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Adekunlegold9ja:
Yea I understand your point.
But It's not like I feel it's an entitlement. Just been pushed to the wall. I am not competing stories with any one.

I am really in very low point in my life right now. Not proud I am doing this but it is what it is.

It's really not easy for me. But I am just finding a means to survive. I have been frustrated to the point of being suicidal.

I joined this group 2020 and ever since I realised the essence of the this thread.

I know it's to build strong men....

Hi mate, just find a way to add values to people, money follow values, anything, just do, it's not easy anywhere.

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MindfulMan:
Good day brothers

please i want to ask some questions

how do one control emotion generally?

how do one be in genuine touch with the emotions, feelings, ego?

how do one develop ability to withstand the pressure instead of pressure flipping?

how do one control emotions that thoughts from the mind attached it self towards and before one could notice or realises it the emotions already had control the individual?

how do one face and withstand the intense emotional pressure when dealing with something at the moment like a man to man rapport or with a woman at the moment in order to dertermine who will pressure flip and who will survive the pressure instead of pressure flipping under intense emotional pressure

how do one control emotions
towards men, towards women, towards animals, towards places, towards things, towards life in general

i am talking about emotional control from within your internal self

i mean internal control not the external

exprienced Gees that have over come over to you

Ubunja, Martinez, Caveadullam, Emotions, Capslocked, Jeshal, Mjbolts, Zabiboy, Pansophist, Pukkalolo

what has been your experiences when dealing life in general


pls i will want you all to contribute

Don't ever take decision base on impulse. Always be calm, no matter what. Give yourself time to process things. I hope this helps.

infofirst:
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I don go too far to quit. We retire here.

Lol, Naso boss

naenaesosa:
Men i typically don't comment but this thread is priceless. Thanks to everybody that shared their TRP wisdom and experiences (good or bad). I have known about TRP for a while now but i won't lie i have broken frame a few times but that's neither here nor there. I am very angry at what's going on around me and in society.

I am an entrepreneur and most of my friends are as well by design because there's just something about risk takers and people that take their destinies into their own hands. A lot of us are married and what is going on around me is giving me the shivers.

* Friend A's marriage is over because business took a hit, wife works a 9-5, couldn't weather the storm with him and the insults started.
* Friend B's wife was recently caught cheating with a "bigger boy" with Gwagon. My friend is a hustling guy that drives the big yansh camry. Granted he married an instagram slay mama. I think she fell in love with the lifestyle of the gang (rolling together like a unit, child naming parties at each others houses etc and the trappings of having rich friends)
* Friend C's wife works in an oil company. He pays the bills and she keeps all her money. Business is suffered setbacks in 2020, asked wife for help she refuses but still managed to upgrade her car to the 2019 Lexus jeep.
* Before i got married, Friend D used to always borrow from me( and payback of course) . I used to find it strange that he did that because his wife is super rich, until the day i asked my wife (who works and doesn't pay any bills) to borrow me and she flat out said she doesn't have.
* Friend E and wife migrated to USA. Luckily she got a job first while my friend was just hanging doing menial jobs here and there. Over a few months, the disrespect started. She stopped buying groceries, she would just buy her own food to eat and go to bed. She has left him under just 2 years since moving to yankee.

I am pained for men. There's a massive conspiracy to emasculate men. Its like men's only value come from his bank account. Even in my brokest days i see things deeper and farther than my wife, and that made me realize a man's value is not only in money. He is GOD's masterpiece, a reflection of HIMSELF. Yahoo boys and politicians have created a massive bubble in the gender market. Women are overpriced and inflated because of a few participants in the market driving up their price.

Men out there, i feel your pain, i feel your struggle. I know that there's no unconditional love for you anywhere. I know you are shamed on the daily for circumstances outside your control. Please SELF DEVELOPMENT and ALPHA FRAME is the meat and potatoes of TRP, the rest is just veggies. A man should build an empire(no matter how small) and be the king there.

Happy sunday folks

Hmmm

nokia1000:
I am fully regretting marrying my wife. She is always right and doesn't take corrections.
She doesn't have sex drive. Prefer sleeping alone that she doesn't want someone body to touch her.
She is not serious in anything that can generate money.
I have made a lifetime mistake. Sometimes I feel like committing suicide to get free from regretting. I am seeing myself going down slowly.

Walk away... take your loss, and move on.

Agelastus:
I can never trust again.....swears

Lol

maziagu:
Good day Redpillers,hope we all are doing great in our different endeavors?I have been following this thread since last year and I can confidently tell you guys that my life has been impacted by this thread.I just registered today on Nairaland after being a visitor for years to show my appreciation to the contributors on this thread.Thanks to you all and God bless us all.Ubunja,cave,Martinez,heartofcity,CAPSLOCKED and other great contributors to this thread,you guys are life changers,God bless you all,from today I will be contributing my own quota to the group but most of my contributions are life events and stories that are relatated to the Redpill.Keep winning guys

U welcome mate

sinfultrust:
Been a redPiller for almost a year. I was going through heartbreak when I stumbled upon this thread and everything in my life changed drastically. It wasn’t easy but the results are massive. I bought my first car 3 days are ago, something I never thought possible. Last girl I dated was 27 and she pressured me to marry her by all means. I don’t have much but I was doing ok by myself before I met her. After few months of dating I found myself solving all her financial problems to the extent of supporting her family with financial aid. I’m an average Nigerian youth scraping to survive, I was blind to the fact that the only exchange I get in return for all my sacrifices was sex. Yes, I’m not gonna lie there were times she lend me money like 10k, 20, 5, 7 etc it goes on and on. Compared to what I’ve spent, I know I was on the losing end. Our relationship was hitting rock bottom fast because her demands was becoming outrageous and I was constantly broke to the extent of not having airtime or data. Come middle of last year she told me she’s going to NYC camp. That was when I started having guts feeling that our union is over or something crazy is about to happen. Before she leave for camp I got sick and she didn’t visit. Even though she knows I’m a lone wolf I’ve got no friends whatsoever she still didn’t visit. I was admitted at the hospital for a week, while I was going through WhatsApp status on hospital bed I saw a video of her in a party having the time of her life with friends. Honestly, that evening I cried, I felt betrayed I felt so many things I don’t even understand. I had no money for hospital bills so I told her to assist me with half of it if possible and she came through with half of it sent to hospital account. When I got out we talked for 3 good days on phone before I stumbled on this thread because I was already going crazy about the whole thing. I was searching the internet for answers, I was helpless and desperately in need of what to do next. Because, at the time I thought exiting the relationship would be childish or make me look immature. Long story short, this thread changed my life. I stopped contacting her and blocked her on both lines but not WhatsApp. I was expecting her to react but she didn’t contact me too. Months past, It was almost a year before she contacted me on WhatsApp on day, and said she just gave birth to a baby girl. I didn’t reply for 2 days and when I did reply it was just one word “congratulations” then she started asking how I’m doing, if everything is great and so on. My brother I didn’t respond. I know some of you think this thread is a joke but it’s not. In just a year of not being in any exclusive relationship I’m seeing transformers in my life. Nothing good comes easy, you wouldn’t know if you don’t try. My best and most reliable friend and partner is money and my skill to make money. I treat my hustle the way I used to treat girls, I don’t play with her. As a man my worth my beauty my affluence and everything goes down to what I have. So, if you’re here to fight and argue with others, you’re doing yourself more harm than good. I reversed my game with women I deal with. Strictly making all my dealings with them transactional. This is the best way for me, It might not work for you and of course everyone is different. The way you deal with Y is gonna be different from the way you deal with Z. But, whatever I do, I do it transactional. If she wants a favor from me that I can offer. Then, I want something from her too. No matter how small, she must do something in return except she’s family. Universal blessings to all brothers in the house and enjoy your weekend. Thank you

Congrats bruh...
Value your resources and peace of mind!!!

Emotionss:
They are quick to tell you that Men/Redpillers who choose to remain single will be lonely and miserable in old age but somehow they forgot to mention that 90% of married men are lonely and miserably depressed and most don't live long enough to be called old men unlike their single counterparts...

They said those that refused to marry will die a quick and lonely death as they will have Nobody to take care of them either in sickness or in Good health.
But they forgot to mention that statistically, the highest percentage of men that died from stress related issues, loneliness and depression between the age 35 to 70 years are married men...

Is it not somewhat suspicious that society expects the husband/father to die before the wife ?

As a men don't you find it strange that society acceptably expect married men to be afflicted with some kind of stress related sickness by the time they clocks 50 years and above.. All in the name of being a provider and a protector.

The number of married men from the age of 50 and above that are suffering from either HBP, waist or back pain, emotional terrorism, depression or Anxiety are 120 % higher than their single counterparts.....

How sad that society expect a married man to look tattered and malnourished while the wife looks plumped up and sophisticated.. All in the name of love.

Enjoy yourself while you're still single because you will lose 90% of your freedom, enjoyment and happiness as soon as you get married....

Marriage is a retirement plan for women But a life time prison for men.

Emotional terrorism

LutherSanchez:
Was coming back from work one day,tired and stressed out. At the bus stop was this woman heavily pregnant,trying to scuffle with young guys and ladies alike trying to get a cab... Me as a sympathetic fellow, duly begged her to please wait for a Sienna car as it's gonna be more spacious and would be convenient for her and her baby, because the normal taxi won't be comfortable for her,she looked me as if am am non existent and doesn't know what am saying.. Even me self,once it's not a Sienna car,i don't board it (i figured why stress myself and squeeze my legs,being uncomfortable while it's the same transport fare that you'll pay).. Waited for like 25 minutes,then alas!!! A Sienna Car came,the woman instead of her to go to the front sit, decided to go sit at the middle,i was seated at the front seat,some minutes after,our car left and like 15 mins later, because we were stuck in traffic,the woman started complaining that she's uncomfortable where she is,cos the place she is,there were like two fat guys besides here.... Normally i was minding my business at the front enjoying myself and space when a lady inside the car said "Make this bros wey dey front come sit here nah make she go sit down for front since the front seat get space well well",i just turned back and looked at her then faced front again without replying her. Another guy repeated the same thing again,I told the guy that i can't simply do that,and people in the car most especially women started their normal Manipulation,is it were to be your mother bla bla or your sister,would you say you cannot change sit for her,that i should consider the fact that she's pregnant and vacate the seat for her..... All these while,i kept shut,twas when they're done that i told them that...


1. I wasn't the one that told her to get pregnant when she knows she doesn't have a car ...

2. Because she's pregnant doesn't mean she's entitled to shit from anyone,the only person she's entitled to shit from is the person that got her pregnant...(That's if the dude is willing to jeopardize his happiness)

3. Am as equally as tired and stressed out as her and probably gonna pay same T.Fare as her ,so why do i have to sacrifice my own happiness for her own happiness..


They were all dumbfounded... Got to my junction and alighted happily,wetin concern me...

Lol

Proudpolygamist:
The ruthlessness with which southern Nigerian women advance their hypergamy is because Nigerian Men don't hold their women accountable for anything, it is as a result of the weakness and liberalization of Southern Nigerian men and the society. Women are like children, they need not just be told how to behave in a society without instilling some level of fear in them, accruing some level of purnishment and shaming tactics to deter them from going haywire. The Southern Nigerian society can only be compared to Western countries that tend to be individualistic society as against say Northern Nigeria, Ethiopia and Asian countries that tend to be collectivistic society.
Southern Nigerian women have this notion that "it is my life and I'll live it however I want" and the society emboldens and condoles this behavioural decline even though we all know that the adverse effect of such decadence affects everyone and the society in general.

There's a thread on Nairaland where a South African lady is seen advising Nigerian ladies on how to love Nigerian men and I know it's an effort in futility because Nigerian men seem to have switched their masculine frame and are sheltered in the frame of their women. I would prefer if such messages was coming from South men instead to our Men.
The question should be, what are South African men doing differently from southern Nigerian men that their women are less hypergamous and somewhat traditional than Nigerian women. Because just as Southern Nigeria is somewhat liberal and progressive, so is South Africa even though there's some touch of conservationism in it. This brings us to "knowing where to draw the line". SA, just like Ethiopian men know where to draw the line. Remember that Ethiopia being a 70% Christian dominted country has the the tendency to drift into social liberalism/overwesternization leanings just like Nigeria but hasn't and may probably continue to be a deeply conservative society.
South Africa operates an individualstic pan collectivist society, there's a limit to how individualistic you can be really, when it begins to have an adverse effect on the society they collectively put a dual leaning to it. That's why you can abort babies in South Africa but you can't sell harmful drugs to their society.
SA African men are not as Hardworking as their women, but their women seem to be loyal and submissive to them regardless.
SA men know they're the consumers of hard drugs sold by Africans(SA included) but they also know that SA women have an hypergamous tendency to be attracted to foreigners especially Nigerians who spend money lavishly from the sales of these drugs on women (unlike SA men), so how to deter their women from associating with some of these men they blacklist Nigerian men and brand them as drug Lord's whilst ostensibly pushing a narrative that neighboring African countries are stealing their jobs, then boom xenophobia Sparks up. This is a collectivistic effort that seeks to instill fear in SA women from freely associating with potential Nigerian money spending machines ruining their societies. This is how to protect what matters most to you, SA men ordinarily wouldn't give a shit if you sell drugs but it's repulsive to entice their women with such money and disrupt the status quo. Xenophobia was a war to protect SA societal leanings on monetarily induced relationship than it was a war to get their jobs back to me.

Presently there's some form of resentment for Nigerians in SA for their drug peddling history by SA women themselves so much that that there's a natural inclination to think that any young Nigerian in SA living lavishly is into drugs or a cyber fraudster. This profiling of Nigerians by SA men is a tool used by them to prevent their women frolicking around Nigerian men without thinking of some underlying consequences.

True

broshowfar:
In all my interactions with women i keep two things in mind be open and non judgemental and women would tell you everything especially the truth and in all these interactions i have with women post wall and hoe phase the same conversations spring up. Yes we want a man who is financially ok but does he know his way around my sexuality a.k.a can he Bleep good. Today's women are willing to settle for the financial security but would cheat so as to meet their sexual demands. The sooner men start acquiring this knowledge rather than humping away thinking they are doing a great job the better. A man should be striving to improve all aspects of himself body, mind, soul and spirit. Why ignore your masculine sexuality and think money would replace such? Every aspect of your life needs constant improvement. So if as a man looking at LTR with a woman you shy away from your fitness, sexuality and focus on money then enjoy the repercussions. Cheers

Why must everything be about pleasing woman? , beings dat can't be pleased . Just live a good life, fvck d other gender!!!

Zabiboy:
Facts
BUT would the ego of Naija men allow them?
it's the reason i skip marriage discussions..

In this era of social media, even the blind would know that women want to flex their youth and dont want to be traditional. Even the ones that would welcome the idea are doing so solely for the resources. Still yet, still yet, men crave to be used. Or could there be a ( i dont even know the word to use tbh) huge surge of adrenaline that pumps in men when they FEEL (cos in reality they are not) in command while with a so called "submissive " woman?

Omor...make i drop pen here so i wont discourage anybody. Even the disgust on the face of men offline when i share my views about modern marriage has made to stop discussing it.... Very soon, very very soon, we'll have quality artificial virginity tools ( made by our fellow men ofc), until and even after then, we ( who the society call cowards because we dont want these kind of "responsibilities" ) would keep watching the game from the sidelines.

Nice discussion bro, i love your idea. Thats the best fit for modern day relationship.

Men love being slaves!!!

altteemy:
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If you're interested and have won any before, do get across to me to link you up.

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Jacuzzi55:
The part that I consider is the welfare of the remaining children
How are you going to care for their needs alone without there mother?
And what if the remaining kids need their mother badly?

If they so much need a mother care, my mum will fit in. If my mum no longer exist, I will adjust and take d responsibility.
Just a few years for them to grow, the job will get easier as they grow.

Jacuzzi55:
Incase of paternity fraud
For instance,you have three children and DNA show that your last kid isn't yours
What will you do ?

You send the kid and the woman away!!!

porshnuel:
I wasnt feeling sleepy so i felt the urge to go through her phone..she dont even know i know her password because she carries her phone everywere and i have never touched her phone since we started dating..so i unlocked her phone that night and after using her phone to login nairaland that night i decided to check her whatsapp.. And i noticed she has been in steady contact with a guy that is based in dubai and he is a security at a mall over there, i read through there chat and i saw were he always request for her naked videos and pictures and she sent him even very demeaning once.. I was broken..there were other VNs i couldnt listen to because i dnt want her to wake..so i went inside the toilet and i listened to everything and i returned her phone...i didnt tell her anything and we were still cool for almost a month, but i no longer call her she does the calling and all and complians that i dont care anymore i will just tell her that i am busy..somethings she will ask me if someone

You can't own a woman, if you like give her your kidney, she will still ditch you when she's ready to. Na just option (out of many) you be to her. It's left to you to just keep enjoying your time with her while it last and minimize your investment in her, or ditch her.

LatestgistTv:
I don't know what to do bro. If I leave now, then all I've done for her in the past becomes useless.

Count your loss bro, it's painful but that's the reality!!! Maybe later in future, she might reciprocate your kind gesture. But if you value your peace of mind, kindly let her go and move on too!!!

LatestgistTv:
Hope your day went well brothers.
Please I need advice.

I met my girlfriend some years back and she has been a good girl to me through all these while.

She comes from a large family of 7. Her father had stroke in 2018 and her mother left them all and ran away, leaving only the sick dad to Carter for the whole family.

She gained admission same year and I stood by her side from her first to final year in the university , sending her money on a weekly basis and sent more money to her when there's need for more money in school.

She has finally graduated last month but the truth is that her demands are becoming increasingly difficult for me and her sick father has become broke as a result of spending without getting back.

I won't really say she's a burden but mehn, it's been too much lately.

I am 27 and I plan to get married at 30 and I honestly don't need this sort of setback.

Dear redpillers, I know I've been a simple man but please I need advice from everyone right now.

Do you wanna break up? Or what you intending to do?

GRIMMJOE:
Watch this guy video.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LaP1zmdSkwE

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TradingGod:
Save yourself and save other Bros

That is what Jesus Christ taught us

It's a choice mate...

TradingGod:
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So you will side with a pussy over your fellow man because the pussy is part of your family abi?

So what is the essence of being a red piller? I thought it was to break free from the control of pussies whether family or foes? Because they are all the same right?


NOW, are you not doing the same thing you are preaching against?


Infact You just broke the three foundational Red pill rules

RULE 1. Never allow any pussy to control YOU no matter what or who.

RULE 2. Bros before pussies (it doesn't matter if the bro is a simp or not, as long as he has a prick, you must always stand by him over the pussies in your life whether sister, mother, wife, cousin, neice or pastor)

RULE 3. Always stand for the truth no matter who it hurts and whose toes you step on.



Because you knowing that your sister has committed paternity fraud but you choose to keep quiet and allow that innocent man (even tho he is a simp) to suffer for something he knows nothing about shows that you are a big time HYPOCRITE (far worse than a simp)




Infact you are the biggest SIMP of them all because you are allowing your sister who is also a pussy to control you because I know that if that guy was your main gee and you knew that there is a paternity fraud going on, I'm very sure that you will be the first to raise an alarm.




So practice what you preach and choose to stand by the truth no matter what, because that your pussy ass sister will always side with their fellow pussy ass gender when push come to shove. (Women support women)



Spit on his unfortunate bald head

ADAM-MU (Adam wey mumu)

Redpill is dere for you to just minimize your loses as you navigate through life....dat someone is ignorant of Redpill is not an excuse...

TradingGod:
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So you will side with a pussy over your fellow man because the pussy is part of your family abi?

So what is the essence of being a red piller? I thought it was to break free from the control of pussies whether family or foes? Because they are all the same right?


NOW, are you not doing the same thing you are preaching against?


Infact You just broke the three foundational Red pill rules

RULE 1. Never allow any pussy to control YOU no matter what or who.

RULE 2. Bros before pussies (it doesn't matter if the bro is a simp or not, as long as he has a prick, you must always stand by him over the pussies in your life whether sister, mother, wife, cousin, neice or pastor)

RULE 3. Always stand for the truth no matter who it hurts and whose toes you step on.



Because you knowing that your sister has committed paternity fraud but you choose to keep quiet and allow that innocent man (even tho he is a simp) to suffer for something he knows nothing about shows that you are a big time HYPOCRITE (far worse than a simp)




Infact you are the biggest SIMP of them all because you are allowing your sister who is also a pussy to control you because I know that if that guy was your main gee and you knew that there is a paternity fraud going on, I'm very sure that you will be the first to raise an alarm.




So practice what you preach and choose to stand by the truth no matter what, because that your pussy ass sister will always side with their fellow pussy ass gender when push come to shove. (Women support women)



Spit on his unfortunate bald head

ADAM-MU (Adam wey mumu)

Bro, life is not fair...if you no wise up yourself, nobody will save you. Nature frowns on the weak. Ignorance is not bliss. Save yourself or perish.

XAUTrader4L2:
The break of higher low has finally given us a trend on the monthly, now all three higher timeframes are in sync. The next target is at 1556 to 1533 zone, break that and next is the double top target at 1283.

Monthly timeframe, not broken yet!!! Even not broken on Weekly yet.

orchin:
Buy UJ next week... Target price 147xxx
Sell EU next week... Target price 0.96xxx ( be mindful of ECB on Thursday)...
Trade responsibly.
Have a nice weekend!!!

Few pips to go!!!

orchin:
Buy UJ next week... Target price 147xxx
Sell EU next week... Target price 0.96xxx ( be mindful of ECB on Thursday)...
Trade responsibly.
Have a nice weekend!!!

$$$

orchin:
Buy UJ next week... Target price 147xxx
Sell EU next week... Target price 0.96xxx ( be mindful of ECB on Thursday)...
Trade responsibly.
Have a nice weekend!!!

0.987xx support seems to hold on EU....
Keep riding UJ

DEROX:
Brother i have been following your post for some months now and am learning alot especially not to be a simp, this girl added me up on facebook and liked my picture i took in school (madonna uni okija) she then called me over when i was going back home to come stay with her, i didnt have money then she paid for me without my utmost approval though she likes me ever since because we did the thing sir and i have also been sending her some money when she asks but she complains i dont call her often then she starts giving me headaches of her friend's boyfriend buying her iphone e.t.c I know she wants me to feel bad but aint no simp and even the reason why i sent her some money was because she did same for me and throughout the 3 days i spent in her hostel she spent the money but now i want to go and do second round with her and i dont want her to use me through that to get money please tell me the solution i know you will understand me.

She start giving you headache, then cut her off. Don't you value your peace of mind? U've shagged her already, move on.

orchin:
Buy UJ next week... Target price 147xxx
Sell EU next week... Target price 0.96xxx ( be mindful of ECB on Thursday)...
Trade responsibly.
Have a nice weekend!!!

***

Buy UJ next week... Target price 147xxx
Sell EU next week... Target price 0.96xxx ( be mindful of ECB on Thursday)...
Trade responsibly.
Have a nice weekend!!!

Matix222:
Okay thanks understood! I'm finding it out swallowing the red pill because of my girl she was a virgin when I met her been the only one down there she lusts madly of me but I'm still convincing myself that I'm not going to be the only nigger that will eats the cochie is hard tho but I will try so I don't get hurt this is a girl that spends on

It's just your turn mate...