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Sometimes I wish I were a bomber jet pilot, by now I will surely have dropped a very nice Christmas gift for the National Assembly.
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The only thing more dangerous than uneducated terrorists are the educated terrorists. This short devil Hell Dubai should continue pretending like his mentor Bokóhari. The wise know that just like Satan cannot cast out Satan, same way terrorists sponsors, backers, promoters and enablers cannot end terrorism!

bukatyne:
Funny how you want a wife to love her husband more so she can endure bullshit.

Well, I hope this is from the cultural standpoint.

People are different and what is ok with you might be bullshit to another woman. When I used to work 9 to 5's, there was a time I had a boss that whenever he wants to eat, his wife must sit with him on the dining table, whether she's eating or not. If he comes back from work and she serves him, she must sit down there while he's eating. To some other women, that kind of thing might be bullshit. But the thing is, she loves her husband more so she's willing to endure this "bullshit" and they have been married for over 45 years.

There will always be "bullshit" in marriage, especially when it comes to a wife being submissive to her husband. Men have our own "bullshit" we deal with too. But I noticed that for most women, when they love a man so much, "bullshit" becomes something enjoyable. For example, for an uncommitted woman, washing a man's clothes is bullshit. A man she doesn't love, is he mad will probably be her response. But a committed woman that's in love, washing her man's clothes that would normally have been bullshit becomes something she enjoys doing and wants to do. The LOVE factor is a determinant in the bullshit equation. So if you don't like dealing with "bullshit" then you better don't fall in love Stay unmarried or enjoy "bullshit" - PICK YOUR POISON!

babajeje123:
This is a pure excuse for marital infidelity. Yes, man is wired differently and get aroused at the sight of a naked woman, but does it mean that the dick must be put in a hole every time it's aroused? What happened to self-control? You can claim to love your wife and still be sleeping around.

I'm not justifying anything. I'm not approving or disapproving. My post is not about morality or advocacy for infidelity. If you want to talk morality, then that's another entirely different SUBJECT. This current subject is "marry a woman who loves you more than you love her", simple!

DexterousOne:
A man who really loves his wife wont be doing what will hurt her seriously
And sleeping with multiple women recklessly will definitely hurt her when she finds out

So how can you love someone and at the same time be consumed in debauchery?

It's the same way a woman who respects her husband will not be collecting material stuffs from other men anyhow without regards for her husband, and how he may feel about it
Someone you love
You wont brazenly do what will hurt that person

A man is a man, he is human, he makes mistakes from time to time. A man and a woman ARE NOT WIRED the same way. Our fundamental programming is different. And when it comes to "love", even our interpretation and how we deal and relate with love is different. A man can truly love his wife and still sleep with another woman outside. This is the truth, it might sound a bit weird or perplexing for those who think on the surface. But any deep thinker knows, this is a reality.

Another area where our wiring is different is sex. Usually, for a "normal" woman, her emotions must be involved before she has sex with you. You must cross that emotional BARRIER, you must CONNECT with her emotionally before she will open her cookie jar. That's the way women are wired. But a man is different. THERE IS NO EMOTIONAL BARRIER, you don't have to connect with his emotions to have sex with him. That's the way our wiring is. A man's connection point is his 5 senses, once a woman can connect there, the sexual urge of a man is unleashed, and you can easily eat his sausage, he will hardly resist.

A woman is also wired to have more control over her urge for sex than a man is, this is the truth. And the more people understand the differences, the more we can work out an equation that suits both parties when they are in a relationship. This is one of the reasons why it is evil for a woman to sex starve her husband, because any small touch or small sight seeing of his wife's sexy body, he can get aroused and he's not wired to tame those urges for too long and put it inside his pocket.

But if a woman isn't feeling the emotional connection with her husband, she can easily lockup her urges and stay away from having sex with him. If he likes, let him walk naked in the room and she sees him, she's not moved, if he likes let him have six packs with hairy chest, so far her emotions have shutdown, she can abstain from having sex with him as long as she likes. Because women are wired to have a more control of their urges than men.

So it's not always about debauchery that pushes a man outside. Sometimes, it's just because his wife lacks that understanding of how a man's sexual wiring works and she pushed him outside with her on/off switch of sexual denial. That's why a man should really pay attention when he's dating a woman. If she weaponizes sex and uses it against you as a girlfriend, it will only get worse in marriage. Don't marry a woman that uses sex as a weapon to get at you because she will use sex starving you as a punishment or bargaining chip, and you either have the option of dancing to her tune or go Alpha mode and get some juice outside. It's not a pretty situation, morality speaking, but that's life, sh*t happens!

shedomains:
judgeing from your write up here you sound like a guy in his mid fifties ,now i understand better the older generation i cant expect less.so hold tight to the wife of your youth cause all the shits you have been typeing ends with your generation ,generation 60 ,if not the ladies of today go change am for you .

This is not a matter of age or era. My age is irrelevant. The same Sun that is shining over our heads today, is the same Sun that shined over other people's heads 5000 years ago. Same way there are some facts in life that are applicable regardless of the generation involved. 1,000 years ago, women fell for rich men. Today women still fall for rich men. 1,000 years from now women will still fall for rich men.

DexterousOne:
That's why I said
Even though I dont agree whole heartedly
I cant invalidate your point and say it is nonsense
Because, in certain instances, it MAY be the case

In what I have observed
Some men are more invested in their marriages
And the marriages are still going on for decades
Even though their wives are "characters"
A man who wants to keep the home front intact will do so, because he is the LEADER
It's a foolish man who does things that could jeopardize his family

Women are emotional creatures. That's why you can see a woman that will dump her "perfect boyfriend" and date another ugly guy because she fell in LOVE or loves him more than her boyfriend . Emotions is always a critical aspect for women. But Men are more of sensual creatures, we are moved by our 5 senses. That's why a man will have a beautiful moderate wife but will still sleep with one ugly girl outside who has big yansh that captured his eyes, and still chase his secretary that has big boobs, and he likes another one for her curves, and another one it's the voice etc. But he loves his wife nonetheless and he is not even in love with any of those side chicks, just the thrill of what he sees or captures his senses.

So what i'm saying is not a matter of "may" be the case, it is the case. And I'm talking exclusively about normal girls. This matter doesn't involve the type of girls that are hoeloshos, runs, escorts, etc. Look around town, millions of unmarried women. Why? Why are they not married. Mostly, it's not because they don't have ANY suitors. It is because they are not in love with those suitors. The toasters are there but the love is not. So they prefer to stay single and hope one day one guy will come that they fall in love with, then they give greenlight for marriage. They will rather stay single and unmarried for years than marry someone they don't love. And this further proves my point that women are emotional creatures. Love is a BIG DEAL for them. And if you marry a woman with mutual love but who loves you more, chances are higher that your marriage will last long term. That is all I'm saying.

Ikennamurphy:
No general rule, I personally see it as pestering for a woman that loves me more, I prefer to love my woman bc that's what can make me to keep her, everyone knows himself

"pestering" = attachment, and she's attached because she loves you more. That's a good recipe for a lasting marriage. Marriages tend to last more when a woman is "attached" to her husband. Facts only!

DexterousOne:
Interesting
Even though I dont agree.
What you are posting is what dooms marriages today
Because the man subconsciously think he has a free pass to "screw things over " and somehow the wife will "captain the ship" like u said
I have come to learn that life is not a straight line, but a scatter graph
So even tho I dont agree
I wont invalidate your point

Nobody is perfect. The earlier you accept this reality, the more it becomes easier to not make a big deal about everything. There's no perfect relationship, unless you want to deceiving yourself. Even the most happiest couples have their conflicting moments. No matter how couples love themselves, from time to time, there must be issues; it's either the husband offends the wife, or the wife offends the husband or they both offend themselves. There must be drama over one issue or another, or drama from one person to another. Because we are humans, not robots. And the drama sef is part of the things that make relationships interesting. It adds flavor to the mix.

My point was, when the drama becomes a storm, if the woman is more emotionally invested than the man, there's a bigger chance the relationSHIP won't wreck and crash into the bottom of the ocean. When a woman loves a man more than he loves her, SHE IS MORE TOLERANT, more willing to put up with ish. Facts only!

ziondaughter247:
Typical nairaland man, always bragging and talking rubbish. something they can never do or apply! lol...I hope you have someone that loves you in the first place! Lmao....love your broke ass. Better remove that nonsensical mentality and look for true love where you both are into each other, because I can almost bet that you are the one looking for love, nobody get your time in the real world. Continue validating yourself here oooh...rubbish

You can't be so toxic and have low IQ at the same time. Pick a struggle. No wonder you're so bitter

baby124:
A man is responsible for keeping his home together. Not the woman primarily. The woman should cooperate but that responsibility of marriage and keeping a home together is largely dependent on the man. He has to provide shelter, security and food for his family. That is the traditional role since you want to pretend to be a traditionalist. In modern society the women have stepped up and are helping out tremendously. So, don’t bring this nonsense to me. Traditionally women only need to take care of the home but a man builds his own home by building his house, marrying a wife and providing for her so she can take care of his children. You better stop falling for misogynistic lies where men are encouraged to abscond responsibility.

The man should even be the prayer leader and warrior in the home, when he claims to be the head. If you don’t have a true male figure around you, then you need to change your circle because all what you wrote there does not align with your own cultural beliefs and you know it.

You still don't understand what my post is about. A husband is the head of the marriage, he is the provider, the Chairman, the CEO, but the wife is the administrator of the home, she is the home keeper etc. That's as far as role play responsibility goes. All that prayer warrior, leader, providing etc that you mentioned fall under marital role plays. That is the role of a husband VS the role of a wife, or the marital duty of a husband and the duty of a wife.

BUT i'm not talking about marital role play here. This is a different subject and aspect of marriage. This is about emotions. I'm talking about emotional investment. Love is an emotion. Excluding transactional marriages where a marriage is made based on benefits, Love is a critical aspect of marriage in the aspect of emotions. Normally, (minus transactional marriages) for 2 people to make that commitment of marriage, mutual emotions must be involved. And the stronger the mutual emotions involved, the higher the chance the marriage will work.

There are different kinds of emotions, like physical attraction, fondness etc but love is the strongest of them all. So 2 people love each other and they want to get married. The REALITY is the love involved might be MUTUAL but it is not EQUAL. The man's love might be higher than the woman's love or vice versa. Now my point is this, if the woman's love is more, that is to say, she's more emotionally invested than the man, then there's a much higher chance their marriage will work out on the LONG TERM than if it were the reverse. This is a FACT!

Women are more wired for emotions than men. Emotions (feelings, love etc) is a BIG DEAL for women more than it is for men. Women want to feel, they are big on feelings, big on love, it matters to them like crazy that they are in love before she can open herself completely to a man. You can never truly enjoy the best of what a woman has to offer if she doesn't love you like crazy (excluding Hoeloshos, runs girls, call girls, escorts, prostitutes etc). Emotions like love also matter for a man too, but the fact is, it doesn't matter as much as it does for a woman. So any wise man understands he should marry a woman that loves him more than he loves her, QED!

baby124:
Not true. It should be the other way around. The one who proposes marriage should love more. Especially if it’s the man, it helps anchor and stabilize the marriage better. Women tend to behave well if they are treated well. Men who love their wives truly, treat their wives well and have a good marriage, mostly.

Absolutely wrong! Marriage is essentially = family = home making. When it comes to a home / marriage working, a woman's role is more suited to keeping a marriage together. Women are more emotional than men, therefore a woman's emotions should be more invested in a marriage than a man's emotions, otherwise there will be crisis eventually.

For example, look at marriages in the past and marriages today. For our parents or ancestors marriages, it was common to find marriages like 50, 60 years old marriages, but marriages today hardly last. The older generations their marriages worked not because they were perfect or the husband didn't have flaws or was always wealthy etc. It worked because women of the past generations were more emotionally invested in their marriages than the men, and this kept the marriage going even when they had storms in their relationships.

If the man failed to provide, their wives didn't just walk away, or find another richer boyfriend outside. No, they stayed and endured the poverty with their husbands. Some of them their husbands would beat them, but they didn't divorce, they went through that phase, even if it was a lot of pain, they stuck through it all to work out their marriage at all costs. Why? Because they were more emotionally invested in the marriage. They loved their husbands more.

But women who are not more emotional invested, usually at the first sight of any ish, they jump ship. They are already always packed and ready in their minds, just waiting for any opportunity to jump ship and not put in the work to keep their marriage together. Everything must be rosy or they jump ship. But a woman who is more emotionally invested, she is like a Captain, she will rather sink with her ship. She will stay and put in the work to make her marriage work.

mariahAngel:
Well, manipulative people deserve each other, so they can go on playing on each other's emotions, since it is what they enjoy doing.

As far as dating goes, is your love conditional or unconditional? If you have expectations like, Oh he must have a job, he must be handsome, he must have his own house or apartment, he must have a Master's degree, he must be tall, this or that etc, then those are essentially CONDITIONS. Which means your love is conditional. Conditional love is manipulative, because you are using those conditions to manipulate a relationship in your favor. Therefore, you are manipulative too!

Timiofak:
No it isnt, it as been certified and the people that wanted it uncertified went to court on thurday. Yesterday there case got tossed out.

Please read more.

Nawa oh! Court case is DIFFERENT from State Legislature sitting processes. The Republican members of House of Representatives in Pennsylvania have introduced a resolution to declare the certification invalid due to confirmed election irregularities. The outcome is yet to be finalized. This week we will know how far.
https://pittsburgh.cbslocal.com/2020/11/27/pennsylvania-republicans-dispute-2020-election-results-resolution/

mariahAngel:
That is selfishness. True love is generous and selfish and manipulative people don't deserve to enjoy being loved.

Story for the gods! Who is more manipulative and selfish when it comes to emotions, male or female? Answer is female. Mtchwwwww.

Timiofak:
You wrote everything and kept surely

nothing is surely playing out, nothing at all

all of this is grift. And if Trump goes to the Supreme Court, with his pa loss, and they hear him out, and they agree to toss out mail in ballots in Pa, which is highly unlikely, that is basically impossible to toss half of the votes in a state

he still doesn't have 270 votes to land him the EC.

So I repeat nothing is surely happening.

You still don't understand what my original post is about. This is not a matter of Trump needing 270 Electoral votes to win. This is about the both candidates having a shortfall to 270 Electoral votes. If you remove the votes of all the several Swing States being contested by Court litigations, both candidates are under 270. If there are sufficient faithless Electors, then none of them will reach 270, which means the Elections are indecisive. An indecisive election means the power to decide who becomes President will go to the House of Representatives. Each State House of Reps has 1 Vote. Republicans have 29 States, and Democrats have 21. It is expected the State Reps will vote along party lines, which means Trump will automatically win if it comes to this. That's why Trump said if Biden can get the Electoral College Votes, then he will leave. But if Biden doesn't get it, Trump will win. Considering the extent of voter fraud and that many States are under dispute, there will most likely be sufficient Faithless Electors. Even the Democrats are afraid of this reality. It coul happen and I believe it will. Only time will tell.

Timiofak:
Sir in PA it as been certified and they have picked democratic slate of electors so dead that thought that you think all 20 would vote for trump, the case that was filed to withdraw certification was tossed out with prejudice

So all this you are saying is irrelevant, the only way the legislature could intervene as passed

By tomorrow half of them are out of there jobs. Simple

PA certification is in currently in dispute by the PA State Legislature

Eddie4God:
Bro i understand your pain & the fact that you're still in denial, bt come on, some of those judges that have thrown out Trump's cases are Republican appointed.
The truth is that SCOTUS ain't going to to overturn this election because Trump's campaign has no evidence of widespread electoral fraud. What they have is allegations & conspiracy theories. Media theatrics of allegations of widespread electoral fraud is easy & cheap. Bt the ball game is entirely different in the courtroom where you have to provide evidence.
The fact that there are majority conservative Justices in the SCOTUS doesn't mean they will overlook the law & lack of credible evidence & just make Trump the winner of an election he lost.

Read my initial post. This thread has nothing to do with a SCOTUS victory for Trump. Time is not on his side and the case most likely might never even get to SCOTUS before the Electoral College votes. This post is about the possibility of Trump winning through the Electoral College itself.

IvyGRush:
I know you are hurt and that's why I believe you are making a tribalistic Comment. May the Almighty Forgive Us all.

Yes, I'm angry. Because a country that cannot feed itself cannot survive. It takes a lot of dedication to be a farmer. They should stop killing farmers across this country

Timiofak:
No it isn't not 100% legal to be a faithless elector. In most states they pay a fine

And secondly if you think, 20 democrat electors sent from a state like PA, would vote trump is one of the biggest jokes i have heard

In most cases they switch to in paty votes, i.e i belive 1 or 2 might vote sanders instead.

$1K fine in some States is not a big deal. And Electors are chosen by the State's Legislature not the Governors etc, and almost all the State Legislature is mixed with both Red and Blue. And for a State like PA, Republicans have many seats, so all the Electors there CANNOT lean Blue.

The Kanuri people had better woken up. This Boko Haram thing is starting to look like a systematic way to wipe out the Kanuris through the back door and make it look like coincidental victims of insurgency. Maybe it is because of Kanuri women are the most beautiful Northerners, I just don't understand. Boko Haram should leave Kanuri land and go to Sokoto, Katsina or Northern Kaduna. Enough is enough for all this rubbish! They should stop killing Kanuris.

Jimi24:
Even the idea of electors from dome states voting their conscience against the wish of voters, that's amateurishness in the extreme.
If you think this happens and you don't extend the thinking to the dissolution of the entire US but you think all it does is return Trump to the White House then Nigerian crookedness has joined the amateurishness

Where is the crookedness There's no similarities between their system of choosing a Presidential election winner and our system. They have Electoral College, we don't. And speaking of Electoral College, it is 100% LEGAL for an Elector to be a "Faithless Elector". There is no crookedness or amateurish behavior involved, especially when you have credible allegations and litigations of voter fraud involved. The Electors are American citizens too na, and they can see what is happening by themselves. So if they choose to be Faithless Electors, then it is justified. There's no illegality about it.

capitalzero:
2021-year of vaccine.
More anarchy in many places
Rising insecurities in many parts of the world
More poverty
More untimely deaths
People should prepare for the worst. Trust no one. Mind your business. Do not follow crowd.

Thank you for your contribution. But how do you see things with Nigeria in particular? I'm in Nigeria and would like to know which kind of reality permutations we can expect to see in 2021. Will there be more:
economic boom or doom?
insecurity or security?
what can we invest in, how should we invest or what should we pull our from?
will this country keep sinking or there's light at the 2021 tunnel?
should we start preparing to jump ship and abandon this country?
What about social life?
What about moral life, will we be seeing more of this LGBTQ madness growing?
What prominent events can we predict or expect to happen?

Opinions or wisdom nuggets on things like this will be greatly appreciated

Timiofak:
That's if they are bringing a new case, they are not. Or are they?

And with the way thing is going the Supreme Court my decide not to take the case at all, agreed?

Yes agreed, with the way time is so short, the case might never get to the Supreme Court on time before the Electoral College starts voting. And that's why if you read my original post very well, you will see that I highlighted this reality there. And which is why, because the Supreme Court might end up not even being in the picture at all, this thread is not based on Trump winning via the Supreme Court; BUT based on another viable alternative to Trump winning his 2nd Term that will surely play out.

Righteousness89:
2020 has been Massively Ridiculous!
Surving this year calls for Massive Appreciation and Thanksgiving to GOD Almighty..

I don't think anybody in this world will dispute this. 2020 has indeed being an extremely crazy year. I have nothing but gratitude to God for making it through, for me and mine's. Surviving this year alone is a true privilege. I believe there are many people better than me who didn't even make it, but I did. I'm truly thankful.

Barka00:




U dey Mad

Instead of insulting another person for sharing his views, why not share your own na , haba!

Timiofak:
Supreme Court is not a trial court, it's an appellate court you this man.

It is primarily an Appellate Court, BUT it can also conduct a trial, unlike Court of Appeals that are limited to appeals from Lower Courts only.

The number of original jurisdiction cases heard by the court is small; generally only one or two such cases are heard per term. Because the nine-member Supreme Court is not well-suited to conducting pretrial proceedings or trials, original jurisdiction cases accepted by the Court are typically referred to a well-qualified lawyer or lower-court judge to serve as special master, conduct the proceedings, and report recommendations to the Court. The Court then considers whether to accept the special master's report or whether to sustain any exceptions filed to the report.

Although jury trials are in theory possible in the Court's original jurisdiction cases

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Procedures_of_the_Supreme_Court_of_the_United_States

Sad May God continue to have mercy on me.

Buhari's party, CPC or whatever the hell they called themselves were nothing but disasters. That was why Buhari lost presidential elections 3 times and they couldn't even win anything tangible in the North. Buhari's CPC gang was simply an association of sharia fundamentalists, tribal extremists, religous fanatics and Fulani supremacy ideologists.

But they couldn't make any head way with their plans to hijack federal power in Nigeria until they made an unfortunate alliance with Tinubu's ACN in the Southwest. That Alliance is today's APC, and that alliance was the game changer that brought Buhari and his CPC gang to power. ACN was doing very well in the South West before they merged with Buhari's CPC.

But unfortunately, instead of the success quality of ACN to pass unto APC, the inbuilt failure and disaster characteristics of CPC is too strong and assumed the dominant role in APC. So they passed their disaster attributes to ACN, and ACN has been messing up in the South West ever since.

It even got to the point they have now started losing, they have lost Oyo and would have lost Osun and maybe Ogun too if not for massive rigging. ACN needs to break away from APC before the Buhari CPC disaster traits rubs off on them finally and they turn to disasters too like CPC was and is.

9ja mata can sabi give person headache May God continue to have mercy on me