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bukatyne:
Do.you think marrying later would have changed the required responsibilities?

Even if you married at 40yrs after 'enjoying your bachelorhood', you would be faced with same or more responsibilities, more pressure and less energy.

Good you have identified an hobby; you can start with solo weekend trips to recharge. Also ensure madam's hobbies are factored in and done so she doesn't also feel burnt out.

Goodluck.

Baba if you marry late and know what you're doing, responsibility no dey end but you will easily find your way through it. Most responsibilities are financial. A pastor once told me some 5 years ago that marriage is what will make me good financially, I told him tarrrh na better investment as a single would. Most financially risk and investment responsible singles take the married ones can't. Imagine you having 20m as a single, if you know your onions and you're disciplined, you would turn it to 40m in a couple of months, as a married na to first slice am commot school fees, house keep, in-law welfare and other baggages involved in marriage.


Over and over again, I will always tell any single reading this to invest and make good money before marriage. And also invest in your education to a very reasonable length as marriage won't give the chance and you only build on what you have as a single. Apart, marriage as E stand no get late comer. Whatever you invest on can be modified and built on in marriage. But if vice versa, well God bless your soul.

Skyview01:
Also, when i go out, i get lots of phonecalls, daddy where are you? When are you coming back.

Sometimes i like to travel and vacation alone which i will start this year.

This is my biggest fear about getting married. My fiancee come still clingy and like lovey lovey. I'm so scared I won't be able to take the risks I take again financialwise and other aspect. Mehn I'm so scared of loosing myself.


Btw my fiancee is abroad and she's the type that can call 10 times in a day Double on a Sunday.

olasaad:
Anyways but I think guys look more responsible in senator than jean

That's the problem, 90 percent of ladies don't like responsible men. They prefer the bad ones and lament all men are dogs. A lady left me some years back as I'm not the flashy kinda person. She ended up getting pregnant for one area guy well known for his popularity without brains. This days I don't even like replying to her messages on WhatsApp as she laments all the time about her dude. She's now officially a baby grumpy baby mama

gratefulheart:
is it for you or a client? what is the budget? what size of hotel is needed?

I'm the client. Drop your WhatsApp details.

Mozino007:
chat me up on 07062357770,it’s available in osogbo

Okay

gratefulheart:
which state (s) in Southwest do you have in mind?

I'm opened to any. As long as it's within southwest.

If you have or know about any fuel station or hotel in the Southwest for lease, kindly quote me here hopefully we can deal.


Anywhere at all in the southwest.

yakflowz:
Distress Sale
Condition- Excellent
Neat interior
Powerful speakers
AC chilling
Trim- SE
Buy and Drive
Location-Abuja
Price- 2.7m

No contact details or anything.

adebisi00700:
I was bringing down tears, while reading this. It's well, thank you for your advice sir! I'm at a point where I have lost all hope.....is more than just charcoal, I recieved a news month back that wrecked me. It has to do with health, but is going to be fine! It's well

Work on your health first bro. I'm a business owner and I can tell you one good thing, there are always good times and bad times in business. it's more like a rollercoaster. As a fact, most business folks experience more bad times and few good. At some point, I once thought of suicide when things went really bad. But thank God for my mum who is constantly reminding me of God's promises. Trust me, some days you will look back and understand this are just scars of victory.


Enjoy

This isn't a scam at all, just a case of misunderstanding. I don't believe the Adebisi is a scammer. I'm into business so most atimes I can say things don't go as mostly planned. I once had a client money at hand running into millions and things didn't go as we planned it will. Good thing the client was understanding and educated. We came to a compromise and in a short time, we came to terms and we still run business till today.


Adebisi0070, take the back seat for now, restrategise on your business skills, learn more bout it and work on being the best version you crave.

mokset123:
no agent fee

And no pictures or year

hefelove:
I love the fact that Mumcy goes any length to support you financially.

That's the definition of family to me. A pity marriage kinda ostracized my eldest sister but me and my first wife (mum) na bread and Nutella. Funny thing as I'm typing this she just sent me list of her monthly needs. She wise pass devil as she will collect it in cash from myself and other siblings.

Greatn3ss:
What is that particular thing that you bought or that project you carried out that really affected your bank account?

Mine was last 2 years when I acquired a land, up till now I've not recovered from it. And funny enough they are presently dragging the land with me but its well

I have alot but 2 major instances.

I was young and naive and my mum was like I needed to start planning my live etc. I was in my early 20s but I was blessed.


So I saw this house for 35m, it was a perfect bungalow in ibadan in a very descent area if not the best estate till now. Business was booming so I decided to follow mamas advise that you ain't getting younger do a capital project. I had like 25m as per total worth, and I'm like make I shook head. Na so I follow the agent talk before you know mumcee Don Carry me enter her association to collect 5m loan she also had 5m for me. Within month I paid almost 45m. 10 percent to my lawyer 10 percent to the agent and some other land use act then. Oboy for months I didn't recover. Na that time business no come like before. Where I dey make money again I got transferred out. I wan die. I was using my salary to service like 2 different loans still it wasn't enough. My personal business no dey move. As in ehnnnn.


Las Las after almost a year I recovered but not after becoming wiser. The lesson I learnt is don't rush into buying personal properties. If it's for business, go ahead but invest before planning. This days the house just dey there. I'm not married, my fiancee no even dey within arms reach. I fit no reach the house in 6month. It was really not worth it. If I invested the money into business as at then, chances are I would have doubled it within that period and by now I for even buy better and bigger house



2nd was when I got my an hotel. Some 2 years ago. I was already in my mid 20s. Na so person talk am for my mum ear hotel business dey sell and even showed her one for sale somewhere in the Southwest. Being the only guy mumcee called and did everything possible to sell the idea. She even called my fiancee who is abroad and told her I'm being intrasigent. As I had my eye in another sector for investment and my japa. Las Las I took the idea as per hotel no dey short. Price was 50m. We begged till 38m and I'm to pay twice. Mumee loaned me quarter of it as she will be using the big supermart beside the gate to make money. We Sha buy. It's being two years now and have not recovered. Sure hotel business dey pay as no how no how people go do short time and drink beer + buy for their banny. But nepa bill alone ehnnnnnnn. No regret on this Sha as within 3 years I should be able to get the capital back.

midehi2:
, your fat waist...

Coming from a supposed woman judging from the moniker.....


You forgot this is body shaming. You are just filled with hate and so toxic. I wonder what you will pass down to your wards

No number to call or text. And is the body painted?

I thought this guy was looking at Senate presidency.

SwissMass:
Regret abi na maggot, sorry her name is MaggotRegret Obi

Must you guys descend this low in the name of playing politics. Cmon

AgentGoat:
This is a format we used in dropping number on nairaland. It's for privacy purpose. If you want help person help am and quit this shanengen

Shenanigans? Really?


Do you just throw words around because it sounds good that way to you?

9jagovernor:
0.9.one.5.nine.1.2.seven.9.seven.5

Thank u

Even if this is an interview you failed already. I asked for your contact details and you feel it's fun to type in words and numbers.


I wish you well.

9jagovernor:
I have Bs.c in Computer science (2.1).
I am being paid 45k with almost everything going into transport and food.

I believe a well well paying job for a 29 yr old like me should be something 100k and above

Drop your WhatsApp details.

9jagovernor:
In what seems to be an opportunity for me to secure a better job turned to a bitter experience for me.

I saw an advert of a job opening from a recruiting agency on may 2nd and I applied, by may 17th I received a mail telling me to come for interview the next day at Anthony in Lagos whereas I live in Ogun state.

I checked my pocket and I was sad cos the money I saw won't even be able to transport me to interchange on the expressway. So I result to borrowing transport fare and think of what excuse I'll take from my place of work.
Reason I wanted a change of work is because it's a job I'm just doing not be be idle at home cos I've not been able to save anything from it for the past 2 and half months as I'm been paid a meager salary. I'm only able to save money for food and transportation.

I borrowed 3k from a friend and set to journey to Lagos on Thursday, as soon as we got to long bridge heading to berger, we found ourselves in this regular massive hold up leading all the way to Berger bustop.

The interview was set at 10 am and it was already 8am and I'm still trapped in traffic, I saw people jumping on bike and I tried reasoning them too, I was told it's 1k to berger. I got no choice than to speak to my leg. I couldn't believe I could trek all the way from long bridge to Otedola bridge after Berger all because I couldn't afford to board a bike and so as to be able to make it to the interview on time.

Another dilemma set it when I wanted to board bus to Anthony from otedola bridge after Berger and conductors were shouting Oshodi 500, Abiola garden 300, Secretariat 300, 7up 300, Mile-2 1000, I was just dumbfounded and didn't know what else to do. When I found out that those driver's won't reduce their price I had no other option than to board a bus going to Anthony like that at the rate of 500.
Arriving at the venue, it wasn't hard to locate, I met some other candidates too and others joined later.
Shortly after, a man came and introduced himself and ushered us into another location where there were chairs and tables already arranged.
To cut the long story short, we were given questions to answer in a sheet of paper and thereafter called one by one for oral interview with a woman (the boss).

Some people came out shortly after going in and some were given form to fill of which I later discovered to be Employment form and guarantor form. I was praying I should be given too.
It was finally my turn and the woman asked series of questions of which I responded well to but after everything I wasn't given any form to fill. I was so sad and devastated.
I left the premises feeling bad, angry and depressed.... I began reminiscing about my life, at another failure. I started walking aimlessly from Anthony down to Oworo on the highway, I hadn't eaten anything that day but I lost appetite, I didn't even know what else to do.

I had attended some interviews in Lagos few times without success and failing this also made me shed hot tears as I was walking aimlessly yesterday.

I got home and all my body was aching me especially my legs coupled with a serious headache, I couldn't sleep well last night.
just remembering the whole thing made me cry. I cried to bed last night cos I'm just fed up.
I am aging, most of my mates are doing well for themselves with better paying jobs and here I am without a good source of income and no savings.
It's really tiring and frustrating at the same time. Don't know what else to do.
Even if I'm to to start a business,I will still need capital so I have to work first.

Pls If God lay it on your heart to help me with a good paying job, I will be more glad, I just need to get out of this my present situation. I'm tired. I do feel depressed thinking about my life.

What is your qualification?

How much are you being paid in this present job?

What is your definition of a good paying job?

Fabulozz:
As titled above. I made the worst mistake in my life impregnating my baby mama for the second time. She and her mother had given me so much trouble in the past. I don't even know what came out of me to start sleeping with her again. Boom she is pregnant and has refused to abort.

She want me to pay her brideprice or else she will tell my wife. If only I had control my manhood I would have not found myself in this terrible situation.

What should I do now mature advice please?

Poison her bro

Sonnobax15:

I've been having this particular conversation with my current banny over some time now...

If you haven't come to terms on it, she's not worth marrying.

2.7 ready buyer.

Jakumo:
Wonderment. When I been dey talk am say big belle no good for man pikin to dey carry like 9-months woman pregnancy, some lazy people go dey argue say dem no get time for exercise. As me I dey exercise reach, eh, na only hunter dog go fiti cash me for 200 meters hurdle inside thick bush, and na only crocodile go fiti cash me for swim matter inside river.

Bullet go fit catch you.

Jakumo:
Chai. If no be dat James Bond driving when you take commot for dat ambush, you for don meet yasef for inside bush under gun.

Funny thing my brother was kidnapped that same month in one village between ondo and ekiti. They collected 20m ransom. To think I no know that Bros get that kind money for hand. He also used reverse, but badluck as e try manuever with reverse and sharp turn car slide inside pit. Bros try run but hit gym e no gree na so so big Belle. Baba no reach 50m when dem catch am. Na him car we see when we dey try trace am second day with bullet holes on the bonnet.


They checked his account and confirmed e get 15m for account,. They asked him to call his wife and told him to be honest with how much e can afford. Dude said 20m


When he called that day,. Oga be like I was arrested but put your mind at rest they are treating me fine 😁😁😁. Baba dey talk under duress. We no even tell police till we pay ransom. They released him to us that same day. Nigeria as gone to the dogs sha

Let me share this, it happened between kabba and obajana last year November.

Was around 5pm and I was enroute Lagos for an urgent business meeting. Anyone who knows that route will appreciate the speed breaker dangote constructed and how plentiful police mount check point on the road In almost every 2km. That evening was a little different. Few police road block and all and after a while I noticed cars weren't coming so I took a chill pill while I reduced my speed considerably. Car was a 2016 Accord. At some point I noticed cars were parked up ahead and I noticed folks were outside. Looked more like a police check point or so. But I reduced my speed to like 50 just to double check and about reaching the corner I noticed 2 cars were already attacked na so I use reverse dey go. Gun shot sound no move me as adrenaline don over secrete. I use reverse Waka like 3km with heavy gunshot cars behind me noticed and started thesame, some were trying to make a u-turn. I got the chance and Jesus took the wheels as I used reverse to make a sharp turning and matched down hard in the gas pedal. Oboy I reach obajana come park. Other cars too. No security men was in sight. We waited for like 1hr before a police truck passed and we all followed through. Na so God saved my ass. They ended up kidnapping 4 people and killing one that day.



2nd was between mokwa and makara