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shoefreak: Hahahahahahhaha... I beg jor. I no fit shout. Make you carry ya thing dey go jor.
I'm mischievous na. Before nko? I go break the one bone wey you get. And then pour Orijin bitters on that ur temper wey dey hot.

Btw....who be fellow? u wan make I remove bra nack ur head? No dey use attachment of bawls play with me ooo. When better things dey. **pours garri on his head**

Hehehehehe Ah! madam, calm down na, e never reach stage to fight. Person no fit play with u again eh

Went through some of your post & found out you're one certified Agbero so no vex, I miscue. I didn't get the memo. Who dash me single bone eh? I think that part about removing your bra will be d ideal punishment for me

Meanwhile I love ur writeup

dytbabe: Helep me tell them ooo

I have darling

shoefreak: Buhahahahaha. You see, see his friend here. Dem dey drink beer together for that bar wey dey that street for yonder



Just kidding ooooo
Hahahahahahahahaha... she is a bada55 babe with ikebe that's bigger than esulalu rock...

Hehehehe I've always suspected d person behind the shoefreak handle is one mischievous fellow. Now I'm sure

MizMyColi come & hear o. Make person no use Dyt joke with me fa

I have hot temper and single bone

shoefreak: Liar. He is a man oooo

Chai! Dyt don suffer

One Mumu now will proudly come and post "I offer him my body" like say Ashawos don go into extinction.

The good thing is there are a lot who are a blessing to their man

Tymax: [color=#5E2605]All these women empowerment threads sef. Even madam OP won't follow her advice if it happens.

"Nansense"[/color]

It's one thing to say something when the going is good and it's another to follow it up when the shit hits the fan. Then all these points go be am like latin

Kachisbarbie: Nawa
Women this...women that...
Ahahn! Una no dey tireeee?
Anyway, ur points are valid, but u people should let us be for the moment.
Thanks

Lol no be your fellow woman post am

booqee: op, include jobber man too. has anyone gotten a job through jobberman? Seun or mukina pls edit the topic on front page.

sent so many applications via jobberman yet nothing is coming forth.

Sure! I applied for a KPMG job thru Jobberman, got called for the test and interview but something better came up after the test so I didn't follow it up

dytbabe: So with all my double post, I no still win
Bia oxone

Hahahahaha I'm bad like that

dytbabe: Failed
Not religious related
*tongue out*
Am still leading

Come again

Oh God! she's pregnant!! i wonder who is responsible!!!

dytbabe: Wait o
Did I actually edit the first post?
Now I know bed calls

Lwkmd! Night deary

dytbabe: E be like say I was high when I types that
Cos I don't understand my last sentence

Lmao! Thought as much cos I don't either

dytbabe: Lol
Ask my ex
I showed that guy hell of trouble and then he gives silent treatment and ur gal starts to cry and plead

What works for me was when he assures me all the time , yes all the time

Don't neglect me else na wahala part 2

Above all, I was and still a very special being despite my sweet troubles, lovable and always happy

*sobs, I love that dude to maranti jealousy*

*clears throat*

Kinkybraids: so songs are on your play list.

Yeah and I sleep better with them

Kinkybraids: Ha! I dont think so Only the chosen ones will get to see me and my 'batty' lol

Dis I hear big b*****....... Never mind

@OP

I still have this Playlist of oldies on my lappy. It usually play in the background when I want to create that effect. Haven't failed me yet

joomiegirl: Oga, no offense...I get you, but maybe you did not comprehend my post fully.
Where i disagreed was what you said and I quote: "if you cant influence anyone you're with positively and push them to be better, then you must be doing something wrong." That's what I disagree with-wholeheartedly.

Sometimes no matter how much you try, push, and how much wisdom you apply, if the person doesn't want to change or sees it as too much of an effort, he won't! End of.

None taken
When i said push, i didn't mean that literally and come on there's got be something wrong somewhere for you not to effect/influence a positive change in his life no matter how small. Notice i also wrote that people should be realistic with their expectations

joomiegirl: I like what you said in your recent post about deciding what is important to you, and what is not. Very key. I am tired of seeing fellow ladies date a man who has major issues they cannot stand, but whom they date anyways because they feel they can change him. They will change him. Delusional!

I'm with you on this one

joomiegirl: I say it again: you may influence someone to change, but there are no guarantees whatsoever.
if you cannot accept the person with his/her flaws, and love them anyway, why make the both of you miserable? Move on na. Find someone whose flaws don't bother you.

GBAM!!!

Oya chop knuckle

joomiegirl: I disagree sir. You may not be able to change the person at all, and it does NOT mean you must be doing something wrong.
The title of this thread is all wrong sef..shoulda read: "I can change him/her; greatest undoing in relationships."

People resist change especially when it comes to character flaws...and to take it upon yourself as a task is just setting yourself up for real disappointment. You be Holy Spirit? The best you can do is to encourage.
Yeah, you may be able to influence someone to make changes, but when u look at it; people change primarily because they love the person too much to want to lose him/her...and even that rarely happens. This is a full-grown adult. At the end of the day, the person demands that you love him/her just the way they are!

We feel "oh, I can change him, I can change her" and at the end of the day you make both yourself and the other person perfectly miserable because YOU have all these expectations/ demands of change, whilst THEY are crying out that you love them unconditionally.

I'm not saying people shouldn't change or try to improve on character flaws...just don't take it on yourself to be the enforcer. Its pure misery..especially in a marriage.

Bottom line: if you cannot accept a person for who they are, warts and all, (cos no one is perfect), then don't bother.

Madam, Notice i didn't use the word change in my post and that's deliberate because for me change is too drastic a word cos it connotes a 180 degree change in character which is near impossible.

Contrary to your post, people don't resist change like you claim because everyone wants to be better and do better (Don't know about you but i know i strive to be better everyday) but the problem here is approach. We all know our flaws and shortcomings and we don't want anyone reminding us about them, rubbing it on our faces, forcing change on us or being overly condescending about it. That's where the resistance come in. Most times all people need to be better is loving the believe/encouragement of their loved ones and a genuine chance. That's where the friends, family and spouse comes in.

The problem is some people don't have realistic expectations and want to completely format/Change a person which is near impossible. Any reasonable person should know that when choosing a spouse, they must carefully weigh the person's character and trait and decide what's important to them and whats not. This is assuming everyone is being honest about who they really are from the get go

Bottom line is people should know exactly what they want and not let emotions cloud their reasoning. Its always best to go for someone who has 60 -70 % of what you want in spouse and then try to help them improve on the 30% than end up with the opposite believing you can completely change them. That my friend is wishful thinking

This Reminds me of my 2nd year in the Uni, one night i was hanging out with my friends and a cute girl walked up to us and said she wanted to see me. The next thing was she started toasting me just like a guy would toast a girl. i noticed she was kinda of nervous and when she was done i decided to ease the tension by asking if "I'll think about it" is an appropriate answer just like the girls would say. That did the trick cos it got her laughing. We Went on to date for about a year before she left the country. She's one of the best people i know & it Was a pleasant experience cos it wasn't what i was use to.

So OP, well there's really nothing wrong with it but it depends on who you're dealing with and how exposed/liberal they are. Some would not see anything wrong with it while some will scream blue murder and tag you desperate and Easy instantly.

Basically Half cup versus Full cup Mentality

Siena: Bud, why not type your words in full, instead of this text-style, that not everyone can understand?

Irks me every time man, Usually i just ignore the person & their post.

Life is too short!

Creamish: lolz..

Hello deary

kmoneyman: That's my point guy!!Take one bottle

Hope say na big green bottle o cos all these small bottles na to just do person Longthroat

buchostags: yes whn an african buries d truth it stays dead-d dead stay dumb. But peeps like me n u ll neva let dis kinda bliv go away again hw can u protect sum1 u harmed in first pllace

Read the posts below

Tallesty1: I'm not talking about chronic liars, what I meant was telling one lie to avert a huge problem, you grab. Let's say you went to a party, took a few shots of alco, one thing led to the other and then shit happened, do you just run home and tell your wife? Hell NO. What to do is, regret, forgive yourself and repent.

Tallesty1: Never cheated, never will but methinks some things are better left unsaid, especially whn u r sure that s/he is never gonna find out. Person wey no dey lie to his woman no get respect for her feelings .

couldn't have said it better

You know how many mad people wey wear better cloth dey waka about like normal people?

Sure if I'm in my late teens & early 20s when marriage is farthest from my mind but as i come of age, my choices comes down to people i can see myself settling down with

buchostags: in a case where you cheated on your hubby, boy or girl friend can u go to him/her with it and confess? Well i am on two pages about it but wanna hear your opinion 1st

Hell No! its in the past, let it remain there but try and be better but again NEVER CONFESS!

MissSlimbody: Bros, its not all women dat like been lied to. Some of us still prefer †ђξ truth, even if it hurts t̶̲̥̅̊ợ̣̣̇̇̇ hear it.
Hw do Ɣ☺ΰ̊ respect my feelings by lying to mε̲̣̣̣̥

Contrary to what people like to believe, nobody wants the complete truth all of the time. its just the way we are made and some people lie to protect the ones they love.

If you cant influence anyone you're with positively and push them to be better, then you must be doing something wrong but you have to be realistic in your expectations and the way you go about effecting that change. Key thing here should be communication & Approach

There's no perfect Man/Woman

Given the right opportunity/temptation, everyone will fall for something

MaziOmenuko: Hmm... Generally, you should be sure the girl ain't gonna say no before popping the question; vis a viz dating for a long time, understanding the chemistry, making light talks about marriage like; how many kids would u love to have, do u think I can be the man of your dreams if we're to get married? What ring size do u wear? Etc.

From the responses, you would know how deep the river is.

Once you start making light talks like the above, you lose the element of surprise which is the key thing in every proposal.

There's no way to be sure man, just read in between the lines and hope for the best!

dyttt: who wld wanna leave a fine dude all alone na
me se go do pass ooo
lmao at back to sender

lol Now imagine if it was the other way round, the matter for don turn something else

dyttt: its love jor
insecurity too
hehehehehe

hehehe Abegi! i no want that kind of love jor.

Back to Sender things

dyttt: i rem i was like this with few guys, most times jst to look for troubles
it was fun when i hear them say
woman
hahahahahahaha

lol This one was configured that way o, we had lots of fights then cos she would call by 8am and then call by 10am to ask why i haven't call her

went on like this until i barred her calls. Only jobless people can be on the phone that often