Stay out if thier business , the guy said it right ! When you have your own wife , you can do whatever you like . Whatever goes on in thier house is none of your business!!!
madridguy: As if you will be cool seeing your son roaming about for a woman.
Are you this stupid ? Did you even listen to the whole video ? Kai! I pity this generation! Why cant you take your time to listen to the whole video ? I oray God have mercy on you in Jesus name and make you see His light !
Orangedreams: You see my problem with today's church, in those days God revealed things to men of God. How come as anointed as Pastor Enenche for once both him and the wife and as spiritual as the claim could not sense, percieve or hear from the spirit what this lady was passing through in the hands of her husband?
Again, I smell lies from this long epistle. A top singer of the church like this woman, pastor can't tell me he never heard for once what she was passing through at home. But of course it has happened everyone wants to pull their heads off that is the system we find ourselves.
More, some of these pastors make themselves too distanced from members and too busy also that members don't even have the space to get closer to them how much more to share their pains. They have becomes gods and presidents with heavy securities and protocols. Even to see some takes more than 3months, a pastor o.
This is so true. I am a photographer living in the states and it still happens exactly the way you have said it even here. It is really annoying!!!
Samson0303: I'm a graphics designer and Web developer.
I have worked for many Nigerians, but what I noticed is that when they need the work, their pressures will be on you an be messaging and calling you time to time to followup on their work.
But once you completed and submitted the work to them, the ghost-mode has started, some will stop reading your messages, some will stop picking your calls, some will even goes as far as picking up up fight with you and the worst they'll start posting you for payment, like my bank network is bad, I want to sleep, when I wakeup I'll pay and many silly excuses in order not to pay.
Some people even relate with you very close that, you won't even know how to charge them for some works and you'll expect them to pay you well after deliver their works, but they'll still go ahead and pay peanuts.
Especially people you have being working with for a long time, takes this long time business relationship as Avenue to not pay for some little works. Let's assume you have designed a logo for some and he has paid and he later asked you to render the logo on a bus or brand a car for him, they'll expect you to do that for free, because they've paid you for the logo.
What do you think we can do as servicemen and servicewomen to curb this. This concern almost everyone I expect everyone to say something about this.
All of you that come online to ask for crucial pieces of advice, have you taken time to seek the face of God? God is the only that can give you the right answer and give you direction. I am not saying don't ask people but seek God's face first !
Tiwatope1: Good day Nairalanders! I need to make an informed decision. I have a Capital of 2M , should I open a pharmacy/ chemist in Nigeria or Move to Europe,I also have baking skills. I'm confused on which part to follow P.s I'm not a pharmacist but experienced in that field.
1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4?
Yes, this is where you guys missed it. She should have been introduced to her room by age 3 at the latest.
2. Is it too late to force her to her room?
Never, it can't be too late. It's time to let her know who's in charge and the boss. Kids are like "puppies or dogs". They play on your intelligence and patience to an elasticity and should you fall for the " blink-first" game, you'd remain their puppy and always at their mercy.
3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?
Like "NIKE", just do it. Introduce her to her room, make her understand she's a big girl now and needs to act like one. The best person to implement this should be mummy. The trick should be to spend time with her gisting and telling her stories until she falls asleep. She'd rebel for a while but after a while she'd eventually get used to it.
4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.
She shouldn't be encouraged or given any reason to ask such " adult" questions. However, in a case where you both get careless and she stumbles in on you, if you weren't caught in your "birthday suites" just tell her you and mummy were praying.
You see only what you want to see. Some people already sharing great testimonies in 2022. Better pray for good things and don't use your mouth to invite the troubles in 2022. There are lots of great news already!
Psalm 14:1 = a fool says in his heart there is no God. You are probably the fool here according to the word of God. Give your life to Christ before it is too late.
GodIsBiafran: Why is it that when an Igbo man honors his ancestor (Amadioha), Nigerians call the Igbo man evil?. But when the Igbo man honors Jesus, Peter, John etc. (Palestinian/Jewish ancestors), the Igbo man is considered good by Nigerian christians?
Also, why is it that when a Yoruba or Bini man honors his ancestors (Ogun, Sango, Ayelaya etc), Nigerians call the Yoruba (Bini) man evil?. But when the Yoruba (Bini) man honors Jesus, Mohammed, Peter, John etc. (Palestinian/Jewish/Arab ancestors), the Yoruba (Bini) man is considered good by Nigerian christians and muslims?
I thought about this for more than a week and I came to the conclusion that the African is the most foolish human being on the planet. This is the only conclusion that makes sense. Tell me what you think.
Isn’t this the babe who lied about owning a house?
If you can lie about something that big and visible and readily verifiable how much more something as private as your sex life?
She knows that those men who can debunk this are too big to be bothered or they probably don’t remember her. Madam Motivational speaker, suffri dey lie.
I think Col. Auwal Suleiman is spoiling their business that why they don't wanna reinstate him. Reason is because, the top powers in the military cash out big time with this insurgency stuff and they wouldn't mind trampling upon his head if he tries to be a hard nut to crack.
Secondly, If I am related to be Col. Auwal Suleiman I will advice not accept any reinstatement from the military because he'll be their next target since he seems to be a thorn on BHT's flesh or else they'll just kill him like Lieutenant Colonel Abu Ali of blessed memory whom BHTs dreaded then but, ended up dying in the hands of Boko Haram Terrorists.
Please, somebody should tell Col. Auwal Suleiman that his life matters to his family and loved ones and that Nigeria does not worth dying for.
What do I know sef, abeg makai go peel yam for backyard
You're not getting what this person is saying . He is not supporting, he said it is now a normal thing which is true! That's not supporting, that's stating the obvious!
This is the best advice for you bro. God bless you for this advice. Don't let this break your home. Take this advice !
Skyfornia: This piece is emotional...OP I feel your pain, I'll feel worse if I were in your position. But I have to save my marriage...don't stretch this anymore since your wife has shown remorse. Her actions might be influenced by her family and she thought she was doing right...forgive her and try to forget it
Going forward, sit with her and factorize what each of you should be spending at home. It can be 70-30 ratio or 60-40 ratio, with you taking care of the lion share...you are the man of the house and It is your duty as a man to protect your family from any force..even if the force is coming from your wife. Don't allow it tear your family.
My sister, it doesn't matter whether you're a Virgin or not but my humble advice, do not sleep with the guy. The moment you start, your judgement will be beclouded . Sex is never a proof of love. Wait.. wait till he marries you. It pays to wait. You may not take this but I am telling you what most people won't. It is well with you and God will guide you if you allow Him
People like you will never see any good in things people do even if is brought to your own house. Do you hate Gid this much ?? Why not go start a church and see how easy it is to even get people to pay tithe and offering. Repent and accept Jesus before it is too late !
Go to the author of marriagewith your issue sis. He will help you. His name is Yaweh! Nobody can give you any advice that will help you except Jesus. People will think this is a crazy idea but it is the best. God is the author of peace. Go to him!
Vevejoy: Plesse forget the errors and focus on the content.
So here's my issue.
I've been married for 6yrs and it's been a blissful journey- of course with minor issues here and there but nothing to worry about until May 5th 2020 when I'd say things turned upside down.
We live abroad and struggled to have kids but God finally blessed us with a beautiful daughter in Sept 2019. Child care being super expensive here, we wanted one of our moms to come help us with the baby when I return to work after my maternity leave. So on the eve of our wedding anniversary which was the 4th of May last year, I asked my husband for the say 10th time about beginning the procedure of bringing a mom over to help since I'll be returning to work. He asked which mom and I said in my exact words; "of course my mom" because I know that when a woman gives birth, her mom usually go to help her. Did that change our story? My God, marriage has been one hell of a thing since that day.
My husband said I am selfish, disrespectful, and want to dominate him. He said things will never be the same again and since then, my marriage has been a stress zone.
My husband is numb to my feelings. He's been ignoring me, I've been a nag I'll admit since tue incident last year. I now talk alot and mostly complain about everything whenever we are together. It's sad and I've actually had conversations with myself to ignore him and stop nagging but I continue to do it, I need help on how to shut up and observe.
I can cry from now to die kingdom come and this man wouldn't be moved. He cannot shift his stance because of me at all. He does whatever he likes and disregard everything I say. E.g before this crisis, we had an appointment to see our Dr to start trying for baby number two because the Dr's advised that since we just had a baby, it's best to try for another soonest given that we had challenges conceiving the first one. This man cancelled the appointment with our Dr and has blatantly refused to start trying for a baby right now. He says when the time comes he'll let me know. Up till now the time has not come despite the fact that delaying may impact our chance of conceiving again. What a life!� � �.
Also, he has decided that no parent will come and I'm back to work already. My poor baby who use to sleep till 9am now suffer in this winter getting up at 6am to be dropped off at daycare all because her father is angry and want to make sure he doesn't do anything that will make his wife smile. He'll rather spend thorns of money paying for daycare even after I've told him that I don't mind his mom coming. Mind u, I have a very good relationship with my inlaws, especially my mom inlaw so it's not an inlaw fight.
The worst of them all is that despite living abroad for 17yrs, this man believes so much in native doctors to the extend that I can't even explain. Infact it's something that I've always fought him about and talked against. I've even complained about it to his family. And guess what, when I talk against, he tells his native drs who of course has ignited the fire in our home. Can you believe that in this chaos this man took me on a vacation in August last year that he wanted to clear his mind so we can start a new chapter and be happy again only to tell me that I have been trying to use a charm on him in the past months thats why things got rough. He said the 3 women I am using appeared to him but he is stronger ����. I am laughing because I felt pity and ashamed for him. How can a grown man be this vulnerable to suitsayers? I have never in my entire life visited a native doctor for myself not to talk of going to take a charmI didn'tvisit the native drs when I was strugglingto have a baby and this man thinks I'llvisit one now to charm him. Wondering y he will even believe such a thing. Infact I don't even know any native doctor. So when he said that, I told him that if I had known that his change of attitude is because of this stupid reason, I would not have fought for my marriage like I did. Of course I got so mad and told him a piece of my mind. I am even ashamed of telling people that despite this man's exposure he consults native Dr's in Africa more than even the people in Africa. Infact if they say yes that's what he listens to. He has even paid a flight from here to Africa because a native Dr told him that his dad who raised him to be the man he is today is trying to kill him and he should come for protection.
I decided to tell his mom about the accusation. His mom told me she scolded at him and warned him never to say such nonsense. Well I just pity him and I'm praying for him. But truth is I regret my marriage to him because of these his believes. I just don't believe in divorce and don't even have the heart to move out I would have done so. Mind u, I am 100% independent so it's not an issue of being scared of surviving alone.
Well one Sunday night as usual I talked to him like crazy and he said "all he wants is for our relationship to work and he will put in his best effort with support from me. I said I want same and will put in my best effort with support from him too*. This happened around september and things have been like normal on and off since then.
I have a few worries which I'd like you to advise me on the way forward. - My husband is heartless. No matter how I lament, cry, beg, approach him nicely. Infact no matter the manner in which I bring up an issue to him, he doesn't get moved at all. He stays on his stance and doesn't care. How am I suppose to live with a man like this. He goes mute when I try having a conversation with him.
- I have a weakness of talking alot which I acknowledge and I'm doing my best to work on it though I'm yet to change completely. But I can say there's a huge improvement. Infact I'm able to walk away now.
Can a marriage really work out out without a compromise from both parties? I feel like I am compromising alot but this man is doing whatever he likes. In all of these he doesn't cheat but has abused me physically 4times in our 6yrs of marriage which I'm still pained about. The worst abuse right now is emotional abuse and I've told him so several times.
We use to be an exemplary and happy couple up till this may 2020. What will you do in a situation like mine With? With a man like my husband who I'd say lacks empathy and a concience how do I deal with him? His mom said she talked to him but I don't see any difference.
I feel miserable right now in my marriage. Since I got married this is our hardest hit and unfortunately it got prolonged probably bc of his native Dr's who told him I am using a charm on him which he believed.
One factor is seriously missing , Jesus. This generation is "too know" generation. They want everythingto have intellectual meaning and sense . We have followed the western way and want to rationalize everything forgetting that God'sways are not our way! We want to do marriage our own way of which it is an institution founded by God!!
SchoolPedia: Let's have an open discussion here please.
Matured minds only.
I believe we will learn a lot here and help build better homes and families which will bring about better societies too.
paulolee: go back and continue paying herbalist A for more sacrifices and he would continue building more houses with your money because he knows if he does fix your life ( thats if he can) you would stop paying for more sacrifices and he would stop cashing out.. the fact is Christianity is sweet and free, we have a merciful GOD that requires no money or sacrifices but jus serve him with all ur mind and he would never put u to shame.. I think its better paying money to another man all in the name of sacrifices and still ur life Is isnt better.. my point is dt even if I get frustrated and denounce being a christian ( which can never happen) it better I remain on my own than going to other lesser gods...if GOD cant help you, nothing else can...
Amen!!! He who has an ear , let him hear what the spirit is saying ! As it was in the days of Noah, so shall it be again! People would still be thinking all these are lies !
Righteousness89: Noted! It's has no impact on the life of any Human..
The Greatest Being Ever to come on Earth since the Creation of the World is JESUS CHRIST!
This is what the Everyone on Earth needs urgently!
You'rea pastor and you're bringing your case to nairaland for them to guide you? You must be joking !
Beosten: Let me start from here: I have what it takes to be a pastor and I had numerous visions that confirmed my calling. But I have a disability, and I refused to go into pastoral ministry since 2005. I came into the full-time ministry a few months ago. I came into the ministry because it seemed God was the one punishing me for refusing to do the needful.
Then a church member came to me for blessing saying that her child already procured visa to travel out. That was before covid19 break. I prayed for the child. But God revealed to me in a vision at night that the child should not leave Nigeria, and that it will end in tears. I didn't tell them anything about the vision and the child left Nigeria.
The child has just been deported and a lot of money down the drain.
How should a pastor handle this kind of thing without offending those looking for counseling? I will pray for forgiveness, but can God hold me accountable for this error?
Stop bringing your issues to nairaland. Few people will give you the right advice . There are so many kids here that are not even married and don't know nothing about marriage . Get on your knees and pray and seek the right and godly counsel. You may abuse me i am telling you the truth . I hope you will listen.
manos: Note: it's a bit long... I could have summarized but I want those contributing to get a crystal clear picture of the situation, so that they can give better and specific advice.
The major problem here is that she mixes up things to be done in the kitchen with things done only in the toilet.
I have been married to my wife for over a year now (no kids yet) and there are certain unhygienic habits she has been displaying, since we started living together. I have been seeking ways to help her improve on it, but a calm correction from me always leads to a bitter argument between us. (She claims I complain too much whenever I point it out)
For example, she always clears her throat early in the morning and spits in the kitchen sink. (despite the fact that we have 2 toilets with wash hand basins; one in the room and also a guest toilet, with a wash-hand basin which is basically 3 steps from the kitchen). Then she goes to the bathroom, gets her toothbrush and comes back to the kitchen to brush her teeth, while doing several things with toothpaste and saliva drooling from her mouth all through.
The other day, she prepared breakfast (spaghetti) for both of us with the drooling toothpaste mouth and i refused to eat from it. I didn't complain to her either, until she asked why I didn't take my portion of the spaghetti from the pot, later that evening. I mentioned to her that, as always I find it disgusting to eat spaghetti, seasoned with toothpaste drool and saliva. The response I got from her was a hiss and then she said that, next time I should inform her if I am not going to eat the food she cooked so that she would not cook for me."
I let that slide but I felt she missed the point. The next day was her birthday and I decided to prepare breakfast for her. While I was in the kitchen cooking, she came in with the same drooling toothpaste mouth to take a kitchen Scissors in order to cut something on her pants, even though we have another scissors in the room for such purposes. In the process of trying to pick the scissors, her hands which were covered with toothpaste drool had to cross the pot which I was cooking with. I mentioned to her that I was not comfortable with that and she just hissed as usual, still picked the Scissors and left the kitchen while angrily saying that I am just a complainer. I lost it at this point and proceeded to give her a lecture in anger about basic hygiene and why I can not keep quiet over these things because we live in a shared space and how her actions have a direct effect on me. It ended in a shouting match till she kept quiet, without accepting she was wrong.
This is the pattern almost everything takes when I try to correct her. The worst part is that I would still have to be the one to apologize for shouting at her because if I don't, I might be subjected to a week long silent treatment which I dread.
There are other more unhygienic things that are done by her, which I might not be able to post here due to the fact that I am not completely anonymous and she is still my wife but I hope this information is enough for someone to understand my frustration and profer a solution.
Thats a devilish advice , completely against the word of God or ehat Gid wants. Does living together before marriage means she will change or even show you who she isn? Have u met a pretender before ?
thesicilian: This is why I'm an ardent advocate of couples living together for some months before marriage.
If you can't get through to her sense of reasoning, I'll suggest you talk to her mother about it, that's assuming she herself is not like that.
See within white man don cause o ! JESUS! So because the guy no kneel down, she no dey accept, chai! Alo ramirami ni o, I no dey go back to that kain girl abeg unless God says otherwise .
made4naijamusic: A video making the rounds on social media has shown the moment a lady rejected her boyfriend’s public proposal.
In the video, her boyfriend could be seen standing on his feet as he begged her to close her eyes tightly while stretching out the engagement ring towards her.
As she opened her eyes, she saw him standing on his feet to propose and she got offended that he didn’t go on his knees to propose to her.
Her boyfriend on the other hand insisted that kneeling down doesn’t prove anything. He turned down all her efforts to make him kneel down and she walked out immediately.
I can see this is what your misson is here you demon! What has english grammar got to do with you walking in the light of God Your grammar will never take you to heaven, walking in light will !!!
Family / Re: My Brothers Wife Sends Him on errands.. please help by Otiv: 3:32pm On Sep 21, 2022 
Your grammar will never take you to heaven, walking in light will !!! 
