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Amotolongbo:
Give him money to do what?
She can’t just be giving him money for no just reason. She can spend her money on the home, not giving it to her husband.

A man requesting for money from a woman is only trying to trade his pride as the head of the home.

The only time a man should be given money by a woman is when it is needed for a personal and mental development which will bring a fortune to the man and home

but if the man is wealthy he can be dashing money to his wife..take her shoping in dubia so that u goat can type how romantic;; love is sweet when there is money etc..goat

lalasticlala:
As shared by Nike Adexa @naikiadex



https://twitter.com/naikiadex/status/1460605285865828357

story..if the man brings more the home is happy its a lovely home but if the woman brings more the man cant survive 2 weeks in the house.make una they respect men o..lady this your story is one sided..i reserve my coment until i hear from the guys side..only u nor fit dey right na.ma reason am na

joinnow:
Bros I need to check out of this stupid country
Any genuine information to check out

y now...people way they make plans to travel nor they announce to the whole world..na hear we dey here say them don reach that side..go to the embassy apply for visa you must see agents there who are ready to pik it up from there and its very affordable now..most cointrys after covid they find immigrants self

EyezofGod120:
football na ritual jor,,money really dey there,,my pikin must play ball

for you to have the kind of money messi or ronaldo has with ritual my bro u go use your full comunity including the local government chairman..all the councellors including governon self.ritual nor fit give u dat kind money o

Iyaebe:
Men create bad wives,men betray women who truly love them.

and women spoil thier husbands name in the presense of thier children ..they tell thier children that thier father is a very wicked man..they forgot how the man put his life on the line just to ensure that sch fees is paid and there is food in d house.the man falls sick he is later abadoned by his own children who are now rich while their mum keeps getting the latest benz and lexus for lieing and cooking..men equality we desreve more..say no to gender inequality

NOETHNICITY:
Women are just terrible
Me, I didn't eat at home for more than 6months
My home consume more than my entire salary monthly.
If not for the Grace of God, maybe something terrible for don happen.

i nor understand u are giving money to ur wife and u are not eating..for your mind u dey punish your wife..so men still get this outdated mentality used by our great grand parents..my bro na she nor go eat i swear. Na me go dey cook..but padlock put for kitchen..u nor serious .if i am your wife na everyday i go dey cook vegetable soup with saint leave u go salivate tire

misterme:
And I am very very angry. Gas I used to buy 2800, then 3k, 4k, and 5k. Suddenly it jumped to 7500 and now (today) 9250 in Port Harcourt. I am very very angry. Let no one here disturb me with nonsense news about Buhari and his nonsense South Africa Trade fair and nonsense. No cross me today o. I fit beat person

The gas finished yesterday. I told my wife that yesterday that I will buy the gas today because I needed to get to work and somehow raise money to augment what I have to be able to buy the gas. I told her to use the kerosene stove that yesterday and this morning. Guess her reply? She said she can't use kerosene even for a day. That even her Mum in the village does not use kerosene stove. She said a few other unprintable things.
For the sake of my 3 children I still had to buy the gas today.

I had not eaten in my house for a month now. The reason is that she said that they money I gave her for upkeep in October was not enough (I give her 62.5% of my monthly salary every month for our home upkeep). As a result she refused to give me food from around the middle of the month when she said the money had finished. She cooked for herself and the children (possibly from her own salary). When I gave her upkeep money for this month I told her not bother keeping food for me so that the money will go far enough. That's where we are till now. I have no intention of ever eating her food until she acknowledges that she was wrong and apologizes.

Now I know this WON'T happen. She will rather die than admit she's wrong or apologize. This is why I know that the mistake of a marriage is heading for the rocks and I am ready for it. Nonsense and ingredients. I have endured this nonsense for 15 years. I am done. Anything whe won happen tomorrow, make e happen today.

for your family problem oga u dey punish yourself..i can not go to work morning till evening, give my wife money for food and cuz she makes me angry i wont eat..for my own house and money...for me not to eat na she nor go eat i swear..men get sense o there are better ways to punish a woman..na me go cook she nor go eat i go sterve her till she beg..then stupid wives that think they can control a man by denying him sex u are doing yourself...in uniben u get sex for less than 500 naira ..na disease go come meet u for house...there are better ways to handle such too..all problems for marraiges revolves around one single particular thing..lack of communication...marry your friend o..yanch breast nor dey last..5 years time everything don fall and collapse like twin tower..

misterme:
And I am very very angry. Gas I used to buy 2800, then 3k, 4k, and 5k. Suddenly it jumped to 7500 and now (today) 9250 in Port Harcourt. I am very very angry. Let no one here disturb me with nonsense news about Buhari and his nonsense South Africa Trade fair and nonsense. No cross me today o. I fit beat person

The gas finished yesterday. I told my wife that yesterday that I will buy the gas today because I needed to get to work and somehow raise money to augment what I have to be able to buy the gas. I told her to use the kerosene stove that yesterday and this morning. Guess her reply? She said she can't use kerosene even for a day. That even her Mum in the village does not use kerosene stove. She said a few other unprintable things.
For the sake of my 3 children I still had to buy the gas today.

I had not eaten in my house for a month now. The reason is that she said that they money I gave her for upkeep in October was not enough (I give her 62.5% of my monthly salary every month for our home upkeep). As a result she refused to give me food from around the middle of the month when she said the money had finished. She cooked for herself and the children (possibly from her own salary). When I gave her upkeep money for this month I told her not bother keeping food for me so that the money will go far enough. That's where we are till now. I have no intention of ever eating her food until she acknowledges that she was wrong and apologizes.

Now I know this WON'T happen. She will rather die than admit she's wrong or apologize. This is why I know that the mistake of a marriage is heading for the rocks and I am ready for it. Nonsense and ingredients. I have endured this nonsense for 15 years. I am done. Anything whe won happen tomorrow, make e happen today.

and so what..its a global problem..venezuela..china nor even get 1 single gas they have have resulted back to coal.watch cnn its a fact..it's a global problem and buhari has no input in this

Davash222:
Beautiful girl.


It's more noble and peaceful to marry her than to marry Iyaebe. Nonsense girl

will you marry her

Marry your age mate o..all these 20 years gap is somehow..its good to be nice but who will take care of the wife like this when the man is far gone

Folahh:
No matter what, it's never a good thing to give in to anger. Never make decisions when you're angry or you may live to regret it.

drugs.....na me know them..forget those story..i can put my life on the line..effect of excessive tramadol and codine them nor they tell person..y was he first arrested.police nor they carry they arest person.this is wat he wants his parents to believe wat a pitty

Bankyshinani:
90k.... The chemical is not harmful

for career purpose go for the chemical job..then pls check for job security.what if same senerio plays ..and u are sacked again for something you know nothing off...then is there a contributory pension schem on the job..i feel the chemical job has more prospect any idiot can manage a filling station and anything can happen...pls go for the chemical job..but before then there should be an undertaking on job security so that you dont end up losing both.since they know your worth you should detect for them...you can stylishly ask for a slight pay rise not madatory on thier part but on recommended basis

Bankyshinani:
I am a graduate of chemical engineering. I have some years experience as a chemical engineer in ethanol refining process and as well the beverage industry. So,I was sacked by the ethanol refinery due to something I know nothing about and I am presently working as a petrol station manager which I worked 2-days on and 2days off shift and earning a salary of 90k. Now ,the ethanol refinery just called me that they still need my service and the work routine is 2days morning,2days night and 2days off... I am to make the decision between now and monday....
That's why I need urgent advice from wiser and more enlightened people on this platform....
Please,I need a fast response because i don't want to make a decision that I will later regret

how much is the chemical job and are the chemicals harmfull to your health in d future

Just drag her to the alter..propose to her..tell pastor to wed u guys..no need for hall

BegAt40:
Shut up! The days of foolish men proposing to you animals is over. May thunder strike anyone that ever proposes to Nigerian girls again!

take am easy bros

Mylordmygod1:
Hello nairalanders.

I will not call the name of my church for some reasons, but my church is that type that dosn't have a parmanent pastor.

So, we always have a new pastor almost every four or five years.

Recently, a new pastor was transfered to us, this my new pastor is very good when it comes to preaching the word of God, and things that helps in the development of a church.. infact, so many good things have been going 'on' in my church since his arrival.

But the problem is that, he is that kind of pastor with swag, He goes to beer parlour to drink, he can go to gathering to play draft, (imaging the kind of people u see in a beer parlour of draft gathering), and because of this things he does, some people (expecially other churches) use it against us the members..

People we be like, una pastor wey dey drink beer.. And we don't even know how we can deffend him or ourself when we are being attacked by these people..

We are currently loosing members on a daily basis, and i'm not happy with it.

is alchohol a sin

Mom007:
Bro enjoy and don't let any complex start to build up within you. These are the things that spoil marriages not wedding food and drink. The probably are the highly social type that know many people. After going to others weddings over the years, a small wedding for their child just won't do as they'd want others to also attend theirs too hence their financial help. They prolly didn't do it to intimidate or oppress you. My dad owns fish farms and he declared serious catfish pepersoup and excess drinks at my wedding that my boo and I didn't pay for. Pls just put God first, be a good husby and enjoy your marriage.

u are the only person with sense here...u nailed it.kudos sir

Lovelyperson:
I say amen to the prayers

my bro sex is overated ignore that girl u can get it anywhere now.when unknown gunmen husband snatchers don full everywhere na one idiot want take control h8m hus.gone are those days .na she go regret am self nonsense

Qatar2022:
It's obvious that you can't differentiate insult from help , you be big mumu

but if the parents commot hand begin give the guy imo list we saw 2 days ago that was 1.5m una go still complain. He even get luck say him see support unlike us

InTheCloudySky:
Your post is too long.
Concision is the word.

As for the question, no one owes anyone sex, even in marriage. If a woman says no, that means no, even in marriage. Forcing her is called RAPE, even in marriage.

y rape your wife when u can get it else where for 500 naira..nor try uniben girld o..them be unknow gunmen husband snatcher

Tonero5200:
Hi.

Honestly speaking am really worried, have dated my fiance for sometime now. So we finally decided to tie the knot.
She suggested we do it this year November and I concurred, so we've been saving towards it ever since.

Last 2 months I made my intentions known to her family, that I will like to marry their daughter. Due to the conversations I had With her parents, I told them I wanted it small.. because am not financialy buoyant.

But To my surprise, her dad said I shouldn't worry about it, they are going to support me ( which is most likely Normal)

(They gave me traditional rite's, which I sorted out by myself)

With the traditional right drawing close, last month I learnt from my fiancee..her parents are planning to buy 2 cow for the traditional and white wedding. (I was surprised)

The following week, the hall she choosed for the reception of the white wedding, has already been paid for by her dad which was about 500k excluding the decorations which they also took care of ( even though I opted we could have done the reception in the church)

But my fiancee told me her dad is inviting alot of well-wishers home and abroad to come celebrate with us.both his fellow staffs and all.

* I bought 2 bag of rice and groundnut oils

* We paid for the cakes

* We paid for drinks

* We sorted things out (invitation cards, pre shoot photos)

But was surprised 2 days to the traditional marriage, more expensive drinks were rolling in.

On the d day of the white wedding, I realised, they cooked more than 8 bags of rice ( coconut, jollof, banga and fried) meats were surplused.
Alot of people came from her family's, while my own families were just there.. they did get the message.

Someone even said it to my mom face. THAT THIS GIRL PAPA TRY O.

please, I don't want to sound like am a bad person or I don't know good.
Offcus I appreciate her parents efforts, but am just a little bit worried.

As a man, won't this come to haunt me in the future?

if them support una una go complain if them give una list from imo una go still complain.u can nerver satisfy a black man they are neither here nor there

tobechi20:
Bring kids into the picture, and often, one’s sex drive takes a nose dive. Especially for mothers.

Low libido is a very common issue for new mothers as they are healing from childbirth, grappling with fluctuating hormones and extreme sleep deprivation.

While we know adjusting to a new baby can profoundly impact a couple’s life (including sexual intimacy), we, as a society, act like it shouldn’t. We act like there’s something wrong with a new mother needing a timeout from sex.

New mothers who admit to having less sex drive are often met with people urging, “Just do it anyway,” and “You’ll get in the mood.”

But what if you don’t get in the mood, even when you take this advice? What then?

Why aren’t the feelings of the woman valid? Shouldn’t she be listening to her body? Her mind?

I’m not sure where we got this idea that a husband owns his wife’s vagina. Or that he is entitled to intercourse, MouthAction, handling, or groping. I’m pretty sure I didn’t see that covenant in the paperwork. But I have an inkling that this entitlement is very much based in misogyny and male privilege.

Men are led to believe, often since they are young boys, that women should have sex with them when they want it. Even when their wives are not “in the mood.” Because sex is the way he feels intimate. Sex is the way he connects. Because putting your husband’s sexual desires first is supposedly the best way to avoid divorce.

These antiquated and sexist designs for marriage are damaging to women.

When a married mom doesn’t put out, she’s called “cold” and “selfish” and the dreaded “bitch.” She’s told she must have “something else going on” mentally. Outsiders to the marriage, and maybe even therapists, will question if the wife was ever sexually assaulted. Does she have a history of trauma? They’ll try to make connections that aren’t there. Because how could a wife possibly not want to have sex with her husband?

It is sickening and horrific to think of a woman having sex against her will, married or not. It’s disgusting that we automatically assume something must be “wrong” with a woman who is having a gap in her groove. Beyond all that, it’s dangerous.

Suggesting that married women and mothers should just “do it anyway” is sexual bullying and coercion. If a husband acts on the “just do it anyway” cliché and forces it — that’s called rape.

When we attack married mothers for not putting out, we’re reaffirming once again what’s important in this society.

A man’s needs, not a woman’s. A man’s voice, not a woman’s voice.

no husbands owe thier wives sex

Afodot0022:
See what is wrong with younis 100% spiritual and dont get confused. Its a spiritual attack sent to you to limit you and make you redundant. Though i dont like talkative but in life if you want to succeed you have to be able to communicate effectively and not being a talkative. With you deficiency it will be difficult for you to attain greatness which is what the enemy is trying to make you be. You can be gentle and also expressive in words. You need to embark on serious fasting and prayer to send evil arrow back to sender so that you can be free. The enemy wants to limit you. Have experienced such and can tell you this is spiritual attack.

u self talk too much e b like say una get the same problem..out of point

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u have 500k in your acc and u couldnt afford a phone.looks like scam to me

Excel3298:
Your issue is 100% spiritual. Seek spiritual solutions.

una don start

chiventoline:
Broooo that's a sign of over masturbation and pornorgraphy, your brain receptor are rewiring wrong while your mouth fight vocabulary

nor mind d guy na depression he don give himself he should see a psychiatric doctor his brains dey give wrong signal..he may get to a stage soon when he starts talking to himself and replying himself too.agressive post partum disorder or bipolar disorder and funny enough some nl doctors don they shout worm infection...when ur brain forces ur mouth to talk....there is increase in pressure within the nerves that carry the signal to the month hence generating salava ..this may cause u to stamarer as u try to gain control of your mouth

Risingsun127:
Good day people.. sorry for the long story
I’m in my early 20s
Please I need help .. I noticed this problem in 2017.. I’ve always been a fluent talker.. I can talk without getting tired ,people referred to me as a talkative with sharp mouth ..
Infact when I was little my family even advised me to study law because they saw how vocal and active I was .. But since 2017 till presently my mouth is always feeling heavy.. Whenever I talk my mouth will be gathering spit.. I’m always swallowing spit and most times I chock on my saliva .. I find it difficult to speak cause I’ll just be blabbing and stuttering.. It’s as if my Brain is clogged. There was even a time I couldn’t speak out.. words will be in my mind but to say it out will be so difficult..

I don’t know if it’s because we moved into this environment.. Could it be spiritual problem from this environment I moved into in 2016 or someone is on my case??

Because of the spit issue .. I went to a doctor who told me my issue was worm. I’ve been deworming on a steady still yet I can’t communicate with people effectively.. I’ll just be looking dumb when with my friends meanwhile I’ve lots of things to say in my mind!!
If I say let me open my mouth and talk I’ll just be stuttering and stammering and it has affected my self confidence massively.
Please I need help .. What could’ve gone wrong with me ?? Is it spiritual or medical.. Please medical practitioners come to my aid ..
Has anyone else experienced this issue or know about this kind of problem?? Please I need a solution.
Moderators , Lalastica please move to Front page

its a psychiatric problem pls dont be offended..at time u may talk off point from what ur peers are discussing when walking alone at times u start talking to yourself

Bluntguy:
No be eczema be that?

it could be anything..symptoms of a bacteria or fungi infection.op when you fuccck last and with which girl

Goat the best thing in life is geting married to ashawo.she go use style kill u..but dont come and disturb peacefull people like us who married a decent friend.that u are not the father of all your children.if u mention dna that is on its own may tunder kill u there.idiot

Cheats where is tacha ..mercy..y where they not elected yoruba and cheating

bigpriik:
I brought up this topic two years ago, it was about a girl i loved so much we were good friends, but she is Just into a kinda flashy lifestyle funded by runs. She always posts twerk videos on her Instagram and whatssap status and of course she is very beautiful and the kind of woman I want to spend the rest of my life with.

Hoestly I don't know why I love her, it's just crazy. Last year I deleted her number and pictures from my phone, because we had a fight over the tatoo she drew on her upper arm so I avoided her..

But yesterday I saw her in my street, meeen this girl don fine scatter and she is looking so fresh like those men are really paying her well. She called me and I answered we talked and believe me all the nuts in my head was loose because I talked to her.. ,i felt all the old emotions back again and it was so strong again. I immediately collected her number and she sent me a hi on WhatsApp so we begin talking again, we chatted all Night and she told me how she missed me so much and all.

Is it sensible iI take her in, i am 29 now and rounding up for marriage and she is the only one i see but i am afraid because i feel runs girls don't really retire even after marriage..

Elders please i need your help..
I need

for sure..pls do...she will change after matrriage