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Thats laide bakare nau
A yoruba Nollywood actress
That video was probably before or after a movie shoot.
Make your findings well before you jump and create threads

See all of them up there screaming if its a man they’ll say otherwise. Na wah for una oh
If you have prominent eye sight, you’ll see that she stuffed her buttocks with cloth

One of the reason why i kick people with my rain boot


Damn... nasty... I’m out of here

LadyD22:
You have no idea what you're talking about ,
It's not about distance , if you're a rejected child , you face a lot of struggles that are not visible to others

I have two parents , I didn't get to see both of them growing up coz I was confined in a boarding school since primary 2 , I still have a better relationship with my dad but I was severely rejected by my mom and everything OP posted still applies to me , I used to think I was the problem until I realized she felt the same way I felt for her parents , she hated them coz she was mistreated but she was equally a beast to us , she didn't get healing and now I had to inherit that ,
I was abused verbally , physically , emotionally
She's my biggest motivation in life because in trying to prove her wrong I became her opposite but I've not been able to relax and enter my feminine side , I'm always protective , trying to do everything on my own , I also attach to other people's moms , I'm that friend you don't want to have because of comparism , it hurts alot because in reality I know I'll never be a part of that family , in fact it caused fight between me and my friend , I was always taking her mom's side

It's not a matter of dwelling on the past , it's the conditioning of your brain , you may not notice but most of our choices are made subconsciously , half the time we don't realize we're in a pattern , that's why kids from divorced homes are more likely to get divorced and kids from abusive relationships are more likely to be abusive or abuse tolerating adults

The most stubborn boy in my Sunday school class was an abused child of my neighbor , she had gotten pregnant twice without a husband and she treated them like shit and the girl is exposed , using adult language , the boy picks a fight with everything and everyone , he should be 6 or 7 , both of them are likely to grow up with internal issues

I'm educated and I do realize that somethings were not my fault , I am currently battling severe anxiety and depression , I have insomnia because I have bad dreams alot I sleep better with noise of people moving around during the day , sleeping at night is war , I finished my sleeping pills and my sleep cycle is messed up , I've had at least 3 panic attacks between February and now, it doesn't feel good , I also have random outbursts for the silliest reasons , you can ask my exes , only one person knew me and understood me , the others just felt like I was either childish or crazy

I'm attracted to fine older men , my last ex was 20 years older , the one before him was 16 years older, my friends were aware , they are used to me now that's why they feel comfortable talking about their men with me coz I'm not attracted to them and they're not attracted any of mine , they even use it to tease me

I haven't been able to fill that void in my heart , that's why I have a whole folder of baby videos on my system , coz I can't wait , neglectful children can either be the worst parents or the spoiling kind , I really love approval and appreciation , na my mumu button be that

If I wash and you're like "OMG thank you so much , you made my day " you just bought yourself a human washing machine , you just need to keep saying I made your day and how sweet I am and I won't stop trying to make your day , to the point of neglecting myself to please you
People pleaser I have had so many school daughters , not because I'm cool but because I don't know how to say no , just do like you want to die and jam me, I'd give my soul if you asked for it nicely
When I say no , I'm scared of them misinterpreting it , or losing their approval , who are they ? No one
I'm not sure wiping my memory would erase this habit , it's embedded
People with loving parents don't realize how lucky they are
My personal hygiene was a mess until like 2 years ago , I learned most of it from YouTube , I didn't know how to calculate my period , I had too many embarrassing moments that I can't count, I felt like an outcast , everybody talks about having certain talks with their mom that I've never had
I would've preferred to be an orphan or be aborted than to be born as an enemy

She told me she knew from the day I was born that I was her enemy and she wishes she could send me to the orphanage but she's sure no one would want me , she also told me I tried to kill her in the labour room , I had badluck since I was in the womb and I look like a human but I'm an animal , her favorite pet name for me was slowpoke ( yes my biological mother)

Some idiots will still be preaching , no mother can hate their child , I pray you don't experience it because if you do , you're bleeped

I look like I'm okay but I'm going through a healing process ,noone believes me coz I laugh alot , I'm the funniest among my friends , the most dramatic and best adviser and I realize I'm a shoulder but in all sincerity I don't have anyone that I call a shoulder ,my dad provides for my needs , but we all need someone to complain to , even when I am offered an ear I'm too scared to use it , I just swallow it and move on

Damn....
this is so deep
I’ve heard of father’s hate towards his kids but mother’s hate is just too deep
I can’t imagine what you passed through in her hands.
Sorry dear
I pray you heal totally

BigCowH0rn:
At the bolded, you have a point...

I know what's muscular ... and it is not hard to get.
Just a little free time 3 times a day and you hit the gym. I do that. But I don't box though. a little karate is all.

If your ex is 3 years younger then both of you are within the same age bracket.
That not right for a girl with personality or Daddy issues
YOU SHOULD BE WAY OLDER for her to see you as another DADDY etc. Authrity and respect comes with such territory. This is something you her mate won't have

Furthermore, never never beat a woman. If you must spank her ass. Do it to piss her off not cause her tears or pain.
Stamp your authority but not with violence

I wish i know how to explain further.
You are ok since you've moved on

I understand you bruv
Thanks for your time

BigCowH0rn:
Simple!

After i finished my Uni studies overseas and moved to Lagos I stayed in a 3 bedroom apartment with a friend for a while
There was this 23 year old babe next door who fights everyone.. both in her family, the compound and beyond.
Her dad was the landlord... a very nice and gentle man of small statue but his wife was big and his daughter took after her... the girl was even bigger.

That girl was big boned, super curvy/sexy and a staggering six feet. She's the type the puts fear in men by her presence alone and she is so troublesome on top.. always ready to fight and shout.

The girl was a law onto her herself until i got into that compound.

At 6ft2 i was taller and muscular.. stronger than her and a clean 5 years older at the time. It had an effect on her. She was kinda more respectful.
We were friends for a while and i was almost ready to woo her.. ad then her true color came out

The first day i saw what she could do and handled her was the day she fought her mother in the open compound. Omo, I dragged this girl like a doll right into my apartment and clammed the door. She fought me of course but I overpowered and subdued her.

That girl tore my shirt to ribbons and scared my skin with her fingernails but i never beat her... just pinned her hands and body down till she was tired. Then i made sit and shut up while i did the yelling.

She stayed calmly in my apartment throughout that day.
Her father bought drinks for me and her mom replaced my shirt. Guess who treated my wounds? The girl.


From that day on anytime she lost it people will rush to call me. Once i got there and gave her my eyes she would calm down fast knowing i can handle her sh.it no matter the color.
I dated that girl for 2 years... her folks where actually begging me to marry her until she died in an accident.


Most stubborn and problematic girls do well with older and stronger men who can control them firmly.
Give them men of their age and it will just be one trouble after the other

This is what I'm saying.

Your ex was your mate. I knew this the moment i read where you said she held you by the neck.
It's a wrong match considering her flaws

You should move on permanently

Lol
Oga mi my ex is 3 years younger than me, she’s 5:8ft tall and chubby

Me on the other hand, i stand at 6:6ft tall, very muscular ( check dp for clarification )and i box.
I could easily pin her to the ground or knock her out with a single smack, but we were in love.
It was easy for you to pin that lady because you guys didn’t have anything going on between you, trust me if she is your girlfriend, you’ll develop weak bones when she starts nagging

I get all your points bruv
Thanks

Drella:
But it's okay when women beat men right?

We are the ones giving those girls liver.The know we are stronger than them yet, they find it easy to go physical with us.
If to say we are constantly resetting their brains whenever they try nonsense,they will respect us.

It is funny how the world favours them when it comes to things like this
I’ve never heard of anything like man beater before
But as soon as you lay your hand on a woman, the whole community will start shouting woman beater up and down

anthonyuncle:
these guys won't understand.

only someone that has 1st hand experience will understand

Abi oh

Religious slave smh


Damn... nasty... I’m out of here

BigCowH0rn:
I was born and raised in Austin, Texas, USA.
Down there people have guns and horses.. and massive ranches with cows roaming.

I spent a weekend at a family friend's ranch and that Saturday was horse breaking day. They brought a team expert riders to break the wild horses in order to make them accept human authority.

One particular horse was so stubborn it was called Hellfire. I was given to understand that it was rare breed, a cross between an European war horse and an Arabian swift.
The result was this thing so huge, powerful and fast... but since it was wild, so dangerous.

You see, the process of breaking a horse entails others holding it and blinding it while an expert rider gets on and then they let go. The rider will try to force the horse to obey as it bucks like mad trying to get him off.
If the rider wins, the horse is broken and learns to accept a human rider from there on. It normally takes a short time.. minutes to an hour

Normal horses buck but hellfire bucked and spinned. No one could stay on for more than a minute. If the rider falls off it attacked
Many got injured trying to ride that horse and it go to a point that the owner wanted to shoot it. One old cowboy opposed the owner to no end, saying that he horse was an exceptional one that just needed the right master.

I understand the two of them eventually bet $13k on that horse which saw many expert riders try until one hardcase from New Mexico broke it. The horse went on to win trophies in at least 2 horse races i knew and one high jump event.


What I'm trying to say my bro is that girl is like a powerful horse that refuses to be tamed.
You are not the right rider.

When she meets the right rider and tries all this nonsense you are complaining about he will bring her to heel.

Many girls that ran rogue in their family have ended up with men that handle them well enough to change them... there is even an old British love story about the issue.. I have forgotten the name

On the other hand, many girls that have been the perfect daughters have gotten married and gone crazy.

That girl is not useless... just needs fixing and you clearly can't do that.

Good morning.

If i stayed two years trying to change things and you say I’m not her rider, then I don’t want to be her rider.
Two years of unimaginable abuse is enough for me to call it quit.
I just pray she meets the right person before age fails her.

One of the reason why i kick people with my rain boot


Damn... nasty... I’m out of here

space9880:
my ex was like yours too, I was in a toxic relationship for 2yrs but finally got out.

Cheers to the good life bruv
E no easy at all

space9880:
don’t go back bro the earlier you leave the better. Man eye don see many things wey e no won talk

I feel you boss

BigCowH0rn:
You are not the man for her. Staying on would have complicated both your lives.

Yes, she is broken but not beyond repair.

She needs a older man... one at least 10 to 15 years older.
One strong enough to subdue her physically without beating or fighting her.
One strong enough emotionally to talk firmly to her with complete authrity
One who loves her and she knows it

Once she finds such a man, 6 months and you won't believe she is the same person.

That's a very passionate woman you had there. Her kind can be incredibly loyal even to a fault.
If you check well she never cheated on you but can give you hell

Not cheating doesn’t make a woman loyal, a woman who raises her hands against a man is as bad as a cheating woman.
If i tell you the amount of time I spend online reading about how to help her and the amount of people I’ve asked how to change her, you won’t believe.
For me, love is not a do or die affair.
She’ll calm down one day, maybe when she hits her late 20s.

Her dad broke her and her ex broke her even more.
Relationships are meant to be enjoyed not endured, i endured for 2 years. No more....no more.

I’m not trying to say she’s all bad and no good oh, she does everything a normal woman should do but as soon as she sees something that concerns fathers or cheating boyfriends, her switch changes, and of course she passes the aggressive on me.
Brother man, if i start to talk watin my eyes done see, i no go fit talk am finish.

A lot of people suffer in silence but come out with a bright smile.
I was one of them.
No more..... no more

Prettygirl200:
Awwwnnnnn so sorry dear, apologies on her behalf. Damn nasty am out of here >: >

Lol
I hear you


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A whole lot of work needs to be done on the site
Very slow and frustrating


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Prettygirl200:
No I won't, if everything u are saying here it's the way it was, then it's good u left.

That’s the truth oh
My eyes saw shege
I know I’m not a saint but I didn’t deserve what i went through in her hands

placeofallure:
Wow! Different strokes for different folks.

Growing up, my dad never raised a finger on me. He's a sweet darling. There's nothing I ask within his means that he doesn't give me. Up till tomorrow, he calls first to wish me a happy birthday. He can call for Africa! On my wedding day, he did almost everything. He will call and sing my "oriki" for minutes. He's not like this with my other siblings though. That's a little grey area cause they get jealous at times. He got me my first phone. Love you Daddy, so much.

Lucky you
The only birthday I celebrated and my dad was around was my 3 years birthday
Lol
Man was never around.
For over a year now we’ve not set our eyes on him
Thank God for phones
But we still love the man scatter

Winter03:
What she went through is sad. Imagine if you grew up knowing your father never wanted you but a girl child. And he beat you a lot for that. It's abuse. And yes, her father is a monster.

She needs to move on and heal. But you should be sensitive enough to understand her. She's still hurt. You beat her for that and you're no better than her father.

But it's a good thing you left. She would find someone better who would help her let go of the past and live.

I didn’t beat her oh bros
Only weak men beat women

You don’t know what i Endured for 2 years bro
This babe will wake up in the middle of the night and start crying, I’ll make sure i pet her till she falls back asleep, as soon as she feels better the next day, I’ll be her first enemy.
God knows I have tried my best, I can’t let anyone damage me mentally because of relationship.
She once told me she and her ex use to fight regularly, i mean punch and slap throwing. I thought it was a lie until the day she locked my neck and tore my fine shirt.

Brother man, this girl needs a therapist not me, i can’t continue being a punching bag and insult bag to her.

i hope she finds someone she can embarrass publicly and he won’t say jack

If I’m your brother
Will you advise me to continue dating her

Winter03:
You should understand. I'm not defending her behaviour. People are different. Some children are emotionally stronger than others. What hurts you wouldn't hurt me and vice versa.

Your father was absent but you knew he loved you. Your girlfriend's father might have not shown her any love.

And the girl is to blame for her father abandoning her as a child? Doesn't make any sense.

Her father didn’t really abandon her
He was there but the flogging was there as well.
Dude was just angry he didn’t get a male child so he passed the aggression on all 3 girls.
Her two siblings are very close to their dad right now but my ex never healed, she still sees him like a monster.

When ever we are arguing she always says “ now you are beginning to sound like my father”. Uhhh that words burns me seriously,
I just had to leave her before she turns me to a woman beater

Winter03:
Awful. I'm sorry.

If only fathers would be there for their daughters, there would be less girls struggling with their feelings and taking it out on other men.

This your comment is the same reason why i kept on forgiving her whenever she misbehaves, i later realised she is broken beyond repair.
Some girls just choose to dwell in the past.

My dad is a military man, he has never stayed full 3 months with us since we were born. Today duty tomorrow Liberia next tomorrow sudan and so on, but i can boldly say my sisters are not wayward at all.

My point
At times you just have to build yourself, your parents can’t give 100%.

And if you check most of the girls that keep on haven quarrels with their fathers, you’ll see that they are the problem not the father at all.

My ex and her dad are always quarrelling, the man really flog her for small, they dislike each other strongly. For this reason, she thinks all men are scum, when ever we had little misunderstanding, she’ll start raising her voice like a lion, it even got to a point that she embarrasses me in public. The last one she did early last month made me give her red card, she embarrassed the living day light out of me, i even sustained some injuries self. I just reason my life say fine boy like me, na me this girl dey yeye up and down so, i just give her red card and life ban

My little advice

Stay away from girls that are not in peace with their father. E get why


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Johndagr8t:
you look too broke to give

Damn....
This is legendary


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Shalommy:
Na bottom dude na. Chaii.. Men don finish him.

Ahhhhhhhhhhh
Ahhhhhhhhhhh
Ahhhhhhhhhhh
( uncontrollable exclamation )

Una two been get quarrel before?



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