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This is a serious infection maybe those that did it didnt sterilize thier equipment well..if its staph she should just go and buy coffin no need.it is finished

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

goat

BabaIbo:
This post is for intending grooms.

I made this post because it was one of the major reasons I parted with my ex(it was a serious relationship) few years ago, then I wasn't financially stable as I am now, so my decision was inline with my capability then. She told me she won't move in with me unless I do church wedding even after the trad. and she was serious about it. She wasn't ready to reason with me.

Considering the fact that majority of the men( those within the marriageable age range and above but are not financially stable enough to run everything at once) have the plan of doing the white wedding first, later on do the church wedding when they are more financially stable.

This led me to running a check recently and I find out that in some homes or families, they don't allow their daughters to move in with their husbands even after the men have paid their bride prices, until the church(or white) wedding has been done.

Dear single men, what do you think about this?
Can you cope with it until you're ready for your church wedding?

To the married ones, did you experience this?
How were you able to handle it?

MODs, please do the needful.

u guys should stop disturbing us o.if you have paid her bride price take her home which one is church hall prayer wedding again

Baamisere:
Help Me! I'm Fed Up

I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 years now and she has been a good woman through and through. I've met her parents and we're discussing on the next step. She has been supportive, responsible and caring despite our tribal difference.

However, the problem I'm having with her is that when she's angry she tends to use foul languages and curses on me which I don't like. She end up apologizing after the ranting but I'm tired of going over this. Please how can I deal with this attitude of hers?

I need honest contributions to this thread.

then y disturbing our peace

xeratech:
The girl is educated and probably a graduate that's why the price is high. Go for the local Village girls if you are not ready to spend.

its not abt education..even if she was illitrate same thing applies..like i said if its thier tradition to do this u cant change it...i know 2 villages that does this in d east but i am not mentioning them..there is another in calabar..if the girl born before mariage bros just go sell your house and car.cuz u go pay tire...ours is 27 naira doesnt make benin girls cheap or uneducated..there is a line between tradirion..culture and norms

osazsky:
if its the girl u want oga pay..nothing is too much to pay to get your woman...after that her traditions turns to your tradition then you can give your own children out in your own tradition.if its thier tradition to sell thier daughters there is nothing u can do about it but there are implications.the husband losses respects for the father in laws. Uncles and her entire family at time he may band them from paying visits even after childbirth..2 girls from that community will grow old before seeing suitors as this scares other man.so only wealthy men go for them and at times they dont marry thier true love..so its complicted.what u cant change no need discusing it..like ours it is 27 naira and nothing on earth can change that.if u like start discussing how cheap on nairalland any time u wan marry benin girl we must ask for that same 27 naira

true talk

Stormtrooper11:
An Igbo Nigerian wedding expenses list, was posted online on Twitter. It was trailed with different comments from different people. While some saw it as an appropriate list, others saw it as unnecessarily expensive.

What are your opinions Nairalanders?

1st Pic: The actual marriage, Bride price list
2nd & 3rd Pics: File photos for illustrations

if its the girl u want oga pay..nothing is too much to pay to get your woman...after that her traditions turns to your tradition then you can give your own children out in your own tradition.if its thier tradition to sell thier daughters there is nothing u can do about it but there are implications.the husband losses respects for the father in laws. Uncles and her entire family at time he may band them from paying visits even after childbirth..2 girls from that community will grow old before seeing suitors as this scares other man.so only wealthy men go for them and at times they dont marry thier true love..so its complicted.what u cant change no need discusing it..like ours it is 27 naira and nothing on earth can change that.if u like start discussing how cheap on nairalland any time u wan marry benin girl we must ask for that same 27 naira

Miracood2:
Op instead of you to be damn worried about how a huge snake like this is in your farmland, u're busy celebrating FP

others must dey..the only snake that gives birth in multitudes like mamas they dont lay egg...its a hieve he better trend with care..if this thing bite u my bro just rest there is a reason its also called tomorrow is too far.no remedy

Sonnobax15:

Oga Femi, people are weeping . Na bridge people go chop? Abi the inflation on the price level of food never reach to cause another massive protest for the country . Abi is it because we are keeping quiet? .

Common constant electricity nai this big for nothing country still dey battle to get since dem born me come this life

Kolo people

na now u wan protest my bro u are on your own o..i thought u guys said sars was our major problem until our youth know thier priorities and demand for wat they want our leaders will continue to call them lazy youth so yahoo nor dey pay again even after sars ended..make una go sit down joor protest kill u there

Creamz:
There is already an alternative to cow meat(Beef) Google Beyond Meat. It's a synthetic meat that has all the properties of meat but healthier

cancer loading..so u dont even know that plant protien is better than meat protein..meat protein dey kill not to talk of rubber meat.bros take am easy

Metrix147:
Source: https://abntv.com.ng/2021/11/update-curriculum-make-research-on-alternative-to-cow-meat-ikpeazu-challenges-absu/

Cc; lalasticlala, Mynd44, Seun, OAM4J

na mishroom na

obembet:
At 23 I got married immediately after my first degree. Had my first kid at 24, got a master's degree in my area of study, yet without a job. My ex was doing well in his business and he carried all the financial responsibilities of our home while I shoulder all the manual work; ranging from cooking, laundry, cleaning, buying groceries, making sure that every bills are paid, school runs, etc. All he does is to provide the money to carry all of those. I'm all- must -be -tidy kind of person so I made sure to maintain that.

I'll make sure I keep the house clean, prepare his favorite meals which I do by following the meal time table cos he loves three different meals for each day. Most times he will come back with a different meal to be prepared for him after I must have made dinner. This must be accompanied with fruits or nuts to crack, extract, slice and serve. As this continued I became perplex and may complain but he never listened or appreciated all my efforts.

As years come by our population increased and I begged him to buy a washing machine. This is a no go area as he believes it makes one lazy. After much begging and no compliance for about two years I stopped washing his main clothes, but washed only his inner wears. I saved some money and got myself one. He was happy I did so and gave me 25% of the amount I bought it. I later learnt that that was a bribe to start washing his clothes again. All my married life I never had a full house help. His relatives will come, stay for some time and leave. Even while they're still around I prefer to do some things myself for some reasons.

Now this is my round the clock non paid job from from year to year. I'll wake up by 4:00 am to prepare children's snacks or meal for school, wake everyone up by 5:00 am for morning prayers, bath the children and at the same time have clothes rolling in the machine while breakfast sits on fire simultaneously. By 7:15 am I'm with the children on the road to school. Keeps them at school and gets back home to continue the outstanding works. I may come back to meet ex still sleeping or brushing his teeth. I will serve breakfast, help him choose his day wear and most times look for one document or car keys.

I tried to get a teaching job which can help me continue my “rat race” at home. None of them lasted for more than four months, reasons I couldn't figure out till today cos I believe I'm very good at that.

By the time I could say “ehee, time to rest” it's already 3 to 4 pm, time to get the children back from school. Preparing dinner, helping in homework, correcting complains from teachers if there's any, bathing and feeding them. Sometimes I still find time to play and tell stories with the kids. I buy everybody's wears including ex's, especially during festive periods. I guess that's the only time I have to get new things for myself. It never bothered me cos I'm happy putting smiles in the faces of people around me. I'm always preparing home-made groceries cos I'm good at most of them.

I could remember vividly a friend advising me on improving in my outward appearance which I gave little attention to.

By the time I'll retire to bed, it's already 11 or 12:00 midnight. And so it continues.

I never received any form of appreciation; either in kind or in cash. And to worsen it all, he became so abusive; verbally, physically, emotionally and would complain and blame me in every misfortune of his life. Life was so terrible living with him. Yet, I did not complain until he pushed me out and finally left.

Most times we focus all our energy into building our homes, that is wonderful, thereby neglecting ourselves which should come first, it's not being selfish. I celebrate every member of my family every year but I was never celebrated for the thirteen years we lived together. After reading a book, “what kids need most in a mom” by a retired white nurse; Patricia Standforth, I started changing my status but things have started going sour in my marriage and I was kicked out by hubby. He got a nullification note from the church, refused me access to the children, etc. Though I'm working towards getting a civil divorce from the court.

It's been two years now and alot of people could not believe it when they meet me, as a mother of five who's so young looking, energetic and sophisticated. I've got a lot of space and time to travel, learn new things, meet new friends and recently working towards getting an MBA.

And more importantly, I wouldn't want to be seen where I was left.

Edited : Obembet

eyah very sorry o
.so u where kicked out...i now see reasons with fernimism and single mothers ..tonto dike and tiwa salvage see wat u would have gone tru and still be kicked out..lucky u..may u find another good man so that u can start borning again kpele

Mummiesgirls4:
My trad marriage is on the 27 of this month I still have had no courage to tell him about my 3 other children. I am pregnant I am scared he will leave me if he find out that I have 3 other children, I love him so much he is my everything on earth and I am scared to loose him. I don't want to end up single with 5 children. But sometime I feel sad I cry at night and I just don't know what to do because the guilt is so much.

from your write up i know those 3 children have different feathers last last another man go still give u belle after this current pregnancy i know ur type wicked woman idiot..see how u useless this innocent guys life and the idiot go they happy say him future wife get belle...

Mummiesgirls4:
My trad marriage is on the 27 of this month I still have had no courage to tell him about my 3 other children. I am pregnant I am scared he will leave me if he find out that I have 3 other children, I love him so much he is my everything on earth and I am scared to loose him. I don't want to end up single with 5 children. But sometime I feel sad I cry at night and I just don't know what to do because the guilt is so much.

its already ended before it begin...no case any marriage done on lies and deciet is null and void in court.if u like do 1000000 court registry waste of time..the time has passed u didnt see an oppurtunity to throw the info in before now..now seprate fathers wicked woman

fredoooooo:
We're not there yet but we will soon get there ..God bless Nigeria ,God bless Buhari , God bless all the good people of Nigeria

i see only 2 nigerians there which kind stupid summit is this

Una go just they give una self problem..now see wat u have done to your parents i pray they are wealthy .una go settle una go tire failed country

wunmi590:
Good day N'Lander,

I was having a discussion with a friend yesterday, and he was complaining about how he was not being paid well despite his Masters, so I decided to bring this here.....

As the subject implies

As for me, yes I've, graduate like 10years ago and luck have actually shined on me since then when it comes to job...

Even before then, I was lucky to get my bursary 50k each every year, for both my OND (100k) and my BS.c (200k) days for lagosians

why not..in a millions fold

For country way work nor dey..save this money for 5 years go into biz and thank me later who paper help

All these na statistics na to win cup be the koko anyone at all..and i dont c man u doing that now

Have u tried bolivia they play over 2.5 there regularly especially always ready

There are risk involved she may loose her womb...and she will nerver forgive u for making her barren then think of the cost of ivf which fails at times..what is wrong with ekuku dog is the preeek too small...na them they nack pase ajebo 30min them still they inside

verybadmouth:
And she said yes to a comedian. So comedy is now a career in Nigeria.
Chaaai. Developing country.


Check my signature for your fastest route to getting your dream job.

in america its a big career abeg try travel commot for osun state one day..the money mr bean made from comedy all your past governors nerver make 20 percent try grow up bros

And u have not eaten it

erubati:
Man UTD were very impatient with David moyes.possibly,he might have really put us back into the elite group.

nope the squad was bigger than him..ole gunner solgier will perform miracles when he goes to everton..man u squad is also bigger than him..the anxiety alone

Silentmoni:
u funny o...whats nt easy and needs deliverance?my actions dont have control over me,i have control over watsoever i decide 2do.....by your statement u sound like 1wit no self control and prone 2addiction,nt same wit evry1 bro

ok o..dont come and complain to us tomorrow that it was only madrid that cut ur 200k...na the same prob i dey face e nor dey let leave

Silentmoni:
e no funny again,nah dis night my biz end wit dem.

not that easy..u nerver know wating u put hand..at times deliverance session needs to be conducted for u to exit..its worst than fornication oga just rest

Sorry did they give liverpul red card i nor understand i just they on my phone now watin hapen for the match cuz na so these idiots take run city down for carling cup..this could be a fluck year like the liechester year

KoladeChris24:
I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.

I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.

She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore.

anything tied to strings must get comma last last bet..she go tell u to disassociate urself from your parents soon..na clap them take they enter dance.this i have seen and it must come to pass..the only true prophet

G450:
Anything now is meat sofar it is an animal...

all animals are meat oga go and read your bible moreover its not even an endangered species..what makes this animal better than chicken goat .una too dey biase jor..if chickens are not spared i dont think others should be spared either

Vickyvice:
This one full my village in Delta state. We don't harm it, and it sees humans as friends

pls where in delta state in particular..make we do biz 8k for one abeg

Ang3yu65r33:
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oga dey paste the correct score before the match.i go put 1m if he enter i go give u 3m...but if he nor enter na to go sew prison cloth o.cuz i must find u..deal or no deal

Treasure17:
The earlier they sack Ole the better for the team. OleOut

how is it ole fault that bailey scored himself..anything ole ole...playere who make such errors should be held accountable rather than blaming others for thier own weakness