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StephenP:
Knowing that, why would you then attempt to provoke him by hitting him?

As I said before. . . . sometimes a woman can be going through some things you know. Has been having a really bad week, aint nothing going right, folk pulling her in every which way. And if she got kids, has to put everything aside and care for them. Not to mention have to make sure everybody is content and happy. Then her husband comes in, ranting and raging about this and that.

Not taking into consideration that his wife aint really in the mood to hear all that. And maybe just fell into the influence of emotions and took it out on you. Which will happen from time to time, just not phyiscally. As her LOVING husband, instead jumping on the gun and hitting her back, try to understand why she was provoked to hit you in the first place.

I'm not saying women are emotionally unstable creatures but sometimes you might lose sight of things. I for one, understand. Sometimes your emotions get the best of you.

StephenP:
Onyinye, you still classify your hands as delicate after all your weightlifting classes? Hmm . . . .

Hey I might have some muscles on me, but don't me NOTHING compared to those of the male species.

darefestus:
@Hannibal
I greatly agree with everything you have written so far, and you are the bomb,all men should just be like you!

Imecha onu

Hannibal:
Are u considering the impact of the slap on ma face or the ACTION??
I am really bovvered about the INTENT not if i would get hurt or not.

Someone tries to shoot u and he missed. . .
Does that make him innocent??
What about the INTENT to murder?

Oka whatever. If you were slapped by a woman, the so called "pain" will last 30secs to 1minute. But vice versa, the pain gonna last MUCH more than that.

k1banty:
If my wife slaps me for the first time (God forbid bad time)

Option A: Walk away
Option D: Figure out why she hit me.


If it happens another time

Option C.Throw her out of the house


Option B is out of it so i'D rather kick her out of the house than to retaliate.

Awww. . . . to bad you are married. We need more men like you.

StephenP:
It has nothing to do with ego, I'm only sending her back to her dad's house so that he can teach her not to hit men except maybe in self-defense.

Oka yeah. . . . im going to take this into consideration. Cause I admit, I'm prone to do some stuff when im upset. So uhmmm. . . . yeah I don't want to be eating blended food for the rest of my life cause some of yal fellas is crucial. Yal aint even going to hear sistah out before you WHAM! her across the face and/or throw your things out the house.

Hannibal:
Send her back to her dad's house?? Thats over-reaction!!!

Give her 2 hot slaps. . . . . .make up, kiss and live happily ever after.
This incident is too small to accomodate a 3rd party.
The only thing that would make me send her back to her dad is INFIDELITY.

Yal fellas is a trip. Getting all worked up for a slap? I mean do you not know the difference between her slap with her delicate hands, than yours with your ginormous gorilla hands?

Cristalz:
@onyinye

Lol . A woman doesn't need to be disciplined.  .  .but if she goes as far as raising a hand to her husband,the man she promised to love and respect for better or worse and all that sweet stuff,she should be EFFECTIVELY reminded of her promises  After that, the couple should kiss,make up and move on. Anutha lesson learned. . .and trust me,it won't be repeating itself.

Oka o. I just HOPE and I really HOPE that I never [size=4pt]again[/size] hit a guy cause the way some of yal sound, I might eating blended up food for the rest of my life.

[quote author=Gucci_Babe link=topic=172546.msg2815907#msg2815907 date=1221670985]LOLL!!!

And after avoiding him for awhile. Then i start worrying my precious little head. I wonder if he is cheating. Men have some serious issues i swear. you can't live with them and you can live without them[/quote]Me, i don't necessary worry. I might give him some thought, but if he knows what is good for him, he will behave himself.

StephenP:
Maybe she should have discussed with me first before taking action. How about if I'm not to blame? And even if I was what on God's green earth gave her idea that she could hit me and go scot free.

DAMN!!! I can see you fellas don't let nothing mess with ya buddy, EGO. Gotta make sure it is protected at all times. On the real, sometimes you gotta swallow up some of that pride and go on a deeper level. As in, asking why she would hit you in the first place? What was bothering her. It is so much easier than the alternatives. Jeez. . . they way some of yal sound, makes me think yal are her father rather than her husband.

Cristalz:
@onyinye

You and this your guilt train.  .  .don't you know some women do airplanes? There and back in 3 mins, and the little trip's just anutha little part of life. Time to move on.
I support it WHEN THE WIFE DESERVES IT.
What kind of a woman hits her husband in the first place? Where is the love,the respect? Its just stupid and very irrational. A woman with temper is bad enough,but one that can't control that temper??  

I no way support a wife hitting her husband. I mean am I daft. Shoot. . . i love my life, i aint trying to see myself with a headstone that reads:
"Here lies Onyinye. A lesson given is a lesson earned"

But doesn't mean she needs to be disciplined.

Cristalz:
C.Throw her out of the house.  .  .lose your wife, maybe lose your kids, face in-law wahala, outsiders' questions,bla bla.  .  .too much headache

So you support the act of a husband hitting his wife?
Make I hear word.

StephenP:
Definitely C. Let her think about what she just did before she's sets a bad example for the kids.
Forget that crap about all real men. All real women don't hit men in the first place, but you don't see me complaining.

If you think throwing your WIFE out of the house is not complaining then, i must rephrase my definition.
If you really cared about her, you would figure out why she was provoked to hit you in the first place.

Hannibal:
Keep deceiving yourself!!!
Option D of all options. . . . . .
Hit her first, ask questions later.
She slapped me instinctively and i retaliated on IMPULSE.
Fair exchange, innit??

Mufasa *shakes head*
Seriously. . . . . why you gonna hit your wife? Unless you are prepared to hear her reference what you did in every argument. And she is going to ride that Guilt Train for. . . . LIFE.

[quote author=Gucci_Babe link=topic=172546.msg2815850#msg2815850 date=1221670457]another one I hate is when he apologizes and do the same thing again. Then its like I havn't punished him enough, That sucks![/quote]I KNOW!!!! Then the whole thing starts all over again like freaking clock work. What a annoying cycle.

All Real Men will go straight for. . . .

OPTION: D!!!

If you choose otherwise

I will probably just avoid him for a while. I can ignore him until he caves in and apologizes first.

StephenP:
3 years isn't that long.

Depends how you look at. . . .

davidylan:
Option A - Not going to happen.
Option B - Knowing myself, i wont be able to do so . . .
Option C - if she's got kids, no. If not she probably will spend that week out of my house.
Option D - long story.

Option D seems to be the MOST reasonable.

@sistawoman

I'm in my prime. I've got time before i even start to consider settling down with someone for the rest of my life.
Roles, guidelines, expectations, standards. . . . . so on and so forth are all things I'm not too cool with but hey give me a few years and who knows the outcome.

davidylan:
Onyinye2 would you like to be my wife? 
I promise never to slap you.

LMAO!!! Mr. Opportunity is back in the flash.

Cristalz:
Being a wife goes much deeper than answering his name and bearing his children dearie    

@All the ''i'll just walk away'' guys
Get real,k? Be honest  

Of course i know that. I aint just going to bear his name, but i don't need pre-set guidelines to tell me what is expected of me.
Anyways. . . . I swear!!!!

Most of these guys will either:
A. Walk Away
B. [/b]Retaliate
[b]C. Throw her out the house
D. Figure out why she hit him in the first place.

Oka fellas, state what letter you would abide by. . . . .

@ Mufasa,
Did you even attempt to read my previous post?

onyinye2:
As I said before. . . . sometimes a woman can be going through some things you know. Has been having a really bad week, aint nothing going right, folk pulling her in every which way. And if she got kids, has to put everything aside and care for them. Not to mention have to make sure everybody is content and happy. Then her husband comes in, ranting and raging about this and that.

Not taking into consideration that his wife aint really in the mood to hear all that. And maybe just fell into the influence of emotions and took it out on you. Which will happen from time to time, just not phyiscally. As her LOVING husband, instead jumping on the gun and hitting her back, try to understand why she was provoked to hit you in the first place.

@sistawoman

I truly understand what you are saying but, if marriage is truly what you make it sound, like a play, then well i guess this chica gonna have to rethink such.

[quote author=A-40 link=topic=170354.msg2812555#msg2812555 date=1221611143]@onyinye
We didnt defend well sef my defender was supposed to pick the ball because the play was still active.It was just hilarious because when it happened i could almost swear he didnt cross the line i am glad the officials noticed it!!
Did you see how the fool was dancing?i heard this is not even his first gaffe[/quote]Hey, it is only the beginning you know. I mean things can change. Well it was expected that their defense be weak compared to their opponent who is known for its offensive skills. Who do yal play next?

sistawoman:
I don't think he has to treat you like your father but there should be clear expectations BEFORE marriage.  clear boundary lines should be set BEFORE marriage.  Roles should be clearly defined BEFORE marriage.  Therefore these type of miscommunication does not happen AFTER marriage and folks are not wondering where this came from.  You should KNOW the man you are marrying.

These types of questions should be asked of your mate BEFORE you say I DO.  The answers should be used in deciding if you really want to marry them or not.

Well I guess this all means nothing being that me and you aren't no where near the same. You can't justify what will happen during marriage when you haven't even been married. You will know what will happen, when it is happening. Roles keh? What am I trying out for a part in a Play? My only role is to be his wife. . . . roles ko, guidelines ni.

Hannibal:
Would u walk away and smile if your kid SLAPS u??

That is my KID!! Not my forsaken HUSBAND!!!
Mufasa. . . . how can you compare the two? Anyways, if you give me an inch, i might take up a mile. Without even laying one hand on you.

All You Men Are Such FIBBERS!!!!

You would never hit her back, talk less about throwing her out the house.
Yall just probably generate a smile and walk away.
Who can seriously tell me otherwise?
Make I hear word.

Sistawoman. . . . . . . pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease!!!!

So what, I like to challenge dudes too. Don't mean i need him to be my father.


The Sly. . . . . . I was soooooo thinking about that song.
But I most definitely don't agree with it.

Hannibal:
She calls ma first name but respect beget respect.
Why would a woman raise her hands n slap me?? What effrontery!!!

As I said before. . . . sometimes a woman can be going through some things you know. Has been having a really bad week, aint nothing going right, folk pulling her in every which way. And if she got kids, has to put everything aside and care for them. Not to mention have to make sure everybody is content and happy. Then her husband comes in, ranting and raging about this and that.

Not taking into consideration that his wife aint really in the mood to hear all that. And maybe just fell into the influence of emotions and took it out on you. Which will happen from time to time, just not phyiscally. As her LOVING husband, instead jumping on the gun and hitting her back, try to understand why she was provoked to hit you in the first place.

Hannibal:
A resounding YES!!!
I would be held accountable for whatever happens to her.
So once i marry, i become her dad, husband, uncle and brother.
I become her next of kin. . . . .she drops her Dad's name for MINE.

Oka o!!!
Oga Mufasa, your slave wife will be one great woman.
If there is a human being who can handle these guidelines, make i hear word of her name in lights.
What in tarnation gives you the audacity to be her father? What are you going to make her call you Oga?

Hannibal:
It's called DISCPLINE.
Parents are not monsters when they bawl at their kids to correct them.
Sometimes, u need reasonable force to restore normalcy.

OMG!!!! Mufasa, you have so fallen off the deep end.
What, are you her father now?
So when you marry woman, you take on the role as her father, instead of her husband?
You can't be serious!!!

geolabious:
@ Onyinye please ans my questn?

If you are implying that i got my quote from the Bible, why don't you go and look for yourself.

Hannibal:
I didn't say i would BEAT her.
Slapping is not beating.
Afterall, she started the fire. . . . . I only added ETHER to the inferno.

Oka then. . . . i will re-word the question.
Slapping your wife will make you feel like a REAL MAN abi?

Hannibal:
If she gets caught under the influence of emotions, LET HER SLAP HERSELF in front of a mirror.

And I bet you will feel like a REAL MAN after beating your wife abi?

Damn!!! See all these men front as if they gonna do something. Stop lying like rugs. Yall all know you wouldn't dare hit your wife in a million years. Unless, you are truly a WIFEBEATER. And would enjoy being called one. Cause i swear i would ride that guilt train for. . . . LIFE.

I mean sometimes you know a woman might be going through somethings. She might get caught  under the influence of emotions, and take it out on you. It happens, and besta believe it. All you can do as her LOVING husband is to try and understand why she is in rage instead of blowing up like a hot rocket.

I'm not condoning women who hit their husbands, but hey doesn't mean you need to take on that father role and discipline her.

Hannibal:
I am not the long term vengeance planning type of guy.
Over-reaction is ma only reaction which only sets up a chain reaction.

OMG!!!!! What a fibber!!! You would never lay a violent hand on a woman and you know. Unless you would like to be deemed as a wifebeater for. . . . LIFE.

Hannibal:
I disagree with you.

When a woman decides to raise up her arm and strike a man across the face, she should be ready for the consequences.
The golden rule of any relationship. . . . NEVER DARE A MAN!!!
Oprah Winfrey would tell u that anytime anyday.

I know you are getting a kick out of this Mufasa. But you know good and well you would never slap a woman.
It would be to easy and short fulfilling. Knowing the kind of person you are, you would want something alot more lasting.
You will make her feel like remorseful and broken twit, without even touching her.

geolabious:
Is it in thy Bible?

What is in thy Bible?