF/Wife to stop doing the things she loves to do - then be prepared to stop doing the things YOU love to do when SHE asks - because it's coming.

17. Put Up With Abusive Behavior From Your Family And Friends. It is YOUR job as a man to PROTECT your GF/Wife from ANY and ALL that insist on insulting, criticizing, or are otherwise abusing her, in your presence, including your family and friends. And you must be prepared to back up your words with actions. Tell your family and friends that they aren’t welcome, in your home, if they don't leave their abusive behavior at the door. If not, then be prepared to watch your GF/Wife walk out that same door, because she does not feel valued and protected by you.

18. Perform Exotic S*x Acts She's Uncomfortable Doing. There is more to a relationship than the s*xual aspect. If you truly love your GF/Wife, then it won't matter if she will or won't do it, so grow up and act like someone who is mature enough to enter into an adult relationship. Remember that she's a person, entitled to her own opinions on everything and shouldn't be held to the "If you love me - you would" school of thought, just because you're not getting what you want from her. If exotic s*x acts are that important to you, then maybe you should move on and leave her in peace.

19. Reveal Past S*xual History. If you're not prepared to bare all - then don't ask your GF/Wife to bare all. Besides, it's the past and none of your business. If you wanted a virgin, then you should have snagged one.

20. Accept You Behaving Badly. If you're one of those men who thinks that you can do what you want, because you're providing for the household - think again. Only a weak-minded, financially-dependent, worried-about-what-people-say-about-her type of GF/Wife will tolerate her man behaving badly. Strong-minded, financially independent, don't-give-a-damn-what-people-say-about-her GFs/Wives will kick you to the curb in a hot New York minute.

Your GF/Wife may be the love of your life but, it doesn’t grant you authority over the decisions she makes about her life or dictate how she lives her life.

Sources: madamnoire.com / justjane.com / askmen.com /allwomenstalk.com /zboyd

ITS FUNNY RIGHT,AM SURE TO THE WOMEN ITS A NICE JOKE.
MY FRIEND DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME,TAKE A SECOND WIFE,AND YOU WOULD DISCOVER THAT SHE WOULD START MAKING EXCUSES TO SLEEP WITH YOU DAYLY

50calibre: A man decided to let his wife know that he was unsatisfied with their relationship – by sending her a spreadsheet detailing all the excuses she gave for not having sex with him.
In a post on the sub-Reddit /r/Relationships, a 26-year-old woman revealed that as she was driving to the airport for a 10-day business trip, her husband (also 26) sent her an email containing the offending spreadsheet.


I open it up, and it’s a sarcastic diatribe basically saying he won’t miss me for the 10 days I’m gone. Attached is a SPREADSHEET of all the times he has tried to initiate sex since 1 June, with a column for my “excuses”, using verbatim quotes of why I didn’t feel like having sex at that very moment.
“This is a side of him I have never seen before,” she added.“Bitter, immature, full of hatred.”

She said he has cut off contact with her since sending the email.


The issue has thoroughly split the community, with no definite side being taken:


The husband has a right to be bothered with it, but he doesn’t have the right to send an email bomb like this and then completely cut off communication with his wife.
[The original poster] has been incredibly cruel and insensitive for months to her husband… [He] has decided that he is going to do something really hard in an attempt to save the marriage.

He waited until she was in a different state to say something… and then wouldn’t even answer the phone to talk to her about it! What a cowardly, childish thing to do. Talk it out, face-to-face, like an ADULT and a SPOUSE!


https://uk.news.yahoo.com/man-sends-wife-spreadsheet-times-she-denied-him-145153838.html

LISTEN TO YOURSELF
LIKE I SAID GAYS ARE SICK PEOPLE,IF YOU WHERE NORMAL,THEN INSULTING PEOPLE WOULD COME SO EASY TO YOU

Akshow: U are a born fooool. Does that sound like a denial or admission to u? Mumu incorporated.

why are you denying,don't worry i wouldn't report you to the government but like i said please see your village priest,or a mental institution,i know you didn't have a choice like this kid

Akshow: see how naïve, childish and foolish u sound. News flash: that "married" uncle, cousin, brother, I dare say even ur father that u think u know very well, may be closeted gay

I am not gay, but if u say I am, then I am. Foooooool

you mean till they busted your ass,anyway take heart cause i know you didn't have a choice like this kid.but please see your village priest to find out what can be done to help you

CyrusLevi: I didn't know any gay till I knew what gay meant?Fool.

nobody in my family both extended is gay,its not in our nature,its not in our family,we are normal people,not sick people
so i know definitely you are gay,i advice you visit your village priest to perform the needed sacrifice,so you can be normal.its not an insult but a suggestion

Akshow: I think ur great grandfather should be our starting point foooool.

save me the sick talk,go and ask your father,if he new any gay in his time

Akshow: stop this silly myopic reasoning abeg. U think its Americans that are importing gays into Africa? Listen and listen good. There was, there are and will continue to be gay in Africa. Its not a western or European or American thing.

one very quick question,why do you women think you are an authority on how men think,you guys seem to know it all.

Sweetlemon: We hear them all the time. These are things our big sisters, aunts, and mothers drum into our heads while growing up. Now all grown up, spiritual mentors keep warning us about them in our fellowships, church/mosque services, etc. But all my almost 30 years on earth has shown me a lot of realities.

Disclaimer: This article is in no way whatsoever against waiting till marriage for sex. It only separates fantasy from facts. If you want to remain a virgin till marriage please do. If you want to stop having sex till marriage, please do.

1. A Man Will Love You More After Marriage/ A Man Will Marry You Only If He Loves You:

Ha! Mbanu! A man (even women) doesn't love his wife more after marriage. Why? Marriage is an eye opener, it is after marriage that you know EXACTLY who you have married. If it turns out you married the right person for you, then the loves grows, but if it turns out to be one chance, OYO l' wa.
Do not marry a man that doesn't love you. This is because the bitter truth is that Many men do not marry for love. Many marry because they need a helper. Because their parents are on their necks, for traditional titles/more respect in the society, even for business purposes. So don't get all mushy and swept off your feet just yet just because one guy just proposed to you.
Always remember this, getting married is a destination. Keeping your marriage is a whole new never ending journey. Do not confuse the two of them.

2. A Man Will Respect/Love You More When You Make Him Chase You Longer:

This one is a very popular myth my mum was always singing into our ears *rolls eyse*. I have this cousin who had this toaster that was on her case for about five years, we were all "aww", "eh ya this guy really means it" etc. But immediately they had sex, his behavior towards her changed. I have heard of relationships that started with sex on the first date that led to marriage.
See, my sisters, a man that will love you will love you. When a man really enjoys having sex/making out with you, you are already half way there. You just need to work on other areas such as his likes, interests, etc. I'm not saying you should open leg like remote-controlled TV o. Just be yourself and allow your intuition and body chemistry guide and guard you. Don't set any time, let things flow naturally. What will be must be.
Chikena!

3. A Man Will Marry You If You Refuse Sex Till Marriage:

Like seriously! Na only you waka come? Na only you get toto? Puleeeze! A man doesn't marry just because he wants sex! He can get sex anywhere. You hear me so? Anywhere! It doesn't have to be from you! Let's even look at it this way, fine you hold out till marriage, after finally getting it after marriage what next? Is it your toto that will sustain the marriage? You must be a learner! I know some unhappily married women who married as virgins. I know some bad girls who married men most virgins dream of.
Like I said earlier, A man that wants to marry you will marry you.

4. If A Man Loves You He Won't Want To Have Sex Till Marriage:

Ha! You obviously do not know jack about men! See, as a general rule, men love sex. In fact, when a man hits on you, he wants sex as part of whatever package he wants from you. Whether na one night stand, side dish, contract, or marriage. If he doesn't, chances are that something is seriously wrong with him. Babe shine your eyes, if your intending husband has never had an erection while both of you are alone. Ha!
Even if you do not want to have sex with him until marriage, make sure that chemistry is there. Make sure you see a sign of hot and steamy nights to come after marriage. Thank me later.
Sex is not love, but love has a lot to do with sex. You can have sex with someone without loving that person, but you cannot love someone without wanting to have sex. The difference is that while sex is demanding, love is patient. A man that loves you will wait till the right moment to do it and will still love and respect you afterwards, a man that loves you will make love to you, he will make it as good as possible for you. But a man in lust will want it now...........and he will chase you until he gets it and when he gets it, pele o!

5. Men Only Like Good Girls/Good Girls Get The Best Men/Good Girls Marry First:

This one doesn't need long talk, all my mature single sisters in church can testify to this. See, men like good girls that have fire underneath them. So if you are a good boring girl whose life revolves around church-fellowship-work-home. Ah! My sister, even the brothers-in-the lord these days will call you a total bore!
I'm not saying you should start clubbing o. Mba o! Just saying you should spice up your social life a lil bit more. Go out and meet more people, don't be afraid of looking and feeling sexy. You definitely can be sexy without being trashy.

Like I always keep saying, a man that will love you will love you. The man that has made up his mind to marry you will marry you, even if his mother threatens to commit suicide. Trust me, a man that is emotionally, mentally, and financially ready for marriage does not have to date you for up to a month before he knows that he's going to put a ring on it. Men, I mean men are very practical and they know what they want. Adam knew Eve was from his ribs the very second he set eyes on her. It's great to have a good character, you will definitely get more responsible suitors with your inner beauty. But a man that will love that biitch will love her regardless. See, marriage is all about fate, when your own time is right, it will happen. Marriage is about finding that person who wants to spend the rest of his life with you just the way you are. So don't feel like life is unfair when Pamela, the same girl you've been preaching to marries before you. Every one of us has different time tables in life. And always remember, It's not about when you marry but how well you marry.

Cheers!

does of you who say gays are not sick,please tell me if this child had an option or if he was asked to chose if he wants to be gay.gay people are sick and should not be allowed in africa

Bigsteveg: An enraged father in Florida yesterday attacked his 11 year old son's babysitter and badly beat him after discovering the 18-year-old molesting his son.
According to police authorities, 18 year old Raymond Frolander was in bed with the 11-year-old boy when the dad walked in on him sexually assaulting the boy. The Daytona Beach father angrily punched him unconscious and then called 911.
I just walked in and found a grown man molesting (my son), and I got him in a bloody puddle for you right now, officer,” he said.Dispatcher: “You said the person who assaulted, you beat him up?”
Caller: “ Oh yeah, send him an ambulance. He’s going to need one.”
When officers arrived, they found Raymond Frolander motionless on the living room floor. He had several knots on his face and was bleeding from the mouth.
"He is nice and knocked out on the floor for you," the father told the 911 dispatcher. "I drug him out to the living room."
The father - who was not identified by police - told investigators he walked in as Frolander was abusing the boy. He said he trusted Frolander, who had been alone with his child before. The 11-year-old also later told child protective investigators that Frolander has molested him since he was 8 years old. The child was too afraid to say anything.
When asked by the 911 dispatcher if any weapons were involved, the father said "my foot and my fist."
The father has not been charged with any crime. Daytona Beach Police Chief Mike Chitwood said:
"Dad was acting like a dad. I don't see anything we should charge the dad with. You have an 18-year-old who has clearly picked his target, groomed his target and had sex with the victim multiple times."Frolander is charged with sexual battery on a child under 12. He is being held without bail. According to the arrest affidavit, Frolander admitted the abuse.


LOL...THE FIRST PICTURE GOT ME WAKING MY NEIGHBOURS WITH LAUGHTER.

you are definitely a woman,please name that your tradition and religion because,I am not aware of any African tradition that says a man should have only one wife,neither am i aware of any religion that says a man can not marry more than one wife

xynerise: Rubbish!!

My tradition and religion don't permit more than one wife. Religious fanatism does harm if taking as a priority in the family but that shouldn't be an avenue to marry a second wife. You think that will settle the matter? Geez!

abeg,just like women are moved by words,that's how men are moved by sight

flipflop: Sir, I'm sure you did not marry her just for beauty alone. Your wife has acted on faith, you criticizing and demanding for her to change may destroy her faith. Give her your support as her husband and friend. If you feel she looks unkempt, it just because you are still looking for that woman she used to be. You suggesting cheating on her is absolutely absurd and terribly wicked. Your wife is your wife, stop loving her for the outside "beauty" and start focusing on the inward beauty that does not change or fade. *#shrugs shoulder

I would answer for him,there is nothing like cheating in African tradition,my friend if a wife refuses to be obedient,my guy take a second wife,if she gives trouble kick her out,cause a woman's ear is open to just one,and if she is not listening to you then she is listening to her pastor.
I stopped my wife from going to church for months for daring to give out food money to her church,I told her its either she is married to me or the pastor,they cant be two captains in this ship,she thought i was joking by the time she started night vigil and i started clubbing back,nobody told her before she returned to her senses

xynerise: And if she doesn't make-up you will have no choice than to cheat on her?

well spoken,you took the words right out of my mouth
the gay community are the once pushing a feminist cause,the real aim is to destroy the relationship between man and woman,to give rise to a man and man relationship and a woman and woman relationship.in other words,they plan to destroy the society as we know it

Tallesty1: Ok....... But the problem African men have is not these women that clamour for equality. My wife is not my slave, she is my body and deserves every respect. Our real problem is feminism. I know it may sound funny to hear that I'm in for equality but against feminism, I ll explain. The people that clamour for equality want the same opportunities as men. They want equal pay to men. They want to walk alone and feel safe, they want to have a say. These are the things they want and men are ok with them but feminism but feminism operates under the assumption that simply because women's roles were considered "submissive," that they alone should be freed from gender roles.
Feminists tend to want equality only when it benefits them.

When challenged feminists do say they believe in equal rights for men as well and then they continue to support a movement who's stated aim is the destruction of men and family. Many women do not know these, even some nigerian feminists on nairaland do not know it.

The people that started the movement in the late sixties were violent, bitter, emotionally damaged lesbians who hated men and that is why most them on nland hate men. Those who ask for equal rights do not hate men but feminists do.

These man hating lesbians have been telling lies about men and vilifying us for several years. They say 1 in 4 women will be raped in her lifetime and that is a lie. They used to say that women earned less than men for the same work, that was a lie. They say that men are more violent than women, that is a lie, they say that women are living in bondage, that is a lie, and some other crazy lies like that, the biggest lie feminists have always told is that they support equal rights for women and men. That is not true.

Feminism is so deceptive and I believe is from the pit of hell. God outlines the roles of women and men as different but equally as important. He created us different physically emotionally, etc and that is the way it shall always be.

That is a nigerian to emulate,this guy and dangote have invested most of there money in nigeria,not does who ship nigerian money aboard and still be second class citizens there

suit yourself

CityNG: Lol

Thank God my lineage doesn't include lying geriatrics who are prone to flights of fancy.

PS: Let me help you with your battery and MB today mi amigo.

pikin,please in nigeria we respect our elders 30 year own child

CityNG: It doesn't matter to me if you're a gentleman or not, I'm immune. Sorry I know that hurts but you'll get over it.

So I take it that you're a big fat liar and your Wife is not a USC, you have never set foot in America and you do not have access to United States Department of States record to check if I am a citizen.

By the way, the embassy has nothing to do with citizenship, it's USCIS - a different branch of DOJ that has to do with citizenship.

see am trying to be a gentle man,i believe i hold more title in Nigerians in the diaspora than you making noise.that small boy game cant work for me

CityNG: Like I asked post a picture of your Wifes naturalization certificate and your US visa against the backdrop of this thread. I bet you can't. Even covers or mere envelopes will do.

So now that I've proven that you're a fraud, stop speaking ill of Nigerians in diaspora. Stop calling us slaves and accusing us of working 3 jobs and only sleeping 4 hours a day.

guy na cover be that and secondly there is nothing grand in going to the state,abeg put your name so i can confirm that from the embassy

CityNG: So no proof of your alleged USC Wife or this yah dream visits to US ?

I know you are just a disgruntled person who was refused a visa. Eeya pele.

Many of us dual citizens are able to live well both in the US and Nigeria.

Why are you afraid and jealous of success?

Post a picture of your Wifes naturalization certificate and your US visa against the backdrop of this thread. I bet you can't.

please hear yourself,is america heaven,the land of slaves,second class citizen,nigeria has rejected you,and from your talk,am quite sure you are dreaming,sha when you get there don't say i didnt warn you,na two job get you.i don't need to prove anything to you,cause proving to you wouldn't put food on my table nor will it make me fatter,but for you,i done talk my own

CityNG: See how quick you changed from me not having step foot in the US to now asking me what I've been doing for fifteen years. Without any validation you change your stance do that makes you an entity of dubious background hence intent.

Prove that you've ever set foot inside the US in your next post or you're just a disgruntled person that hates the US cause they refused you a visa.

To answer your question, I wasn't working 4 jobs or sleeping 3 hours.

As far as being Nigerian or not, you lack objectivity. I probably own more stuff in Nigeria than you that lives there.

I'm a proud Nigerian and you'll just have y
to accept and process that on your own elementary way.

PS: if you do indeed have a USC Wife, which I strongly believe is a figment of your imagination, then the embassy would never ever give you a tourist visa, so you're fibbing.

i am not painting my country men in bad light rather it is people like you,who are no longer nigerians claiming to be nigerians that are in the habit of painting nigeria and nigerians in bad light.
and save me the stories i have visited the states several times so dont sugar quote anything,you guys do 2-3 jobs and nigerian bank manager now a nanny,nigerian lawyer a dish washer and cleaner,i even sew my own class mate doing bounce in a club,what a life .abeg talk true that first 15 years what where u doing?

CityNG: And that proves that you really are not firing on all cylinders.

I'm sitting here typing from near Los Angeles. I've been a naturalized citizen for over 15 years and have lived here for almost 30 years.

I've never worked more than 1 job (and frankly have never met any Nigerian that worked more than one job - but then my inner circle of friends are not slackers). How long can a human being last with only 3-4 hours of sleep?

You may not like the USA but there's no need to paint Nigerians who are living here in bad light. How does pairing your fellow country men in bad light improve your lot on life?

There are lawyers, doctors, engineers, industry leaders, mayors, leaders, business leaders, etc that are nigerians and very successful ones. Grow up.

Just as you'v never gone through naturalization but you hold yourself an expert on the process. You stoically insist that the us does not recognize dual citizenship when they do. Educate yourself Man, open your eyes, when people are talking open your ears and listen and learn.

another try to pull Nigeria down story,we all know that America does not plan to do anything just making noise and trying to incite the public but the Gods of the land no go agree for una,Nigeria will pass 2015 weather the united states likes it or not

koastar: Nigerian military uncooperative, slow to learn –
US
The human rights abuse record and
uncooperative attitude of the Federal Government
and its military authorities have been identified
as factors hindering United States of America
offering Nigeria effective security assistance.
Speaking on Thursday before the US House
Foreign Affairs Sub-committee on Africa’s
hearing entitled, ‘Human Rights Vetting: Nigeria
and Beyond’, the Specialist at African Affairs
Congressional Research Service, Lauren
Blanchard, said the Nigerian government and its
military had not been yielding to America’s
suggestions.
The Congress heard that the main impediment to
America’s efforts to support Nigeria’s broader
response to Boko Haram is “gross violations
committed by the Nigerian forces, the Nigerian
government’s resistance to adopting a more
comprehensive approach to Boko Haram, and the
continued lack of political will” within the
government to investigate allegations of human
rights abuses and hold perpetrators accountable.
Blanchard told the Congress, “The Nigerian
government also has appeared reticent in some
cases to allow its security forces to participate in
US training programmes. The State Department
indicates that there are currently 187 Nigerian
military units and 173 police units that have
been vetted and cleared to receive U.S.
assistance and training.
“It is unclear whether the Nigerian government
has given approval for such training to occur. A
2013 State Department audit report noted that,
in addition to human rights concerns, Nigeria’s
late submission of names of candidates for
assistance was a ‘recurring problem’ for the US
embassy.
“Multiple systemic factors further constrain the
effectiveness of the Nigerian security force’s
response to Boko Haram, notably security sector
corruption and mismanagement, and some of
these factors impede US support even for units
that have been cleared for assistance”.
Among the cleared units, she revealed, were
Nigeria’s Speed Boat Service commando and the
101st Infantry Battalion, which the ACRS
specialist said were best positioned to conduct
hostage rescue operations, but “both reportedly
require significant additional training”.
She added that the security relationship between
Nigeria and the US was hampered by the lack of
cooperation and systemic failure in Nigeria.
“The security relationship also has been
hampered at times by a lack of cooperation from
Nigerian officials and by systemic problems in
the Nigerian military. Political and human rights
concerns have been a prominent factor in
shaping US-Nigeria relations for decades.
“State Department human rights reports have
continued to highlight serious human rights
violations by the Nigerian security forces every
year. These violations include politically
motivated and extrajudicial killings, excessive
use of force, and torture,” Blanchard said at the
hearing.
Despite about N1trn ($5.8b) security budget, the
ACRS specialist said the “Nigerian troops are not
adequately resourced or equipped” to counter
Boko Haram insurgency. During the hearing, the
American disclosed that the troops were “slow to
adapt with new strategies, new doctrines and
new tactics,” and described Nigeria as “an
extremely challenging partner to work with.”

www.nigerianeye.com/2014/07/nigerian-military-uncooperative-slow-to.html?m=1

you proving more that your really haven't travel to that America you are talking,in-case you don't know,I advice you call people there and ask questions,not just the funny English you here from there mouth

CityNG: How did you come up with this notion?

and which of what you mentioned cant you achieve in Nigeria,in fact if you must know Nigeria is the easiest place to make money but the bunch of the young want to make quick money without working,a lazy generation i must say.but when you get to the states,you would work 2-3 jobs and sleep 3-4hours to make ends meet.
so u better wake up

GameGuyPH: 24 hrs power supply, 24 hours security (if he hangs with the right groups), guaranteed meals everyday, free health care, free recreational facilities (gym etc) and the opportunity to socialize with members of different races...compare that to Nigerian freedom life.