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Pastor Okonkwo is and will never be a pastor. He's just a motivational speaker. I think the problem is the title pastor as been so dragged in the mud that every dick n Harry now uses it.
Mr okonkwo is and will never be a pastor so also many supposed men of God. I think the leadership the Christian body needs to checkmate the title.

Nigeria..... The only place a man without wristwatch will check to see if the wristwatch you're wearing is fake.

Burob yarimo helinues salewa97 muyico



They all left the group chat.

NNAMDIII:
you get mind dey tell senior officer say him like striking, and his problem is massage, hmmmm


@captainstephen, e good as you no even reply am

You don't know me. If captain Stephen is a personnel and he's of the rank on his moniker, then it's not assumption.

Thought they said it's AI

Him tool for don run inside. That thing Na genuine coward. He wanted sex, now he can always get it unhindered even twice on a Sunday. Us wey no gree give girl belle we be full ba. Body go tell am.

It's really heartbreaking seeing smaller afriican nations who couldn't hold a torch for Nigeria now far ahead of us. That Namibia diss comes to mind and the ishowspeed portrayal of Nigeria in a raw and unfiltered form

festacman:
No more Monday sit-at-home in Anambra State.

Punch can report whatever they want.

You Siddon for festac dey hustle your pay per comment, Joke of an entity.

Wike realising he's got no place in APC and also falling out in the marriage of convenience between himself and BAT needs a soft landing as he might be out of power soon.


You destroyed PDP since it favours you and wants a reconciliation knowing full well the place you had in mind already gave you the middle finger.

From my experience in life, I believe juju exists, but not in the exaggerated way many people imagine. Its strongest effect works through fear, belief, and coincidence.
Many times, when things go wrong, people already know the real human causes but still prefer a spiritual explanation. Businesses fail due to poor management, bad partners, debt, family pressure, stress, or bad timing but once juju is mentioned, all those factors get ignored.
Take the case of a husband who later confesses that he destroyed his wife’s business. In reality, the same husband may have been unsupportive, jealous, leaking business information, draining money, discouraging her, or causing emotional stress. By the time the business collapses, a “spiritual confession” becomes the easiest explanation.
Fear then finishes the job. Once the woman believes she has been spiritually attacked, her confidence drops, she second-guesses decisions, avoids opportunities, and every small setback feels like confirmation. Coincidences that would normally be ignored now look like evidence.
Humans are also wired to connect events emotionally. If someone threatens you spiritually and something bad happens months later, the mind links the two even when there’s no clear connection.
That doesn’t mean nothing spiritual exists, but it means not everything is spiritual. Sometimes it’s human behavior, psychology, timing, and pressure wearing a spiritual mask.

Hoelujohn:
Those of you complaining, do you know this will also generate employment for welders and printers

So-called leaders of tomorrow.

Wish nature can purge itself.

nnamdi640:
Better still let her support the guy, I don't know why some lady can be this selfish, if she wants to sew based on her own taste, what stop her from adding her own money.

Well I guess you attract your kind.

GOFRONT:
Now this man here want to come and reap where he did not sow.


Ekwu eme crooner Incidence share similarity with this.

Reap what? Do those kids look like they can afford him a slippers still? Y'all comment too emotionally. If you're a guy I pray you never be with a lady that will turn your kids against you.

A friend went through this, when he spoke with is dad after 19 years and he heard the father side of the story and how the mum locked him up twice, dude was in denial as its opposite of everything he thinks is dad stood for

Double0h7:
It’s really very simple; can you afford to throw the wedding she wants? A girl looks forward to her wedding day. Yes, it’s only one day blah blah blah, but it’s her one day. I think if you down play it and make her feel stupid for wanting to celebrate you two becoming one then you’ll start your marriage with a resentful wife. How old is she?

You really need to be honest and transparent with her. Promise her an amazing one year anniversary or something so she feels special to you. Don’t turn your marriage into the battle of the sexes! Find a good compromise with your girl. What she wants isn’t out of the ordinary but you need to be honest with her and try to find a middle ground.

But what's it with ladies and dream marriage they can't afford. Respectfully, a major red flag for me is a lady with a fantasy marriage which she expects the guy to sponsor.

Omenlon:
see beer parlour analysis. Even dafts are expert in every issues on social media.

Facts like your folks at home I suppose.

PDP is dead. Wike will go down politically with PDP. APC won't admit him in unless it will wants to go up in flames,

once Wike is relieved if his ministerial post, His political relevance dies as well as the PDP he systematically killed, which won't be worth a ward winning party by then.

muyico:
All lands belong to government
Governor gave order
Una ignored am
He gat all power to shut it down

You're back to your old ways, I suppose you forget go change moniker yesterday when you commented on the kidnapping thread.

immaculatesense:
Oga na master.
But this Olayinka get bad mouth Sha ooo.
Him mouth to sharp.
Do not forget, " He is the husband of Rufai Oseni of Arise TV (Animal Anatomist)."

No Be Juju Be Dat?

Irony of your moniker, hopefully your liters and mind don't share same space. I believe they don't deserve to take after your reasoning.

muyico:
So our defend operative can't tracks the IP address?? But if person insult presido online, they knw how to catch him or her

Muyico you were a die hard Tinubu supporter, you don turn wailer? Abi hunger don touch you.

What's Lagos doing on that list though.

Yarimo, helinues salewa97.


Y'all said food prices are down.... Which is which? Or y'all will argue Akpabio is using irony in this statement?

What Ishowspeed showed is closer to the median Nigerian reality, not the curated “Africa Rising” Instagram reel. Congested streets, chaos, hustling, noise, improvisation that’s not an insult, that’s daily life for at least 6 out of 10 Nigerians, Anybody arguing otherwise is either insulated by privilege or being dishonest.
The problem is this:
Nigeria is always over-represented by its extremes.
When it’s good, we project Lekki, Banana Island, private jets, and Afro-luxury
When it’s bad, we act shocked when outsiders see disorder, poverty, survival mode
Meanwhile, the average Nigerian lives somewhere in between:
No steady power
Informal economy
Public infrastructure barely functioning
Hustle mentality because there’s no safety net
That’s not “poverty porn.” That’s statistics and lived experience.

If you really want “balance,” take him to Kawo, Sabon Gari, Kano ancient city, let him see:
Almajiri system
Street learning
Religious discipline mixed with neglect
Cultural depth and systemic failure side by side
That too is Nigeria.
Not prettier. Not uglier. Just true.
What annoys people is not that Speed “misrepresented” Nigeria, it’s that he bypassed our filters. No PR team. No tourism board. No “please don’t record here.” Just raw access.

Let’s stop talking from the two sides of our cheeks.
You can’t sell a fantasy abroad and then get angry when reality leaks out. A nation grows when it can own its contradictions without flinching.

AdvocateWriter:
They must be obedients. That's what they do best and come online bashing those who don't support them

This up here is a clear illustration to show how youth have lost all sanity. Imagine the write up and imagine what this comment is all about.

Guyman02:
We must commend Dangote for making the Christmas holidays easier for us with the price reduction.
We salute you

Your types are the problem of the country. I suppose to you good governance is a privilege not a right and it's okay to say even basic human right is a privilege

Dijita:
What you fail to mention is that not everyone have the opportunity you have as an officer. Go back and read my post. My response was specifically to the comment asking how those of us that Japa are different from Amala plate washer. You grew up in a house where you have a servant. Many Nigerians grew up in a household where it is difficult to eat three square meal. You are now in a position where you travelled to Uk on Taxpayers dime. How many Nigerians have such an opportunity? How many of your colleagues or people in your position sold their stuff to japa?
You as an officer expect to be impressed with the life of those you saw. How many Nigerians you saw on daily bases has an impressive life compare to yours?
I am not saying that everyone have to japa. It is the attitude that condemn and insult those that want to better their life through Japa because their life situation in Nigeria did not fulfill their life ambition.

It is also lack of understanding to compare the ambition of house servant from Benin and Okada rider from the North. Majority of those people does not have elementary school education compare to Nigerians with multiple degrees.

What I wrote earlier about the status of Nigerians in diaspora are not dreams. They are what is happening on daily basis. We all read and hear it in the news on daily basis.

Finally, in case you are in the position in Nigeria to be of help, I have relative kids with degree in chemistry and mechanical engineering. I have others but these are the one making me to be more upset with Nigeria because I know if they are here, I would be connecting them to those to sponsor their education back home instead of them being socially dependent/stagnated.

Finally,
What many people struggle with isn’t japa itself; it’s self-honesty.
A lot of people say “Nigeria is bad” in absolute terms, but what they often mean is:
“Nigeria doesn’t reward me in the way I expect, with the status I believe I deserve.”
That’s very different from saying “there is no work”.
The uncomfortable truth is that
Many people are willing to suffer quietly abroad doing jobs below their qualifications, living multiple people in one room, working long shifts but they are emotionally unwilling to do similar work in Nigeria because of pride, social judgment, and class perception.
Abroad, survival is framed as “hustle” and “dignity of labour.”
At home, the same effort is framed as “failure” or “wasted education.”
That’s not economics that’s psychology.
And that’s where the sentimentality comes in as Japa discussions quickly turn emotional because people feel judged, even when no judgment was intended. But sincerity requires asking hard questions:
Why is a job honorable abroad but shameful at home?
Why is struggle romanticized overseas but humiliating in Nigeria?
Why does “starting small” only make sense once you cross a border?
None of this denies that Nigeria has real, painful systemic problems. It does.
But pretending that mindset, ego, and social pressure play no role is being dishonest with ourselves.

Dijita:
What you fail to mention is that not everyone have the opportunity you have as an officer. Go back and read my post. My response was specifically to the comment asking how those of us that Japa are different from Amala plate washer. You grew up in a house where you have a servant. Many Nigerians grew up in a household where it is difficult to eat three square meal. You are now in a position where you travelled to Uk on Taxpayers dime. How many Nigerians have such an opportunity? How many of your colleagues or people in your position sold their stuff to japa?
You as an officer expect to be impressed with the life of those you saw. How many Nigerians you saw on daily bases has an impressive life compare to yours?
I am not saying that everyone have to japa. It is the attitude that condemn and insult those that want to better their life through Japa because their life situation in Nigeria did not fulfill their life ambition.

It is also lack of understanding to compare the ambition of house servant from Benin and Okada rider from the North. Majority of those people does not have elementary school education compare to Nigerians with multiple degrees.

What I wrote earlier about the status of Nigerians in diaspora are not dreams. They are what is happening on daily basis. We all read and hear it in the news on daily basis.

Finally, in case you are in the position in Nigeria to be of help, I have relative kids with degree in chemistry and mechanical engineering. I have others but these are the one making me to be more upset with Nigeria because I know if they are here, I would be connecting them to those to sponsor their education back home instead of them being socially dependent/stagnated.

I’m not trying to argue or dismiss anyone’s reality; I think this conversation just needs more nuance.
Having a domestic help doesn’t always equate to wealth or privilege. In many Nigerian homes, it was simply part of extended family arrangements, not necessarily a sign of comfort. So I don’t think it’s always fair to assume someone’s background from that alone.
On the issue of japa, I agree that not everyone has the same opportunities, and people’s choices are shaped by their circumstances. At the same time, I think it’s worth asking ourselves some honest questions. If opportunities present themselves, would most of us truly choose to stay back and build Nigeria, or would we also consider leaving? Opportunity tends to influence perspective, and that’s human.
Regarding graduates with degrees, I empathize deeply. Nigeria’s job market is extremely tough. Still, I’ve observed that many people are unwilling to start from anywhere outside their preferred field here, yet are more open to doing survival jobs abroad. There’s nothing wrong with dignity in labour, but it’s worth reflecting on why certain jobs are acceptable in another country and not at home.
A related question I often ask is this: are most people in the diaspora currently working strictly in what they studied in Nigerian universities? And if they were doing the same job in Nigeria, would it be viewed differently? These aren’t accusations, just points for reflection.
Nigeria undeniably has serious structural problems, no one can deny that. We also produce far more graduates than available jobs each year, which worsens the situation. While government policies play a huge role, I think there’s also room for personal responsibility and mindset shifts, especially around how we view work and enterprise.
So yes, Nigeria has its challenges, and many are valid reasons why people choose to leave. But I also believe that both systemic issues and societal attitudes contribute to where we are today. Recognizing both doesn’t invalidate anyone’s struggle it simply broadens the conversation.

Dijita:
The difference is we can afford to support relatives in Nigeria with upward of a $1000 a month. We can send our children to good schools without worrying about school fees, Our children can graduate high school and attend ivy league universities and universities that are better than any in Africa. Our children graduate universities and work to become top in their field, own businesses that put some of them in the top 5% in some of these countries.

Yes we started washing Amala but we did not remain there. We move up to be supervisors, managers, directors in government, tech, healthcare, entertainment companies. Many of our major issues is not the bills and taxes we are paying but the resources to support as many of our folks as possible in Nigeria including relatives children we have supported to go to college and graduate and still have no job.

This is not to say the OP has no point. My response is specifically to you that everyone in Nigeria has the opportunity you have to be asking us the difference between us and those washing Amala as washing Amala is some disease.

Just like the Cotonou folks with goals of a better life or those Okada riders from up north and niger Republic with hopes of building a house and going back to their states somedays. I specifically remember we once had an help back then, and those stuffs you wrote were her exact aims perhaps ambitions too.


Look, no disrespect to folks like yourself who go over there believing it amplifies a better life, we all can't just see it that way. Been to a couple of those countries for official related visitation (courses, trainings etc) and I saw the way y'all live especially some folks I met in Sandhurst. Trust me, I'm not impressed. I remember also having the japa syndrome at a early time in my career, I was called by a senior officer who had more experience and he had to let me understand how stupid I will be trying it. My last visit while on course to one of those places proved him right as I interacted with 2 Nigerians who we had deep convos and omohhhhhh, it was demystified. Most of those objectives you wrote up there can still be met even in Nigeria. I know a family who travels to UK and US like it's a ride in the yard, but still settles and works here.


No disrespect to y'all, not everyone will just sell up houses, close down businesses for a supposed heaven on earth.

Well said. When I was younger, I do see all this Benin folks coming in to Nigeria to work as househelps, then as a young adult, I witnessed hausas coming to southwest to dig well and other menial jobs. Now that I'm grown, I see hausas migrating to southwest as Okada riders etc.


When I hear Japa, I imagine those Cotonou girls washing Amala plates etc and I picture those Hausa boys doing Okada etc. And I'm always like is this what I want for myself? Their is dignity in labour but not all labour as dignity in it. For those that Japa, I guess they can withstand it and they're fine with it. For folks like me, I'd rather go abroad for holidays and as a tourist than go just for survival instincts. What's now the difference between y'all and those Cotonou girls in bukas.