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Cutezt:


Allegedly o, make dem no go carry me, I no get money for case.

The daughter you spoke bout is currently abroad, I believe she should be back to Abuja next month. If this is true, send a PM.

Cutezt:
Yes!

While we were kids, we had this flat behind our house we usually give out for rent, one day, a family of about 8 moved in, among them was a young boy my age, I remember asking him where he was going to on the very first day I saw him walking down the street, and he told me he wanted to go pick up some things in their old house, we were about 8-9 years old then and I remembered escorting him. I chop beat that day when I returned as they were already looking for me, anyways, we became very close with the entire family, we sleep in their flat sometimes and they sleep in ours too, we ate together, played together, basically as one big family, but one day, they moved out to a bigger apartment like 15 kilometers away, yet it didn't stop our bond, we still saw each other very often, slept in each other's houses, played games together and ate together like normal.

Around 2014, I moved to Lagos, we still kept a good relationship and spent time together anytime I am back home for the holidays, around 2018, I suddenly heard from a mutual friend that he has moved to China to school. This was someone we still chat and speak often with o, I was disappointed that he had that plan but never voiced it to me, but I didn't let that stop our friendship, he messaged me and we spoke for long hours together very often, but suddenly, I noticed he stopped picking up my calls, and stopped calling me too, I was surprised cos we've not had any issues, neither have I ever begged him for 1 naira, in fact, I was the one sending little tips here and there to numbers and accounts he asks me to, without even expecting payment. I tried reaching out a couple of times but heard nothing, I was scared something had happened to him, so I reached out to a mutual friend who confirmed they spoke just a few days ago, I tried reaching out again but no response, so I just deleted his number and continued living my life.

Last year, I heard he has moved to the UK about 2 years ago and he even borrowed a huge amount from that mutual friend to finalize his movement, and he was yet to pay back, I knew because the mutual friend complained to me about it. He called the mutual friend last year while we were together on the 31st night and I bluntly told the mutual friend I am not interested in speaking to him, cos he asked how I was alongside a couple of other people, the mutual friend said he always asks about me anytime they speak, yet he is on my IG, almost always online and he has not messaged me, neither have I messaged him since 2021.

Make everybody dey their own abeg, nobody dey feed anybody, don't know why he ghosted, but then, I don't care, I'm doing very very well for myself here and have never begged him for anything. I understand say we no be 'smallie' again, trouser don add length, so I'm not angry at him, I am just not interested in friendship anymore.
Everytime I am back home and visit the market, I check his elder sisters who have shops all around the market and we greet and talk well. I plan to go visit the parents with a few gifts this Xmas, but as far as that friendship is concerned, I'm not interested.


Story 2

While we were kids, I had this close friend, he had an uncle who lived a few streets away from ours, the man got married to my friends mum's immediate younger sister, he was struggling but managing life, we used to visit their house often, they had 2 female children and my naive mind was even liking the youngest daughter. After sometime, the man moved out of the state with the family, today, he is a serving governor in the South, always in the news for all the wrong reasons. I don't expect anything from them cos they only knew me because I escort my friend to their house often, however, my issue is that that my friend is struggling badly back home. He is a graduate with good grades, but yet to get a good paying job.
During the campaign for the governor, I messaged my friend and told him clearly that I was not rooting for his uncle o especially because of the party he is in, he just laughed and said if the uncle wins, he may be able to set him up, and I remember telling him not to get his hopes high.

Today, the uncle is almost finishing his first tenure as governor and early this year, my friend said the only money his mum has ever received from them was 50k, the uncle doesn't even pick calls, he only chats with the daughter who rolls around with the top APC politicians, snapping pictures and going to events up and down alongside her father.

This your story 2, why do I feel I know the governor you're talking about. I'm thinking sending a pm as it's a small world.

Hhh4444:
I believe this your story die. Human being dey very unpredictable

Loyalty isn’t tested when nothing is involved; it’s tested when power is tasted.

sheeda995:
Lol, but he was very young to be honest, I don't think that counts. You should tell him what happened and forgive each other. He was also a child and most people abroad weren't doing well. Most teenagers abroad has lots of problems when they arrive and some often go psychotic. I think you should tell him and forgive him

He may have been a kid, but he acted his mind. Relocating didn’t erase loyalty he consciously denied someone who shared his home and childhood. it was a choice, likely rooted in insecurity or social climbing. Childhood explains it, but it doesn’t completely excuse it. And there’s every chance that same mindset simply matured with him.

Peter comes to mind.


Early 2000s. We were kids close childhood friends. Our mums worked at the same place. We spent alternating weekends in each other’s houses. Him and his brothers would stay with us, we’d stay with them. We attended the same primary school. It was that kind of bond family-level closeness.
Then his mum got the opportunity to relocate to greater London. This was even before the whole japa wave became a thing. While she was sorting herself out, they stayed with us. Eventually she came back for her husband and kids, and off to London they went.
We lost contact for about a year.
One day, my mum said, “You people want to speak with the Babatopes?” We were excited me and my siblings. Childhood friends reconnecting after relocation? Sweet moment, right?
Wrong.
Peter and his siblings denied knowing us.
Flat out.
Asking “Who is this?” When I tried explaining, he acted like he had no idea who I was. My mum was shocked. I was a boy almost entering my teenage years, and my supposed best friend more like a brother that I already used to brag to my friends around erased me like I never existed.







That day stayed with me.
Fast forward about 15 years later. He wanted to come to Nigeria for something and needed help with security and accommodation. He reached out through my mum.
At that time, I was in the UK on course at Sandhurst.
I took my pound of flesh.
I feigned complete ignorance. Said I wasn’t even in the country. His mum called, acting surprised that I didn’t “know” them. The irony was loud.
Eventually I returned to Nigeria after my program. He was still around and tried reaching out to meet up. But that childhood hurt stuck with me. I cut ties completely.
Maybe people change. Maybe kids do silly things. But one thing I know is this if he had met me in a place where I wasn’t doing well, I doubt he would’ve wanted to reconnect.
Some people remember you only when you’re useful or successful.
I don’t hate him. I just believe in energy matching energy.

Ikorodu Celine Dion. The name sticks

It's the love at home for me.

DMCA:
As if dem no do same under Yaradua, Jonathan and buhari too?
Even under Obasanjo, Militants dey for Niger delta. in fact militancy exist during Abacha time sef.

See how another human is defending this callous act in a bit to sound bright and stay loyal to a political party. So disheartening.

Hopefully it doesn’t end in tears.


Before anything, how long have you been married? That matters more than people admit. A 6-month marriage is different from a 7-year tested one. Time reveals character, loyalty, and stability.
Now to the real issue.
Marriage is partnership, yes but leadership requires foresight. You cannot outsource your own advancement. If you weaken yourself trying to empower the system, the system eventually collapses.

An MSc strengthens you. And if you’re strong, your home is strong.
Let’s be honest: relocation changes people. New environment, new exposure, new options. Some couples thrive. Some don’t survive it. That’s reality.


Ask yourself this,
If the roles were reversed, would she logically choose your advancement over hers?
Don’t answer emotionally. Answer honestly.
Build yourself first. Stabilize. Then move your wife in with structure and control not hope.
A wise man plans beyond love. He protects his future before testing loyalty.

It's very tricky.

I hope it doesn't happen to me as it's best imagined and advised upon.

Bittersweetnig:
Bandits are very Lucrative for those who wasted their youthful age

It's the way y'all sound when trying hard to sound bright. You could judge someone wasted their youths. Get to that age first and come back to rewrite this gibberish.

Mitsurugi:
That's why the Ministry of Health should be allotted only N36m in a fiscal year. Are you okay?

Does he sound okay to you? Na them helinues junior brother

It depends on the couples, Something must have led to it. But personally, if my lady hides her WhatsApp status and I get to find out, it could be the end of us as their might be more she's hiding that I might not know of and I will be willing to dig and find out of.


I read a moniker talk about communication and blamed the hubby for not knowing how to communicate, it's a dumb thing to type though as communication goes the two ways. If she had something in mind, she could have also called the man and express her mind instead of blocking him and his family members on WhatsApp. As a fact, it's a big long firm red flag that needs to be checked and rechecked.

donMIG:
Useless things with empty brains na so e easy to rape woman?

Have you tried it before?

If this turns out fake, she should be made to face the music in heavy currency.


Ladies play around rape just for emotional manipulation.

How is this democracy? It's no more people's choice it's government selection. So disheartening

Chegesnd:
This is actually a script acted by the Opposition to discredit APCheat.
I even snapped Hell-anus and Yarimumu at the event.

That's Yarimos uncle and Helinues Dad. The resemblance is Just striking.

helinues:
The writer just described his own self

You are getting bitter about someone who probably knew nothing about your existence

Helibobo..... How far now.

Putindbutt:
Now we know the handiwork of the midget in ADC who wiretaps and leak security info to his bandit friends.

Better tell him to talk to his friends in the forest to release innocent people.

As usual blaming everyone but your saviours incompetence. Your close kins might be next I hope.

Tinubu the most powerful president ever.


There was a country.

Most powerful leader Nigeria has ever produced?
Powerful in what sense?
If by powerful you mean politically strategic, deeply connected, and highly influential within party structures but deeply disconnected with people he governs. then yes, that argument can be made. Bola Ahmed Tinubu is undeniably a master politician.
But if power is measured by effective control of the state, security of lives, and stability of the nation then the reality on ground tells a different story. With persistent killings, kidnappings, and widespread insecurity, it’s difficult to equate political dominance with national control.
There’s a difference between being politically sound and being administratively effective.
Tinubu may be a great political strategist. But leadership is not just about winning elections or controlling party machinery; it’s about translating power into order, safety, and measurable progress.
Sometimes the skill that gets you to the top isn’t the same skill required to govern from the top. Perhaps he would have been more suited to remaining what he excels at party structuring and political engineering rather than executive leadership.

In short, he's a great politician but bad leader.

The fact US is now tightening immigration, talking about denaturalisation, revocations and deportations. Whether still in planning or already in motion, one thing is obvious the West is no longer a guaranteed escape route.
Maybe this is the uncomfortable reset we need.
For decades, Nigeria has been bleeding its brightest minds to the diaspora. Doctors, engineers, tech experts, academics all gone. And from abroad, many have turned into social media analysts of a country they no longer directly endure. It’s easy to criticise Nigerians from a place where electricity is stable and security is guaranteed.

Now imagine a scenario where stricter immigration policies push a significant number of Nigerians back home.
What happens?
Do we collapse further or does it force a civic awakening?
Because here’s the hard truth: Nigeria’s biggest problem is not lack of talent. It’s lack of collective confrontation of bad governance. If even a fraction of globally exposed Nigerians return with structure, capital, and systems thinking, that could either disrupt the status quo or clash violently with it.
Of course, returning alone doesn’t magically fix institutional decay. Corruption is systemic. Power is entrenched. But pressure changes equations.
The diaspora has long been Nigeria’s safety valve. If that valve tightens, the pressure stays inside.
That pressure will either explode destructively… or reshape the country.
It will either make or mar Nigeria. Perhaps Africa.

Toolegit123:
They wanna make it look like Nigeria is the worst place to live in.

Nigeria seems to be in a state where it has become a present-day example of hardship. Nigeria could be used to terrify people more like, “If you don’t sit up, we will send you to Nigeria.” Or others in court could be sentenced to serve their term living in Nigeria.
I.e., “This is my judgment: 30 years in Nigeria,”

OriOko88:
So wat later happened?

We lived happily ever after.

Recently, I reconnected with a lady I used to be close to years ago, someone I genuinely cared about and felt protective over. When I saw her again, she had changed in the best way. She seemed more confident, more appealing, and I felt it might finally be the right time to explore what we never did back then.
I invited her over, and she came. The vibe felt familiar. the laughter, the ease, the chemistry. It almost felt like time hadn’t passed. Naturally, I made an advance, but she turned me down. I tried again gently, but she remained firm.
I’m not someone who believes in persuading or pressuring a woman once she has said no, so I pulled back immediately. To me, consent is simple, if it’s not given freely, it’s not worth negotiating.
Later, she approached me and asked why I didn’t question her reaction. I told her honestly that she didn’t owe me an explanation. It was her choice, and I respected it. She then asked if I was angry. I wasn’t. Disappointed maybe, but not angry.
That’s when she opened up about 2021. She reminded me that back then, she had once asked me for a kiss, and I declined. She said that rejection affected her deeply at the time, even mentally. And now, in a way, she wanted to “even the score.” She admitted she wanted me to feel what she felt and that a part of her still resented me.
Hearing that made me realize this wasn’t really about the present moment. It was about unresolved emotions from the past.
It made me reflect on how differently people process rejection. What may have been a simple boundary for me back then carried a heavier emotional weight for her. And now, what seemed like chemistry in the present was layered with old hurt that had never fully healed.

Jayhome24:
Your cry just started you go cry till 2099 as God live. Iseeh!!!

Over and over again... THRASH

Jayhome24:
Mr Metusellah the ancient of days Mr Old man fact always unappealing though... so your validation not needed its null and void.

Thanks..

Again, thrash. Not surprised though.

This could be Helinues, muyico, salewa97, Burop, yarimo or so. Anyone among this folks who didn't comment today is obviously the one. Their reasoning is all thesame.

Jayhome24:
E pain you ba?

Get sense first before posting anything, ok

Boy, I wasn't the one you quoted, your post was just so unappealing I needed to let you know.