₦airaland Forum

madridguy:
As far as I know, Supreme Leader Khamenei and Prez Pezeshkian are ALIVE — Araghchi

Ayatollah is safe somewhere reciting the glorious Quran.

Meanwhile, Trump has reportedly asked Iran for a ceasefire via Italy.

I think you will fit in perfectly well. I'm talking of Iran. I wonder why you can't go defend what you love so dearly

I need a 2007 Honda accord Nigerian used that is smooth enough to run through down for a teenage driver. Good budget though

LordIsaac:
Ok, we shall wait to hear from both sides in detail!

You edited the place you were talking about your mum?

Sonnobax15:
that's why I so much love the way our forefathers did their own things. Standing and swearing before a deity,and if you aren't innocent,na you come sabi. Apart from that, depending and believing the Nigerian police to dish out a credible investigation is only but a waste of time.

And who told you deities don't collect bribe? Or their handlers? Even God was so pleased with David by the way he praises him that he gave him more grace upon his numerous capital sins.

Fearurcreeator:
I can guarantee you that he is making money than 50% of NIGERIANS but those guys spends a lot on women unnecessarily but looking for who to blame. Some carry responsibility wey no concern then

I'm not to tell him how he spends is money as I wasn't the one who taught him how to make it. But with the new economy meltdown and soar in prices of food, if dude spends 200k on frivolities before, I doubt he will be able to spend 5k now in this present regime. Purchasing power is gone, tax and tariff is above speed limit and many more. To me, dude just expressed what he feels first hand.

7.4m? Haba

IGBOPROMISE1:
See as names just dey drop like water!?

Funny thing is if a Yoruba man like the OP is crying like this, wetin he wan make Igbo man do!?

I'm Yoruba. The op's brain is just clustered with tribalism without knowledge.

muyico:
I do share 20k
To beggars
What do you take for?

Start with your family members.

phemray:
Yes, but the truth is that it means many things. It means a remark for someone that u can not beat but always beating you blue black. Lolzz

It someone u don't like but always ahead of you etc

I can't even comprehend what you're insinuating

Difrent:
Una said worst about PMB
Not only did he win second term, he even installed a successor
Na only Una and Una foolish followers gurgitate this nonsense all the time

You folks think when we clamour for a better Nigeria it’s because we’re hungry or desperate. Lol. Tinubu has failed; the economy is in misery. Yet some of us still enjoy our daily bread, with more to spare.

We don’t speak out because we’re broke. We speak out because we’re patriotic. We want good governance and a nation that works.
Some of you sycophants haven’t even had a balanced diet today, yet you’re online defending the same system that keeps you struggling. In another thread, we saw a known sycophant like Muyico celebrating seeing ₩10,000 like it was a life-changing breakthrough. Tomorrow, he’ll still passionately defend the very leadership under which his purchasing power has collapsed and he’ll still pose as a “family man” in the comments.

Make it make sense.
Y’all need to stop this partition politics and learn to call a spade a spade. This isn’t about tribe or party it’s about the future of your children and generations to come. Blind loyalty won’t build a nation. Accountability will.
It reminds me of one guy in my church a die-hard Tinubu supporter. He even fought an elderly man in church because the man made a derogatory remark about his “personal lord and saviour.” Ironically, he’s unemployed, while the man he insulted is a Director of Administration in a federal parastatal.
I kept wondering how unreasonable someone has to be before subscribing to that level of sycophancy. Supporting a politician is one thing; losing all sense of objectivity is another.

At the end of the day, leadership should be questioned, not worshipped. Nigeria deserves better and demanding better is not a crime.

Burkina Faso have no business there. It's relatively more peaceful than present day Nigeria. Maybe it made the list due to the military regime.

Dude was expressing the depth of his heart. No filter, no motives, no camera. Just how he feels naturally.

I'm always on 35psi. Max 38psi if it's a long trip.

Tafa Balogun

Sunday Adewusi

Ehindero from ondo




You folks and what politics will do to your reasoning ehnn

muyico:
pls, what the rate of this Korean money ,I found in a cloths ,b4 I demolished my papa Hux🤔🤔

All that chest-beating, but na okrika pocket miracle dey excite you?
From known sycophant and wannabe economist to bend-down select economist real quick.
Sycophancy no dey pay salary, apparently.

kpankpangolo:
In another thread, this one will claim that he can feed Dangote’s whole generation. Person wey wealthy, na okrika he dey wear? ROFLMAO.

Tinubu uncles junior brother's friend.

How do children cope with wayward parents?
The scary part is that in 10–20 years, this won’t even sound like a question it will be normal.


This generation will become fathers and mothers. And the lifestyles we’re casually defending today like internet fraud, sex for money, anything-for-the-bag culture etc won’t magically disappear.

What you practice consistently becomes who you are permanently. Values don’t switch overnight because a child is born.
When compromise becomes survival, and survival becomes identity, what exactly are we passing down?
A society doesn’t collapse in one loud moment. It erodes quietly when wrong becomes common and common becomes acceptable.
The real question isn’t how children cope.
It’s what kind of adults we’re intentionally manufacturing.

Misplaced priorities if you ask me.


We went for a burial and someone suggested we “mint” ₦50k so we could spray ₦75k.
I asked a simple question: Why throw away ₦20k just to impress people for a few minutes?
I dismissed the mint guy, sat down, enjoyed the party, and after everything, I called our friend and asked for her account number. I sent her ₦70k directly.
Later, I told her I would have sprayed ₦50k at the price of ₦70k
I asked her, Which would you prefer me spraying ₦50k and losing ₦20k to showmanship, or you receiving the full ₦70k?
She said, you this calculating people ehnnn.


That’s my confusion with this culture. Why do many Nigerians place so much value on minting and spraying money just for optics? What exactly does it add prestige? validation? noise?
If the goal is to bless someone, bless them properly.
If the goal is to impress people, then let’s call it what it is.
Sometimes it’s not about being stingy it’s about being intentional.

Cutezt:


Allegedly o, make dem no go carry me, I no get money for case.

The daughter you spoke bout is currently abroad, I believe she should be back to Abuja next month. If this is true, send a PM.

Cutezt:
Yes!

While we were kids, we had this flat behind our house we usually give out for rent, one day, a family of about 8 moved in, among them was a young boy my age, I remember asking him where he was going to on the very first day I saw him walking down the street, and he told me he wanted to go pick up some things in their old house, we were about 8-9 years old then and I remembered escorting him. I chop beat that day when I returned as they were already looking for me, anyways, we became very close with the entire family, we sleep in their flat sometimes and they sleep in ours too, we ate together, played together, basically as one big family, but one day, they moved out to a bigger apartment like 15 kilometers away, yet it didn't stop our bond, we still saw each other very often, slept in each other's houses, played games together and ate together like normal.

Around 2014, I moved to Lagos, we still kept a good relationship and spent time together anytime I am back home for the holidays, around 2018, I suddenly heard from a mutual friend that he has moved to China to school. This was someone we still chat and speak often with o, I was disappointed that he had that plan but never voiced it to me, but I didn't let that stop our friendship, he messaged me and we spoke for long hours together very often, but suddenly, I noticed he stopped picking up my calls, and stopped calling me too, I was surprised cos we've not had any issues, neither have I ever begged him for 1 naira, in fact, I was the one sending little tips here and there to numbers and accounts he asks me to, without even expecting payment. I tried reaching out a couple of times but heard nothing, I was scared something had happened to him, so I reached out to a mutual friend who confirmed they spoke just a few days ago, I tried reaching out again but no response, so I just deleted his number and continued living my life.

Last year, I heard he has moved to the UK about 2 years ago and he even borrowed a huge amount from that mutual friend to finalize his movement, and he was yet to pay back, I knew because the mutual friend complained to me about it. He called the mutual friend last year while we were together on the 31st night and I bluntly told the mutual friend I am not interested in speaking to him, cos he asked how I was alongside a couple of other people, the mutual friend said he always asks about me anytime they speak, yet he is on my IG, almost always online and he has not messaged me, neither have I messaged him since 2021.

Make everybody dey their own abeg, nobody dey feed anybody, don't know why he ghosted, but then, I don't care, I'm doing very very well for myself here and have never begged him for anything. I understand say we no be 'smallie' again, trouser don add length, so I'm not angry at him, I am just not interested in friendship anymore.
Everytime I am back home and visit the market, I check his elder sisters who have shops all around the market and we greet and talk well. I plan to go visit the parents with a few gifts this Xmas, but as far as that friendship is concerned, I'm not interested.


Story 2

While we were kids, I had this close friend, he had an uncle who lived a few streets away from ours, the man got married to my friends mum's immediate younger sister, he was struggling but managing life, we used to visit their house often, they had 2 female children and my naive mind was even liking the youngest daughter. After sometime, the man moved out of the state with the family, today, he is a serving governor in the South, always in the news for all the wrong reasons. I don't expect anything from them cos they only knew me because I escort my friend to their house often, however, my issue is that that my friend is struggling badly back home. He is a graduate with good grades, but yet to get a good paying job.
During the campaign for the governor, I messaged my friend and told him clearly that I was not rooting for his uncle o especially because of the party he is in, he just laughed and said if the uncle wins, he may be able to set him up, and I remember telling him not to get his hopes high.

Today, the uncle is almost finishing his first tenure as governor and early this year, my friend said the only money his mum has ever received from them was 50k, the uncle doesn't even pick calls, he only chats with the daughter who rolls around with the top APC politicians, snapping pictures and going to events up and down alongside her father.

This your story 2, why do I feel I know the governor you're talking about. I'm thinking sending a pm as it's a small world.

Hhh4444:
I believe this your story die. Human being dey very unpredictable

Loyalty isn’t tested when nothing is involved; it’s tested when power is tasted.

sheeda995:
Lol, but he was very young to be honest, I don't think that counts. You should tell him what happened and forgive each other. He was also a child and most people abroad weren't doing well. Most teenagers abroad has lots of problems when they arrive and some often go psychotic. I think you should tell him and forgive him

He may have been a kid, but he acted his mind. Relocating didn’t erase loyalty he consciously denied someone who shared his home and childhood. it was a choice, likely rooted in insecurity or social climbing. Childhood explains it, but it doesn’t completely excuse it. And there’s every chance that same mindset simply matured with him.

Peter comes to mind.


Early 2000s. We were kids close childhood friends. Our mums worked at the same place. We spent alternating weekends in each other’s houses. Him and his brothers would stay with us, we’d stay with them. We attended the same primary school. It was that kind of bond family-level closeness.
Then his mum got the opportunity to relocate to greater London. This was even before the whole japa wave became a thing. While she was sorting herself out, they stayed with us. Eventually she came back for her husband and kids, and off to London they went.
We lost contact for about a year.
One day, my mum said, “You people want to speak with the Babatopes?” We were excited me and my siblings. Childhood friends reconnecting after relocation? Sweet moment, right?
Wrong.
Peter and his siblings denied knowing us.
Flat out.
Asking “Who is this?” When I tried explaining, he acted like he had no idea who I was. My mum was shocked. I was a boy almost entering my teenage years, and my supposed best friend more like a brother that I already used to brag to my friends around erased me like I never existed.







That day stayed with me.
Fast forward about 15 years later. He wanted to come to Nigeria for something and needed help with security and accommodation. He reached out through my mum.
At that time, I was in the UK on course at Sandhurst.
I took my pound of flesh.
I feigned complete ignorance. Said I wasn’t even in the country. His mum called, acting surprised that I didn’t “know” them. The irony was loud.
Eventually I returned to Nigeria after my program. He was still around and tried reaching out to meet up. But that childhood hurt stuck with me. I cut ties completely.
Maybe people change. Maybe kids do silly things. But one thing I know is this if he had met me in a place where I wasn’t doing well, I doubt he would’ve wanted to reconnect.
Some people remember you only when you’re useful or successful.
I don’t hate him. I just believe in energy matching energy.

Ikorodu Celine Dion. The name sticks

It's the love at home for me.

DMCA:
As if dem no do same under Yaradua, Jonathan and buhari too?
Even under Obasanjo, Militants dey for Niger delta. in fact militancy exist during Abacha time sef.

See how another human is defending this callous act in a bit to sound bright and stay loyal to a political party. So disheartening.

Hopefully it doesn’t end in tears.


Before anything, how long have you been married? That matters more than people admit. A 6-month marriage is different from a 7-year tested one. Time reveals character, loyalty, and stability.
Now to the real issue.
Marriage is partnership, yes but leadership requires foresight. You cannot outsource your own advancement. If you weaken yourself trying to empower the system, the system eventually collapses.

An MSc strengthens you. And if you’re strong, your home is strong.
Let’s be honest: relocation changes people. New environment, new exposure, new options. Some couples thrive. Some don’t survive it. That’s reality.


Ask yourself this,
If the roles were reversed, would she logically choose your advancement over hers?
Don’t answer emotionally. Answer honestly.
Build yourself first. Stabilize. Then move your wife in with structure and control not hope.
A wise man plans beyond love. He protects his future before testing loyalty.